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Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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I lost a lot of trust in females when this one accused me of the R word. She was crazy as hell and I told her I couldn't be with her.... She told her moms, called the cops, and everything. But, I saved all the texts she sent and didn't get arrested. The bish had the nerve to text me a couple days after and say let's chill, imu
women want what they can't have
if they are not gettingt your attention in their mind another women is
what do you mean?
Got a 'happy birthday' text from girl I got the very kind and subtle, but distinct run around from 6 weeks or so ago, who I've known for years, and am still more or less really attracted to...Had pushed her pretty much from my mind since, or marginalized her significantly and then I get a text from someone who at one time would have meant so much to me, now I was debating not responding, but that is petty and vindictive, thats not me. However, fukk, I wasn't even thinking about her, and then, that brings it back, albeit in a hesitant and somewhat muted way...just responded casually.
I just feel like it was really unneeded, I hope it was sincere and genuine, and not some desire to cover her bases, because I wouldn't care either way If I heard from her, thats the first time she has ever texted me in her life. Even threw an 'it's me' in there. But, I'm/you're still sitting there like, 'well she remembered..' No intention of contacting her again, as of now, I'll see her next time I go down to her work, to see her brother.
I just feel like it was really unneeded, I hope it was sincere and genuine, and not some desire to cover her bases, because I wouldn't care either way If I heard from her, thats the first time she has ever texted me in her life. Even threw an 'it's me' in there. But, I'm/you're still sitting there like, 'well she remembered..' No intention of contacting her again, as of now, I'll see her next time I go down to her work, to see her brother.
just fishing for contact imo
She should still be
lol lol yeah.....and she basically is, but I don't feel the way about anyone the way I feel about her...she's not some little idiot girl I'm talking to to pass the time or not sleep alone, someone I genuinely like, a lot.
I got her a gift/card for her birthday like 6 months ago, and she has been telling me since, I'm not forgetting your birthday...I told her plainly, this wasn't one of those things, it was important for me, my own reasons, to get her something, not looking for reciprocation, for it's own sake. Additionally, my gift to her, laid out my feelings in a clear enough way, to not really be misinterpreted. To her credit, theres a few issues regarding dating/relationships, that I understand her hesitancy, but I'd think if she felt the way I did, they wouldn't really matter....If she had any doubt of how I felt, the gift/note, plus asking her out, would be enough to clear that up, so I don't know what she's doing now.. Go out of your way to get my #, and then text me once, this was literally the first time she's ever texted me. I don't resent her for not going out with me, like is said on here, it's doing me the favor...but, I was straight up with her 100%, short of saying 'I'm in love with you', at least be straight back.
I got her a gift/card for her birthday like 6 months ago, and she has been telling me since, I'm not forgetting your birthday...I told her plainly, this wasn't one of those things, it was important for me, my own reasons, to get her something, not looking for reciprocation, for it's own sake. Additionally, my gift to her, laid out my feelings in a clear enough way, to not really be misinterpreted. To her credit, theres a few issues regarding dating/relationships, that I understand her hesitancy, but I'd think if she felt the way I did, they wouldn't really matter....If she had any doubt of how I felt, the gift/note, plus asking her out, would be enough to clear that up, so I don't know what she's doing now.. Go out of your way to get my #, and then text me once, this was literally the first time she's ever texted me. I don't resent her for not going out with me, like is said on here, it's doing me the favor...but, I was straight up with her 100%, short of saying 'I'm in love with you', at least be straight back.
Reincar Dating Rules to live by!
1. Always act like you have more than one option.
- When you have only one option, you start to do things you normally wouldn't do. Whether that is simping, saying things you wouldn't normally say, or moving to fast. When you have more than one option you are calm, cool and collective, the
demeanour is something you should maintain.
2..never compliment her on her beauty until you see her without makeup and other enhancements.
- Fake eyelashes, spray tans, extensions, wigs, weaves, push up bras, garters, makeup, high heels, it's all a show, manipulative tactics. Never say she is pretty, hot, beautiful until you see the real natural her
3. Never travel more than 7.4 miles for a first date.
- Yes for a first date don't drive way out of the way to meet a broad. If you were selling something on craigslist would you travel half n hour, 45 minutes a hour? no you wouldn't right? More than likely you would expect that person to come to a location near you because you hold the power you have the item they want. Take the same approach to dating, you are the man of value, you are the man with the power, view yourself as such.
4. Don't pay for her on the first date
- yeah cough up that money for dinner and a movie or whatever, and get that Thanks but no thanks. On a first date you are not sure you will click will be compatible. Would you cough up money at car dealership to test drive? no right it's free, so take the same mentality.
5. Delete her number after the first date
- some may have different views but again these are my rules, if I go on a first date and it's great if she views me as
6. Never bring up commitment or exclusivity, and if you do then wait at least 3 months.
- Commitment is the male vagina, never give it up early. Be patient young grasshopper women will always bring up "so what are we", "am i just a fwb to you" etc., a man who brings u commitment and exclusivity is a man with no options, a desperate man again refer to rule 1.
7. Never text first and never text last. And never text more than 7 words in a text.
- I never ever text first, women have my number if they want to contact me then go right ahead. And I never text last, know when to exit a text conversation a one word reply from a female means the convo ends right then and there. 7 words max in a text long drawn out convos should be kept to a phone call not chatting back and forth with a woman
8. Never cheat
- yup never cheat, as a man in a relationship always maintain morals and values, if you don't appreciate or care about the broad you are with then dump her, women all are over the place zero reason to play one for your own selfish greed
9. Never lie
- honesty is the best policy, always be honest
10. Never say I love you first or at all.
- words are just words, can a deaf person love without saying it? exactly, keep that L word in your back pocket
1. Always act like you have more than one option.
- When you have only one option, you start to do things you normally wouldn't do. Whether that is simping, saying things you wouldn't normally say, or moving to fast. When you have more than one option you are calm, cool and collective, the
demeanour is something you should maintain.2..never compliment her on her beauty until you see her without makeup and other enhancements.
- Fake eyelashes, spray tans, extensions, wigs, weaves, push up bras, garters, makeup, high heels, it's all a show, manipulative tactics. Never say she is pretty, hot, beautiful until you see the real natural her
3. Never travel more than 7.4 miles for a first date.
- Yes for a first date don't drive way out of the way to meet a broad. If you were selling something on craigslist would you travel half n hour, 45 minutes a hour? no you wouldn't right? More than likely you would expect that person to come to a location near you because you hold the power you have the item they want. Take the same approach to dating, you are the man of value, you are the man with the power, view yourself as such.
4. Don't pay for her on the first date
- yeah cough up that money for dinner and a movie or whatever, and get that Thanks but no thanks. On a first date you are not sure you will click will be compatible. Would you cough up money at car dealership to test drive? no right it's free, so take the same mentality.
5. Delete her number after the first date
- some may have different views but again these are my rules, if I go on a first date and it's great if she views me as
6. Never bring up commitment or exclusivity, and if you do then wait at least 3 months.
- Commitment is the male vagina, never give it up early. Be patient young grasshopper women will always bring up "so what are we", "am i just a fwb to you" etc., a man who brings u commitment and exclusivity is a man with no options, a desperate man again refer to rule 1.
7. Never text first and never text last. And never text more than 7 words in a text.
- I never ever text first, women have my number if they want to contact me then go right ahead. And I never text last, know when to exit a text conversation a one word reply from a female means the convo ends right then and there. 7 words max in a text long drawn out convos should be kept to a phone call not chatting back and forth with a woman
8. Never cheat
- yup never cheat, as a man in a relationship always maintain morals and values, if you don't appreciate or care about the broad you are with then dump her, women all are over the place zero reason to play one for your own selfish greed
9. Never lie
- honesty is the best policy, always be honest
10. Never say I love you first or at all.
- words are just words, can a deaf person love without saying it? exactly, keep that L word in your back pocket
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Brehs.....is it a bad thing not to trust women at all?? Dealing with these females i find myself not trusting them and expecting them to cheat,lie,hide thingsfrom me and if they are and i find out im not even hurt/disappointed about the situation.... i guess a youngin just use to the game now, the women and the games they play.. i dont put nothing pass no one
i stopped trusting women years ago, its when you finally let your guards down you will get played.
In my mind many people mix up trusting me with say being bitter or scared of being hurt not at all.
I know poeple will come in here and say relationships are built on trust etc.
Seems normal to me breh
Man i've tried being the nice guy for 30 years, that has gotten me no where... I don't mean the push over, yes masta type nikka either. But legit nice dude and all that, who and just likes to chill and go out and have a good time....I swear if you don't fight with a chick and make them feel threaten they don't know how to act....
Any and every time I hook up with a chick I go out in a
mood or I'm like chick
up....of course they flock to me. Its like they have a "clearly this nikka is just trying to do himself tonight" radar. I want to be proven wrong, but these ladies just keep re enforcing that a nice dude isn't what they want until they can barely bare children.
Got my head hurt'n over here
Any and every time I hook up with a chick I go out in a
mood or I'm like chick up....of course they flock to me. Its like they have a "clearly this nikka is just trying to do himself tonight" radar. I want to be proven wrong, but these ladies just keep re enforcing that a nice dude isn't what they want until they can barely bare children. Got my head hurt'n over here
Man i've tried being the nice guy for 30 years, that has gotten me no where... I don't mean the push over, yes masta type nikka either. But legit nice dude and all that, who and just likes to chill and go out and have a good time....I swear if you don't fight with a chick and make them feel threaten they don't know how to act....
Any and every time I hook up with a chick I go out in a
Got my head hurt'n over here
sad thing is being a nice guy and not just a nice guy to get puzzy, but a legit nice guy because you were brought up to treat people with respect, lead, be loving etc. will get you nowhere with most women today.
You will be looked upon as weak,you'll get more joy and praise in forgetting her birthday and doing nothing for valentines day, than taking her out for dinner and buying flowers because if you don't remember in her mind she's not a priority and she wants to be. It's messed up but sadly this is how alot of women think. I've been there been the loyal faithful guy, guy who cooked dinner on valentines day, guy who remembered her birthday, guy who never cursed at all, but I didn't give her the "tingles", i was stable steady, not the current waves and drama.
Like i said before, ive ignored a few women in my life, had sex never called back, strung them along, ignored etc. was the a$$hole and they would always pop up whether it was a week or a month later they just couldn't stop even though they knew i was no good for them. The thing is when they get older, that child out of wedlock, when men are just running through them left and right thats when they want to "settle down", that's when they want the "nice guy", the starter husband
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low/high self esteem is all relative.
a chick could think she doesn't deserve a nice guy and doesn't deserve love or respect. she could think she deserves to be smutted out. who am i to disagree? Same thing in reverse. A 31 year old precious looking chick with 3 kids by 4 baby daddies could think she deserves a profesional athlete/baller/entertainer/wallstreet dude with model looks. Who am i to say no you don't. The truth is, there is no such thing as "deserve". People want things. Sometimes they happen, sometimes they don't.
It's like patrice said, "some bytches you gotta hoe them up, some you gotta hoe them down." meaning this. A chick will come at you with her own ego, worldview, experiences, opinions, and self-esteem level. That self-esteem she has, if you're gonna influence it, you should do it in a way that benefits you first and then her. Sometimes you'll find a chick who thinks too lowly of herself for your liking and her being more confident will serve you because that way you will spend less time reassuring her and wil have more energy to do other stuff. Notice you are helping boost her self-esteem for your gain first, then hers. You could have another chick who thinks she's a diva and you need her to be more humble so that she stops causing drama due to entitlement. So you teach her another way to look at life where she is more humble and help her believe that she's not as great as she thinks she is. But in reality, maybe girl 1 really IS a loser, and maybe girl 2 really IS that great. So is it right or wrong to teach them otherwise? the reality is that it's neither. They are what they are and you are just molding them to become what you need them to be to serve your happiness and then they get happiness from you.
two key things.
1.They are always free to leave
2. You don't boost their self esteem out of charity first and you don't destroy it out of spite against them. cause in either case you'd be focusing on them first. You gotta do it because it's something that will serve a purpose in your life and then they get to choose as grown women if what you are teaching them also serves a purpose in their lives.
EDIT: But to be able to know what you need from a chick or what type of chick you need in your life, you must first know who you are cause if you don't, you'll just end up teaching a girl random things that may not benefit you cause you don't even know what you need.
a chick could think she doesn't deserve a nice guy and doesn't deserve love or respect. she could think she deserves to be smutted out. who am i to disagree? Same thing in reverse. A 31 year old precious looking chick with 3 kids by 4 baby daddies could think she deserves a profesional athlete/baller/entertainer/wallstreet dude with model looks. Who am i to say no you don't. The truth is, there is no such thing as "deserve". People want things. Sometimes they happen, sometimes they don't.
It's like patrice said, "some bytches you gotta hoe them up, some you gotta hoe them down." meaning this. A chick will come at you with her own ego, worldview, experiences, opinions, and self-esteem level. That self-esteem she has, if you're gonna influence it, you should do it in a way that benefits you first and then her. Sometimes you'll find a chick who thinks too lowly of herself for your liking and her being more confident will serve you because that way you will spend less time reassuring her and wil have more energy to do other stuff. Notice you are helping boost her self-esteem for your gain first, then hers. You could have another chick who thinks she's a diva and you need her to be more humble so that she stops causing drama due to entitlement. So you teach her another way to look at life where she is more humble and help her believe that she's not as great as she thinks she is. But in reality, maybe girl 1 really IS a loser, and maybe girl 2 really IS that great. So is it right or wrong to teach them otherwise? the reality is that it's neither. They are what they are and you are just molding them to become what you need them to be to serve your happiness and then they get happiness from you.
two key things.
1.They are always free to leave
2. You don't boost their self esteem out of charity first and you don't destroy it out of spite against them. cause in either case you'd be focusing on them first. You gotta do it because it's something that will serve a purpose in your life and then they get to choose as grown women if what you are teaching them also serves a purpose in their lives.
EDIT: But to be able to know what you need from a chick or what type of chick you need in your life, you must first know who you are cause if you don't, you'll just end up teaching a girl random things that may not benefit you cause you don't even know what you need.