Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Gloxina]

This applies to life in general but for the sake of this thread it’s about women. Something that took me way too long to learn was that you should judge women by what they do. Their actions. Women are always trying to pivot to not look like the “bad guy”. So in @The Jewnited States situation if he goes nuclear and ignores her (or appear bothered by her disappearance for a week) she can the justify that it’s HIS fault the situation imploded even though she NEVER had any serious intention on developing anything romantic with him and in reality HER behavior is the reason the situation wouldn’t/never progress.

I live by the mantra of “if she wanted to she would”.

In my opinion the reason modern dating is the way it is is because women don’t want to admit that they are more pragmatic and distant emotionally than the average man. Due to the abundance of women snitching on themselves on social media men are starting to see that in reality women say one thing but do another. Men in mass are learning (through redpill and other media) that women are doing the most for the men that do the least. Growing up we have been brainwashed to believe that women are the emotional ones when in reality they move between men pragmatically and will forget you ever existed. They naturally have a “I can easily find another one” mentality. Like a couple posters in here said it’s best to always keep a rotation. Doing so make a man naturally move like women do. And instead of fantasizing and locking into one woman we’d keep things casual. Which ironically draws women in.

It sucks because as you get older you just want that ONE down ass chick. I personally don’t have the energy to juggle multiple women. Got too much crap going on in life.

But you forget he says he was essentially dating another woman, dropped her and is now more focused on this second girl.


You don’t think there’s a chance she’s giving him the same energy he has been giving her all along? He didn’t pick up on it before because he had another woman. She was not his main focus, and she knew that.

This is what happens when folks are juggling multiple options.

Now he wants more attention and focus from the cute young girl he told he was trying to take it slow and just see where things go.

It doesn’t work like that

Keep the same energy and let things continue to slowly move forward, or be upfront and intentional about wanting to deepen the connection and make this a real thing.


You don’t get to juggle multiple women and suddenly be upset your 2nd option isn’t making you a priority.
You make that transition slowly and smoothly.

 

[The Jewnited States]

But you forget he says he was essentially dating another woman, dropped her and is now more focused on this second girl.


You don’t think there’s a chance she’s giving him the same energy he has been giving her all along? He didn’t pick up on it before because he had another woman. She was not his main focus, and she knew that.

This is what happens when folks are juggling multiple options.

Now he wants more attention and focus from the cute young girl he told he was trying to take it slow and just see where things go.

It doesn’t work like that

Keep the same energy and let things continue to slowly move forward, or be upfront and intentional about wanting to deepen the connection and make this a real thing.


You don’t get to juggle multiple women and suddenly be upset your 2nd option isn’t making you a priority.
You make that transition slowly and smoothly.

You're right. I was monkey branching it. Looking to see if I had a firm grip on the next one before I let go of the old one. At the same time, I was too much of a p*ssy to tell the younger one straight from the beginning what my situation was in regards to seeing the other chick and what I was looking for moving forward. Why? Because I'm a scumbag and didn't think that telling her the truth about it would do me any favors. I tried to play a middle ground to see how I could maximize my own situation. There is a very high chance that the new girl picked up on this and reciprocated that energy right back to me.

Does she still end up going MIA for a week, being spotted around town with 6'4" guy if I am 100% honest with her from the jump and not juggling chicks? Who knows. Does that change the fact that what I was doing can be construed as disingenuous at best, and despicable at worst? No.

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

But you forget he says he was essentially dating another woman, dropped her and is now more focused on this second girl.


You don’t think there’s a chance she’s giving him the same energy he has been giving her all along? He didn’t pick up on it before because he had another woman. She was not his main focus, and she knew that.

This is what happens when folks are juggling multiple options.

Now he wants more attention and focus from the cute young girl he told he was trying to take it slow and just see where things go.

It doesn’t work like that

Keep the same energy and let things continue to slowly move forward, or be upfront and intentional about wanting to deepen the connection and make this a real thing.


You don’t get to juggle multiple women and suddenly be upset your 2nd option isn’t making you a priority.
You make that transition slowly and smoothly.

You’re right. Good point. Me personally that’s exactly why I don’t juggle multiple women. I focus on one and if it doesn’t work I know I gave it an honest try. I’d rather stay true to myself than juggle several women as an emotional fall back.

 

[The ADD]

You're right. I was monkey branching it. Looking to see if I had a firm grip on the next one before I let go of the old one. At the same time, I was too much of a p*ssy to tell the younger one straight from the beginning what my situation was in regards to seeing the other chick and what I was looking for moving forward. Why? Because I'm a scumbag and didn't think that telling her the truth about it would do me any favors. I tried to play a middle ground to see how I could maximize my own situation. There is a very high chance that the new girl picked up on this and reciprocated that energy right back to me.

Does she still end up going MIA for a week, being spotted around town with 6'4" guy if I am 100% honest with her from the jump and not juggling chicks? Who knows. Does that change the fact that what I was doing can be construed as disingenuous at best, and despicable at worst? No.

How could you let go of the old one of yall weren’t in a relationship?

As far as the new chick, I’m confused as to what yall have really done together. Have yall been on a date, has she come to your place? Seems like looked well done the road before completing the basics.

I could be wrong granted.

 

[The Jewnited States]

How could you let go of the old one of yall weren’t in a relationship?

As far as the new chick, I’m confused as to what yall have really done together. Have yall been on a date, has she come to your place? Seems like looked well done the road before completing the basics.

I could be wrong granted.

We weren't officially in a relationship but I spent enough time with her on a weekly basis that if I did get with the new chick, the reduction in time spent with the old one would be very noticeable and it would definitely hurt her feelings.

No matter what though, if she doesn't get the relationship with me that she craves she will end up with hurt feelings. So I can't really do anything about that.

With regards to the new chick: went on a couple dates/hang outs, texting and calling throughout the week. Nothing sexual yet but we have talked about our sex lives/preferences and know we are both on the same wave length.

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

This bytch had the nerve to text me today, after an entire week of not responding talking about:

I'm sorry for the late response, this week just had been really crazy for me and I wanted to make sure I could respond to your text thoughtfully. I really do want to continue seeing you and I have been looking for someone to join me on this journey through life and I'm happy to have met you etc etc


I didn't even respond. I'm not mad as much as I'm offended that she wouldn't actually ghost me, or come with a better lie

She giving you that "friend zone" until I'm done wildn' in these streets talk, but masking it with an "intellectual sophistication". You might have to just get on your Dirtbag tip, blow the back out, and then act like a disciple of Nayvadius Cash with her.......

 

[The Jewnited States]

She giving you that "friend zone" until I'm done wildn' in these streets talk, but masking it with an "intellectual sophistication". You might have to just get on your Dirtbag tip, blow the back out, and then act like a disciple of Nayvadius Cash with her.......

It's definitely something to consider. I'm not putting any real effort into this anymore but there's always a chance she needs some late night "intellectual sophistication" with an in depth analysis of her vaginal walls

 

[The Jewnited States]

She giving you that "friend zone" until I'm done wildn' in these streets talk, but masking it with an "intellectual sophistication". You might have to just get on your Dirtbag tip, blow the back out, and then act like a disciple of Nayvadius Cash with her.......

Double post

 

[DA_LURKA]

If she throws it at me, no effort required

Shorty can't even answer a text in a timely manner and you think she's gonna throw it at you?

 

[WIA20XX]

Gen Z women are poorly socialized. They not always operating on typical female behavior patterns.

They are asynchronous and inconsistent.

They act right for the right guy (6'4" scammer), but they still take the D from the wrong guy (Sys Admin/Solid citizen) as well.

A chick that don't cooperate digitally, sometimes ends up ass up in the Buick.

The problem is the mechanics of it all and whether or not a cat wants to play the odds.

The smart man does not play the odds, but plenty of thirsty cats hit the tail end of the distribution. That's why we know that these chicks are agents of chaos.

Nonlinear Game and skewed distribution is popping up way more than the gaussian curves.

 

[Ohene]

Gen Z women are poorly socialized. They not always operating on typical female behavior patterns.

They are asynchronous and inconsistent.

They act right for the right guy (6'4" scammer), but they still take the D from the wrong guy (Sys Admin/Solid citizen) as well.

A chick that don't cooperate digitally, sometimes ends up ass up in the Buick.

The problem is the mechanics of it all and whether or not a cat wants to play the odds.

The smart man does not play the odds, but plenty of thirsty cats hit the tail end of the distribution. That's why we know that these chicks are agents of chaos.

Nonlinear Game and skewed distribution is popping up way more than the gaussian curves.

yea this is kinda what i call my whacamole theory

one would be surprised. a lot of the dumb games these women play is a result of hiding behind a screen but once you are face to face with them, if you are seductive enough they act completely differently and you can even smash

 

[WIA20XX]

yea this is kinda what i call my whacamole theory

one would be surprised. a lot of the dumb games these women play is a result of hiding behind a screen but once you are face to face with them, if you are seductive enough they act completely differently and you can even smash

We live in a world where the social media/technology is both the most realest thing ever and completely not real.

It's tailor made for the on/off again nature of women.(But also the lockstep thinking of a lot of men).

It would be a lot more fascinating if it wasn't so harmful.

 

[cyndaquil]

very well said . you gotta spend more time in here

@Gloxina

 

[cyndaquil]

Part of the conundrum of modern dating life is that it is advantageous to keep people at arms length, treat everyone with suspicion, assume the person you're messing with also has other people on deck. It helps to move that way to protect ourselves from the hurt that comes with opening up and investing in a person that doesn't reciprocate. There's only so much you can truly put yourself out there, get played, get hurt, and then go back out there and try again hoping the next one will be different.

After a while though, we get to where we are now, where everyone is suspicious of everyone else, everyone is hedging their bets, everyone is waiting for the other shoe to drop. Anyone can look at social media and dating apps and see that certain segments of the population have innumerable choices when it comes to partners. Problem is that it's an illusion of choice. Sure they show up as an option to talk to, but how many of those people are truly what they say they are? How many people that say they are looking for a serious relationship, REALLY ARE? Perhaps they are looking for a serious relationship until the next seemingly best option slides into their DMs and sells them a dream.

We can't know, and in many ways it doesn't matter. The paranoia has already permeated the dating pool. Constantly wondering if the person you're dating is as invested as you is just as bad as having them not be.

As you pointed out, it only makes sense for a man to have a few options on deck so if one broad starts coming at you sideways, you can pivot to another that may be more with the program. Likewise, a chick can be juggling numerous dudes and weighing the pros and cons of which one(s) can give them what they want/need right now. That might change later, but by then, they've already alienated a few dudes and left them jaded.

More and more jaded people enter this modern dating pool and carry a level of baggage, insecurities, and unrealistic expectations that doesn't allow for strong and lasting relationships to be formed. Where does that leave us as a society? What will the future generations learn from this pivotal moment in human relations? We are literally living in an unprecedented time, watching history unfold before our eyes. Does this system somehow self correct?

Well put.

But you forget he says he was essentially dating another woman, dropped her and is now more focused on this second girl.


You don’t think there’s a chance she’s giving him the same energy he has been giving her all along? He didn’t pick up on it before because he had another woman. She was not his main focus, and she knew that.

This is what happens when folks are juggling multiple options.

Now he wants more attention and focus from the cute young girl he told he was trying to take it slow and just see where things go.

It doesn’t work like that

Keep the same energy and let things continue to slowly move forward, or be upfront and intentional about wanting to deepen the connection and make this a real thing.


You don’t get to juggle multiple women and suddenly be upset your 2nd option isn’t making you a priority.
You make that transition slowly and smoothly.

You right. Just gotta get better at not letting them pick up on it cuz I knowing be telegraphing my lower interest when im talking to 3 different chicks at once cuz I be just responding just to respond. It sucks but that's how our brains work. I can always show high interest in person but my text game needs work. So I be tryna talk on the phone now lol I can make conversation for hours on the phone if I need to

 

[Gloxina]

@Gloxina

It’s all good.

Y’all know I make sense lol