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How do yall handle failed talking stages? I just got out of one with a chick I liked a lot and we vibed well genuinely but our goals just didn't align. She wanted a long term relationship with me but I was honest with my intentions and let her know I cant give her that and I'm only looking for short term right since I'll be moving at some point in the upcoming year for big opportunities. In the end she wasn't OK with it and we both know we can't just be friends since the attraction is too deep. It always feels so weird to go from talking everyday to silence. Yall ever meet a woman and just be like "damn if only we met with our lives under different circumstances?"
 

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How do yall handle failed talking stages? I just got out of one with a chick I liked a lot and we vibed well genuinely but our goals just didn't align. She wanted a long term relationship with me but I was honest with my intentions and let her know I cant give her that and I'm only looking for short term right since I'll be moving at some point in the upcoming year for big opportunities. In the end she wasn't OK with it and we both know we can't just be friends since the attraction is too deep. It always feels so weird to go from talking everyday to silence. Yall ever meet a woman and just be like "damn if only we met with our lives under different circumstances?"
Actually dealing with it right now

Got this girl living rent free in my head while she probably out fckn sone next dude. Nothing you can do really other than meet other women, stay busy with work/hobbies and let time do its thing
 

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How do yall handle failed talking stages? I just got out of one with a chick I liked a lot and we vibed well genuinely but our goals just didn't align. She wanted a long term relationship with me but I was honest with my intentions and let her know I cant give her that and I'm only looking for short term right since I'll be moving at some point in the upcoming year for big opportunities. In the end she wasn't OK with it and we both know we can't just be friends since the attraction is too deep. It always feels so weird to go from talking everyday to silence. Yall ever meet a woman and just be like "damn if only we met with our lives under different circumstances?"
You need to be mature enough to understand the things you wrote and move on.

It’s tough but if it doesn’t click can’t waste either of your times.
 

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How do yall handle failed talking stages? I just got out of one with a chick I liked a lot and we vibed well genuinely but our goals just didn't align. She wanted a long term relationship with me but I was honest with my intentions and let her know I cant give her that and I'm only looking for short term right since I'll be moving at some point in the upcoming year for big opportunities. In the end she wasn't OK with it and we both know we can't just be friends since the attraction is too deep. It always feels so weird to go from talking everyday to silence. Yall ever meet a woman and just be like "damn if only we met with our lives under different circumstances?"

whats a shared definition of talking stages? I think the "talking stages" are part of a major issue in modern dating. but we need a definition.
 

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I'm jamaican but :scust: thankfully I didn't fall for that jamaican trap
its genuinely disappointing and has me realizing that I think I'd rather date other islands or just go african. We move WAY to fukkin ghetto man :snoop:

I still very much dont like how Ghanians shyt on us in secret tho :francis:
 
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How yall feel about approaching women at the park? One of the reason I have always avoided it is because I fear getting rejected and seeing the same person over and over since I like to go for my walk around the same time. I saw this big booty chick yesterday, we crossed path several time :francis: she was on her phone the whole time talking. So I couldn't make a move lol, I was going to break my rule, ass was too fat.
 

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How yall feel about approaching women at the park? One of the reason I have always avoided it is because I fear getting rejected and seeing the same person over and over since I like to go for my walk around the same time. I saw this big booty chick yesterday, we crossed path several time :francis: she was on her phone the whole time talking. So I couldn't make a move lol, I was going to break my rule, ass was too fat.
She rejects you and so what You see her again and so what? Odds that you see her again walking seem small and it’s going to be in passing.
 

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How yall feel about approaching women at the park? One of the reason I have always avoided it is because I fear getting rejected and seeing the same person over and over since I like to go for my walk around the same time. I saw this big booty chick yesterday, we crossed path several time :francis: she was on her phone the whole time talking. So I couldn't make a move lol, I was going to break my rule, ass was too fat.
a lot of times women will go out of their way to avoid someone (rejected em, x fling, guy/girl she just doesn’t like etc.) so I don’t think you have much to worry about in regards to having to see her again

I tried to fukk a white shorty from my gym a while ago and shyt got awkward but I just let it be. Don’t think she liked the fact that I ignored her while seeing her at the gym so she left. Till this day she’s never been back and now years later I go to her new gym now :mjlol:

Point being, women will always inconvenience themselves. You get rejected, cool. But you will most definitely still have your walking spot, same way Imma have my gym
 

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its genuinely disappointing and has me realizing that I think I'd rather date other islands or just go african. We move WAY to fukkin ghetto man :snoop:

I still very much dont like how Ghanians shyt on us in secret tho :francis:
You think africans are better?

Lol its the same BS, dont get it twisted. African women might even be worse than Jamaicans. Theyre definitely more transactional / materialistic
 

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You need to be mature enough to understand the things you wrote and move on.

It’s tough but if it doesn’t click can’t waste either of your times.

This, respecting what people wants goes both ways. Its better it ends there than faking the funk and getting deep and things end worse
 

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its genuinely disappointing and has me realizing that I think I'd rather date other islands or just go african. We move WAY to fukkin ghetto man :snoop:

I still very much dont like how Ghanians shyt on us in secret tho :francis:

man all these women are the same, and Black women globally are all cousins lol, the differentiating factor is what the men allow. Western Black societies are gynocracies by design due to slavery, African black societies the women worth marrying dont last long on the market, so after a certain point you are dealing with women nobody wants hence the fukkery there too. If you meet an African women can can tell you all the shyt about how marriage works in her society, her bride price, etc its cause she is a fukking loser nobody wants.
 

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When i occasional browse apps in bordem i notice women rushing to go on dates now in their prompts when they the biggest ones talking that safety shyt lol

Why are you rushing to meet strangers and talking the no pen pals stuff?

I assume the hermit life causing them to break
 
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