Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The ADD]

This is where getting to know each other does work. If you guys get to know each other and finally have sex later after establishing a relationship one bad night of sex isnt a big deal. But if it’s date 1-4? You got one shot to do well. Excuses won’t work with her. lol.

Committing to a relationship before you know you are sexually compatible?

Eh

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

You are one weird ass dude man.. continue with your incel revenge of the nerds circle jerk with the other breh. Nobody has time to showcase your stupid ass logical leaps.

Instead of asking the "why" behind my question and waiting for my response, you went on a 5 reply emotional and irrational tangent. It's clear you have some unresolved trauma or were picked on in school for "sounding white" or being put into a box on some flat blackness shyt. Both archaic talking points i vehemently disagree with.

You clearly lack reading comprehension as well, never said I was smarter than anyone. You're the same guy attempting to puff his chest out on some "intellectual superiority" shyt by making ad hominem attacks about my so called inability to process the fact that black people can't possess certain verbiage and intellectual capabilities in fleshing out their thoughts that exist outside of stereotypes. You're a walking hypocrite.


I hope you seek help and get some p*ssy, breh. You operate in feminine energy and no woman would want to be around a dude with your behavior characteristics. I suggest you reread this thread starting on page 1. It may save your (dating) life.

 

[Astroslik]

I need p*ssy!! I gotta have it

I get it breh. We've all had dry spells.

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

I get it breh. We've all had dry spells.

 

[Ahadi]

Yeah, I knew that music was different, I even listen to a little of it, but I had never considered why that was, or that it was influential. Sometimes I project the idea that people are smarter, or know how to listen to music and love it, without embracing the ideologies personally. It's pretty fascinating, I'd love to see an in depth look at the shift in R&B music over the last 20 years.

And the romance thing. When I talk and get personal with women who are like 30, it's one thing I always pick up on. There is very little sense or romance or passion. lust. It's all very calculated, or very chaotic. I can point to two 30 year old, who are very different, and both express a sort of blankness or distance when it comes to romance, or just the idea that you can want someone, and embracing it.

thats why a of women even more today, feed off of chaos. They need stimulation. A man who's calm, makes them sit within their thoughts, where as the chaos keeps their mind racing and distracted. Men are more romantic these days.

 

[Astroslik]

In all seriousness, @re'up my question asking if you are black wasn't meant to be taken to press you or anything. If you are black i wanted to hear your perspective on dating in San Diego because its a unique city with a very small black population so was just curious if your experiences are that of a black man in the city. I've heard mixed things about dating as a black man or woman there and I figure it's vastly different than anyone non-black. I should've added this context in my original post.

I know you have two dikkriders in here at your beck and call, but that wasn't my intention to make it seem like I'm discrediting you based off racial background.

Appreciate your perspectives in this thread and the cartel/crime related subtopics in this forum

 

[Ahadi]

Say brehs how do you handle when a chick pulls back during the dating phase? Do you bring it up? Mirror their energy? Dead the situation right then and there and move on?

I’m of the opinion that it’s best to just mirror her behavior and not reach out unless she does.

oh her pattern changed? yeah you drop her, and if you want her to come back, she would need to prove herself. But id just dump and get a new one.

Its provider season so they're tryna find the best home lol

 

[Apollo Creed]

This is where getting to know each other does work. If you guys get to know each other and finally have sex later after establishing a relationship one bad night of sex isnt a big deal. But if it’s date 1-4? You got one shot to do well. Excuses won’t work with her. lol.

.you nikkas don't realize you sound like gynocratic slaves. No other group of men give a fukk about this.

If y'all are not sexually compatible cool, but if sex is some try out to find a home you are a fukking slave

 

[Ahadi]

I think a cat can be the ABSOLUTE BEST, and even then, if a chick ain't feeling you - she ain't feeling you.

So a lot of the idea about "self improvement" or learning "game" - falls flat - when you can't keep the one you want.

Cats need to take the stress off themselves.

You feeling her, haven't smashed yet, or you have smashed - she just might not be feeling it.

Nothing's wrong with you or how you move.

Thats the thing. You can only do so much. Nature is gona run its course.

Seen on a few podcast a bunch of mid looking women say he’s a “take home to mom type of guy but not an exciting guy.”
One of the most successful, richest, popular actors is a “take home to mom” type of guy?

This has been a thing for a while lol. What maximized his SMV was Killmonger. (locs, scarification marks, gains, millitant, EDGE, grill, etc), all that shyt got women going wild. Hate to say this, but BW need EDGE and yes a number of them have hybristophila as well.

Other groups you're EDGY already cause your Black.

and now if you're labeled as the take home to mom type, thats a dangerous role to be in because shes gona be looking for your polar opposite to dig her out, which at that point i wouldnt be with that woman or any woman who considers me that.

 

[Ahadi]

.you nikkas don't realize you sound like gynocratic slaves. No other group of men give a fukk about this.

If y'all are not sexually compatible cool, but if sex is some try out to find a home you are a fukking slave

All that shyt dont matter lol. If you're HIM YOU'RE HIM. You cant negotiate attraction.

That bytch better figure out how to bust. I gotta be responsible for her busting too? after spending whatever i spent, planning our time together, and making sure i deliver super pipe game etc. Thats a grown ass woman bro lol. She needs to be auditioning for YOU. YOUR STAGE.

 

[Ohene]

All that shyt dont matter lol. If you're HIM YOU'RE HIM. You cant negotiate attraction.

That bytch better figure out how to bust. I gotta be responsible for her busting too? after spending whatever i spent, planning our time together, and making sure i deliver super pipe game etc. Thats a grown ass woman bro lol. She needs to be auditioning for YOU. YOUR STAGE.

I’m personally not talking about making sure they bust and all that but you better pipe them decently…not be a one minute man, not have ED etc

Same goes for them. I smashed one chick recently and while she was nice she had weird social skills and was a boring lay so i wasn’t really keen on linking her again

 

[Apollo Creed]

I’m personally not talking about making sure they bust and all that but you better pipe them decently…not be a one minute man, not have ED etc

Same goes for them. I smashed one chick recently and while she was nice she had weird social skills and was a boring lay so i wasn’t really keen on linking her again

All that matters is if you enjoyed yourself lmfao. Sexual compatibility isnt something you can plan for. This is why i stress she gotta be more into you than you are her.

 

[WIA20XX]

I want a relationship but I’m not gonna chase a chick especially after I’ve smashed a couple times.

Yeah exactly what I was thinking. Part of the downside of seeing one woman at a time. Which is my M.O.

Lots of things could be happening on her end. Old flame came in the picture, new guy got her attention, work, school, family... Unless you're an established figure in her life, you don't necessarily warrant the effort it takes to communicate. Sometimes even a just a text is "too much".

However,

1) If you're coming at her on the serious tip from jump - chicks will future project and get cold feet. It's not always, "I can do better", It's often, "is this guy the right fit?"

2) Additionally a good or bad smash session (s) can truly muddy the waters.

Chicks will use bad male logic as well. If he was so serious about me, why did we hook up so "early"? Why didn't he want to wait?

Even if she initiated/made it easy.

Even if she would have went radio silent if you *didn't* smash.

So she might not be "ready" even though she said she was.

That said your style of being direct with a chick about your intentions and only dating one chick, puts you in a tough position.

The relationship paradoxically comes when you least need it.

The player side of the game is basically to always make the chick you want invest in you, else wise you leave her for someone that she can't compete with. She has to feel like she won you over. Pulled you out of the game. That in short you really value her.

If you're down to marry her in 6 months, and she knows that in the first few interactions, where was the challenge?

Being a "Steady Eddie" is such a break from the typical chick's experience with dudes she likes. Everyone likes to "ease" into something naturally, "take it slow". At least that's the mindset.

That's just rarely the reality, in my experience. It's never two sober minded intentional people that consciously and deliberately blend their lives together.

More common is that you meet, and unconsciously both sides want to spend more time together, and put aside other stuff to do so. It's anything but a linear buildup.

You gotta ask yourself, what do you think should happen? You go on one or three dates and suddenly you're texting throughout the day, and all of your time is spoken for?

What type of behavior is going to meet your criteria?

Just some thoughts. And to make it ironic, you can't outthink these broads. They're operating in a different dimension regardless of what the logical thing is.

 

[Ohene]

All that matters is if you enjoyed yourself lmfao. Sexual compatibility isnt something you can plan for. This is why i stress she gotta be more into you than you are her.

ED, bussin in one minute ain’t enjoyable for anyone lol

 

[Apollo Creed]

ED, bussin in one minute ain’t enjoyable for anyone lol

Ive never had those issues, but having a health issue mess up the evening is different than all this “ima serve this bytch like she is the almighty” talk that dudes are making lol

If anything she should be putting in the work to reward you for being the rare dude worth her submitting her body to