Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[cyndaquil]

Define dating, seems tough to expect someone to drop all prospect without being in a relationship

I know I wouldn't immediately. This is definitely a gradual shift kinda thing unless yall have the "what are we" talk. You start making more and more time for her until she's the only cuz let's be for real, when you got the one you rock with them other chicks start to be annoying as fukk for real. Men get the "ick" too. Sometimes a chick will say some shyt and I'll having crazy thoughts like "yeah nah if this chick got pregnant, id have to flee the country" I think I'm good lol. Chicks be like "idk why I'm a side chick, I'm badder than his fukkin girlfriend" its cuz we don't like you shawty if you didnt have a p*ssy we wouldn't talk we not really friends.

 

[Ahadi]

for sure. i shared one above

i dont hold it against her...she has a certain level of self-respect and wont compete. but if she put her best foot forward instead from the get go then i prolly woulda rolled with her.

funny enough, there was a post in here i posted back in early september i think when I said i was deleting a chick number cause i had gone out with her twice and she doesnt initiate any convos...then a few days passed and she hit me up. thats the jamaican chick. now imagine if during that time the chick in question was putting her best foot forward...i prolly woulda just peaced the jamaican chick and went with her instead. instead she half assed it and as a result i became less interested

you did the right thing because when you force energy, you end up losing your frame and end up in the weak position.

ive cut plenty of women off over weak communication or not making an effort to reschedule. I'm not gona keep talking to you lol... like you said "Stand Out" / Initiate.

 

[Ahadi]

When it comes to their EDUCATION & Degrees, they know what they want.

When it comes to their "Corporate / 9-5 Job and act on their best behavior, they know what they want.

When it comes to their "Girls Trips / planning" they know what they want.

For some reason with men, they short circuit lol unless its someone they really want, and even then thats tricky.

 

[Ohene]

you did the right thing because when you force energy, you end up losing your frame and end up in the weak position.

ive cut plenty of women off over weak communication or not making an effort to reschedule. I'm not gona keep talking to you lol... like you said "Stand Out" / Initiate.

yea man. i dont really do rosters but for me its like training camp. there might be a top prospect or draft pick who's the starter. but if she skippin practice, missing throws, fumbling, injured etc. then she will be benched accordingly. she can either try harder and rehab to reclaim her position or seek another team

that's why i didnt even bother trying to hold on to her, assure her that who she saw was just a friend or anything like that. she's free to look elsewhere and we can still be cool/friends. it's no hard feelings but i aint gonna let her think how she was moving was acceptable for me either.

 

[Ohene]

When it comes to their EDUCATION & Degrees, they know what they want.

When it comes to their "Corporate / 9-5 Job and act on their best behavior, they know what they want.

When it comes to their "Girls Trips / planning" they know what they want.

For some reason with men, they short circuit lol unless its someone they really want, and even then thats tricky.

it's all ego with them. they used to being chased, wined and dined, double texted, everything paid for etc. they used to flaking, making dudes compete, comparing notes. but when they meet their match - a man who also has options, is equally or more attractive, just as successful - some of them dont know how to act, attract or reciprocate. they want it to be one way lol

 

[Redwood]

it's all ego with them. they used to being chased, wined and dined, double texted, everything paid for etc. they used to flaking, making dudes compete, comparing notes. but when they meet their match - a man who also has options, is equally or more attractive, just as successful - some of them dont know how to act, attract or reciprocate. they want it to be one way lol

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

it's all ego with them. they used to being chased, wined and dined, double texted, everything paid for etc. they used to flaking, making dudes compete, comparing notes. but when they meet their match - a man who also has options, is equally or more attractive, just as successful - some of them dont know how to act, attract or reciprocate. they want it to be one way lol

So imagine. A woman is getting all of that and then here comes you and I talking about “if you want it you gotta step your game up and compete” hahaha. Most chicks and goin for that lol.

Let’s keep it a 1000. If you or I had it like that we’d scoff at “competing” too. Hell I don’t compete now I couldn’t imagine if I got attention and thirst like the average woman receives.

And truthfully I don’t know any NORMAL person that wants to compete for someone’s attention and loyalty. Man or woman. All things being equal and they are giving it a honest go. Like I stated if I find out a woman is juggling men i immediately dead it and move on.

This roster shyt is causing a lot of headaches because at the end of the day nobody is winning. It’s a race to do the bare minimum but get maximum results. Play before getting played. Like peoples feelings and emotions are entertainment. It’s sad really.

 

[Ohene]

So imagine. A woman is getting all of that and then here comes you and I talking about “if you want it you gotta step your game up and compete” hahaha. Most chicks and goin for that lol.

Let’s keep it a 1000. If you or I had it like that we’d scoff at “competing” too. Hell I don’t compete now I couldn’t imagine if I got attention and thirst like the average woman receives.

And truthfully I don’t know any NORMAL person that wants to compete for someone’s attention and loyalty. Man or woman. All things being equal and they are giving it a honest go. Like I stated if I find out a woman is juggling men i immediately dead it and move on.

This roster shyt is causing a lot of headaches because at the end of the day nobody is winning. It’s a race to do the bare minimum but get maximum results. Play before getting played. Like peoples feelings and emotions are entertainment. It’s sad really.

I See it differently

I have to compete whether or not i want to or think i am. The same goes for women, they just don’t realize it.

The same way McDonald’s and Burger King compete with the fancy restaurant for a consumers money. Two consumers may be competing for a job in those same burger kings and McDonald’s. Then after one person gets the job he still competing with colleagues for that promotion. Meanwhile somebody competing to get the new contract supplying McDonald’s with their fries. It’s how the economy works. Everyone competing with somebody for something whether they realize it or not. And if you want to keep your spot you still have to compete with ppl trying to take it

The people who don’t realize this on some level are the ones who let themselves go and get cheated on, stay single, get divorced etc. Competing doesn’t mean you don’t reject women or maintain standards etc. but naturally even just by asking a girl out you are naturally competing against other dudes doing the same. And when she goes out with you she’s competing against other women you have taken out

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

I See it differently

I have to compete whether or not i want to or think i am. The same goes for women, they just don’t realize it.

The same way McDonald’s and Burger King compete with the fancy restaurant for a consumers money. Two consumers may be competing for a job in those same burger kings and McDonald’s. Then after one person gets the job he still competing with colleagues for that promotion. Meanwhile somebody competing to get the new contract supplying McDonald’s with their fries. It’s how the economy works. Everyone competing with somebody for something whether they realize it or not. And if you want to keep your spot you still have to compete with ppl trying to take it

The people who don’t realize this on some level are the ones who let themselves go and get cheated on, stay single, get divorced etc. Competing doesn’t mean you don’t reject women or maintain standards etc. but naturally even just by asking a girl out you are naturally competing against other dudes doing the same. And when she goes out with you she’s competing against other women you have taken out

I see your point, understand it, and fundamentally agree with you. I think the challenge is that I’m not quite sure you’re understanding where I’m coming from is that women don’t need to compete in today’s dating landscape (you and I know that they should and have to but in reality they don’t). For the average man dating is not set up for a woman to jump through hoops to compete for his attention and time. Maybe you and I have it set up like that, and that’s good; keep doing your thing but our circumstances isn’t the reality.

If she’s feeling you sure she’ll make it easy for you to do your thing but as far as competing, she won’t. For example, the girl I referenced a handful of pages back that went cold. She verbally acknowledged and saw that I had several women choosing up on me in the gym. She saw with her own eyes the options I have. She saw with her own eyes my big ass house, my cars, my physique. She knows the job I have and the money I make.

Now you’d think in HER mind she’d immediately fall in line to lock me down (or compete as you’d say) especially her being 29 years old but what happened was quite the opposite. Shyt I played every card right in that circumstance. Now I recognize you can’t win EVERY hand your dealt and that’s fine. She’s not the first and won’t be the last I encounter like that. I’ll wrap this up.

Men are bred to compete. It’s in our nature. Women on a base level like to go with the path of least resistance and effort. Society hasn’t programmed them to compete for a man. Their friend group hasn’t told them to compete for a man. Social media tells them what one man won’t do another will and it’s backed up by the legions of simps in their DM’s and dating apps. Some men are trying to move different with the information of how women move. I appreciate your commentary and actually agree with you, it’s just what I’m seeing with how these ladies move is different.

 

[Ohene]

I see your point, understand it, and fundamentally agree with you. I think the challenge is that I’m not quite sure you’re understanding where I’m coming from is that women don’t need to compete in today’s dating landscape (you and I know that they should and have to but in reality they don’t). For the average man dating is not set up for a woman to jump through hoops to compete for his attention and time. Maybe you and I have it set up like that, and that’s good; keep doing your thing but our circumstances isn’t the reality.

If she’s feeling you sure she’ll make it easy for you to do your thing but as far as competing, she won’t. For example, the girl I referenced a handful of pages back that went cold. She verbally acknowledged and saw that I had several women choosing up on me in the gym. She saw with her own eyes the options I have. She saw with her own eyes my big ass house, my cars, my physique. She knows the job I have and the money I make.

Now you’d think in HER mind she’d immediately fall in line to lock me down (or compete as you’d say) especially her being 29 years old but what happened was quite the opposite. Shyt I played every card right in that circumstance. Now I recognize you can’t win EVERY hand your dealt and that’s fine. She’s not the first and won’t be the last I encounter like that. I’ll wrap this up.

Men are bred to compete. It’s in our nature. Women on a base level like to go with the path of least resistance and effort. Society hasn’t programmed them to compete for a man. Their friend group hasn’t told them to compete for a man. Social media tells them what one man won’t do another will and it’s backed up by the legions of simps in their DM’s and dating apps. Some men are trying to move different with the information of how women move. I appreciate your commentary and actually agree with you, it’s just what I’m seeing with how these ladies move is different.

I think they are competing breh, inherently they are competing

Its like this.

When coke and pepsi put their respective pops on the shelves of a grocery store, they may not be proactively incentivizing you to buy one or the other. But they are inherently competing for your dollar.

The same can be said for two random baddies who are posted up at a club waiting for men to come and talk to them.

The same way pepsi and coca cola done spent money on marketing and advertising, invested in their facilities etc to enhance production is the same way the two baddies are spending money on BBLs, makeup, titties, dresses etc. a lot of men may come at them and they may reject them. But in holding out for the dudes they actually really want, they are competing against other women for that same dude.

Now not every women is going to compete overtly. But inherently they are regardless. Some may even recognize that the dude they want out of their league and they cant measure up to his standards, then diss him and go mess with a simp who worships her. Thats fine. Theres a different market for everyone. Louis Vuitton and Nike are not competing for the same customer, but it doesnt mean they arent competing in their own respective markets.

A time may very well come where the woman you were dissed by will be dissed by the man she chooses because he finds another women he more interested in

 

[Ohene]

Lol i aint tryna be contentious btw
I just like talking about this shyt/using analogies

Out there a company like Oracle is providing a fortune 500 company like Pepsi an ERP and accounting system. They may have all the bells and whistles thst work for a large enterprise. But a random small local juice maker may all of a sudden decide they dont need Oracle and instead downgrade to an ERP system like Aptean and use Quickbooks for accounting. They decided for whatever reason that the lesser software are more affordable and suitable for them.

Does that not mean Pepsi/Tropicana and the local juice company arent competing?

We are all competing. Women included. Cant tell me any different

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

I think they are competing breh, inherently they are competing

Its like this.

When coke and pepsi put their respective pops on the shelves of a grocery store, they may not be proactively incentivizing you to buy one or the other. But they are inherently competing for your dollar.

The same can be said for two random baddies who are posted up at a club waiting for men to come and talk to them.

The same way pepsi and coca cola done spent money on marketing and advertising, invested in their facilities etc to enhance production is the same way the two baddies are spending money on BBLs, makeup, titties, dresses etc. a lot of men may come at them and they may reject them. But in holding out for the dudes they actually really want, they are competing against other women for that same dude.

Now not every women is going to compete overtly. But inherently they are regardless. Some may even recognize that the dude they want out of their league and they cant measure up to his standards, then diss him and go mess with a simp who worships her. Thats fine. Theres a different market for everyone. Louis Vuitton and Nike are not competing for the same customer, but it doesnt mean they arent competing in their own respective markets.

A time may very well come where the woman you were dissed by will be dissed by the man she chooses because he finds another women he more interested in

Ahh so your view is that they might not consciously think they’re competing but inherently they are by engaging with a guy they’re interested in.

Lol i aint tryna be contentious btw
I just like talking about this shyt/using analogies

Out there a company like Oracle is providing a fortune 500 company like Pepsi an ERP and accounting system. They may have all the bells and whistles thst work for a large enterprise. But a random small local juice maker may all of a sudden decide they dont need Oracle and instead downgrade to an ERP system like Aptean and use Quickbooks for accounting. They decided for whatever reason that the lesser software are more affordable and suitable for them.

Does that not mean Pepsi/Tropicana and the local juice company arent competing?

We are all competing. Women included. Cant tell me any different

Of course. Your point is taken and I’ll leave it there.

 

[Ohene]

Ahh so your view is that they might not consciously think they’re competing but inherently they are by engaging with a guy they’re interested in.

Exactly. The egotistical or high value ppl will think theyre above competing so may not put in as much effort. But they still competing. Ive never seen a ferrari commercial, but they still competing against Lamborghini - they just doing it in different ways

 

[Apollo Creed]

Exactly. The egotistical or high value ppl will think theyre above competing so may not put in as much effort. But they still competing. Ive never seen a ferrari commercial, but they still competing against Lamborghini - they just doing it in different ways

Is this about the chick who fell back when she saw you with another chick?

I mean as a man, roles.reversed, you see another nikka taking chick on.your roster to a whip, you gonna keep the same enetgy?

Maybe it's me but it's a diff between roster and someone you happened to sleep with before. With rosters, yeah there is no title but you still won't play in someone face lol. It's why folks never post who they with unless they in a formal relationship

 

[Ohene]

Is this about the chick who fell back when she saw you with another chick?

I mean as a man, roles.reversed, you see another nikka taking chick on.your roster to a whip, you gonna keep the same enetgy?

Maybe it's me but it's a diff between roster and someone you happened to sleep with before. With rosters, yeah there is no title but you still won't play in someone face lol. It's why folks never post who they with unless they in a formal relationship

My energy wouldn’t change because I would already assume she probably dating someone else and i would be as well. If it was a girl i had been seeing for a minute and having sex with, I would probably have the conversation with her rather than act passive aggressively. I would tell her I saw her with some other dude and ask who it was (shed prolly lie). It would force me to have the conversation with myself to see what i want from the girl too. If it was a girl i wanted to lock down then I would tell her I want to be exclusive from there on out. If she wasnt with it I would peace out. If she was, we are exclusive. If i aint willing to be exclusive with her than how can I fault her for seeing other dudes. Thats how I see it

If its a girl I just met and only went out with a few times and hadnt been sexual with, I wouldnt assume anything. I have had female friends visit me before. If it’s the night time I’m gonna walk them to an uber regardless and hug them good bye. That’s what gentlemen do

The girl i was talkin about and I hadnt had sex though. Funny enough she wanted to but because of how long it had been since she had sex and the fact she said she isnt into casual sex, I deliberately chose not to have sex with her until I knew i was gonna be serious or exclusive with her (there were a few other reasons too).

All that being said i have no issue with her falling back and completely understand. Thats why i didnt try to reengage, gaslight or persuade her to keep fcukin with me