Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Apollo Creed]

i once unmatched a chick for these reasons then found her IG when i was bored one day a month later. I put my acct on public, DM'ed her and we linked eventually to grab tacos. She came over the second time and I smashed.

Thats an exception to the rule though. A lot of these women turn off notifications from dating apps and only go into them when theyre bored or seeking attn. The juice aint worth the squeeze usually

Dating apps should be passive for.men in general.because women will always have the upper ground on them

 

[cyndaquil]

Time of the week matters, but if the convo is just text tag "aka I reply when Im bored and open the app" you shouldn't even be taking it serious and unmatch if it becomes clutter lol. nobody is that busy unless they work a customer service or physically demanding job where they can't have their phone. They are responding slow because they dont care.

True that's exactly why I unmatch when I see certain behavior. Cuz even if I didn't know how women move, I still do the same shyt to them when I'm not very interested.

i once unmatched a chick for these reasons then found her IG when i was bored one day a month later. I put my acct on public, DM'ed her and we linked eventually to grab tacos. She came over the second time and I smashed.

Thats an exception to the rule though. A lot of these women turn off notifications from dating apps and only go into them when theyre bored or seeking attn. The juice aint worth the squeeze usually

Yeah that's the thing. If she is fukkin with me like that I know she'll check periodically or even turn the notifications back on so she doesnt miss any messages from me. That's why I'm thinking two days is enough.

It's good that you're realizing it. Depends on engagement levels and how much shes writing or investing into the convo.

High Investment: 30 min – 2 hrs (I know i'm a priority or at least in the top tier)
Medium: 4–10 hrs (This is more medium, not quiet HIM, but you're good)
Low: 24–48 hrs (Bush, low investment, just want attention, have other ppl they're entertaining)
Ghosting / Weak returns (one word answers or weak responses that don't keep the convo going (Ignore. unmatch)

But i usually bush around 24-48. Don't listen to those ppl talking about "i leave em there for a week" "its not that serious, no need to unmatch, they comeback" "i dont see a point in unmatching"

How you start is how you finish, you keep em there, you are entertaining disrespect and showing how much you value yourself.

Yeah I agree. It's important to unmatch. No reason to keep em there. You see the patterns take place over time slowly waste it when you know it's gonna lead to some BS.

 

[Ohene]

Let just be honest

• When you wake up in the morning what is the first thing you gonna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you leave home to go to work what will you do? You gon grab your keys, your briefcase/bag and wallet...theeeeen.... Grab/check your phone
• When you are on the way to work and theres a stop sign or youre waiting for the train what are you prolly gonna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you arrive at work what you gon do? Grab/check your phone
• When that coffee gives you the bubble guts and you gotta take a shyt, what you finna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you go for lunch, what you finna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you finish lunch and wanna see how much time you got til your next meeting or for your break, what you gon do? Grab/check your phone
• When you leave work what is the first thing you prolly gonna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you get home what are you gonna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you are at the gym and picking some music to listen to? You gonna grab/check your phone
• When you are taking a shyt after dinner what are you prolly gonna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you go to sleep what is the last thing you probably do? Check your phone and charge it

Women are no different. Frankly, anything more than 8 hours is too long. Longer than that and its clear her attn is all over the place and she not serious. Treat her as such. I have literally seen bytches in my neighborhood walking around texting / typing some shyt when they havent responded to my message.

Let these women tend to their dumb social media/brain rot content. Let them play their dumb games and fall back from em. They will end up as dog/cat ladies or with a dude who plays the games just as good/better than them and ditches they ass when he find a better woman who respects him enough to communicate properly. They not worth your time if they dont even know how to keep up with correspondance reasonably. Go where youre wanted, not tolerated.

 

[Braman]

So I started renting my basement to an old fwb. I held out for a year but I folded brehs. I smashed

Spoiler

Back story, she cool n all but she a party animal so it was never gonna be more. Over time it morphed into a quasi friendship. We stopped fukking like 3 years ago.

Ffwd a year ago she needed a place to stay with her and her HS age daughter I said cool. Completely separate entrance, no shared areas. Easy money. But she was late w/ rent in month # TWO. So I immediately shut down the friend part and we kept it professional from that point. Rarely saw her, real cold via text when we had the occasional tenant issues.

Well shyt changed when her daughter just moved out. Now it’s just her. She started to try and thaw shyt. So the other day after a cordial back n forth earlier about a repair, she FaceTimed me at 1am. I thought it was a butt dial i ain’t answer but I text her and she said come downstairs. We don’t ‘share’ the house at all. I go down she’s in a robe and I folded brehs. The fourth wall has been broken now there’s a big tittied blasian bytch in my basement I could fukk all the time

I’m fighting it bc 1- when I’m nice she start gettin funny with the money and no p*ssy is worth a free $1500 every month. 2- Other women. When I was in a relationship I never thought of her. Now I’m single but still she’s a distraction plus you just never know what a woman would do.

And she stands out physically she looks like a great value Paul Payton. So women im actually trying to talk to dont even see her bc it would immediately raise eyebrows. I always describe it as ‘oh yea i rent to this older lady’.

What would you do. The money ain’t worth it…Yolo n enjoy…Go back to strictly business…

 

[Ohene]

So I started renting my basement to an old fwb. I held out for a year but I folded brehs. I smashed

Spoiler

Back story, she cool n all but she a party animal so it was never gonna be more. Over time it morphed into a quasi friendship. We stopped fukking like 3 years ago.

Ffwd a year ago she needed a place to stay with her and her HS age daughter I said cool. Completely separate entrance, no shared areas. Easy money. But she was late w/ rent in month # TWO. So I immediately shut down the friend part and we kept it professional from that point. Rarely saw her, real cold via text when we had the occasional tenant issues.

Well shyt changed when her daughter just moved out. Now it’s just her. She started to try and thaw shyt. So the other day after a cordial back n forth earlier about a repair, she FaceTimed me at 1am. I thought it was a butt dial i ain’t answer but I text her and she said come downstairs. We don’t ‘share’ the house at all. I go down she’s in a robe and I folded brehs. The fourth wall has been broken now there’s a big tittied blasian bytch in my basement I could fukk all the time

I’m fighting it bc 1- when I’m nice she start gettin funny with the money and no p*ssy is worth a free $1500 every month. 2- Other women. When I was in a relationship I never thought of her. Now I’m single but still she’s a distraction plus you just never know what a woman would do.

And she stands out physically she looks like a great value Paul Payton. So women im actually trying to talk to dont even see her bc it would immediately raise eyebrows. I always describe it as ‘oh yea i rent to this older lady’.

What would you do. The money ain’t worth it…Yolo n enjoy…Go back to strictly business…

you know the answer. eventually she gonna try to blur that line and act like she shouldnt have to pay if yall fukkin or at least try and get some discounted rent. she will also fukk up your escapades with other women if she becomes jealous. there could even be some legal shyt involved where she blackmails you and acts like you coerced her into fukkin for shelter.

it could go left in a lotta diff ways

 

[Ahadi]

Let just be honest

• When you wake up in the morning what is the first thing you gonna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you leave home to go to work what will you do? You gon grab your keys, your briefcase/bag and wallet...theeeeen.... Grab/check your phone
• When you are on the way to work and theres a stop sign or youre waiting for the train what are you prolly gonna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you arrive at work what you gon do? Grab/check your phone
• When that coffee gives you the bubble guts and you gotta take a shyt, what you finna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you go for lunch, what you finna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you finish lunch and wanna see how much time you got til your next meeting or for your break, what you gon do? Grab/check your phone
• When you leave work what is the first thing you prolly gonna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you get home what are you gonna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you are at the gym and picking some music to listen to? You gonna grab/check your phone
• When you are taking a shyt after dinner what are you prolly gonna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you go to sleep what is the last thing you probably do? Check your phone and charge it

Women are no different. Frankly, anything more than 8 hours is too long. Longer than that and its clear her attn is all over the place and she not serious. Treat her as such. I have literally seen bytches in my neighborhood walking around texting / typing some shyt when they havent responded to my message.

Let these women tend to their dumb social media/brain rot content. Let them play their dumb games and fall back from em. They will end up as dog/cat ladies or with a dude who plays the games just as good/better than them and ditches they ass when he find a better woman who respects him enough to communicate properly. They not worth your time if they dont even know how to keep up with correspondance reasonably. Go where youre wanted, not tolerated.

Exactly and if you're a high priority, shes going to keep texting you, maintain your attention and suggest meeting up. These women are on their phones all day.

Always look for reciprocity.

If you're gonab be spending money, let her at-least give you high level treatment

 

[Apollo Creed]

Exactly and if you're a high priority, shes going to keep texting you, maintain your attention and suggest meeting up. These women are on their phones all day.

I`m "emotionally unavailable" so I know how it is no opening other messages to reply to the people I actually feel like talking to. I`m one apps swiping killing time, so I know how it is so I do not really get attached and it doesn't help most people lack good convo anyways.

Like I said before Brehs need to use these next 6 months to lock in and transform so come June you locked in and ready for prime time. Never be in that position where you on apps hoping for a chick to reply, apps/online should be like a game in the sense you killing down time just like chicks are, find stuff to get you out of the house especially once it is warm so you can not have your mind on women and actually be in proximity of other people to continue to be social.

 

[WIA20XX]

you know the answer. eventually she gonna try to blur that line and act like she shouldnt have to pay if yall fukkin or at least try and get some discounted rent. she will also fukk up your escapades with other women if she becomes jealous. there could even be some legal shyt involved where she blackmails you and acts like you coerced her into fukkin for shelter.

it could go left in a lotta diff ways

I feel like we just discussed this, lol.

 

[cyndaquil]

Let just be honest

• When you wake up in the morning what is the first thing you gonna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you leave home to go to work what will you do? You gon grab your keys, your briefcase/bag and wallet...theeeeen.... Grab/check your phone
• When you are on the way to work and theres a stop sign or youre waiting for the train what are you prolly gonna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you arrive at work what you gon do? Grab/check your phone
• When that coffee gives you the bubble guts and you gotta take a shyt, what you finna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you go for lunch, what you finna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you finish lunch and wanna see how much time you got til your next meeting or for your break, what you gon do? Grab/check your phone
• When you leave work what is the first thing you prolly gonna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you get home what are you gonna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you are at the gym and picking some music to listen to? You gonna grab/check your phone
• When you are taking a shyt after dinner what are you prolly gonna do? Grab/check your phone
• When you go to sleep what is the last thing you probably do? Check your phone and charge it

Women are no different. Frankly, anything more than 8 hours is too long. Longer than that and its clear her attn is all over the place and she not serious. Treat her as such. I have literally seen bytches in my neighborhood walking around texting / typing some shyt when they havent responded to my message.

Let these women tend to their dumb social media/brain rot content. Let them play their dumb games and fall back from em. They will end up as dog/cat ladies or with a dude who plays the games just as good/better than them and ditches they ass when he find a better woman who respects him enough to communicate properly. They not worth your time if they dont even know how to keep up with correspondance reasonably. Go where youre wanted, not tolerated.

Yeah for sure. 100% so 2 days? Got it

 

[Ohene]

since were on the topic

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

Not gonna lie, a chick taking 2+ hrs to respond to me a chick getting bushed expeditiously (through text that is I don’t do dating apps). I’m too old for that bullshyt.

With that being said I’m not sitting around waiting but I know when a chick feeling me and don’t wanna lose me they’ll respond really quick (within the hr) and if they don’t they’re apologetic on why they didn’t respond or let you know they’re about to be in a position to not be able to respond. They don’t leave ANYTHING up to a negative interpretation. Like I mentioned in the other thread I got a chick I’m dealing with now that’s a physician’s assistant and assist orthopedic surgeons all day and she answers my text very fast. Ain’t no bytch busier than her so other chicks can miss me with the bullshyt.

Like @Ohene said EVERYONE is on their phones and can see a message. I’ve probably lost some women being “strict” like that but I only fukk with super high interest women and I don’t give a fukk. Anything lukewarm I bush.

 

[cyndaquil]

since were on the topic

Stopped watching at 80% never got sex on tinder and 50% of people on dating apps aren't looking for a relationship and only 1 in 285 matches actually go on a date.
I just created my tinder like a month ago and I smashed two different women in the first week. Hinge I'm at the match limit so I cant even swipe. But the dating apps suffer from the issues we all know about it inflates the value of women and only like the top 20% of men eat. Couple that with lack of seriousness from folks, delusional wants and we see why it aint the first choice.

I've already got a FWB I been fukking and had to take a month off to heal from a procedure which wont be fully healed until like January so I'm using the apps while I stack. They are definitely not the ideal way to meet someone I've had my fair share of ghosting and bullshyt behavior catfishing in the past as well. But the some of easiest p*ssy I have ever gotten has come off the apps. shyt is like McDonalds quantity over quality

 

[Ohene]

Stopped watching at 80% never got sex on tinder and 50% of people on dating apps aren't looking for a relationship and only 1 in 285 matches actually go on a date.
I just created my tinder like a month ago and I smashed two different women in the first week. Hinge I'm at the match limit so I cant even swipe. But the dating apps suffer from the issues we all know about it inflates the value of women and only like the top 20% of men eat. Couple that with lack of seriousness from folks, delusional wants and we see why it aint the first choice.

I've already got a FWB I been fukking and had to take a month off to heal from a procedure which wont be fully healed until like January so I'm using the apps while I stack. They are definitely not the ideal way to meet someone I've had my fair share of ghosting and bullshyt behavior catfishing in the past as well. But the some of easiest p*ssy I have ever gotten has come off the apps. shyt is like McDonalds quantity over quality

I believe it

I eat heavily in real life but that girl i mentioned above was the first time i ever smashed a chick from an app. Actually second time if i include a chick in Joburg. And i had to move to her through IG to do it (also my first smash off a DM)

I’m tall, fit and attractive with social skills too. Now imagine the average dude out there and consider that the vast majority of users are mem.

I dont doubt its easy to get p*ssy there but i think it requires a certain skillset/some 80-20 rule kinda dynamic.

When i was in SA one girl even said i look better in real life - how my profile seemed like an uncles profile . Its a whole diff game online vs in person. Talking vs texting.
Etc

 

[cyndaquil]

I believe it

I eat heavily in real life but that girl i mentioned above was the first time i ever smashed a chick from an app. Actually second time if i include a chick in Joburg. And i had to move to her through IG to do it (also my first smash off a DM)

I’m tall, fit and attractive with social skills too. Now imagine the average dude out there and consider that the vast majority of users are mem.

I dont doubt its easy to get p*ssy there but i think it requires a certain skillset/some 80-20 rule kinda dynamic.

When i was in SA one girl even said i look better in real life - how my profile seemed like an uncles profile . Its a whole diff game online vs in person. Talking vs texting.
Etc

Breh the pics are everything. I used to get that too. Not gonna lie my shyt was ass when I first tried it a year ago after I dumped my ex. I had to go relearn all that shyt cuz the game changed so much in like 4 years. Some of yall put me on in this thread tho. Once I finished my cut it really just took off. Even though 17-18% bodyfat isn't fat dropping down to 14% and below is a real game changer for pics.

You're right tho for the average dude it's definitely gotta suck. Cuz I hate to use the term level but a lot of women aren't matching with their level. It's so many men in the app they can just swipe until they find a dude that wouldn't take them serious in real life who'll fukk em for little bit then drop em. When my pics were ass it used to be annoying cuz I'm like "how am I getting matches and they aren't responding?" "Why are these chicks flaking from dates?" but yet I'm out and about got women hitting on me? Makes no sense definitely different rules on there.

But isnt the stat like half of gen z men over 18 not fukkin? shyt got more to do with just dating apps.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Breh the pics are everything. I used to get that too. Not gonna lie my shyt was ass when I first tried it a year ago after I dumped my ex. I had to go relearn all that shyt cuz the game changed so much in like 4 years. Some of yall put me on in this thread tho. Once I finished my cut it really just took off. Even though 17-18% bodyfat isn't fat dropping down to 14% and below is a real game changer for pics.

You're right tho for the average dude it's definitely gotta suck. Cuz I hate to use the term level but a lot of women aren't matching with their level. It's so many men in the app they can just swipe until they find a dude that wouldn't take them serious in real life who'll fukk em for little bit then drop em. When my pics were ass it used to be annoying cuz I'm like "how am I getting matches and they aren't responding?" "Why are these chicks flaking from dates?" but yet I'm out and about got women hitting on me? Makes no sense definitely different rules on there.

But isnt the stat like half of gen z men over 18 not fukkin? shyt got more to do with just dating apps.

We often "compete with ourselves" in that we know what the best version of ourself could possibly be and then we forget how uncompetitive the avg man is.

For the "competitive" man I think the issues is a few buckets
1.Yeah I can get sex, but family creation seems impossible, and am I pretty much set for a life of dealing with bird brain ass chicks in cycles.
2.An offshoot of 1 but more so yeah these chicks are birds, it's their nature, its the family law I`m worried about and how a chick can just blow my ish up thus leading to the cycle of never committing to avoid that.
3.The Jaded ness of "I have put up so many numbers and seen chicks do some evil shyt to a man they love with me, and I could never be on the other end of it".
4.Depending on your age, wanting to go with the flow and just be stable and see what happens but 1.the young chicks in their prime are remedial as fukk and the older chicks are burnt out desperate trying to force a wedding in 6 months because of a podcast.