Sometimes you need an outside observer to tell you the truth
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Two scenarios from the last week:
1) Met a really bad 23 year old out on Sunday, got slightly physical, exchanged numbers, and she started texting me right away. I could have stayed with her and her friend, but 23 year olds day drinking, I was like I need to get out of here. So many weird things can happen in those chaotic scenarios. That night she keeps texting me, I'd love to see you again, I want to go out. Hit her up the next day, casually, and she never got back. Partially I wonder how drunk she got and what she remembers. Not even sure whether to leave it or not, but she was really really bad. Had to be half black, like 36D natural, something like that, she was a college senior. Then I'm like what am I even doing? These girls are in college. I'm 40. They get fukked up, act a fool, and do it again. There was something there though.
2) Hit up a woman my age, who ghosted me awhile back, I ran into her again, like some 2000's thriller movie scene, her in a bikini on a rooftop pool. She is like pornstar bad, with an expensive lifestyle that someone pays for. I'm trying to line up a date for somewhere, and thinking I'll try the longest shot first. This illustrates the unpredictably of being single in this time frame; because she hit me back in 10 minutes, with a simple I've love to go. No wait, no rambling text, or a thank you, I'll let you know, she was down. There's a lot of room between this Friday and next, and now, I am partially like do I even want this on my hands?
1) Met a really bad 23 year old out on Sunday, got slightly physical, exchanged numbers, and she started texting me right away. I could have stayed with her and her friend, but 23 year olds day drinking, I was like I need to get out of here. So many weird things can happen in those chaotic scenarios. That night she keeps texting me, I'd love to see you again, I want to go out. Hit her up the next day, casually, and she never got back. Partially I wonder how drunk she got and what she remembers. Not even sure whether to leave it or not, but she was really really bad. Had to be half black, like 36D natural, something like that, she was a college senior. Then I'm like what am I even doing? These girls are in college. I'm 40. They get fukked up, act a fool, and do it again. There was something there though.
2) Hit up a woman my age, who ghosted me awhile back, I ran into her again, like some 2000's thriller movie scene, her in a bikini on a rooftop pool. She is like pornstar bad, with an expensive lifestyle that someone pays for. I'm trying to line up a date for somewhere, and thinking I'll try the longest shot first. This illustrates the unpredictably of being single in this time frame; because she hit me back in 10 minutes, with a simple I've love to go. No wait, no rambling text, or a thank you, I'll let you know, she was down. There's a lot of room between this Friday and next, and now, I am partially like do I even want this on my hands?
Sheeeett the universe gave you foie gras and you said no.
And no you don’t want the pornstar.
I was at the gym yesterday.
There is a trainer there who clearly ain't shyt. He's the only trainer I see who never writes down notes for his clients; high yellow, covered in tattoos, tall, upper body way more developed than his lower body.
He always gets the relatively attractive women to train. I know he be slutting it up. Lol
Anyway, there is a young women there who has a nice shape. It's obvious she doesn't work out like that but her body still looks good. She has a camera and is trying to film gym content.
Dude is wrapping her up. I mean like 30 minutes he is running his mouth.
After all that she finally decides to try to do some pull ups and fails miserably and almost breaks her neck. Do you think this nikka spotted her, or even tried to save her from falling? Nah he chuckled. shyt there is a machine right there that's specifically used to help with pull ups. Never pointed her that way.
I hope she did not give this dude her number. When people say there aren't signs someone isn't shyt, they're wrong. There are always signs.
There is a trainer there who clearly ain't shyt. He's the only trainer I see who never writes down notes for his clients; high yellow, covered in tattoos, tall, upper body way more developed than his lower body.
He always gets the relatively attractive women to train. I know he be slutting it up. Lol
Anyway, there is a young women there who has a nice shape. It's obvious she doesn't work out like that but her body still looks good. She has a camera and is trying to film gym content.
Dude is wrapping her up. I mean like 30 minutes he is running his mouth.
After all that she finally decides to try to do some pull ups and fails miserably and almost breaks her neck. Do you think this nikka spotted her, or even tried to save her from falling? Nah he chuckled. shyt there is a machine right there that's specifically used to help with pull ups. Never pointed her that way.
I hope she did not give this dude her number. When people say there aren't signs someone isn't shyt, they're wrong. There are always signs.
23 year old college senior tell you she ain't taking the books serious.
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@Ahadi
I feel you
If it was at least night time I would have been down. Like 7:00 or 8:00. This was daylight. You walk into a bar with a bad ass girl, and sit down with another, like a wild college football bar, and things just spiral. I thought about it, walk in, by them a drink, stay like 20 minutes. Maybe go back outside to kiss more. Trying to stick around until you two can be really alone? That's a low probability and chaotic few hours.
The first thing is the OTHER guys that will come up, and then you are sitting with some other idiot. Drunk women are so chaotic. The second thing is the friend wants to go somewhere else, or has a meltdown, and you are now following the cues and drama of 23 year old drunk women. You can TRY to control or lead the situation, I know that's what my boys would do. They would try to steer things to their spots, or some bar they were comfortable. But, you are still in that role of having to ENTERTAIN, rather than connect.
I feel that. That environment can shift fast.
I’ve found that being present and trusting the moment beats trying to manage every variable. Sometimes it’s cool to just see what happens.
Breh a guy I worked with YEARS ago hits my DM. We never had any type of romantic relationship, energy, nothing. He's ugly imo. I don't do ugly.
He asked to take me to dinner. I tell him maybe lunch when the weather is better. This nikka gets mad and says he's only available for dinner now.
Instant block. Didn't even reply to that goofy shyt. I was just trying to be polite with the lunch future forecast. I wouldn't dare be seen with him in public. Lol
He asked to take me to dinner. I tell him maybe lunch when the weather is better. This nikka gets mad and says he's only available for dinner now.
Instant block. Didn't even reply to that goofy shyt. I was just trying to be polite with the lunch future forecast. I wouldn't dare be seen with him in public. Lol
man if yall dont get this bytch outta this thread
Smh people are so scared to move forward. People are literally crippled by their own inaction. I can see why so many people are lonely. I am truly in shock that adults function like that. Is a "no" truly the end of the world? Lol
It's not just 1 or 2. It's so many people. The vast majority. You could literally keep a handful of people in limbo for months or years because they're scared of rejection.
Now I see why it's easy for players to get over. It's not that they have game frfr. It that people are too scared of the process so they just hover and hope for the best.
People really do miss out on good connections for no particular reason becauseof their own insecurities. It's sad.
It's not just 1 or 2. It's so many people. The vast majority. You could literally keep a handful of people in limbo for months or years because they're scared of rejection.
Now I see why it's easy for players to get over. It's not that they have game frfr. It that people are too scared of the process so they just hover and hope for the best.
People really do miss out on good connections for no particular reason becauseof their own insecurities. It's sad.
Ive put that before
Honestly its just as it reads
Youd like a long term relationship but understand that you may be attracted to ppl who arent viable for long term relationships. So in the meantime you are down to fukk girls whilst also looking for a long term relationship
Women prolly feel the same way. Theyre down for a fling but would prefer to lock in if they find the right man
Breh a guy I worked with YEARS ago hits my DM. We never had any type of romantic relationship, energy, nothing. He's ugly imo. I don't do ugly.
He asked to take me to dinner. I tell him maybe lunch when the weather is better. This nikka gets mad and says he's only available for dinner now.
Instant block. Didn't even reply to that goofy shyt. I was just trying to be polite with the lunch future forecast. I wouldn't dare be seen with him in public. Lol