Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Big Yella
That nikka lives rent free in her head.
General Mills
More often than not I tend to take that L.
Lol she still wants him
Translation? ROSALÍA recounts her worst experience with one of her ex-boyfriends. (She is supposedly talking about an ex who is only 1.73 meters tall.)
“I had a boyfriend who was kind of ‘Morse code,’ you know? Emotional Morse code. I remember we were together for a few years — I can’t even say exactly how many — but we ended up breaking up.
Then the typical thing happened: a relapse, a week after the breakup. We had a relapse, started seeing each other again, and got back together.
At a certain point, out of nowhere, he drops a line on me. He turns to me and says:
‘How I missed my whore.’
When he said that, I went completely cold. I was in shock, paralyzed. Like a frozen strawberry ice cream, you know? I went flat, with no reaction at all. Horrible. Dead inside, lost. I couldn’t even respond. I was very, very shocked.
So that’s how I reacted: in that moment, I didn’t expect it at all and I just stayed there, without reacting. When I finally managed to react, I stood up, left, and never went back. Obviously. Goodbye.
That was very heavy for me. I was never able to forgive that. I think nowadays, maybe, I’m starting to get to a point where I could forgive it
Two pieces that I wanted to share, they highlight dynamics that I think about and post about a lot. The lack of romance. The fundamental changes to how people approach each other. If they are running this in the WSJ, it means it's way beyond an online trend, it's apart of mainstream culture.
If your grandma discovered grandpa voted differently, it was after knowing he was kind, reliable and funny. Today, we eliminate people pre-emptively based on ideology. The result: Dating has become nearly impossible, and social life is segregated by sex. Many Generation Z dating-app users filter by political views before any interaction. Women seek partners who won’t expect them to choose between career and family. Men filter out what they perceive as contempt for struggling economically. The math is brutal.
Political filtering eliminates swaths of potential partners based on assumptions we can’t test. The infrastructure that let previous generations test compatibility through behavior is gone. Independent bookstores are down roughly 30% since 2000, only 30% of young adults attend church monthly, and other affordable spaces to meet people have declined in popularity as dating apps rose. Without repeated low-stakes exposure, we can’t distinguish real incompatibility from bad first impressions.
We now meet through curated profiles, rarely observing character over time. Meanwhile, social infrastructure splits by sex. Campus finance clubs skew heavily male. Service organizations skew heavily female. Different spaces produce different algorithms, perceived realities and value frameworks. We’re not developing the capacity to disagree with people we like because we never interact long enough with people we might disagree with. The gap isn’t just making dating harder—it’s eliminating relationships that would prove our filters wrong.
If your grandma discovered grandpa voted differently, it was after knowing he was kind, reliable and funny. Today, we eliminate people pre-emptively based on ideology. The result: Dating has become nearly impossible, and social life is segregated by sex. Many Generation Z dating-app users filter by political views before any interaction. Women seek partners who won’t expect them to choose between career and family. Men filter out what they perceive as contempt for struggling economically. The math is brutal.
Political filtering eliminates swaths of potential partners based on assumptions we can’t test. The infrastructure that let previous generations test compatibility through behavior is gone. Independent bookstores are down roughly 30% since 2000, only 30% of young adults attend church monthly, and other affordable spaces to meet people have declined in popularity as dating apps rose. Without repeated low-stakes exposure, we can’t distinguish real incompatibility from bad first impressions.
We now meet through curated profiles, rarely observing character over time. Meanwhile, social infrastructure splits by sex. Campus finance clubs skew heavily male. Service organizations skew heavily female. Different spaces produce different algorithms, perceived realities and value frameworks. We’re not developing the capacity to disagree with people we like because we never interact long enough with people we might disagree with. The gap isn’t just making dating harder—it’s eliminating relationships that would prove our filters wrong.