Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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All of that is a lot breh. Just have fun and enjoy life that's all we can do. It is what it is. I think a lot of problems just come because we want to control to much and have these societal pressures and expectations on ourselves. We gotta just live breh lol.
Realize nothing and nobody is perfect. To me this thread is just a stop gap to sometimes vent and sometimes laugh about dating and the craziness. Everybody is dealing with it. But from reading what you said if you're serious about finding someone to be with long term monogamously and your odds are 3 out of 50 that's still pretty good considering you ONLY need to get it right once. I really don't think we need to make finding a mate into the calculus it is made into in this thread at times. That is actually partially the reason things are the way they are now imo

Both takes can coexist. You shouldn’t have to overanalyze dating to the point it consumes your entire life, but it’s still interesting to discuss different patterns, the psychology, funny stories, and experiences. The thread is at its best when it’s informative + entertaining, not just doomposting or trying to turn relationships into math equations.
 
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And I gotta apologize to some of y'all.

She is tore up from the floor up.
  • Bad hair
  • Horrible accessories
  • A face only a mother could love, made worse by bad makeup
  • Horrible body
  • Grating personality
  • Obnoxious behavior through and through

And then to hear her requirements. My blood is low key boiling. How can so little demand so much?

But..

Y'all was saying there's a lid for every toilet
A fly for every pile of sugar honey ice tea

And I said y'all was wrong

And here I stand corrected.

Apologies to those I have doubted.
 

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And I gotta apologize to some of y'all.

She is tore up from the floor up.
  • Bad hair
  • Horrible accessories
  • A face only a mother could love, made worse by bad makeup
  • Horrible body
  • Grating personality
  • Obnoxious behavior through and through

And then to hear her requirements. My blood is low key boiling. How can so little demand so much?

But..

Y'all was saying there's a lid for every toilet
A fly for every pile of sugar honey ice tea

And I said y'all was wrong

And here I stand corrected.

Apologies to those I have doubted.
There’s someone for everyone breh :mjcry:
 

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All of that is a lot breh. Just have fun and enjoy life that's all we can do. It is what it is. I think a lot of problems just come because we want to control to much and have these societal pressures and expectations on ourselves. We gotta just live breh lol.
Realize nothing and nobody is perfect. To me this thread is just a stop gap to sometimes vent and sometimes laugh about dating and the craziness. Everybody is dealing with it. But from reading what you said if you're serious about finding someone to be with long term monogamously and your odds are 3 out of 50 that's still pretty good considering you ONLY need to get it right once. I really don't think we need to make finding a mate into the calculus it is made into in this thread at times. That is actually partially the reason things are the way they are now imo
i dont think its a lot at all.

hope i dont sound high and mighty a lot of the messages in here are negative. why continue a cycle of negativity? somethings got to give unless dudes are just leaving out the good stories. What I'm saying is let's at least balance the thread out and start talking about success stories as @The ADD used to put it. Talk about some dope chicks yall met, some sexy hoes yall fukked, pleasant dates yall had, gestures women have done for yall.

we out here posting delusional dating profiles. I get it. women are delusional and stupid nowadays lol. but i thought we figured that out years ago.
 

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believe it or not...nikkas in here is like a weird family lol.

In the last 5-15 years depending on when ppl joined many of us have gone from being teenagers or young adults into full fledged adults. We got dudes with wives, children, etc. We done changed jobs, shared life changing experiences/secrets with each other, fell out with friends, moved to new cities, travelled the world and all kinds of shyt, but one thing that has remained is that we are on the coli.

I even had the pleasure of meeting some dudes in person during my trips to Kenya and Ethiopia. I know it sounds corny but its facts. shyt more personal than one might realize so i genuinely want the best for the dudes in here and in certain other forums.
 
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And one final thing. I get that brehs in here dont really take dating apps or social media...i get it. But that doesnt mean it cant still affect your real world experiences due to the impact it has on your subconscious. I have said it for years, get off those platforms unless theyre actually working to your benefit. If you cant get off, then heavily curate/guard rail them so you arent being fed a bunch of red pill, 'cityboys', quasi-therapeutic, nihilistc, feminist, misandrist, misogynistic, gender war, IG thot, thot rapper content and shyt.

I do my best to do that on youtube. And the few times i'm on IG its really only for fashion, food and sports news.
 

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she said "a guy's girl" yikes. She shoulda at least did a retake and said girl's guy before posting that.

a month too early tbf. i'm interested to know if he hit yet. until he hit, it means nothing. hopefully it works out though
Also the "he is not on social media" cause she knows her own content is a huge red flag in itself.

And @Ohene while I understand your stance on social media it does serve to do some background digging on these women (even if surface level). I also use IG instead of dating apps so it serves multiple purposes for me personally.
 

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i dont think its a lot at all.

hope i dont sound high and mighty a lot of the messages in here are negative. why continue a cycle of negativity? somethings got to give unless dudes are just leaving out the good stories. What I'm saying is let's at least balance the thread out and start talking about success stories as @The ADD used to put it. Talk about some dope chicks yall met, some sexy hoes yall fukked, pleasant dates yall had, gestures women have done for yall.

we out here posting delusional dating profiles. I get it. women are delusional and stupid nowadays lol. but i thought we figured that out years ago.
Ah gotcha. I'm bout to build out a roster rn. I got an LDR bout an hour 20 mins away only have time to see on weekends. Had a talk bout how this ain't a long term thing for me and I'm still figuring things out and looking for freedom. Long story short she wanna keep seeing me but I can smash other women if I need some cat during the week or on weeks where we can't see each other. She's cool with me having side pieces as long as she stays my main. We'll see how it goes.

My girl got me a plant for my office. Gonna hit up a museum this weekend with her.

Supposed to get dessert with this new chick today I'm leaning towards not canceling but I am a bit tired cuz I had to work late last night but if by 3 or 4 o clock I'm exhausted imma just cancel.

Some lady at the gym keeps tryna get my attention but I know she got a man cuz I seen her leave with him a few times. But whenever he not around she be tryna choose so I kinda just ignore it now. She a fine lil milf tho.

I'm living in abundance rn. Cant complain and I'm grateful. I spent time just grinding after my previous relationship. I've talked about it in this thread before. Not ready to settle down yet still wanna explore freely. Following my own timeline. Nice thing about being a man is we can start a family at any age so I plan to utilize that privilege. I know some of yall are ready rn but I'm not and if I never am that's OK. Doesn't stop the shawties from wanting to settle down with me tho. That's the tough part. Those conversations and trying not to make anyone feel led on you know?
 

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Ah gotcha. I'm bout to build out a roster rn. I got an LDR bout an hour 20 mins away only have time to see on weekends. Had a talk bout how this ain't a long term thing for me and I'm still figuring things out and looking for freedom. Long story short she wanna keep seeing me but I can smash other women if I need some cat during the week or on weeks where we can't see each other. She's cool with me having side pieces as long as she stays my main. We'll see how it goes.

My girl got me a plant for my office. Gonna hit up a museum this weekend with her.

Supposed to get dessert with this new chick today I'm leaning towards not canceling but I am a bit tired cuz I had to work late last night but if by 3 or 4 o clock I'm exhausted imma just cancel.

Some lady at the gym keeps tryna get my attention but I know she got a man cuz I seen her leave with him a few times. But whenever he not around she be tryna choose so I kinda just ignore it now. She a fine lil milf tho.

I'm living in abundance rn. Cant complain and I'm grateful. I spent time just grinding after my previous relationship. I've talked about it in this thread before. Not ready to settle down yet still wanna explore freely. Following my own timeline. Nice thing about being a man is we can start a family at any age so I plan to utilize that privilege. I know some of yall are ready rn but I'm not and if I never am that's OK. Doesn't stop the shawties from wanting to settle down with me tho. That's the tough part. Those conversations and trying not to make anyone feel led on you know?
good shyt

the shorty tryna get your attn, how does she act?

and yea those convos are never easy cause women be so binary with it. it's hoes i'd be cool being friends with but as soon as shyt dont go their way they show their true colors and ghost or shyt on you. its all good though... i can respect them not wanting to be kept as satellites on a back burner.

best thing is to keep it real regardless. helps you keep your sanity and integrity stays in tact
 

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good shyt

the shorty tryna get your attn, how does she act?

and yea those convos are never easy cause women be so binary with it. it's hoes i'd be cool being friends with but as soon as shyt dont go their way they show their true colors and ghost or shyt on you. its all good though... i can respect them not wanting to be kept as satellites on a back burner.

best thing is to keep it real regardless. helps you keep your sanity and integrity stays in tact
shyt breh they be hard especially when you care about the person. We built a very solid bond these past 8 months. Held each other done. Still are. We got love for each other. I'm not one of them dudes that keeps it jaded and closes his heart off. I let myself feel shyt. I also know it aint forever there's temporary alignment and that's OK. We fill each other's cup. It's a case of right person, wrong time.

As for the gym lady it's the usual. Smiling at me, staring across the gym, making eye contact with me every time she's in my vicinity. Tryna workout in front of me. She's pretty confident. Fasho older but she's still pretty hot.
 
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