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Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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That ether even made me
I went through something similar back in high school
I didn't know any better
Yo seriously so much knowledge in this thread. Thank you dudes so much for posting some of this shyt. My pops was a simp ass nikka, after he and my mom were divorced he married some young chick, showered her with presents, provided her with everything, and then eventually got her knocked up. The chick left him for whatever reasons after they had the kid, took the BMW, the big screen TVs, etc., and was probably fukking some other dude while they were still legally married. This dude met some chick in Chicago and started doing the same shyt, I heard him talking to her about buying her a thousand dollar bag and some shoes and some other shyt. I don't talk him for other reasons right now, but last I heard he was getting back together with the chick who took half of everything from him and made his life a living hell.
Of course my dad never taught me any lessons about women. All through my teenage years (ages 15-20) I was a simp ass nikka just like him...and would rarely get any girls. I always wondered why? I'm a good looking dude, why can't I get these women to stay interested in me? My mentality was fukked up, I would metaphorically castrate myself to please women, because that's what I was sold as what works. I had to go through getting thrown through the mud and getting treated like trash during this time period in my life and learn the truth about how the game really works the hard way, and realize the things I learned as a teenager had been a lie.
This all came to a pinnacle with this girl I met my freshman year of college when I was 19. She was a beautiful mixed chick, well-spoken, not the brightest but she knew how to act in public and present herself in a professional/respectable manner. I was so nice to her, she would even comment on it, I'd bend over backwards to make her happy, and I thought as a result of being nice she'd want me and like me as a potential bf. We basically start talking and things heat up after a few weeks and I hook up with her. After hooking up with her, the girl of my dreams who I borderline thought I loved, she left the next morning and was like "please, don't like me in the future." I was crushed. She told me I was nice, that I was handsome and cute, that I was good dude, that she wished more guys were like me, what did I do wrong? If I'm doing all of this, why don't you want to be with me for real instead of just using me to comfort your loneliness?
I'm 22 and happy she did this to me though, now in retrospect, because it made me so much stronger of a man. A millions times stronger of a man than my father is. I don't worship women, I don't pander to them, I get a decent amount of attention from chicks (pops did give me those handsome genetics, can't hate him for that haha) and ask myself "what value are you bringing into my life? Why should I make you a priority?" Having a vagina and offering me sex isn't enough to make me want to involve you in my life and have influence on my decisions. I find women are more attracted to me now, they want me to be their mate and they'll put themselves out there and initiate things now that I'm not simping and am focusing on building a better future for myself as a man. Reading through these posts just validates that experience I went through, I just wish I had a male figure break all of this down for me when I was 14. Thanks for being a positive and solid resource for how the game is actually played, this could save another dude from going through a tough, confusing period like I did.
Of course my dad never taught me any lessons about women. All through my teenage years (ages 15-20) I was a simp ass nikka just like him...and would rarely get any girls. I always wondered why? I'm a good looking dude, why can't I get these women to stay interested in me? My mentality was fukked up, I would metaphorically castrate myself to please women, because that's what I was sold as what works. I had to go through getting thrown through the mud and getting treated like trash during this time period in my life and learn the truth about how the game really works the hard way, and realize the things I learned as a teenager had been a lie.
This all came to a pinnacle with this girl I met my freshman year of college when I was 19. She was a beautiful mixed chick, well-spoken, not the brightest but she knew how to act in public and present herself in a professional/respectable manner. I was so nice to her, she would even comment on it, I'd bend over backwards to make her happy, and I thought as a result of being nice she'd want me and like me as a potential bf. We basically start talking and things heat up after a few weeks and I hook up with her. After hooking up with her, the girl of my dreams who I borderline thought I loved, she left the next morning and was like "please, don't like me in the future." I was crushed. She told me I was nice, that I was handsome and cute, that I was good dude, that she wished more guys were like me, what did I do wrong? If I'm doing all of this, why don't you want to be with me for real instead of just using me to comfort your loneliness?
I'm 22 and happy she did this to me though, now in retrospect, because it made me so much stronger of a man. A millions times stronger of a man than my father is. I don't worship women, I don't pander to them, I get a decent amount of attention from chicks (pops did give me those handsome genetics, can't hate him for that haha) and ask myself "what value are you bringing into my life? Why should I make you a priority?" Having a vagina and offering me sex isn't enough to make me want to involve you in my life and have influence on my decisions. I find women are more attracted to me now, they want me to be their mate and they'll put themselves out there and initiate things now that I'm not simping and am focusing on building a better future for myself as a man. Reading through these posts just validates that experience I went through, I just wish I had a male figure break all of this down for me when I was 14. Thanks for being a positive and solid resource for how the game is actually played, this could save another dude from going through a tough, confusing period like I did.
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Yeah, same with me...I didn't have any type of male role model WHATSOEVER....So I know being drug through the mud all too well....i love my pops but cotdamn i feel this shyt and it's some real ass shyt.
It's like what I heard Steve Harvey once say on his morning radio show "Being a boy without a male role model is like having a map of the world with no compass or navigational tools, and being expected to find your way"...
I had no father figure either...
I HAD TO LEARN THE HARD WAY TOO...
I SIMPED AND SURVIVED..
NOT EVERYONE IS SO FORTUNATE
I HAD TO LEARN THE HARD WAY TOO...
I SIMPED AND SURVIVED..
NOT EVERYONE IS SO FORTUNATE
Detroit Wave
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my father was involved in my life growing up and that nikka never schooled me to all this shyt ive learned in this thread. 
My pops was fukking so many women he cheated on my mom and my step mom nikka was a whore.................
When i fukking needed him the most 14-19 nikka was gone. What can i say i really don't hate him but wish he was around to help me become a man and tell me how he fukks so many women.................
When i fukking needed him the most 14-19 nikka was gone. What can i say i really don't hate him but wish he was around to help me become a man and tell me how he fukks so many women.................
92Inc
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my ex girlfriends boyfriend told me to stop talking , to his girl. I told him it's not my fault she text me
he should have checked his girl on that, but on the other hand, it'd be in your best interests not to text that broad back. Not because he's 'punking you', but why reward a traitorous type broad with attention? This is the perfect set-up for a situation where the boyfriend gets mad and one of ya'll end up sleeping and one of ya'll in prison... and she's going to end up forgetting both of ya'll and sleeping with another man.
Simps and suckas chase after sex and attention. Real men don't chase period. Simps and suckas elevate sexuality. Real men elevate BEHAVIOR, CHARACTER and MENTALITY. What is a trick? Someone who holds sex in such high regard, he goes and pay women to have it. A lot of these tricks are even so sick, they want the woman to beat on them and do sick things to them. A simp is so thirsty for attention, he will pay for it in the form of dinners, vacations, etc.
A real man realizes that if you have to add any additives and preservatives in the mix, then that's not for you. If she doesn't like you for your personality, but all of a sudden you take her to dinner or you promise a vacation and she's willing to mess with you, what does she really like? The BENEFITS you give her. As soon as you stop providing that, she's out the door, and all in the meanwhile, she's really giving her best to a dude she actually likes. If a woman wants to charge you dinners or all of that to deal with her, she doesn't like you or she's a gold digger... both of what you want to avoid.
The key is to learn how to stay in your lane. It's real easy to see a fine woman and as a a man, if our normal personality isn't working, we might want to add some extras in to the mix and change our personality or come with the dinners and flowers and other sucka behavior. This is why you have to be PRINCIPLED as a man, which is what I mean by being a man of principle. You might get an immediate benefit by changing your personality and selling yourself out and giving her gifts and all of that to impress her, but in the long-run you will be losing because you weren't being real. You also mentally gave into and confirmed the notion that you are low value and you need to compensate for your low value by giving out materials and a more 'pleasing' personality in tow. What you really should do is keep it pushing.
Stop trying to handcuff fineness. If a woman doesn't like you for who you are, keep it pushing. That takes DISCIPLINE. The main way a brotha gets into a trick mentality is he sees a woman that is fine and he starts saying, "I NEED to have her." She then becomes his dope habit and he does anything to have her. How you really got to react is, "She's pretty, but that's about it. It matters how she acts. That's what will really impress me. Pretty doesn't last forever." The key to this thing is to never put yourself in situations where you have to offer anything other than yourself and who you are in order to deal with a woman. If she requires some form of compensation, you are low worth to her, and only if you are low self-esteem and will accept that assessment will you give in.
A real man realizes that if you have to add any additives and preservatives in the mix, then that's not for you. If she doesn't like you for your personality, but all of a sudden you take her to dinner or you promise a vacation and she's willing to mess with you, what does she really like? The BENEFITS you give her. As soon as you stop providing that, she's out the door, and all in the meanwhile, she's really giving her best to a dude she actually likes. If a woman wants to charge you dinners or all of that to deal with her, she doesn't like you or she's a gold digger... both of what you want to avoid.
The key is to learn how to stay in your lane. It's real easy to see a fine woman and as a a man, if our normal personality isn't working, we might want to add some extras in to the mix and change our personality or come with the dinners and flowers and other sucka behavior. This is why you have to be PRINCIPLED as a man, which is what I mean by being a man of principle. You might get an immediate benefit by changing your personality and selling yourself out and giving her gifts and all of that to impress her, but in the long-run you will be losing because you weren't being real. You also mentally gave into and confirmed the notion that you are low value and you need to compensate for your low value by giving out materials and a more 'pleasing' personality in tow. What you really should do is keep it pushing.
Stop trying to handcuff fineness. If a woman doesn't like you for who you are, keep it pushing. That takes DISCIPLINE. The main way a brotha gets into a trick mentality is he sees a woman that is fine and he starts saying, "I NEED to have her." She then becomes his dope habit and he does anything to have her. How you really got to react is, "She's pretty, but that's about it. It matters how she acts. That's what will really impress me. Pretty doesn't last forever." The key to this thing is to never put yourself in situations where you have to offer anything other than yourself and who you are in order to deal with a woman. If she requires some form of compensation, you are low worth to her, and only if you are low self-esteem and will accept that assessment will you give in.
you still want her? i mean what's the point engaging her if she with someone else.
and the fact that the bf knows only limits the chance that you're going to get anything real from her.
the likely scenario is dude approaches you and you jeopardize your health and/or freedom over a chick who you not with and who isn't even loyal to her current man. leave your ego out of it breh, talking to your ex while she has a bf sounds kinda playa on the surface but it doesn't benefit you at all.
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ite brehs heres the low down total confusion this valentines season.
to cut a long strory i been supposedly seeing this chick for the past couple months shes doing the usual bs saying how she loves me and wants to spend her life with me after knowing me since december(
).
we met up yesterday and went to the movies as she had work today to my suprise the bytch hands me a lil bag full of gifts (cologne,v day card.and heart shaped box of chocolate).
so i go on her facebook (she doesnt know that i know it) and i see a status from a couple days ago which says "single on valentines and i dont give a damn"
and another today saying her mom is her valentines you know the usual corny bs
wat the fuk does this mean brehs???im actually catching feeling for this broad but shes acting single on facebook shes religious and works goes to college my type looks wise
and to top it off she texts me while im on my way home yesterday saying shes mad that i didnt kiss her and say happy v day but bytch you talking bout your single on facebook
to cut a long strory i been supposedly seeing this chick for the past couple months shes doing the usual bs saying how she loves me and wants to spend her life with me after knowing me since december(
).we met up yesterday and went to the movies as she had work today to my suprise the bytch hands me a lil bag full of gifts (cologne,v day card.and heart shaped box of chocolate).
so i go on her facebook (she doesnt know that i know it) and i see a status from a couple days ago which says "single on valentines and i dont give a damn"
and another today saying her mom is her valentines you know the usual corny bs
wat the fuk does this mean brehs???im actually catching feeling for this broad but shes acting single on facebook shes religious and works goes to college my type looks wise
and to top it off she texts me while im on my way home yesterday saying shes mad that i didnt kiss her and say happy v day but bytch you talking bout your single on facebook