Never looked at this thread till now. Lotta gems I wanna quote but I don't know where the original posts are to find them.
I've been in a nearly 5 year relationship. Between student loans and credit card usage used to furnish the apartment we live in I've amassed a considerable amount of debt. Nothing ridiculous, but enough to stay on a treadmill, financially.
Recently I was promoted to a better paying position and have found myself focused on note only paying off my debt but investing in myself to go back to school for my MBA as well as Certification to improve my career opportunities. To do so, however, I wouldn't be able to continue my current living arrangement and in all honesty, my relationship would be greatly strained.
I decided to move back in with my parents to be able to do all of the above - pay off debt and pay for school out of pocket. I made my girl aware of my plans and that in the interim that I feel we should go on a break so I can focus on me.
Admittedly it's a selfish decision but its being done to ultimately be in a better place financially and to hopefully make things better for us. She doesn't see it like that at all and doesn't understand why my endeavors have to impact our relationship in anyway. Additionally, to make it worse, she's been unemployed for the better part of the last year, her finances are starting to run out, or lease is up soon and her only realistic options are to move in with her grandmother whom she hates or move to FL with her parents which will in turn fukk up her ability to continue going to school.
Needless to say this hasn't gone well since I told her my intentions and again, I know it's a bad situation but given that this thread has been fairly troll free from what I've read so far I'm curious for perspective.
I don't usually talk about myself like that on here but I'm going through it right now. Male and female perspective appreciated