Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Shameonyou
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I have an uncontrollable lust for this chick......how do I smash? shes in a relationship....idk what it is about her brehs....her body literally makes me weak.....and it aint all that.....dont yall have that one person whos just regular..but for some odd reason u want to viciously bang her? im goin crazy she was wearing the craziest dress today....
TheArchitect
All Star
Indeed...I know a few that'll get it like that....
Besides the obvious get money/workout what's the quickest way to bounce back?
Rocket Scientist
Superstar
Again I know im not the only one to notice how women are taking their pictures these days and how alot of them married,single are calling themselves "divas"
it's good to know I was already doing some of this stuff naturally in terms of what you'll tolerate from femalesI remember back in high school me and this girl was good friends she was the ugly duckling back in elementary and middle school but I saw the potential and was always cool with her
never capitalized on that but that's another story
anyways she blossomed in high school but she had a soft spot for me and I remember she started treating me like a gay best friend telling me about guys she feelin and her experiences with them
I told her straight up if you not planning on doing none of that stuff with me then why are we talking about it?
I say that to say this: you'd be surprised how many dudes I've seen fall prey to becoming a woman's counselor without letting her know what his intentions are and just falling into a limbo in his relationship with her. this has only happened to me once and It's never happened since. If a girl ain't feeling you but keeps you around as a friend cut her off or go into the friendship expecting NOTHING but that.
I would not even look at that way. Do what you need to be doing for your life in general to make it better. If you feel like you are doing things to get over her it's fueled by that and not by self improvement. You are bouncing back sir your are still moving forward.
Female I was on for 6 months with, off for a month and WAS back on for 4 months. Found text messages on her phone which confirmed a suspicion I had she was cheating on me. I feel like I had it coming in the sense that I excused bad behavior and let shyt slide for a while because she was a chill person to be around and honestly is gorgeous. Does that make me a simp? Maybe i'm still, evaluating everything right now. It stings and i'm literally in the 1st stage of deleting #, instagram Facebook etc. Don't think the actual act hurts as much as the deceit. She literally chose a dead end lame over a good looking, first class dude in myself
I MF'd this broad all the way up and down the block and she apologized for it and said she sees me as the greatest thing that happened to her. I'm gonna be single for a while, focus on myself more and play the field but that about it
been there, the best thing you can do is cease all contact, never talk to her again.
It sucks and it hurts but its life, and yeah usually the dude is just a lame, but it doesnt matter women go off emotions not logic.
Count your blessings , because imagine if you were married to her or had a child with her, there are tons and tons of men in this position who find out thier wife is cheating on them .
at least we can make easy exits
the block feature on the iPhone is so great. Eliminates the temptation to respond to a chick who you no longer want to deal with. Brehs know what I mean, when the ex hit you out of no where with that "I was thinking about you..."
i wrote this awhile back
1. Say Nothing or be very concise.
A) If a chick dumps you through text message say nothing.B) If it's over the phone just say ok and I gotta go. c) if its face to face stay calm and slowly make your exit.
Why? Keep your emotions in check, the less you say the less of anything you say or do that you will regret later will happen.
Keeping your dignity is one of the biggest and best things you can do. Years later I still kick myself over writing a letter and sending it to a girl I was dating who dumped me. It will also make her ponder why isn't he crying, screaming, begging, getting angry, asking why etc.
2. Don't contact her ever again.
Everyone knows of the no contact rule and trust me it works, by not contacting her, fishing on facebook, twitter, instagram etc. for info. She will slowly but surely get smaller and smaller in your mind. I've been there a ex on my mind it seems 24/7, first thing when I wake up in the morning and the last thing at night. But by instilling No Contact she slowly started to disappear as every day went on.
3.Don't be friends with the ex
Exes only want to be friends to relieve their guilt, keep you as a backup in case the new dude doesn't work out and/or string you along to mess with your emotions. I was friends with an ex once and it set me back like almost 5 years of my life because emotions I thought were dead kept reappearing, just dead it cut the cord go your separate ways.
4. Go hardcore and disappear
I'm the type of person if the relationship was somewhat substantial to change my number so my heart ain't racing every time I get a text, or a phone call. To change my email, disable any social networking until I'm healed. From my personal experience this is the quickest and best way, there is zero chance if you take these steps of her contacting you which kills all the disgusting disease known as hope. I remember after a breakup I would constantly check my phone I did not want my ex to contact to me but a tiny part I guess would not have minded the ego boost if she cracked and text me or called. When I finally changed my number the release I felt was overwhelming. As for social networking, I remember I changed my number but a ex hit me up through facebook writing me a message begging for another chance.
5.Remove any pictures
Yep remove all pictures of you two you may have hanging around, nothing is worse than seeing a picture of you and your ex smiling by your bedside etc. Again if you can go hardcore, throw all those pictures in the trash, cut the cord now. This goes as well for deleting all pictures of your ex on your computer, yes even the nudes ones and any sex videos you made, now you can always put them on a usb and store it if you must, but why look at the past?
6. Let your emotions out.
As men we keep stuff inside, but trust me nothing is better than just venting whether it's writing on a piece of paper how you feel, talking to someone who has your back, even going to therapy. Let all that hate, angry, sadness, pain out. Make sure not to her though, NEVER LET YOUR EX KNOW YOUR EMOTIONS.
7. Travel
Travelling saved me when I was at my lowest point, sulking locked up in my room. A week away did wonders, being surrounded by beautiful women by the beach without any worries in the world opens your eyes and realize you'll be OK. That it's a big world out there with billions of women and the release you feel from just relaxing enjoying life is great.
8. Realize your ex isn't all that
As a man who has dated models, and beautiful women of different ethnicities sometimes the "damn will I ever get another broad that beautiful again " thoughts hit. Realize you did it once and you can do it again, hell there are hundreds of millions of women out there who look better than your ex if all you care about is looks, and there are tons of other women out there who will be much more compatible, so don't stress it at all. I remember after I broke up with my ex fiance I was like damn, she was so beautiful, she never wore makeup, barely dressed up but wherever she would go jaws would just drop would I ever get that again. I mean I wasn't even thinking of how much of a leech, conniving, horrible person my ex was to me just that she was the most beautiful girl in the world (in my eyes), and I'll never be that "lucky again". It's amazing how your ex could be straight horrible, offering nothing, in your mind you wished many times you could just go your separate ways. But once you are broken up your mind plays tricks on you and suddenly she is a 10/10. Realize your ex ain't that special, your mind is a powerful tool that is playing tricks on you.
9. Hit up relationship forums and read stories worse than yours!!
Wow you sick b*stard!!, Yup, you think you got it bad because your ex dumped you, or you found out your ex cheated, or you dumped her and your struggling why did I do that? Just hit up any relationship forum and read stories of 20 year marriages broken up, or 7 year relationships ended. Realize hey there are others going through this, my situation is not that special, I will get over this. And at least I wasn't married with 2 kids and now paying alimony and child support.
10. Learn from your Mistakes
Learning from your mistakes is key, maybe you didn't follow your gut. I remember in two relationships in my life, I had this feeling and ran into red flags early on when I should have walked away, but the sex was good, they were hot , I didn't want to hurt their feelings so I said screwed it, fell for them and then ended up getting burnt in the end.This taught me in future relationships when I see red flags, or get a feeling to start my engine and get out of there. Remember in all your past relationships the common denominator is YOU!!!
Summing it up BREHS!!!
It's up to you, how long you want to live and battle with the pain. Sad thing is most exes only want you back when you finally reach the point of no longer caring or wanting them back. I say
Brehs know what I mean, when the ex hit you out of no where with that "I was thinking about you..."
aka i just got dumped
aka he hit me
aka he just used me for sex, let me hit up the one guy who actually liked me for me
I remember back in high school me and this girl was good friends she was the ugly duckling back in elementary and middle school but I saw the potential and was always cool with her
anyways she blossomed in high school but she had a soft spot for me and I remember she started treating me like a gay best friend telling me about guys she feelin and her experiences with them
I told her straight up if you not planning on doing none of that stuff with me then why are we talking about it?
I say that to say this: you'd be surprised how many dudes I've seen fall prey to becoming a woman's counselor without letting her know what his intentions are and just falling into a limbo in his relationship with her. this has only happened to me once and It's never happened since. If a girl ain't feeling you but keeps you around as a friend cut her off or go into the friendship expecting NOTHING but that.
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4. Go hardcore and disappear
I'm the type of person if the relationship was somewhat substantial to change my number so my heart ain't racing every time I get a text, or a phone call. To change my email, disable any social networking until I'm healed. From my personal experience this is the quickest and best way, there is zero chance if you take these steps of her contacting you which kills all the disgusting disease known as hope. I remember after a breakup I would constantly check my phone I did not want my ex to contact to me but a tiny part I guess would not have minded the ego boost if she cracked and text me or called. When I finally changed my number the release I felt was overwhelming. As for social networking, I remember I changed my number but a ex hit me up through facebook writing me a message begging for another chance.
8. Realize your ex isn't all that
As a man who has dated models, and beautiful women of different ethnicities sometimes the "damn will I ever get another broad that beautiful again " thoughts hit. Realize you did it once and you can do it again, hell there are hundreds of millions of women out there who look better than your ex if all you care about is looks, and there are tons of other women out there who will be much more compatible, so don't stress it at all. I remember after I broke up with my ex fiance I was like damn, she was so beautiful, she never wore makeup, barely dressed up but wherever she would go jaws would just drop would I ever get that again. I mean I wasn't even thinking of how much of a leech, conniving, horrible person my ex was to me just that she was the most beautiful girl in the world (in my eyes), and I'll never be that "lucky again". It's amazing how your ex could be straight horrible, offering nothing, in your mind you wished many times you could just go your separate ways. But once you are broken up your mind plays tricks on you and suddenly she is a 10/10. Realize your ex ain't that special, your mind is a powerful tool that is playing tricks on you.
Everything was good but these 2 were dead on. I feel some type of way bc I ignored the red flags bc she was drop dead gorgeous. Thanks breh
CanesMiamiLakers
All Star
Man when will you guys understand if she's good looking or half way decent then 9 times out of 10 she has someone she's dealing with....weather their just friends or fukking it's up to you to show her something different to get her on your team. I've done it and it's been done to me stop kicking these hoes to the curb just because you not the only she's talking and of course she's going to tell you your the only one she should think the same.. You a never get p*ssy acting like this don't be naive. But one thing I never do is mess with a chick I know had a boyfriend I might hit it once but that's not my problem I don't do love triangles... I got 3 girls I'm juggling and they all think they special 
No matter how honest you think your girl is being she's not at the beginning you have to build that bond and trust if it's worth it unless she a true tramp
No matter how honest you think your girl is being she's not at the beginning you have to build that bond and trust if it's worth it unless she a true tramp