Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Sharp]

Now this one comes straight from the 48 laws of power:

Never over shoot your goal.

Your goal with any woman you date should always be a relationship where there is mutual respect. Never take advantage of a woman just because you can. You don't want to be Stevie J type character. If you happen to find a good woman who respects you as a man and makes you happy, the least you can do is to do right by her. When we get greedy and overzealous and do crazy stuff because we can get away with it, we start to resemble the very same women that we loathe.

A lot of jewels were dropped in this thread, but you are better off using these jewels to better yourself, not to take advantage of women. Because if you empower yourself, you won't need to take the power away from a woman. Remember women manipulate, men orchestrate.

 

[kevm3]

That's definitely true. If you are allowing women to change you into an angry, bitter vindictive individual and you are using this knowledge to get payback on them, then you're going in the wrong direction. The key is to improve your life and only accept those women who agree with that goal. Manipulating women and trying to sneak between their legs using psychological tactics is the wrong move and it will backfire on you eventually. Cut out the drama and don't allow nonsense, but focus on the women that will help you get to where you need to be.

 

[MikelArteta]

Now this one comes straight from the 48 laws of power:

Never over shoot your goal.

Your goal with any woman you date should always be a relationship where there is mutual respect. Never take advantage of a woman just because you can. You don't want to be Stevie J type character. If you happen to find a good woman who respects you as a man and makes you happy, the least you can do is to do right by her. When we get greedy and overzealous and do crazy stuff because we can get away with it, we start to resemble the very same women that we loathe.

A lot of jewels were dropped in this thread, but you are better off using these jewels to better yourself, not to take advantage of women. Because if you empower yourself, you won't need to take the power away from a woman. Remember women manipulate, men orchestrate.

this is true, also don';t let your past experiences with females ruin your future ones if the chick is good

 

[Sharp]

I hear dudes say it all the time "you are such a great woman, he must have been a fool to do you wrong". Please don't make the mistake of thinking that she's going to be a better woman for you. At the end of the day there is a reason that this woman and her ex man broke up. Don't assume that it was his fault. That's why these women don't take responsibility for their wrongs. Because the next man in their lives always makes them believe that they were perfect and the ex man was the bad guy. *Don't even inquire about her past relationships unless you have the time to entertain a revised version. Judge her on how she treats you, but never anoint her as being perfect or not capable of doing wrong. Never console her about her past relationships or past issues with men. Make your relationship with her an isolated event. She has to earn your trust and respect.

 

[sixsixtwo]

Another winner:

 

[Black Beauty]

THE SAME THING HAPPENS TO US WOMEN. I HAVE GOTTEN A TEXT AN HOUR BEFORE A DATE...SAYING, "HEY I'M SORRY I HAVE TO WORK LATE" WE WILL CATCH UP SOON. bUT GUYS THAT ARE REALLY INTO ME, A) DON'T TEXT THAT BULL****..THEY CALL ME AND b) THEY CONFIRM AND MAKE SURE TO GIVE ME A TIME TO BE READY ETC. IN THE DMV SO MANY MEN ARE BULL****TING IT'S UNBELIEVEABLE.
SO MY POINT IS IT HAPPENS ON BOTH SIDES OF THE COIN.

Women flaking? If you're supposed to link up with a breezie, for let's say, drinks on Friday and you get the.... "Hey Breh, I cant make it tonight, I've just been so tired from work and school. Next week cutie? ;-)" That means, she's givingthe dussy up to the dude she really likes, she doesnt like you at all, or she's just stringing you along because she likes the attention you're giving her. Dont tolerate this. Sweating her after the flake only sends the message that you'll put up with disrespect and that you absolutely get no dussy. And women like a dude in demand. You're only mad because you have no females on deck. A phone full of breezies and ironclad confidence make you forget a flake out with the quickness. lol

Trust - women dont flake on the men they're attracted to. Women arent that busy. Execpt the ones who are CEO's, Heads of State, plastic surgeons, etc. lol But if they like you - it doesnt matter what her occupation is - they will make time for you. Even Michelle makes time for Barack, homie. A dingy broad with double d's who works at Bigbee Coffee, texting and posting on Nicole*****ie.com all day aint busy doing nothing homie. That little community college course they taking aint takin up their time. She just doesnt like you. And aint nothing wrong with that. Just move on to the females who DO like you.

And when they do like you - it's obvious. The day ya'll supposed to link up will be like 20 Questions. "Where are you taking me? Should I wear heels or flats? Will there be music playing? What time should I be ready?" lol

 

[Black Beauty]

I ACTUALLY AGREE WITH THIS. ALTHOUGH MEN OFTEN DO THE SAME THING...THEY DON'T TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. THERE ALRE ALWAYS TWO SIDES TO AA STORY...OH AND DON'T FORGET THE THIRD SIDE...THE TRUTH. I ACTUUALLY THINK CONVERSATIONS ABOUT PAST RELATIONSHIPS NEED TO BE HAD WAY DEEPER INTO THE NEW RELATIONSHIP.. JUSGE EACHOTHER ON WHAT IS IN FRONT OF YOU. PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES BUT THEY LEARN AND GROW,....WELL MOST DO...

I hear dudes say it all the time "you are such a great woman, he must have been a fool to do you wrong". Please don't make the mistake of thinking that she's going to be a better woman for you. At the end of the day there is a reason that this woman and her ex man broke up. Don't assume that it was his fault. That's why these women don't take responsibility for their wrongs. Because the next man in their lives always makes them believe that they were perfect and the ex man was the bad guy. *Don't even inquire about her past relationships unless you have the time to entertain a revised version. Judge her on how she treats you, but never anoint her as being perfect or not capable of doing wrong. Never console her about her past relationships or past issues with men. Make your relationship with her an isolated event. She has to earn your trust and respect.

 

[Sharp]

Trying to relay these concepts in this thread to women will only leave you frustrated. They won't understand it and aren't meant to understand it, as their view on the way male-female interaction works is completely different.

Anything that isn't beneficial to a woman will be perceived as wrong, so don't even waste your time explaining these things to the woman you are dealing with. A woman will talk you out of your rational reasoning if you allow her to. Just apply the principles, never explain them.

I've had conversations with women about some of these things just to see if I could get a reaction out of them, and I sure did. Any man that can see through their bullshyt is considered bitter. So if a woman calls you bitter once you apply these principles and you don't tolerate her bullshyt, this means that you have executed perfectly.

Bitter= you saw through my bullshyt and now I have to find a man who will tolerate it.

 

[~*--------(Big Boom)]

Fellas remember to eat it from that BACK so she won't FRONT!!!!!!

 

[Sharp]

If a woman feels comfortable enough to tell you about another man she is interested in, I'm sorry to inform you, but you are now in the friend zone. Women who are interested in you, will never talk about another man they are interested in in your presence. In addition, don't give relationship advice to any woman that you are interested in.

Another pitfall is hanging around woman who have boyfriends, becoming their friend even though you like them because that is the only option available. It is quite true that this puts you in position to be the rebound, but there is a larger possibility that you'll get so cool with her that you will be taken out of consideration. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with being her friend, but you need to let her know that you are interested on a sexual level.

What's even worse is when you know you're in the friend zone, and you remain there, hoping that one day she will look at you differently and you will live happily ever after.

 

[Sharp]

Attraction is not based on logic. Being a great friend is not going to make a woman fall for you. Women like confident men, and a confident man is not going to allow himself to be ushered to the friendship zone. He knows he is a good man and will put his bid on the table. Being a BFF is not cool, unless you are actually content with it. Okay, so it's great to have a title. So that is what she'll introduce you to the next man that is about to pound her out as.. her BFF. So if you're in this predicament, you have to think about the actions that led you to this point. Think about all of your missed opportunities. You believed that being a great friend would automatically give you priority when it came to who would be her lover. Although men might concur that they want a woman who can relate like a friend, women don't think like men. They fall for real men, not BFFs

 

[Sharp]

Be weary of a woman who leaves the man she is with to get with you. We get caught up in believing that she will be a completely different woman for us. This goes back to us naively thinking that her ex--boyfriend was the reason she left.

You don't know why she left. But you should be aware that she could do the same to you.

 

[Turbulent]

Attraction is not based on logic. Being a great friend is not going to make a woman fall for you. Women like confident men, and a confident man is not going to allow himself to be ushered to the friendship zone. He knows he is a good man and will put his bid on the table. Being a BFF is not cool, unless you are actually content with it. Okay, so it's great to have a title. So that is what she'll introduce you to the next man that is about to pound her out as.. her BFF. So if you're in this predicament, you have to think about the actions that led you to this point. Think about all of your missed opportunities. You believed that being a great friend would automatically give you priority when it came to who would be her lover. Although men might concur that they want a woman who can relate like a friend, women don't think like men. They fall for real men, not BFFs

true, you're actually better off telling her respectfully but firmly that a friendship won't workout out because of how you feel about her. this will put things in different perspective because in the BFF option she would get all the attention/simpery from you while she gets to be with other men. but take that option away from her she doesn't get that luxury anymore and she has to choose between being with you or completely losing the attention. you'd be surprised at how many would actually change their mind when they take time to think about it. plus if they still choose to not be with you, you get to turn your focus on other women who could fulfill that role. and one day out of the blue, you get a call from ol girl who left her boyfriend. she's trying to use you as a rebound, you get some ass out of it. everyone wins.

 

[Ohene]

I ACTUALLY AGREE WITH THIS. ALTHOUGH MEN OFTEN DO THE SAME THING...THEY DON'T TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. THERE ALRE ALWAYS TWO SIDES TO AA STORY...OH AND DON'T FORGET THE THIRD SIDE...THE TRUTH. I ACTUUALLY THINK CONVERSATIONS ABOUT PAST RELATIONSHIPS NEED TO BE HAD WAY DEEPER INTO THE NEW RELATIONSHIP.. JUSGE EACHOTHER ON WHAT IS IN FRONT OF YOU. PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES BUT THEY LEARN AND GROW,....WELL MOST DO...

man get your own quick gems ond ealing with men thread then. we aint saying were perfect...let us drop our knowledge in peace

 

[winb83]

friend zone

one of the worst concepts ever created in the dating world. A concept that allows men to go into denial about the rejection they've experienced call it something else that sounds better to them and continue to persist beyond the initial rejection.

the truth is there is no such thing as friend zone. Rejection is still rejection regardless of what watered down sugar coated name you wrap around it.