Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DaRealness]

This chick on the 3rd floor where I live who has a boyfriend came downstairs the other night wanting to talk to me about their problems and how they're being threatened with eviction because the dude was running some scam. I told the chick Sorry for your problems but it's inappropriate of you to come downstairs after 9pm and talk to me. Chick wanted to talk in my living room and everything and I don't even know her like that.

fukk I look like, Montell? You have to watch out for some of these bytches.

 

[TrillaMonsoon]

Don't get caught up with jobber women.

Women who you know should like you based on the life you live and the people she has around her. You can't get upset or defeated when these girls don't give you what you think you deserve. You gotta let them deal with their trash, hit their downward slope and then try and make you remember you liked them.

I seen a girl saturday I had been trying to get with when I was 20-21, she friendzoned me and I had never been so upset from not actually getting her to like me. I changed my thought process around, started thinking, "if you don't like me, you're retarded. I know you know I'm better than these idiots you're dealing with so I'll let you fail on your own time." Now she sees me and shes trying to set up her return to my life saying I'm her "one true love", "I've missed you", "you gotta hang out with me again..." bullshyt. I may try and fukk once just so I can celebrate in my brain that I finally got it

Just don't let these girls dictate your self worth. Some people just ain't gonna get you and even though it's gonna make you feel like shyt for a little because this person you think should like you doesnt, you keep your game tight and don't show the hurt and pain, they'll always come back to you because you didn't act like the majority of men that have come and gone in their lives thus far.

Play the long con game, brehs. Once they feel that party weight start to settle and those dudes looks getting shorter and shorter, that's the best ether you can serve them.

 

[Easy-E]

what are you even talking about bruh? seriously. youre saying Im wrong to point out his error in strategy, then you turn around and say that hes to blame for doing too much driving in the first place to see her


you dont think that abusing your wallet and time to drive 17 miles one way, then 17 miles back just to see a bird, is a mistake in strategy?


so we're not even in disagreement there, why are you trying to disagree?

as for thumping our chests like men, good, thats what we're supposed to do. its nothing to congregate and build on ideas with another. I mean, do you think that women dont talk to each other and offer advice to one another? theres nothing wrong with looking out for your brother and sharing ideas.

and finally, yeah we get on women, those who do fukk shyt like that pigeon did. as for that man "sipping that ether," as you put it, you dont think the female had any part in that? you think she didnt put the battery in his back and encourage him to come through? despite the fact she admitted she knew what he wanted?

and somehow it was okay to once again attack that mans dignity by clowning him on instagram?



so nah, I call out that bs, from the women and men. all that huff and puff from you about dude, but I dont ignore her part in it just because shes a woman. and if that makes me look like a neanderthal or whatever, so be it.

He shouldn't have let his lust for ol' girl cause him to drive 17 hours anywhere.

There are unseemly women out there--get over it, learn and KIM.

I can't get with turning every man's misfortune (over his own decision) into a support group.

 

[kevm3]

Dude was a sucker but that broad needs to be shamed. It's cool if you didn't want to give him none, because she doesn't owe him sex, but to clown the dude in public.

 

[EnzoG]

been away the last few days(no internet) but since i've been away i think i might have found a girl who might be type or a bit of my speed. I met this girl late friday night on pof who happen to be one of those artsy type chicks she's into music hard anyway i chopped it up with her and come to find out she isn't even from town which is a BIG plus she moved here from nc and is trying to find a job much closer to where she lives. on saturday her and i were talking all day that night around 12 I was over at my boys place when she sent the text that she really wanted to meet me and to come by her place(she has 2 roommates) keep in mind i met this girl just one day so i went over and she was thick as fukk she invited me in her bedroom and we sat on her bed(she had the sex and the city movie on when i walked in) and we talked i got a bit touchy with her but i didn't smash but i was only there for like 30mins. she had to go to work the next day when it was time for me to go i gave her a hug and bounced the next day i texted her i got no response back it left me a bit because i felt like i actually found my equal where i wasn't judged on being a "white boy" or "looking like the type to date white chicks" and i felt like she was QB'ing the p*ssy right then and there that night which left me when i thought about it any feedback on this would be nice for future meet ups

 

[Two Stacks]

BRUHHH you was supposed to fukk. EVERY time i go to meet up/chill with a chick i got at least 3 fresh rubbers on me.

 

[EnzoG]

BRUHHH you was supposed to fukk. EVERY time i go to meet up/chill with a chick i got at least 3 fresh rubbers on me.

breh i wasn't expecting for her to meet up with me soo soon i practically went over there with my shorts and t-shirt on seeing that it was late at night

 

[Mike Ock]

I have a question for all the COLI folks:

If I catch a woman checking me out...does that give me the right to be more direct that if she hadn't been checking me out?

Also, I catch women checking me out with their husbands/boyfriends. How do I approach that situation?

Breh, don't get too excited. It's human nature to check people out, we all do it. We just try not to make it too obvious in front of our s/o. If she's solo, why not go for it. But if you see her with someone and you still try, you're asking for any repercussions from the dude.

 

[Shadow King]

Pretty much, which is why I advocate doing something YOU are interested in instead of spending all of this time t


Just yet another example of it's not what you 'do' for women. it's all about how they perceive you. They want a guy that's above them in their mind, not easily accessible, somewhat aggressive, etc. Dudes that sit there and listen to their women all day, try to be supportive, pay their bills, buy them all these expensive gifts, etc., women do those kind of guys very badly. Never be providerman, earman, or do man. Providerman is obvious... guy who pays off all the bills and who is a walking paycheck. Earman is the guy sitting around listening to her complain all day. Do man is the negro she hits up when she needs some favor done for her. All of these dudes rush to provide a service for her but she provides little, if nothing back. Mentally, she has the impression that these dudes are beneath her.

How often in history has there been an era where someone offers so little and yet people are willing to pay such a high price? Modern women bring so little to the table and yet dudes are still doing backflips and summersaults to deal with them. It's men that are the problem more than anything. Men never demand anything and will allow endless amounts of respect because 'they don't want to lose her'. Is it any surprise these women act the way they do?

So at what point do you provide, listen, and do for your woman? Obviously the birds don't deserve it but when you're serious with someone do you never begin to display these traits in thought of her losing respect for you?

I'm asking cause if that's the case I'll never be in a steady relationship. If I care about somebody I wanna be a giver but if this will get me stomped on every time then

 

[kevm3]

So at what point do you provide, listen, and do for your woman? Obviously the birds don't deserve it but when you're serious with someone do you never begin to display these traits in thought of her losing respect for you?

I'm asking cause if that's the case I'll never be in a steady relationship. If I care about somebody I wanna be a giver but if this will get me stomped on every time then

It's hard to say, but it's more along the lines of when you know that she's there for you and not because you came in the door waving your cash around. There are certain women you meet who will be around you and you don't have to spend a dime on them. When you meet one of those genuine women who does what she does as a woman, there's nothing wrong with treating her well... but you have to balance that out with knowing when to keep your money in your pocket. Do not pay for her school, her car, rent, etc. Buying her something nice on her birthday? Cool. Picking up the dinner tab knowing that she cooks for you? Cool. But being that guy who opens up his wallet any time she 'needs' something? Nah.

You should listen to your woman, but don't become that open ear she can run to when she wants to complain about any and everything. There should be a limit to the amount of complaining you allow your woman to do before you tell her to go handle her problems. Those dudes that get friend zoned are always the guys hovering around listening to her problems and being envious of the dudes she's having those problems with but can't never seem to stop messing with them.

 

[DaRealness]

 

[delta]

Women I got a question, how come women don't like being talked to in the grocery store, I tired to hook up with some babes and every time I went up to one they said no, the worst was when this one chick yelled at me to just leave

breh, thats just what hos do. If you wanna spit game in day game, you gotta make sure 1st appearance wise, you are gold. Height is crazy important too.

Here's what I use the mjaority of the time to holler at random hoodrats in stores / street

*make eye contact* just say "hey (random female name, ashley/ laqutisha/ tierra /etc) its been a minute, u still workin at (blah)" or some other open-ended question

they gon be like, "no you got the wrong person" if they are interested, they'll drop some info off here, "like oh no, sorry i work at"

then you be like "oh damn my fault, you kinda interestin too i guess"

she'll laugh and either 1) continue the convo 2) walk off

I don't really like routines but this one good

 

[sixsixtwo]

http://therationalmale.com/2012/04/26/the-savior-schema/

"The fundamental flaw of the Savior Schema (also, Captain Save a Ho) is that it is essentially negotiated intimacy, and negotiated intimacy is never genuine. You can fix a woman’s flat tire, help her out of a financial jam, fix her a nice lasagne, give her the perfect shoulder to cry on, take care of her kids and listen to her drone on for hours on the phone, and she’ll still go fukk her outlaw biker boyfriend because her intimacy with him is genuine, unnegotiated, unobligated desire. She wants to have sex with him, she doesn’t owe him sex."

 

[MikelArteta]

This chick on the 3rd floor where I live who has a boyfriend came downstairs the other night wanting to talk to me about their problems and how they're being threatened with eviction because the dude was running some scam. I told the chick Sorry for your problems but it's inappropriate of you to come downstairs after 9pm and talk to me. Chick wanted to talk in my living room and everything and I don't even know her like that.

fukk I look like, Montell? You have to watch out for some of these bytches.

end up getting ron goldman over ish like that

 

[MikelArteta]

http://therationalmale.com/2012/04/26/the-savior-schema/

"The fundamental flaw of the Savior Schema (also, Captain Save a Ho) is that it is essentially negotiated intimacy, and negotiated intimacy is never genuine. You can fix a woman’s flat tire, help her out of a financial jam, fix her a nice lasagne, give her the perfect shoulder to cry on, take care of her kids and listen to her drone on for hours on the phone, and she’ll still go fukk her outlaw biker boyfriend because her intimacy with him is genuine, unnegotiated, unobligated desire. She wants to have sex with him, she doesn’t owe him sex."

yep ive written on this before
women don't think like men everything is off emotions how she feelts etc.

you se it all the time in chicks who are abused always going back cant think logically etc.