Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Rather your stance is based on your experience with the failed and successful relationships that you have had. It does not give you insignt on women though. But your experience with women which you are trying to pass off as gospel.

learn to read, my experience plays a small part. I have done research, I have taken courses, I have interviewed countless and countless women of all demographics and ages. I have travelled the world and mingled with women from small ass hick towns etc., what I say is gospel, you just disagree because you don't agree with it as a woman.

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this is why i laugh at womens advice, a broad will cheat on you and they will tell you, give her another chance, everyone makes mistakes.

Or if a woman messes up, sometimes women are like that, you should give her another chance.

The accountability in most women is not there

Years ago I read this quote and I always remember it and i hope every man does to

"why waste your time on giving a woman a second chance, when there is a woman out there dying for her first"

That quote has always stuck with me and whenever i feel like looking the other way etc., allowingsomeone back into my life etc. that always clicks in my mind.
Why give anyone a second chance? Reinscarf you always come off like you are trying to avoid getting hurt and I think you lose the mark on your advice due to that. You are like the kid that was a nerd in high school who became cool who never got over his insecurities when he was younger. And is now trying to constantly prove himself. That's how post come across to me.
 

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Ive been thinking about what patrice said when he said " you cant get mad at them cause its NOT malicious its there nature to test you and to do dumb shyt this is why you gotta guide them threw there goofiness" he said that and I often forget it. I dont go that hard on females on the coli ...cause a lot of them are young and im 30 so I just dont think ...they get it just yet its a lot they havent gone threw and wont admit to themselves. I have to remember that even eve manipulated adam into eat the fruit ...its been in there nature to test you as a man from the beginning . You just have to know how to be above the BS and constantly educate yourself.
Are you a woman though. Do you think you are a better woman than a woman? If woman can't be man and tell man how to be man what makes men think that they can tell women how to be women.
Men make their opinions about women relative to their experience as men likewise with women.
 

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Why give anyone a second chance? Reinscarf you always come off like you are trying to avoid getting hurt and I think you lose the mark on your advice due to that. You are like the kid that was a nerd in high school who became cool who never got over his insecurities when he was younger. And is now trying to constantly prove himself. That's how post come across to me.

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again with the shaming tactics, women can't fathom a man who doesn't simp or isn't afraid to walk away, suddenly he's scared of getting hurt. Your last 3 posts directed at me included the words, hurt, bitter, scorn all because I won't bow down to the disrespectful actions of a woman.

You know absolutely nothing about me, if I was "scared of getting hurt" I wouldn't date, I wouldn't be in relationships. I don't believe in giving second chances in relationships and I never will.

If there are 3 stores beside each other selling the same thing and the mall closes in 15 minutes, and I go to one store and find something i want and i'm going to buy it but the cashier gets a phone call and tells me to hold on and their chatting for like 5 minutes you think i'ma stand there and wait? hell no i'm going to the next store where i'm viewed as a valuable customer, and as i walk past the first store if the cashier is like i'll ring you up now ill be like :childplease:. You don't throw your pearls before swine, if i ask a chick on a date and she totally forgets she doesn't view me, my time, what i offer as valuable, so i'l go to Another chick who does. And if that first chick pops up on oh im sorry im ready now well :childplease:

and I could care less how my post comes across to you
 

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see this is why I really don't like women posting in this thread

whenever a woman disagrees with what a man says he's scorned, he's bitter, he needs to get over it, he hates women.
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As I always say if Chris brown, denzel washington had a date with that chick at 8pm do you think she would have overslept? do you think she would have missed it? HELL NO. Women pull tricks on guys all the time guys they don't view as valuable for her it was just a night out and meh she didn't feel liek going it wasn't important it wasn't vital to her. It's like if I have a job interview i read more into it and i find it pays like 9 dollars a hour, i say screw it and go to sleep and miss the interview, the job wasn't important to me, but if that job was paying 50 a hour you damn well sure i'd be there early lined up because its valuable.

My life isn't short lived. Jesus was only on earth for 33 years, martin luther king jr died at the age of 39, age has nothing to do with experience or learning.

I've seen more in my 29 years than most people have and I don't need a female telling me what she thinks she knows

If you want your opinions to be regurgitated to you by posters than you dont want dialogue....but cosigners which contradicts your point about women not handling disagreement.
Men call women bitter all the time, so you can miss me with that woe is me. Reinscarf you are comparing yourself to Jesus now? Yes even ys youngins have notable life experiences...no doubt. What I'm saying is you are trying ro act years before you are age. Again, there are men who havw lived much longer than you have that don't have all the answers and will tell you as such. Humility, and constantly learning about one another is much more attractive than dictating because life humbles us all. Since you reference the bible you would know about king David. My issue with yor post is that presumption that you know when yoh don't. You based them on your life experiences like anyone of us here. And no matter how many youve had they will still be limited.
 

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Ive been thinking about what patrice said when he said " you cant get mad at them cause its NOT malicious its there nature to test you and to do dumb shyt this is why you gotta guide them threw there goofiness" he said that and I often forget it. I dont go that hard on females on the coli ...cause a lot of them are young and im 30 so I just dont think ...they get it just yet its a lot they havent gone threw and wont admit to themselves. I have to remember that even eve manipulated adam into eat the fruit ...its been in there nature to test you as a man from the beginning . You just have to know how to be above the BS and constantly educate yourself.
i always find it funny when he would say that cause he would curse out bytches all the time :pachaha:
 

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If you want your opinions to be regurgitated to you by posters than you dont want dialogue....but cosigners which contradicts your point about women not handling disagreement.
Men call women bitter all the time, so you can miss me with that woe is me. Reinscarf you are comparing yourself to Jesus now? Yes even ys youngins have notable life experiences...no doubt. What I'm saying is you are trying ro act years before you are age. Again, there are men who havw lived much longer than you have that don't have all the answers and will tell you as such. Humility, and constantly learning about one another is much more attractive than dictating because life humbles us all. Since you reference the bible you would know about king David. My issue with yor post is that presumption that you know when yoh don't. You based them on your life experiences like anyone of us here. And no matter how many youve had they will still be limited.

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I handle disagreements just fine if what is said is relevant.

I'm not comparing myself to Jesus, I said Jesus walked the earth for 33 years, Martin Luther King 39, hell even tupac only 25, you were the one who brought up my age like it was a detriment to my views or life experience, like I haven't lived life and don't know more and I was correcting you. I don't compare myself to other men because Only I have walked in my shoes and lived my life, you can't use age as a barometer. A man who lives till 100 and married his hs sweetheart at 16 has not had more experience with women than I have.

anyways im done replying to you, like many women you skip over and pick and choose what you want to reply to, this is why I only liked when bonitachelz replied to this thread, i don't need your 101 shaming tactics http://exposingfeminism.wordpress.com/shaming-tactics/, or hearing about your issues, or trying to stereotype me into some little box when you don't even know me.
 

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again with the shaming tactics, women can't fathom a man who doesn't simp or isn't afraid to walk away, suddenly he's scared of getting hurt. Your last 3 posts directed at me included the words, hurt, bitter, scorn all because I won't bow down to the disrespectful actions of a woman.

You know absolutely nothing about me, if I was "scared of getting hurt" I wouldn't date, I wouldn't be in relationships. I don't believe in giving second chances in relationships and I never will.

If there are 3 stores beside each other selling the same thing and the mall closes in 15 minutes, and I go to one store and find something i want and i'm going to buy it but the cashier gets a phone call and tells me to hold on and their chatting for like 5 minutes you think i'ma stand there and wait? hell no i'm going to the next store where i'm viewed as a valuable customer, and as i walk past the first store if the cashier is like i'll ring you up now ill be like :childplease:. You don't throw your pearls before swine, if i ask a chick on a date and she totally forgets she doesn't view me, my time, what i offer as valuable, so i'l go to Another chick who does. And if that first chick pops up on oh im sorry im ready now well :childplease:

and I could care less how my post comes across to you
So giving a person that you didn't get the chance to properly meet is shaming and simping now? Again another emotive response not grounded in reality. Never said that I know you..and you don't know me either we judge one another ob each other's post and thats the impression you give based on what ive seen you write.
Never said you should care....but im happy you are above it all.

As for relationships...people get in one for different reasons and dictate the direction of it. Plenty of people who don't want to get hurt and want their relationships who want it to go their way or the highway due to past wrongs. Its called baggage. Its no different than people having sex and not wanting kids.
 

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the same way a chick doesn't owe you sex after you took her out on a few dates, the same way you don't owe a chick a relationship after you fukked a few times. never let a chick shame you/guilt trip you/and don't let her talk to you about "what's right/fair" or that type of shyt. don't cheat yourself out of happiness if you don't feel her like that. keep it real with her, be honest as to what you want, let her work out her own emotions and let her choose what she wants to do.
 

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Brotha said in his past he would have been quick to reschedule, etc., which means he actually has experience going through similar situations in the past and saw how they turned out. More likely those women he let put him on the backburner initially continually did that throughout his interactions with them. Where are all those women he rescheduled with now? Are they with him right now? Doubt it. So apparently he didn't miss out on that super hidden gem.

How you start with a woman is how you finish. You let her come in disrespecting your time, then she will continue to do it. There is some small chance that maybe she just fell asleep, but from my personal experience, I know how women love to give the runarounds and have all these excuses when it comes time to make a move if they're really not trying to make that move.

Bottom line is that a lot of women like to do indirect things, and she could either be testing to see what she could get away with or she didn't care for him all that much. I don't understand how you just 'forget' or just fall asleep when you're supposed to be meeting someone unless he invited her out at like 10 at night. If she really just fell asleep like that, she should have texted him immediately on some, "I can't believe I fell asleep! I'm so sorry!" She waited until the next time she saw him to apologize.

What I know is more times than not, if a woman really wants to make a move with a dude, she is almost always available and doesn't have these little excuses. She'd be so excited about spending time with him, she wouldn't even dare think about falling asleep or she'd make sure he knew immediately if she couldn't make it because she wouldn't want him taking it the wrong way.

It's those situations where you are probably one man among many she is dealing with that she is comfortable doing stuff like that. He trusted his gut instinct in this case. Maybe she really did just 'fall asleep', but oh well. Next time she'll have to learn to be more cordial and user her alarm.
 

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everyone has a drought, sometimes your phone is buzzing girls all over, sometimes you got nothing.

theres up and downs dont worry, when you least expect it another thot pops up

that's one of the reasons why i say focus on things besides women. some times you will go through a drought and then other times you will have a flood. If you base your happiness upon how many women you are dealing with at a particular point in time, you will end up bipolar. You never know when they will come and go, so why base your happiness on something so unpredictable? Every man needs to find completeness without having to use another human being as a crutch for their happiness. Women should be the factor that makes you happiness... they should only add to it..
 

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I handle disagreements just fine if what is said is relevant.

I'm not comparing myself to Jesus, I said Jesus walked the earth for 33 years, Martin Luther King 39, hell even tupac only 25, you were the one who brought up my age like it was a detriment to my views or life experience, like I haven't lived life and don't know more and I was correcting you. I don't compare myself to other men because Only I have walked in my shoes and lived my life, you can't use age as a barometer. A man who lives till 100 and married his hs sweetheart at 16 has not had more experience with women than I have.

anyways im done replying to you, like many women you skip over and pick and choose what you want to reply to, this is why I only liked when bonitachelz replied to this thread, i don't need your 101 shaming tactics http://exposingfeminism.wordpress.com/shaming-tactics/, or hearing about your issues, or trying to stereotype me into some little box when you don't even know me.
And who decides the relevancy of what is said that would be subjective to the individual. Hear me again...no matter the experience we are still limited all of us by the experience that we've had. That is why we learn from each other. You make absolute statements about women not ti mention you put women in a box. Thinking that you know what women must do to be women. When really you are saying what women must do according to men and more specifically according to you.That's the nuance that im trying to allude to.
Its your way or the highway and u have yet to see yoy dis prove so I don't how you can talk about not putting you into box when you claim to know how women behave. Youve made comments about how I look like but have never seen my face. I made my comment based on your comment history on things you yourself have revealed about yourself.
 
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