So giving a person that you didn't get the chance to properly meet is shaming and simping now? Again another emotive response not grounded in reality. Never said that I know you..and you don't know me either we judge one another ob each other's post and thats the impression you give based on what ive seen you write.
Never said you should care....but im happy you are above it all.
As for relationships...people get in one for different reasons and dictate the direction of it. Plenty of people who don't want to get hurt and want their relationships who want it to go their way or the highway due to past wrongs. Its called baggage. Its no different than people having sex and not wanting kids.
I think in any human relationship, you sometimes need to earn the social capital (
for lack of a better term) before you can make those type of mistakes -
specifically,
not showing up for a first date.
You only get one chance to make a first impression, do people make mistakes?
Of course they do, however, I think the gentleman made an informed decision based on his experiences -
interactions, reading, etc. - and I agree with it. Could that girl have been a great woman? Possibly, however, in a planet filled with 7 billion people more great ones will come along.
He stood on his principle, and you can't make decisions based on a fear of what you may lose, you can only live by your principles.
Had they went out on a couple of dates where both had already invested time into getting to know each other, and personalities were familiar to each other, and then she mistakenly missed a date -- at that point, perhaps, he can give her another chance since he is better able to ascertain the situation and make an informed decision based on what he already knows about her.
To stray from his principles though, and give someone a second chance, after he already made his
initial investment offer, based on an
uknown possibliity that she may be a great girl isn't wise if it's going against what his gut is telling him to do.
Time invested is
extremely valuable and the gentleman freed his schedule up for a first date where the woman did not show up, he's already in the red - cut your losses and give that
initial (
emphasis on initial - because I believe you can earn social capital to make mistakes) opportunity to a woman who shows value in not only her time but in yours as well.