Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[360dagod]

I can't do clubs/bars though, I get very agitated in that type of setting. I hate the idea of "game" since most women know what you're trying to pull and it sounds corny.

your clearly suffering from depression and anxiety along with a perfectionist attitude..

Its easy to get yourself into that way of thinking and its very hard to break out of...

Im reading a book by Joseph Luciani called self-coaching and it basically hit the jackpot on the issues that I've ignored for years...

I have other books that im gonna be reading after im done with this...

Since I haven't started, im not going to recommend it yet...

But I look at your posts and they mirror the thoughts I've I allowed to develop in my head..

Fam, you don't know the power you truly posses until you set yourself up to use it...

You gotta change it all up

from body language, vibes, BREATHING TECHNIQUES,spirit,food and mindset...

Its a struggle sometimes, but im aiming to be more positive and slowly rebuild my interactive life...

The down in the dumpster mentality is the easiest to have because it dosent require improvement

Sometimes we allow reflective thoughts of negativity to linger in our heads that basically ruin our lives over time...

Even though a good portion of those thoughts are fictions because we've made them up ourselves

 

[Ohene]

you were a guy she had lined up in case things didn't work out with the dude she really wanted. that's why i don't chase after woman, the ones who are feeling you will chase after you.

i actually doubt this was the case (theres a backstory involved) but in all seriousness it just comes to her not being THAT interested like you said. the reason doesnt matter anyways. bushes

 

[Atlrocafella]

Anybody ever felt like they were spending too much time with their gf/bf in a relationship? I've read a few articles suggesting that couples who spend time apart have better relationships than couples who spend every possible minute of free time together.

I had this issue in a previous relationship and when I suggested that we spend less time together, she lost her mind. I only suggested spending 2 or 3 days apart per week (at this point we were spending every day/night together outside of work) but she was too insecure to handle it so we broke up.

I think there's some truth to that. Being up under someone 24/7 can make things a little dull to the point that you're not even excited anymore when they come around. Make them miss you a little or vice versa, than connect.

 

[MikelArteta]

did you approach her?i have difficulty approaching women cold just the fear of being hit with the soul burning "do i know you?" i've seen that shyt happen and it aint nice.

nah i didn't i've never approached a woman before no lie, i sat down beside her for a month and never said anything until she cracked asking me about the weather and then we started to talk every day

 

[MikelArteta]

you were a guy she had lined up in case things didn't work out with the dude she really wanted. that's why i don't chase after woman, the ones who are feeling you will chase after you.

yep
1. stop holding onto a chick who has let go of you

2. don't chase after something that doesn't want to be chased

3. you never have to chase what wants to stay

 

[MikelArteta]

Down here in Louisiana visiting my grandmother and other fam and decided to see how the women were here compared to the Texan chicks. Changed my okcupid location and tinder to here....

Met this cool chick and scheduled a coffee date within a couple of hours. We spent like 4hrs talking.

No tatts, natural hair, slim, career oriented and solid relationship with father. Passport full of stamps and a gym junkie. She came and picked me up in the Audi coup...Let me drive it.

She told me up front she doesn't talk to exes and expects the same from her s/o. Literally passed all of the wife type standards. ONLY PROBLEM IS SHE IS IN THE MILITARY....seen too many promiscuous ones. Her father was a army chaplain and mom is a math professor.

Idk....

remember all women have a good story to tell, so take it with a grain of salt. Just take it slowly and don't to emotionally involved yet.

I've never met a chick who said she's cheated on her ex, or her ex treated her great.

It's always I dated a cheater, a$$hole, loser, he was lazy, he was crazy etc. then if you were ever to meet dude he was a great guy.

 

[MikelArteta]

i swear women dont get it
just got a text

"i wish you still wanted to talk, i miss talking to you"

i told this chick more than a month ago that I never wanted to speak to her again, and every few weeks she texts (i never ever respond).

just finally blocked the number

 

[360dagod]

i swear women dont get it
just got a text

"i wish you still wanted to talk, i miss talking to you"

i told this chick more than a month ago that I never wanted to speak to her again, and every few weeks she texts (i never ever respond).

just finally blocked the number

 

[MikelArteta]

I'm a man of my word, once I tell a woman I'm done even as friends that's it.

 

[karim]

yep
1. stop holding onto a chick who has let go of you

lol, and then they try to win back your attention. this one chick who went to the bushes after pulling a similar stunt as the girl in the op did all kinds of shyt and recently even liked a pic of me and my new girl on facebook. it might sound stupid to even pay attention to it, but that's the little slick shyt they try to pull.

 

[MikelArteta]

lol, and then they try to win back your attention. this one chick who went to the bushes after pulling a similar stunt as the girl in the op did all kinds of shyt and recently even liked a pic of me and my new girl on facebook. it might sound stupid to even pay attention to it, but that's the little slick shyt they try to pull.

yep sounds like this crazy girl i was talking to/;dealing with early in the year, we hung out all the time, then she got so distant stopped texting, I called her and right away she hadt to go but would call me back but she never did. FOund out she went to a party for a male and i just withdrawled

well 6 months went by and she started texting me all this ish like we still together or talking , i said screw this im not some toy you can pick up put down for 6 months and pick up like everything is cool, told her im done talking to her even as friends and since then every few weeks i get text messages, go one this morning and that was it, opened up a blocking text app and put her number in.

 

[kevm3]

There's a huge reason I keep telling you guys to focus on other things. There's very little, if anything, you can do to keep a woman around. She's cool when you first meet her and she gets bored and goes distant. She keeps you in the background with a few texts but keeps telling you how busy school and work is. You can try to be her circus monkey and entertain her nonstop, but still, she'll still eventually get bored and move on. What happened to all the previous women you pulled stunts for. Where are they at?

You won't find completion in a woman and you are setting yourself up if you try. Enjoy them while they are with you, but always be prepared for them to step out or for you having to cut them at any moment. If you got a decent one that doesn't punish you for treating her decently, stop wasting time thinking you are superplaya and get up out the game. Last thing you want is to be perpetually stuck in this garbage heap of a dating scene.

 

[MikelArteta]

There's a huge reason I keep telling you guys to focus on other things. There's very little, if anything, you can do to keep a woman around. She's cool when you first meet her and she gets bored and goes distant. She keeps you in the background with a few texts but keeps telling you how busy school and work is. You can try to be her circus monkey and entertain her nonstop, but still, she'll still eventually get bored and move on. What happened to all the previous women you pulled stunts for. Where are they at?

You won't find completion in a woman and you are setting yourself up if you try. Enjoy them while they are with you, but always be prepared for them to step out or for you having to cut them at any moment. If you got a decent one that doesn't punish you for treating her decently, stop wasting time thinking you are superplaya and get up out the game. Last thing you want is to be perpetually stuck in this garbage heap of a dating scene.

yup exactly look at all those pua sites etc. them dudes are still there for years posting and posting, doing the same thing over and over again hoping for different results.

 

[Ohene]

lol, and then they try to win back your attention. this one chick who went to the bushes after pulling a similar stunt as the girl in the op did all kinds of shyt and recently even liked a pic of me and my new girl on facebook. it might sound stupid to even pay attention to it, but that's the little slick shyt they try to pull.

yep thats essentially what happened. I hadnt spoke to shorty for like 8 or so months cause i figured it wasnt going nowhere. not sure what tipped her off but all of a sudden she says whats up to me. I didnt even have the number saved. like you said though its probably some next dude getting the attn but meh fuggit.

Logic said, "man this girl hit me up outta the blue like that; musta been a reason I crossed her mind" but I only thought of the optimistic ones and took the bait. it just stings because I have unfinished business with this chick. I shoulda been fukked on two instances but once i didnt realize a "sign" til it was too late and another time I was busy.

 

[karim]

yep thats essentially what happened. I hadnt spoke to shorty for like 8 or so months cause i figured it wasnt going nowhere. not sure what tipped her off but all of a sudden she says whats up to me. I didnt even have the number saved. like you said though its probably some next dude getting the attn but meh fuggit.

Logic said, "man this girl hit me up outta the blue like that; musta been a reason I crossed her mind" but I only thought of the optimistic ones and took the bait. it just stings because I have unfinished business with this chick. I shoulda been fukked on two instances but once i didnt realize a "sign" til it was too late and another time I was busy.

if you send a girl to the bushes, keep her there. she texts you to see if you will respond. if you ignore her, she's the one who takes the l. also, if you missed an opportunity, take your l and move on. nothing worse than your ego telling you you messed up and you trying to rectify that mistake. that's how these bytches trap you. if a woman is feeling you, there is no such thing as missing the right opportunity, if she isn't, there is no opportunity to be missed.