So fellas, the ladies wondering why ya'll aren't settling down for them. -Essence Mag

[PinotNoir]

Well I'll be darn because the man I'm with is the type I've dreamed about, his looks are just the icing on the cake.

 

[#1 pick]

There's no such thing as "settling" man. Either you're good enough to get what you want or you aren't. I hate that phrase man. It's just something people tell themselves to feel better about their failures.

It's crazy but my cousin was a playa who looked like a Trey Songz type. The only dude who would get the chicks I usually get when I am with a group of brehs from me. He was getting his car keyed and all types of shyt. He decided it was time to find someone. Met this girl. He was working as a Pharmacy Tech. Wasn't in college and they had a child. I used to come to his apartment and give him money to pay his bills since I had some decent change at the time. He was 23 and she was 22 at the time. They got married. Had another kid.

He did sales. Did great in sales. They sent him to Mexico and she came with him. Trained them up. Then came back to Atlanta and now is a Director at the age of 29 years old. A made nikka. But when he didn't have any money and was asking me for cash, times was hard. Sometimes women don't want to go through the struggle especially when they feel they made it. It's a real issue and something that they don't want to acknowledge but as men, we know if you coming to us when we hot, we aren't as responsive as when we are down. They want a hot nikka but don't realize how us men think. My cousin realize this and got her a breh who is in school to be lawyer. Smart respectful brotha. Makes me proud brotha. He doesn't make any money but she holds him down as she's a doctor and he's holds her down. I helped her navigate with him in the beginning and he's the best man to her. He's going to be a lawyer soon and well paid as well. She helps him as she can. That's real love.

Sometimes women gotta look at the overall package and not just what is in the resume.

 

[Dank Hill]

Tupac in a business suit

 

[Poitier]

I just want a darker-skinned Taylor Rooks lookalike with a PhD in chemical engineering, domestic and maternal skills and a net-worth of 10 million to fall madly in love with me and I'll hold out hope until I'm 40

 

[Warren Moon]

I'm not attacking anyone. But some variation of this topic gets posted every other week, and its the same angry comments that get posted every time. Insecure,

angry, pathetic lames, who have been rejected over and over in their lives by black women, come in here to leave the most angry comments all under the guise of

wanting black women to improve. Theres nothing wrong with people having standards. Male or female. There is something very wrong, and immature, about shytting

on someone for having standards. A lot of these dudes are just mad that they, themselves, can't live up to a lot of these standards. It just all reeks of insecurity.

Your right but even the dudes that do fit the mold of what they want say the same thing about these women. I get u wanna have bw backs

however if all men are saying these things even their "desirable" men, there's a lot of truth to it that they don't want to admit

 

[Neil Tyson]

It's crazy but my cousin was a playa who looked like a Trey Songz type. The only dude who would get the chicks I usually get when I am with a group of brehs from me. He was getting his car keyed and all types of shyt. He decided it was time to find someone. Met this girl. He was working as a Pharmacy Tech. Wasn't in college and they had a child. I used to come to his apartment and give him money to pay his bills since I had some decent change at the time. He was 23 and she was 22 at the time. They got married. Had another kid. He did sales. Did great in sales. They send him to Mexico and she came with him. Trained them up. Then came back to Atlanta and know is a Director at the age of 29 years old. A made nikka. But when he didn't have any money and was asking me for cash, times was hard. Sometimes women don't want to go through the struggle especially when they feel they made it. It's a real issue and something that they don't want to acknowledge but as men, we know if you coming to us when we hot, we aren't as responsive as when we are down. They want a hot nikka but don't realize how us men think. My cousin realize this and got her a breh who is in school to be lawyer. Smart respectful brotha. Makes me proud brotha. He doesn't make any money but she holds him down and he's holds her down. I helped her navigate with him in the beginning and he's the best man to her. He's going to be a lawyer soon and well paid as well. She helps him as she can. That's real love.

Sometimes women gotta look at the overall package and not just what is in the resume.

If you weren't there for the ride. Don't be there when I park.

bytches think we aint woke.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

Post proof or shut the fukk up

Its seems like every black girl I meet is into strip clubs, messing around with their homegirls and smash eachother with strap-ons. What happened to our precious sistaz?

P.S. They all seem to get getting turned out by their homegirls when they were in highschool

http://www.thecoli.com/threads/where-are-all-the-good-black-women.70822/

finding a good black woman is like finding a tootsie roll in a pile of dung

http://www.thecoli.com/threads/to-you-sellouts-theyre-a-lot-of-good-black-women-out-here.92573/

 

[MalikReloaded]

Nobody cares about your degrees if you look like Sherri Shepherd

 

[Knuckles Red]

Your right but even the dudes that do fit the mold of what they want say the same thing about these women. I get u wanna have bw backs

however if all men are saying these things even their "desirable" men, there's a lot of truth to it that they don't want to admit

All men aren't saying this, though. Seems like I only hear bitter men saying shyt like this. I try not to feed into stereotypes, and I've never met these stuck up

black women with ridiculous standards that so many dudes here bytch and complain about. If we're going to shyt on black women by feeding into stereotypes perpetuated by the media, then we can't

complain when racist white people do the same thing.

 

[Warren Moon]

Nobody cares about your degrees if you look like Sherri Shepherd

Yea a lot are fat as hell

 

[MalikReloaded]

Can you please elaborate on the maintaining a certain lifestyle? I agree, but I want to understand what you are seeing.

It's pretty cut and dry. Nikkas going deep into debt to keep up the image that they are more successful than they really are. Driving benzes but, got $3,000 in their savings.

 

[Warren Moon]

All men aren't saying this, though. Seems like I only hear bitter men saying shyt like this. I try not to feed into stereotypes, and I've never met these stuck up

black women with ridiculous standards that so many dudes here bytch and complain about. If we're going to shyt on black women by feeding into stereotypes perpetuated by the media, then we can't

complain when racist white people do the same thing.

Yes all men r saying this. I'm in those circles with lawyers, engineers auditors, pharmacists they my boys and they all say this too.

Nobody is shytting on bw its just the entitled mindset they possess. Without bringing anything but spending ur money and debt to the equation.

 

[Wild self]

The article mentioned it. That a majority of all of these ladies issues... starts with them. They don't know what a good man looks like. It's not promoted in our community and rightfully so like most things in the field of war which this country is right now for us. It's meant to be that way. In a superficial world, our Black ppl are the most and it's because we understand the least about ourselves, our family and most important our history. Even during segregation, we understood ourselves and our families. Not so much anymore.

Even worse, if these women grew up on 90s and early 00s rap music, their ideal man is some Tupac dude with Puffy money. That hypermasculine and swag shyt is killing hopes of a husband for them. The media plays a large part of it, but many people on here are not ready for that conversation.

They need fathers that care for them.

 

[ignorethis]

Lol so it's basically an article saying all the shyt nikkas say here on the Coli daily, and get called woman haters for it, but it's two black women saying it

 

[ignorethis]

You and most people don't understand what settling is. If you desire a 6'6 engineer, but the best you've date was a fat cab driver, a fat bus driver isn't settling. That's the best you can do. These women have never had the type of men they desire.

They're confused because they been slutted out by a 6'6 engineer before so in their heads they think they can cuff one because they fukked one.

It's the year 2015 and females still don't understand that a man can fukk you and still think lowly of you.