SPIN: WHEN THE DNA test RESULTS COME IN (6 years later)....

[GnauzBookOfRhymes]

hmm, TLR isn't the place for quality dialogue on this, but in this case, what do men (families) do? i mean it's one thing to get this news at 6 months, the kid isn't really old enough to be attached to you or know you, and you can more easily pull away - though you'll likely have some emotion attached - and of course haven't dumped the amount of time, money, and resources into the child. but six years of being with the kid? do you just bounce, if so, how do you deal with that emotionally? how do you deal with the way the kid will interpret you just bouncing - we've all seen/heard folks who have issues when their pops just dumped them. do you stick around but not contribute financially? what if the woman is doing bad and your help is the difference between that kid living in squalor vs a decent life?

that is all on the woman tho, you gotta woman up in cases where you're fukking different men and end up pregnant, ALL parties, including the baby, need to know the truth.

This shyt happened to my mechanic. His daughter was like 8 years old! I could tell he was wavering about whether he was going to withdraw from the relationship. I never brought it up afterwards so I have no idea what he did.

My wife's uncle found out real early he wasn't the father. Mom was fukked up and he got custody and raised him as his own son. Dude just went off to college.

 

[southern.girl]

Foul all round. Know a 2 brehs who had this happen. The disgusting shyt is the woman would know or suspect in many cases. In one case I know this man brought this kid up until he was ten. No way he could abandon the boy.

I think that's what these types of women count on.

 

[Ashley Banks]

@Koco @Ashley Banks


Brehettes how would u react if your child's father

What

 

[Lord Bison]

As expected, another Coli thread where women are being called out on their BS and the brehettes are avoiding it like.

 

[Lord Bison]

What

He can do it and after it's done, and it proves he's the father (because there will be no question) I'm leaving him. how tf you gonna watch me go through fukkin hell getting a baby here then spit in my face. smfh the disrespect.

 

[Ashley Banks]

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I’m not seeing the problem. I clearly said he’s free to get one.

 

[Ghost Utmost]

What I would have done was have that test done the first day.

Y'all should do that yourselves.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Im out the door. At 6 it wont be too bad if I leave versus middle or highschool age. His momma can explain to him what went wrong.

ehh, i'd argue that the 5-10 range is worse, that's the age where emotional abuse/trauma can really adversely affect kids for life. at least you can have an honest, "adult" conversation with someone 12 and up

 

[MaxPain]

ehh, i'd argue that the 5-10 range is worse, that's the age where emotional abuse/trauma can really adversely affect kids for life. at least you can have an honest, "adult" conversation with someone 12 and up

Im not waiting till 12 to have that convo tho & invest even more time and feelings...6 isnt bad and im out the door. At 6/7 my grandfather died and I barely remember that much about him. I wasnt that attached. Versus if he died in highschool. Im gone! The mother will have to answer to the kid for that.

 

[Indiglow Meta (R$G)]

What I would have done was have that test done the first day.

Y'all should do that yourselves.

The brehettes of the coli said they would leave their husband because he asked for a DNA test.

 

[Ghost Utmost]

The brehettes of the coli said they would leave their husband because he asked for a DNA test.

But they prolly asked him for an HIV test result before they let him smush raw.

Logic is lost on some.

If I am in the right you can measure anything I claim. If I try to convince you to 'just trust me' then I am prolly on some bullshyt.

 

[Illuminatos]

That's his son. Throw that bytch in the bushes though.

 

[Doomsday]

hmm, TLR isn't the place for quality dialogue on this, but in this case, what do men (families) do? i mean it's one thing to get this news at 6 months, the kid isn't really old enough to be attached to you or know you, and you can more easily pull away - though you'll likely have some emotion attached - and of course haven't dumped the amount of time, money, and resources into the child. but six years of being with the kid? do you just bounce, if so, how do you deal with that emotionally? how do you deal with the way the kid will interpret you just bouncing - we've all seen/heard folks who have issues when their pops just dumped them. do you stick around but not contribute financially? what if the woman is doing bad and your help is the difference between that kid living in squalor vs a decent life?

that is all on the woman tho, you gotta woman up in cases where you're fukking different men and end up pregnant, ALL parties, including the baby, need to know the truth.

fukk that kids feelings if it ain't mines. I'm bouncing at 10 years without a word.

this is exactly the type of reply that made me say TLR aint the place for this conversation. i don't care how you feel about the woman, 95% of people aint walking away cold turkey from a child they've spent 6 years raising.

Shhiiiiiiiiiit

 

[Lord Bison]

I’m not seeing the problem. I clearly said he’s free to get one.

Another half truth statement. You said he's free to get one but you would leave him regardless. Yet conveniently ignore the fact that there is a good reason why we as men need these kinds of tests. "Trust" and "Love" is just another emotional manipulation tactic women use to keep men blind to women's dishonesty.

 

[O³ (O cubed)]

If he had doubts he shouldn't have signed the birth certificate.