Why are single moms the devil again?

[wickedsm]

This is the best answer.
No more premarital sex.
I can throw my support behind this.

 

[BeeCityRoller]

I don't shame single moms, however I want nothing to do with them because they are a package deal. I am in the building stage of my life, not the family man stage. I purposely stayed out of the relationship game in my teens because I knew they were all temporary and did not want to slip-up with a kid.

If/When I do have kids I want them to be my own; very different perspective of fatherhood being a stepdad/moms boyfriend vs biological father - I know from experience.

All of us born in the 80's/90's saw how badly the single mother struggle was and knew we should not make the same mistake. I still see people still having kids young and broke, oh well, I wash my hands of it.

Now I have single mothers approach me (#3 right after below-average women and fat white women) and their first conversation is about how they were with their babys father for x amount of years before she had a baby, which doesn't change my opinion at all. These are women who are in their late 20's also (older than me), which is a joke because these are women who would have not dated a man even a year younger than them back in their teens/early 20's.

 

[kaldurahm]

You got a group of nikkas who constantly say shyt like "I'm just trying to fukk", nikkas who sell dreams for a chance at p*ssy, and will have no problem putting on a nice guy persona until they get the draws yet we're blaming woman for not immediately being able to decipher if he's actually being honest?

nikkas don't go at deadbeat dads, absent fathers, dudes who fukk and run, etc with nearly the same amount of anger / hatred they go at single moms.

Africans shame the hell out of fathers who aren't actively in child's life. We need to do this more often, to these bummy dudes.

Also the people that are surprised by coli members being in married households, need to recognize that amongst many other black cultures, marriage is the norm. Not baby moms/pops and absentee fathers

 

[kevon95]

I dont think single mothers are bad. Lol i think its just that fact that alot of us guys have came in contact with womem with kids that are up to no good. What i learned is that nikkas need to know as long as the baby daddy still alive and breathing that is always gonna be his p*ssy. In situations like that dudes that talk to single moms are always the fall back guy to "attempt" to get over her ex. I prefer not to date a girl with kids cause i dont have kids yet. Its always two sides to a story. Shorty could be telling you one thing but doing another. I remember when i was a sucka lmao and i was talking to a girl with a kid talking about its gonna take a strong man to take care of a ready made family. She didnt care about all that she just wanted some dikk. At the end of the day you gotta pick your poison.

 

[The ADD]

I don't shame single moms, however I want nothing to do with them because they are a package deal. I am in the building stage of my life, not the family man stage. I purposely stayed out of the relationship game in the teens because I knew they were all temporary and did not want to slip-up with a kid.

If/When I do have kids I want them to be my own; very different perspective of fatherhood being a stepdad/moms boyfriend vs biological father - I know from experience.

All of us born in the 80's/90's saw how badly the single mother struggle was and knew we should not make the same mistake. I still see people still having kids young and broke, oh well, I wash my hands of it.

Now I have single mothers approach me (#3 right after below-average women and fat white women) and their first conversation is about how they were with they were with their babys father for x amount of years before they had their baby, which doesn't change my opinion at all. These are women who are in their late 20's also (older than me), which is a joke because these are women who would have not dated a man even a year younger than them back in their teens/early 20's.

At what point do you tell them you aren't interested?

 

[THOT CATALOG]

Because they wouldn't give us the buns when they were in their prime. We were afraid to smile, they called us ugly.

But now want us to when we're in our prime and they're . It's truly


HOW MANY TIMES WE GOTTA GO THROUGH THIS?!

 

[Neuromancer]

At what point do you tell them you aren't interested?

I think this is the issue people are having. It's not about hating anyone, but being transparent.

 

[Deutsche Bank]

Single mothers are worthless idiotic whores. They can't even whore right, which is why they end up with kids. Their kids are stupid and batshyt insane also. There are exceptions to the rule, but not enough to offset the consequences of the rest of the b*stards.

Anyone who tells you different is employing the logic of the single mother. Producing dependents you can't take care of is a monumentally stupid act. It doesn't even make sense mathematically. Especially considering the myriad ways of terminating the pregnancy. nikkas who cape for single moms are usually b*stards themselves, or their fathers were light as fukk in the pants.

 

[The ADD]

I think this is the issue people are having. It's not about hating anyone, but being transparent.

So they hide the fact they have kids? Dudes don't ask?

 

[Neuromancer]

Good choice on offended. I think it depends on your outlook:
Truth be told you likely won't be your wife's first choice. In saying that a kid would be a reminder of that which is fair.
How many of these situations are actually truly a situation where its actually the person that was rejected being approached by the single mom later?
I get confused with where the interaction gets deep enough to cause these situations. If you know she has kids and you don't want that, I would imagine the interaction ends after she approaches and you find out. That seems fairly harmless and not much to be worked up about.

I don't think it comes out of nowhere. You have stories about this on places other than the coli. I'm sure we can get a thread going about it. I'm not sure of its frequency but it must have happened at some point to warrant a response.

 

[Neuromancer]

So they hide the fact they have kids? Dudes don't ask?

I knew a woman personally who would hide the fact that she had kids until dude was dating her.she told me this.(we were co-workers).

And I was refering to dudes being transparent about not wanting to date single moms.

 

[The ADD]

I don't think it comes out of nowhere. You have stories about this on places other than the coli. I'm sure we can get a thread going about it. I'm not sure of its frequency but it must have happened at some point to warrant a response.

I'm not doubting it happens but maybe I'm different. If I felt offended by the first rejection, there wouldn't be a window to have additional interaction with the chick

I knew a woman personally who would hide the fact that she had kids until dude was dating her.she told me this.(we were co-workers).

That's BS on her part. Gotta ask those important questions.

 

[Neuromancer]

I'm not doubting it happens but maybe I'm different. If I felt offended by the first rejection, there wouldn't be a window to have additional interaction with the chick
That's you and a wise decision. Not everyone works the same. You know we can't assume they do.

That's BS on her part. Gotta ask those important questions.

 

[Neuromancer]

I'm not doubting it happens but maybe I'm different. If I felt offended by the first rejection, there wouldn't be a window to have additional interaction with the chick


That's BS on her part. Gotta ask those important questions.

See my add on.

 

[RiffRaff]

I agree wholeheartedly. Until the males get their shyt together it's best that the females use birth control.

I realize that males can use birth control too. The consequences for the female are more dire since the male can flee, so with the most to lose, females have to be more careful.

We could improve the black community so much if we just followed the fukking bolded. Women rights activist will jump and down with the above statement saying that this shirks the males of a lot of responsibility and totally dismiss the fact. I realize that it isn't "fair", and we need to hold dudes who do this accountable, but that's life sometimes. Ain't shyt dudes always going to be around. If you have more to risk if things go south than the other entity, common sense says you should be a little more selective and protective of who you sleep. This shyt really applies to anything in life, yet so many women in our community completely let the concept fly over their heads.

I don't have any personal vendetta against single moms, especially one who was in a long relationship or was married and things didn't go right, but the above quoted is a lot of what's wrong with our community.