Winter is Coming

[Blackout]

I don't understand why you just can't answer my question. You said "black nerds" are less likely to be abusive, so how sway?

I answered your question.

I explained that most of them have behaviors that puts them in the abused position way more than the abuser.

Go back and read it

 

[Reid2Achieve]

A nikka with money is no prize imo

Did it take a harsh reality check to come to this conclusion?

 

[Matt504]

I answered your question.

I explained that most of them have behaviors that puts them in the abused position way more than the abuser.

Go back and read it

What exactly are these "behaviors"?

 

[Un-AmericanDreamer]

It isnt that complex by definition because they were the main ones getting teased in high school for being nerdy and virgins.

So you telling me a guy like this is abusive to women?

Lets be real here miss

Black men like that usually have a "type" you know. I really don't think these Urkel type guys are really laying hands on sistas like that. I could be wrong here but I'm just not getting that impression. Dr. Dre and Easy E on the other hand... All I can tell women is if it looks like he's about to put some hands on you or has already done so, leave him. Simple as that.

 

[Blackout]

What exactly are these "behaviors"?

Lack of assertiveness, heart on the sleeves, naive, lack of experience, shyness etc.

 

[PeridotPuss]

Did it take a harsh reality check to come to this conclusion?

This, plus observation

 

[Elle Driver]

I answered your question.

I explained that most of them have behaviors that puts them in the abused position way more than the abuser.

Go back and read it

So you're talking out of your ass and basically put "black nerds" on a pedestal (cause you consider yourself one) with no real reason as to why besides the fact that you think they're somehow better than hood/street dudes based on the fact that somehow black nerds don't perpetuate misogyny and don't display whatever behaviors hood/street dudes do.

 

[Blackout]

Black men like that usually have a "type" you know. I really don't think these Urkel type guys are really laying hands on sistas like that. I could be wrong here but I'm just not getting that impression. Dr. Dre and Easy E on the other hand... All I can tell women is if it looks like he's about to put some hands on you or has already done so, leave him. Simple as that.

Their type is any woman that will give them a chance.

They dont get teased for being single and virgins for no reason you know

 

[PeridotPuss]

agree ...... although If you only offer to pay your portion for dates/activities your'e more or less a scrub...

Why should I pay for him too? Sometimes I will but it shouldn't be expected

 

[Dwolf]

Thought this was gonna be a troll thread
Im kinda disappointed its not

 

[Blackout]

So you're talking out of your ass and basically put "black nerds" on a pedestal (cause you consider yourself one) with no real reason as to why besides the fact that you think they're somehow better than hood/street dudes based on the fact that somehow black nerds don't perpetuate misogyny and don't display whatever behaviors hood/street dudes do.

I put black nerds on a pedestal because out of all the different men they are the main ones who give their lovers the most benefits.

Ive see it with couples that I know in real life and with my sister as well so its not out of my ass.

What I say is just advice. You can do whatever you wanna do.

 

[Un-AmericanDreamer]

Lack of assertiveness, heart on the sleeves, naive, lack of experience, shyness etc.

Pretty much but I think Black Nerd and Gambino are assertive guys but not necessarily aggressive, you know what I mean? They seem to be driven unorthodox kind of guys who don't base their masculinity on traditional gangsta imagery i.e. not nikkas

 

[thirdeye]

Where is yo intelliogence?

We got hood rappers calling women bytches and hos and you got young boys who look up to them calling all women bytches and hos

I sat in a class for 3 months about domestic abuse. I'm well versed in this topic actually.
I think everything you're saying is stupid and dangerous. I sat with 18 women of all socioeconomic backgrounds, race, sexual orientations and heard stories of those nice, normal, non-thugs beat them, throw chairs at them, lock them in rooms, yell and more....not one of those women were with thugs so I don't understand how you're using that wellllllll thugs are more likely to beat women, shut the fukk up about that shyt and that incorrect talking point.

 

[Turk]

No way!
In the Quran Allah tells us about men spending on their wives.
Quran 3:34
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allâh has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allâh and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allâh orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see illconduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allâh is Ever Most High, Most Great.

Beat them?

 

[Slaimon Khan Shah]

We must remember that if a man doesn't much as far as worldly wealth, it doesn't mean that cannot be or isn't the best or amongst the best of Mankind, as rankings of who is best and worst is decided on by the Almighty, and a man could be the most Righteous man alive yet not have much worldly wealth.