I Had A Fight With My Woman, Did I Over-React? Gimme Your Advice!!!

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You're in the wrong and displayed weakness. It is hard acting as though you have a problem talking to strangers when you run to the internet with every problem you have. What you have a problem with is stepping out of your comfort zone and acting snobby doesn't hide it.
 

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You overreacted but at the same time your girl doesn’t get you. Thats a bad sign …
 

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Op is right to feel the way he does. Your chick shouldn’t have given enough of a friendly vibe for another dude to be chatting her up. Op, your girl was flirting.
 

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Okay so we went out to a speakeasy, that's like an underground bar for those that don't know.
We having fun, DJ playing jazzy music, it's all good.
We drinking whiskey cocktails, ordering all kinds of drinks. We are currently at the bar.
Then we move to a lounge area, so there's tables and places for people to sit.
There's groups of people all around us, each with their own table.

Kind of like the below, but with the tables much closer to each other, so every group was much closer to each other than this picture infers.

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Then when we move to the table in the lounge area we chilling.
Then she hears another group of people next to us say something about somewhere. Something about travelling around DC.
I am not sure how it happened I was looking at my phone at the moment, but when I look up there's a conversation going on.

And one of the guys in other group tried to involve me in the conversation, and I was acting snobby I guess, because i'm like I don't know these people.
I'm sure they all knew I wasn't happy about it, I have no control over my body language. It always shows how I feel.
So after me and my girl we had an argument about it, because I didn't like it, i'm not down with my woman just entering a conversation with strangers like that.
The other group had equal men/women ratio, there were like 4 guys and 4 girls, all couples I think.

Of course if the other group had only women I would feel less a certain type of way, but you know what i'm saying?

But if we go out, and I want us to go out, i'm not down with interacting with people around us, I want it to be just about us.

Thoughts?
If some things didn't make sense i'm super drunk and high right now.
I slept by her that night.
After that argument me and her we went to her house, we was cuddly, we fukked when we got there, and around 4am, then back to sleep.
But then we woke up to go to work the next morning, we left together, and it was like she was mad at me and I was mad at her kinda vibe.
We haven't spoken since.

I feel like i'm never gonna like that about her, it will always be an issue for me and pretty much a deal breaker.
I prefer snobbier women I guess.

So am I over-reacting?
Damn the woman can't be friendly? She should have stared at you play with your phone instead?

For the life of me, I can't understand why women still wanna deal with this. Such a waste of energy on someone that literally adds no value in her life.

I had a guy get in his feeling about me having a short conversation with the uber driver. I told him to get over it. It wasn't an argument but nothing happened with the guy.

Imagine having to live your life on mute because some man thinks there are better men around.

You sound like a insecure crybaby and I would have left your ass at the table with your tears.
 

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It's not reasonable to expect her to ignore the other people wherever you go.

But

The type of woman who always ends up making small talk with strange men is seeking the attention of strange men wherever she goes.

Not just when you're around. When she's by herself.

Could be harmless, but that's how the bullshyt happens. Engaging random dudes here and there. If one of them ends up getting her attention for real for real... it can only happen by her having these interactions. If she never spoke to strange dude then it would be impossible for him to get next to her.
 

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Here’s the thing, I don’t like to socialize with strangers myself and if I’m in a situation where I don’t want to be bothered, I gracefully remove myself from the situation.

I might contribute to the exchange a little bit and then say “it was nice speaking to you, I’m going to go do xyz.”

I’m not going to sit there pouting about it like a bytch.

Most of the women I’ve dated have been more extroverted than me.

But I’m not insecure and under the impression they’re going to fukk every dude they have a convo with, I’d have left the two to talk amongst themselves if I didn’t want to be bothered.
 

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They even tried to include him into the conversation which means they were being entirely respectful.

And he took the whole thing left.

Red flag. 🚩
Exactly. You have to keep your composure and try to gain confidence when you're amongst other people. Your woman is with you for a reason. She's into you. You shouldn't have to worry about other men as long as it's respectful. Being included in the conversation is the ultimate respect. Plus they were with females.
 

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just think......if you would have said 1/4 the amount of what you did here, there, your issue would not exist :hhh:

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Couldn't have said it any better. This dude has very bytch like tendencies even down to the passive aggressive pouting and petty jealousy. No wonder women are down so bad with broken nikkas like that are in the dating pool.
 
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