If You Don't Want Me, Why Can't I Holla At Ya Friend?

[The Mad Titan]

Child's play


Women are haters straight up.

They'll straight curve a man and then turn around and be upset if they're girl goes and talks to him.

The older they get the less this happens but those twenties and thirties

It's like getting upset at a person because they enjoy or wants something you don't because it was offered up to you 1st and you declined

 

[PrnzHakeem]

That's why you gotta friend zone a chick til you meet her friends. You might find a better catch in her crew.

 

[Aceofspades404]

I seriously got negged over this?
Anyways for those saying it's an ego thing for me personally it's not. If you can understand why friend #2 wouldn't like being second choice, you can also understand why friend #1 would not be ok with this situation, you just don't want to understand. Guys never forget who rejects them, add the fact that friend #2 will feel some type of way, it just makes for an uncomfortable situation.

 

[SPACE IS FAKE]

Seems very thirsty. Like a dog.

fukk it

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

fukk it

I can never not get lit off this joint....

 

[SheWantTheD]

It just seems thirsty and you trying to get what you can get whoever it is. Which is could be true which makes it even more ew. I never understood trying to go through someone's friends. Neither of us would want to deal with you.

OP seems young so for example, In college a situation where, I turned a guy down time goes by he knows who my friends are but things happen and he gets cool with my friend cool IDC

A situation where I'm out dude happened to approach me, I turn him down. Then a seperate time he saw my friend happen to approach her they talk cool IDC Like I said that happened me and dude had even gone on a date perviously I didn't care.

But if you try to talk to me then turn right around and try to talk to my friend on some "Ok what about you?" lol both of us would be like I have had a guy try to talk to me leave go all the way around the club and slide up next to my friend or wait until I went to the rest room and try to talk to my friend next. Ew

Nah, I completely get it but if your friend is interested then what's the problem? If she don't got a problem with it then what's the problem? That girl just so happens to be your friend. If I turned around and holla's at another chick standing 10 feet away isn't that the same level of thirst?

And women today are too flakey, so as men we have to approach and try and get what we can.. cause best believe I go home with 3-5 numbers.. if I'm lucky 1 will pan out.

 

[SheWantTheD]

If my friend was with me when he tried to pursue me, then she wouldnt take the bait anyway. My team is pretty solid.

If neither of them knew, then I can't have a problem, and I would only mention it to my friend IF we actually dated, not just him trying get my number or some little flirting crap that doesn't go anywhere.

Pretty solid at being single With all these rules y'all chasing away potentially good men that got a lot going for themselves. So because he chose to approach the one friend out of the entire group that wasn't feeling him, it's a no go for the rest? Even if they find him attractive and find him interesting?

We can't win with y'all. If we approach a lot of women, we are players, ain't shyt, thirsty, desperate etc. If we focus on one chick, she don't want us.. then we are losers that can't get no p*ssy.

Not surprised though, because most women can't empathize with men when it comes to dating and relationships.

 

[SheWantTheD]

I seriously got negged over this?
Anyways for those saying it's an ego thing for me personally it's not. If you can understand why friend #2 wouldn't like being second choice, you can also understand why friend #1 would not be ok with this situation, you just don't want to understand. Guys never forget who rejects them, add the fact that friend #2 will feel some type of way, it just makes for an uncomfortable situation.

Where did you hear that? Men get rejected all the time if they are constantly approaching women.

 

[Raava]

Nah, I completely get it but if your friend is interested then what's the problem? If she don't got a problem with it then what's the problem? That girl just so happens to be your friend. If I turned around and holla's at another chick standing 10 feet away isn't that the same level of thirst?

And women today are too flakey, so as men we have to approach and try and get what we can.. cause best believe I go home with 3-5 numbers.. if I'm lucky 1 will pan out.

Honestly, if my friend was really feeling a guy that just tried to talked to me, I wouldn't care. Unless it was something off about him. But that's rare, never in that situation has me or my friends wanted the guy who just tired to talk our friend. Because the guys seems thristy and not wanting to be the 2nd choice. You really wanted the friend not her.

The thing that makes it ew that we are friends. Yes it will thirsty if it was some random but at least it's not my friend. To my friends and I it's like :clutchespearls: you had to gaul to think she would talk to you after you just tried to get her friend in her face. Like she would be ok with being 2nd. A guy going around talking to every woman they come across including you and your friend is a turn off.

 

[Neuromancer]

Sounds like people aren't really looking out for their friends. . If your friend finds something in a person you turned down, why block that? Sounding real Petty in here, Tom Petty.

 

[feelosofer]

Because misery loves company, but most women won't say this out loud.

 

[The Mad Titan]

It makes absolutely no logical sense.

It just feels disrespectful or lame.


Unless it's someone of fame or stature, then all that goes out the window.

"Girl you better get that man"

 

[BrehWyatt]

Psh. I've had women get mad at me because I said something or gave off a vibe that could be INTERPRETED IN THE SLIGHTEST as me showing interest in one of their friends.

Below is a legitimate conversation I had with a female friend over that shyt. For the record, this friend is already spoken for. She's dating a dude that I've known longer than she has and is someone that I had multiple conversations with in terms of getting over his hang-ups and telling him to go ahead and cuff her. Anyway ...

Me (going to check mail, cross paths with friend who lives in same complex): Hey, what's up?

Friend (goes on about her day to day, mentions some chick she met that's really cool and into this that and the other with the face. Mentions she also stays in the complex.

Me: Chick sounds interesting, I'd like to meet her since you speak so highly of her

Friend: She has a boyfriend.

Me: I didn't ask about all that, nor do I care. Not everything is about that.


Some friend, I guess.



Not gonna lie, that chick she was talking about could have gotten it, though. Pretty-faced, fun-sized (short) Cuban chick with massive breasts.

She eventually became single but I was going through some personal shyt that prevented me from shooting my shot, so.

 

[DA_LURKA]

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

Fellas to avoid this trap you never zero in on one woman with her friends directly unless one is cute and the other one isn't. I'm comfortable enough where I can strike up a convo with 2 or 3 women that are together. If they're all cute, you don't focus on just one. As the conversation flows youll be able to find the one that's feeling you because she'll be talking to you the most. If you're able to carry a conversation you can subtly steer it towards the chick you're feeling and find out if she's into you or not. This way you don't have to worry about one feeling some kind of way like the women I quoted stated.

Yes!!! Most these nikkas have no idea. My boy and i are polar opposites at the club. He's the holla at 20 women type and I'm the select who I see checking for me type.

The problem is the talks to one girl... gets somewhere... maybe gets a number... then spends the next few hours running around trying to bag more chicks...

men don't understand that women pay attention... close fukking attention. so no doubt the first few girls have now seen him doing this and already think he ain't nothing but a p*ssy chaser

meanwhile i sit around eyeing girls, trying to see which one to target, then go all in on her.. make her my club girlfriend for the night.. and he can't understand why he never pulls chicks back to the telly in the same night




but then turn around and got the nerve to try and clown me for not getting at 55 chicks a night and shyt... that shyt don't work with females.. yes we want it to work... no we can't understand the logic.. but it's THE GAME... every game has rules.. and that's just the rules to the game..

swallow your pride and play to win

It just seems thirsty and you trying to get what you can get whoever it is. Which is could be true which makes it even more ew. I never understood trying to go through someone's friends. Neither of us would want to deal with you.

OP seems young so for example, In college a situation where, I turned a guy down time goes by he knows who my friends are but things happen and he gets cool with my friend cool IDC

A situation where I'm out dude happened to approach me, I turn him down. Then a seperate time he saw my friend happen to approach her they talk cool IDC Like I said that happened me and dude had even gone on a date perviously I didn't care.

But if you try to talk to me then turn right around and try to talk to my friend on some "Ok what about you?" lol both of us would be like I have had a guy try to talk to me leave go all the way around the club and slide up next to my friend or wait until I went to the rest room and try to talk to my friend next. Ew

like i said before.... time and distance.. and she's telling you the truth

you try that shyt in the same night... you look like a p*ssy fiend... 150 women in the club and you can't wait 30 seconds to turn around and find another one not in the same click

but if you just waited a few days and came off genuine, none of the women would mind

Sometimes it is and sometimes it isn't.

Have you ever seen a guy talking to a girl and the friend come from where ever she is at and pull the friend away while she is like " sorry , my friend just "

Good cop bad cop



What

yup.... but understand the "good cop" is lying her ass off.. if she truly liked you, she'd have told the other friend "nah i'm good"

women are sneaky... they'll dance with you, grind their ass all into you, AT THE SAME DAMN TIME giving their homegirl the look to come save her... just so she ain't got to tell you to get off her herself

Some of you women got some nerves, you really got a thousand and one slient rules in the dating game and wonder why dudes aren't trying to marry you for whatever reason.

Seriously, I never want to hear anyone woman say men don't like them when you got so many rules. The minute a dude does break the rules, all of the ladies talk to each other and tell the other how lame and thirsty James is. His rep is ruin and he has to leave the premises forever but I was just looking out for you girl! For real, a lot of women just getting a taste of their own medicine. You can't harm these guys and think the universe don't talk.

With that said, there are a lot of women who don't play these child like games and they are appreciated.

like any rule.... once you know the rules, there's always a work around/cheat