Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[RealAssanova]

in this scenario if a female hesitate too give me number I'm just like
but when she just got up and left without saying shyt she status too me
i aint got time for that high school games I'm a grown ass man
either u feeling me or u not

now 2 months later and 2 weeks in she feeling u sound like too me she might of had a bf at that time or she liked someone else and figured na it was a mistake just too have a decent convo with you

now that she aint got no one lined up ur her new meal too mess with so she gonna do whatever too get ur attention
or she just wants too flirt with u and u build her head up some more cuz she use too simping ass dudes doing that for her

now if it was me at that 2 week mark and she flirting and shyt i still really wouldn't give her the time of day but i give her a just a bit of attention and she really goes hard at your boy cuz I'm not giving her the full attention
that would tell me she wants too get D down and i will oblige with the hit it and quit it tactic
not saying its the right thing too do but I'm just being honest u gonna play games with me even when I'm ignoring you and u pressing real hard sure ill give u what u want but its a one time deal and then go bout my business
she get that #HARDONHOES TREAMENT from me

dats da thing breh...i don't kno if she tryna fukk or if she just wants my attention. Dese past few days she been crankin up da pressure and it even went to the point of her textin me her number yesterday.

but fukk it, unless she literally begs me to fukk her, i ain't checkin for her.

Maybe since its practically winter down here...shyt be havin her feel some type of way?

 

[twan83]

dats da thing breh...i don't kno if she tryna fukk or if she just wants my attention. Dese past few days she been crankin up da pressure and it even went to the point of her textin me her number yesterday.

but fukk it, unless she literally begs me to fukk her, i ain't checkin for her.

Maybe since its practically winter down here...shyt be havin her feel some type of way?

just let it play out and let her make all the moves if she wants the D bad enough she will make the moves and give u the green light
with no question asked

 

[kevm3]

Let's talk about manhood lessons
One of the most important things you can do as a man is to learn to talk to other men directly if you have a problem. One of the ways a LOT of fights and worse start is when a woman instigates something and gets this guy over here to fight that guy over there. Never allow a woman to hype you up to get into an altercation. What you do is you get in contact with the other man directly and respectfully and you have a conversation with him as a man. Do not allow women or any other instigators cause you to lose your life or be put in jail because they are hyping you up to fight. If you're ready to fight someone based off what you 'heard' someone tell you, then that's a weak mentality to have. Real men go straight to the source and talk about the issue straight up. You hear some hearsay, you contact the guy and say, "Did you say this?" You don't go and be ready to fight or shoot.

 

[MikelArteta]

hers a top
stop messng with single mothers, i've never heard of a single man with no kids having a successful stress free relationship with a single mother

 

[T-K-G]

I CAN ATTEST TO THIS SHYT 100%.


but i'mma need @His_Excellence_Reincar @kevm3 @Turbulent @T-K-G @Meet The Sniper @twan83 @DaRealness to chime in on dis scenario also.

Earlier on dis semester der is dis mixed broad(black and summin else) in couple of my classes...nice and thick body. 1st class i noticed her and she noticed me too but i never said nothin until da 2nd class during da same day. I went and sat right next to her and said wassup..seein as how we in da same class together i figured we might aswell get to kno one another. So sure enough, we exchanged names and shyt, talked and walked out together. So i ask for her number and she kinda hesitated and came up wid sum excuse so i let it slide and we went to da bookstore together. So while we in da bookstore shorty just walks up on out and leaves without sayin shyt. So i'm like, aight its like dat?cool. For da next 2 months, i didn't look or say shyt to her. Until these last 2 weeks. Bruh's, dis girl is on me like . I think she saw me softening up and came right in. I mean, now she waits for me after class even if we da last two left, she always comes upto me during class and even yesterday she texted me her number cuz i told her to send me an e-mail about class shyt.

I read her body language and pay attention to her eyes, and maybe its me but she ALWAYS lookin at my lips, hair and we touch each other too.

I unno breh's, part of me sayin she is happy she gettin my attention and soakin it all in and part of me sayin she is feelin da kid. I ain't gonne front, i would fukk da shyt outta her. She a young single (unsure about dis) mother too . I think i'mma chill, let dis slide and keep her on dat friend/study buddy tip cuz she is also smart too. I have a feelin if i was to go in for da kill, she gonna definitely feel like she got me and i ain't bout to let dat happen.

nikka if you tryna smash then try to smash


these nikkas tellin you to wait until she practically bussin it wide open for you aint bein realistic, fukk around and do that and you STILL gonna be waitin on that bytch by the end of the year

go in for the kill and if she aint wit it, she wasn't gonna let you smash anyway

fukk what the rest of these nikkas talkin bout

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

@His_Excellence_Reincar @kevm3 @Mr Hate Coffee @Turbulent @T-K-G @Meet The Sniper
@twan83

Spoiler

Aight brehs so y'all may remember I was talking about a 33 year old chick who was showing me some interest in the post I quoted. Well tonight me and her went out. She makes the third date I went out on this week. Wednesday I went out with a chick and on Thursday another. Well I meet up with shorty tonight and we hit up a spot called Red Rooster in harlem. I heard about the place from a few associates but had no idea what to expect. We get to the restaurant and it's clearly some high established classy joint. We walk through the door and they ask us if we had a reservation. A reservation??? They said ok well we may have a few tables downstairs. So we walk to the downstairs area and they seat us and hand us menus. I look at the menu and there's only like 10 meals on it to choose from. Most of it is seafood which I'm allergic to . shyt is like $20 dollars a meal at that. I look at the menu and see the appetizers got some chicken, waffle combos, but it's 16 bucks FOR A APETIZER . She says that she wants to try the chop suey shyt(whatever the fukk that is). Her food costed 23 dollars. That along with my meal makes $39. Normally I have a rule that I don't spend more than $30 on a date. When I got out I bring only about $50 cash Just to make sure I don't go over that limit. I had my bank card too but I never swipe my card in restaurants(I know nikkas who be doing that scam shyt with the black box where they swipe your card and get all your info). So we're still looking at the menu making our final decisions and the waitress comes and asks us if we'd like anything to drink. The choices of water are (distilled, sparking and regular tap) I say "Just water" . She says can I have "sparkling water". The waitress is like "sure!" We also order our meals and start to talking. They bring us our waters and mine is a medium sized wine glass with some water and ice in it. Hers is a glass and tall ass container of some sparkly ass bubbly water that I know ain't free. We're having a great convo lots of touching and flirting and laughing. I can tell she feeling your boy. Our food gets here and we start grubbing. I had two medium ass pieces of fried chicken and two small ass waffles. I don't give a fukk tho cause i'm not really that hungry. We're still talking, More laughs and touching and flirting(I can smash soon! I know it!). The chemistry was AMAZING! It didn't feel like a first date. We were talking about crappy jobs we had in the past and I brought a Job I had years ago at a coffee shop making drinks and waiting tables. She asks me "what color is a latte?" I'm like "what color?" she's like "yea! Like is it my complexion? Your complexion?" I don't know what the fukk she was getting at with that question. She's a little on the light side and I'm a brown skin dude. I said some smooth shyt outta nowhere like "If we had a Baby. That color!" Her eyes lid up and she started blushing. So I know I planted that sexual seed In her mind unintentionally. Well we're talking more and laughing and we finish our food. One of the waiters comes and takes our plates. Our waitress comes back like "Would you guys like to see a dessert menu?" I can only Imagine how expensive their desserts are So i'm like "Nah I'm good. I don't like sweets". Here shorty Go "I'd like to see one" On the inside I'm like . So they bring over two menus and she's like "You see anything you like? Something not too sweet?" I'm Like nah I'm good. But she orders some apple crust yogurt shyt. They bring that over and two plates and spoons. She's like are you gonna share it with me? eith the puppy dog eyes. I'm like nah you might have cooties. She's like your were just touching me(I was playing this intimacy game with her. which required us holding hands). I'm like "so I didn't lick them" She's like "whatever" and slides a little piece of it onto my plate. I try it and it's not so bad We're talking more and our birthdays are a day apart. And she jokes around like "we're gonna bump heads a lot in our relationship". I'm ready to get the fukk up outta there. So the waitress comes and brings us the bill. Altogether shyt came up to like 65 bucks(without tip!) Because of that damn dessert and water!!! Shorty gets up and excuses herself to go the bathroom. I take out my wallet and Pull out my 50 dollar bill and put it on the table(This chick is putting something in! I don't give a fukk how cute she is!) So she gets rom the bathroom(which took longer than usual. I see what she was trynna do.) So I get up and I go to the bathroom while she sits at the table.I take a piss wash my hands and come back to find she ain't put down no bread! So We talk it out and I'm like "Put down something and I'll pay you back when we get outside near an ATM." She start complaining and shyt and I'm not trynna hear none of that. So she reaches in her purse and pulls out two 5 dollar bills. I'm Like "you short 5" she like "well this is all I got, You don't have a card?" I'm like "You don't have a card!?!?!? . Apparently she doesn't. She's like blah blah blah this is awkward, you should've told me there was a limit blah blah blah. She gets up out her seat and Is like "Well I'm going upstairs I'll leave this for you to handle". She gets up and starts walking upstairs. So I get up and I start walking up the stairs! We almost get to the door when the waitress comes up on me taps me on the shoulder. I turn around And shorty keeps walking so fukk It I pay with my bank card. But the time it's all said and done shorty Is Long gone. I know I prolly fukked this up with her. But how she come to dinner and assume I'ma pay for her and not bring no paper??? Then try to walk off and leave me like ima be washin dishes dolo on some herb shyt? Bushes for her!










But yea So two outta three dates this week. Not so bad! I just wanted to share this story with my brehs. It's probably an L for me but I still feel good cuz I got the other two chicks to fall back on. Have options brehs.

My homie had a similar story. He flew to NC to kick it with this older chick he started dating. They had great chemistry, everything. He paid for his flight, his hotel, and their dates. It was all good until he asked her to pay for a $10 dessert they ordered at an after hours spot. After that she switched it up on him and started throwing shade.

Oh well looks like you're not tripping about losing ol' girl. Keep it pushin...

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

So what's the stance on females who always want to "link up" but never intiate the activity? If the interest is there, the effort should be equal on both sides, correct?

Good luck with that. This has been my main gripe about "independent" women. It's not even the money... it gets frustrating having to do all the legwork for all the activities. But women like being led so its not gonna change.

 

[kevm3]

My homie had a similar story. He flew to NC to kick it with this older chick he started dating. They had great chemistry, everything. He paid for his flight, his hotel, and their dates. It was all good until he asked her to pay for a $10 dessert they ordered at an after hours spot. After that she switched it up on him and started throwing shade.

Oh well looks like you're not tripping about losing ol' girl. Keep it pushin...

Yeah, she pretty much looked at him as a cross-country meal on wheels. It's sad all of these games you have to play with women these days. You pay and they possibly are playing with you and dealing with another man as soon as the dinner is over... You don't pay, and you have to deal with the cheap accusations and this and that. This is the main reason why I tell cats to focus on things other than women. Enjoy your interactions with them while they are there, but don't spend all this time and money becoming master PUA or super player. You're wasting your time. You put all this time and effort into women and they leave you and all of that effort went to dust. On the other hand, you focus on handling your business, getting your passport, strengthening your relationship with God, chilling with friends and family, etc., and you won't look back on your times with regret. You will also be productive, which enables you to have a strong financial basis.

 

[Turbulent]

Yeah, she pretty much looked at him as a cross-country meal on wheels. It's sad all of these games you have to play with women these days. You pay and they possibly are playing with you and dealing with another man as soon as the dinner is over... You don't pay, and you have to deal with the cheap accusations and this and that. This is the main reason why I tell cats to focus on things other than women. Enjoy your interactions with them while they are there, but don't spend all this time and money becoming master PUA or super player. You're wasting your time. You put all this time and effort into women and they leave you and all of that effort went to dust. On the other hand, you focus on handling your business, getting your passport, strengthening your relationship with God, chilling with friends and family, etc., and you won't look back on your times with regret. You will also be productive, which enables you to have a strong financial basis.

and eventhough you probably didn't mention it on purpose because it's not the point, you ironically get more options to choose from when it comes to women.

 

[kevm3]

and eventhough you probably didn't mention it on purpose because it's not the point, you ironically get more options to choose from when it comes to women.

Exactly, because you go from the one chasing to the one being chased. Not only do you have a larger variety of women to choose from, you are also in a superior position when you come across that woman you actually want to deal with. You won't be as thirsty, you will have greater value in her eyes and she will be much more interested because you actually have something going on in your life.

 

[Fellatio]

Have other things to do so that you take your mind off her

 

[SirShaktus]

Damn, brehs... For my first post on this site, I gotta say... Stumbled onto this site (and this gem of a thread) about a year back right after I broke up with my girl. Was bummed out as hell I first got to this site... After peeping game and learning from the OGs on TheColi, I went from simp to barely giving a damn about these hoes in a matter of months. All I gotta say past that is I'll try and share what little I have, keep blessing me with these gems, and .

 

[kevm3]

"Game Delusions"
One of the biggest delusions about 'game', and I've spoken on this before, is that you can use it to turn a ho into a housewife. I see in some of these communities that guys think they are going to guarantee loyalty from their woman by displaying alpha behavior or some such nonsense. I've told you before, do not let a woman hold her sexuality above your head. A lot of guys have this mistaken impression that if they get these secret personality traits, more money or some other such nonsense, that they will make their woman loyal. No, all you will do is delay the inevitable. A ho will do what it is in her nature to do, which is experience a variety of men. As soon as she gets bored, she will hit the road... so what do you plan on doing? Being her 100% clown?

Loyalty is a personality trait and it is something that will be INTERNAL to her. You can listen to these simps and ignore a woman's past, but her past behavior will reflect on her future behavior 9 times out of 10. There are the occasional woman that has completely shifted her mentality around, but a liar and a cheater before the ring or relationship is likely a liar and a cheater after.

 

[Mr210]

with the holidays coming up I hope no one in here is breaking bank to make these chicks happy

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I'm wondering how much a chick can be feeling you without being up on you or even have your number, and how you should act. An example: I go to this coffee shop often and I always see these 2 women who are friends and they're always holding conversations with me. The first 1 I met heard me talking about getting a job at Adidas to a friend and so she interrupted me, asked for my email address and said she'd give it to one of the people that she works for that works for Adidas. Anyway weeks later (yesterday) I see her friend with some other friends who came from California and she's chatting me up again. Also she started the convo and initially said 'hi' first.

Things like this make me wonder..