with women, when they say somebody is too "nice," its really just a nice way for them to give out a rejection without getting too deep into it. or getting into it at all, really. I see that a few in here recently said that a girl said this to them, and really this just means, no you werent showing enough initiative/sexual aggression/are not her type in way of looks and overall demeanor. if a woman youre interested in sees you as more of a nice guy, someone to talk to and thats it, then that means you failed to show her your confidence in going for yours. you failed to show her more of your inherent masculine traits, which subconsciously women get feelings for and are attracted to. that go getter attitude is how you keep from having an unfed, closed mouth. and this conclusion of hers could all come from a number of different things shes seen, but more than likely its her speaking on your percieved lack of aggression. that real testosterone, I go for mines behavior.
this doesnt mean that youre going to jump on her out of nowhere, but that those kinds of instincts and wllingness to pursue are in your dna. that sense of pursuit, of "being wanted" is real for them and they secretly love it. and if you do it in a strong manner, and not in a pathetic, begging, submissive, thirsty ass, Ill do anything to get with that, pay for your bills and take care of you bae, desperate kinda way, she can respect you for just being honest and saying what you feel. itll come off as being genuine, which you should be anyways. hinting at your intentions is a disservice to you and to her.
when being unfront about your intentions, and not giving a fukk about how its going to be judged or taken, you show yourself to be genuinely confident and strong enough to be taken seriously. it displays your drive and ability to push forward. it takes courage and confidence to be like that, and you shouldnt give a damn if anyone disagrees. if you come off as being just a friend, then dont be surprised if thats all she takes you for. or if your overall approach is coy, non direct, relies on hints, or is otherwise non aggressive and lacks initiative, then youre doing what she does. generally women give out hints and dont come out and say what they want. thats a recipe for failure for men.
understand, women work on a - shall we say, less cerebral level, and more on an intuitive level. on a certain level we all have animal like traits, and to survive and prosper when dealing with people you need to display some traits of animal like behavior. in other words, know that if you dont hunt, you dont eat. youre not strong youre food. show some real initiative and be willing to follow through. dont be ashamed of a damned thing, be upfront with everyone and stand your ground.
women like to know that youre upfront and bold about what you want. dont let her expected reply or nonsense games discourage you from saying and doing what you feel. guys may do that just because they fear her answer, which is wrong. in some ways, disagreeing is good, because sometimes it becomes a shyt test to see if youre agreeing in order to get closer, or if youre just who you say you are. you can take initiative because you just DGAF like that
see most women call men "nice" because he wasnt loud enough with his actions or true to his instincts in pursuing her. never try to friendship your way into sex and never fail to go for what you genuinely want. get a look at her, make your call, and go for it. nice guys finish last, while men learn the skills they need in order to to get what they want, to hunt and eat, so to speak.