Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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How I interact with them depends, but generally I prefer to let them gravitate towards me. I tend to ignore them at first and let them find their way around me.
What you do will depend on your personality. If you are a social butterfly type, then you might do better jumping from social group to social group and directly approaching women. My approach fits my personality more since I'm a more laid back, quiet and reflective type dude. To take my style to the epitome, it requires dressing as sharply as possible, since if you look wack, being quiet won't do anything for you but ensure you are ignored. Now sitting back, looking stylish and not leaning on the women will make them think, "Who is this guy?" And you will notice that the women that dig you will start to hover around you some how some way. They may pass by you several times or find a way to be in your presence... from there, some women will make the opening remark, but if they don't, you will have to do it.
But ultimately man, you will have to do what works for your inherent characteristics. If you don't have my personality type, then it might not work for you.
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in regards to the new years text thing, generally it's better to let them message you with it first, but I wouldn't overthink it. If a woman doesn't send you one, you can send her one and gauge her response. Don't overthink things. Sometimes as a man, you have to initiate. All women aren't bold and 'go-getters'. Some women are shy, so you will have to break the ice with them. Now if she ignores you or she isn't really warming up to the convo you come with after that, then that's when you know you need to put her on the backburner. if you do send one, keep it short. 'happy new years'
Stop trying to read these womens' minds. What you do do is you gauge her based on her reactions. If a woman doesn't send me a New Years message, that doesn't necessarily mean she ain't feeling me. Some women are too shy to send one, so if you don't initiate, nothing will ever happen. Now if you send one and the woman starts to ice you and ignores it or doesn't come out when you invite her out, then that's when you move on to another woman.
Stop trying to read these womens' minds. What you do do is you gauge her based on her reactions. If a woman doesn't send me a New Years message, that doesn't necessarily mean she ain't feeling me. Some women are too shy to send one, so if you don't initiate, nothing will ever happen. Now if you send one and the woman starts to ice you and ignores it or doesn't come out when you invite her out, then that's when you move on to another woman.
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Now let me tell you the philosophical basis behind my thinking. I am not telling you to act in a fashion to procure yourself the most hoes and loose women possible. if you are into being a coochie conman, aka saying and doing anything to get sex, then you might want to deal with PUAs or something along those lines. My thoughts are more in line with you expressing who you are to the fullest and being the highest quality man possible and ultimately finding a woman that complements what you are trying to do in life. If you are pulling all of these tricks, crafting fake personas and all other sorts of nonsense, how will you find something real? When you do end up attracting a woman with your fakery, she will bust bad eventually because she was attracted to an image of you that isn't real and sooner or later your real personality will come out. You can't build the real with the fake. You can't build a solid house if you're using flimsy materials. So in the end, while you may miss out on quantities of women by staying within the bounds of your personality, you will attract much better quality.
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Staying within your bounds is one of the most important things you can do. Warren Buffett calls this his 'circle of competence.' When it came to investing, Warren Buffett avoided all of the tech stocks because he felt he didn't know the tech industry intimately enough to invest in it. A lot of people were saying he fell off or his methods were too old fashioned because there were people making fortunes off of technology stocks. now when the tech industry crashed, his genius was confirmed. It's the same thing with women. You will be at your best by staying within the bounds of women who are inherently attracted to your nature. I'm not a thug type dude, so I would be playing a losing game by going after women who are attracted to thugs. I could make this fake thug personality, but it will eventually be exposed because I would get tired of keeping the act up. So what I do is I simply realize that certain women are not for me no matter how fine they are, and I also realize that I need to spend my precious and valuable time with women who appreciate me for what and who I am.
Let me tell you true value and true riches. It's not what you put on or what you wear. It's what you have inside. It's who you are as a person. Now if you are changing who you are in order to obtain some certain woman and trying to cater to her tastes, you are saying that you are a low-worth person, because you are selling yourself out for affection. You have to be rooted in who you are. There is no woman on Earth worth you essentially selling your soul for her company... and by changing and morphing into another man, that is essentially what you are doing. You are giving up who you are as a man up in exchange for this particular woman's attention. You will never win doing that. Be rooted in who you are and look to take yourself over to women who are looking what you have to offer. It makes no sense offering steak to a vegetarian when there are so many carnivores out there. So then, stop trying to 'win over' women who don't like you for you. Save yourself the time and keep it pushing and offer yourself to a woman who is ecstatic about you.
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Staying within your bounds is one of the most important things you can do. Warren Buffett calls this his 'circle of competence.' When it came to investing, Warren Buffett avoided all of the tech stocks because he felt he didn't know the tech industry intimately enough to invest in it. A lot of people were saying he fell off or his methods were too old fashioned because there were people making fortunes off of technology stocks. now when the tech industry crashed, his genius was confirmed. It's the same thing with women. You will be at your best by staying within the bounds of women who are inherently attracted to your nature. I'm not a thug type dude, so I would be playing a losing game by going after women who are attracted to thugs. I could make this fake thug personality, but it will eventually be exposed because I would get tired of keeping the act up. So what I do is I simply realize that certain women are not for me no matter how fine they are, and I also realize that I need to spend my precious and valuable time with women who appreciate me for what and who I am.
Let me tell you true value and true riches. It's not what you put on or what you wear. It's what you have inside. It's who you are as a person. Now if you are changing who you are in order to obtain some certain woman and trying to cater to her tastes, you are saying that you are a low-worth person, because you are selling yourself out for affection. You have to be rooted in who you are. There is no woman on Earth worth you essentially selling your soul for her company... and by changing and morphing into another man, that is essentially what you are doing. You are giving up who you are as a man up in exchange for this particular woman's attention. You will never win doing that. Be rooted in who you are and look to take yourself over to women who are looking what you have to offer. It makes no sense offering steak to a vegetarian when there are so many carnivores out there. So then, stop trying to 'win over' women who don't like you for you. Save yourself the time and keep it pushing and offer yourself to a woman who is ecstatic about you.
Nothing like New Year's drama. My dude's girlfriend is out of town, and tonight she went out with some old friends. She had been drinking a lot and there was a guy at the bar being pretty aggressive towards her. According to her, he forcibly kissed her a few times and he grabbed her arm as she was leaving and wouldn't let go until she gave him her number (she said she gave a fake one).
She doesn't go out much and I guess it was her first time drinking in a while so she was out of it, but she called my boy up right after it happened to apologize and explain that the dude forced himself on her. I could hear her on the phone and she seemed pretty sincere (didn't sound like she was crying though). My boy believes her story but he isn't sure what to do about this.
I'm not going to suggest that he dumps her seeing as she said the guy forced her into it, she called to apologize right after it happened, and the relationship seems to be going very well (before this obviously). They're both 24 and she's a respectable girl who holds him down, no red flags that I'm aware of.
Thoughts? What would you guys do if some dude forced himself on your girl like that when you weren't around, but she called to explain/apologize? Tricky shyt. I might make a thread on this.
She doesn't go out much and I guess it was her first time drinking in a while so she was out of it, but she called my boy up right after it happened to apologize and explain that the dude forced himself on her. I could hear her on the phone and she seemed pretty sincere (didn't sound like she was crying though). My boy believes her story but he isn't sure what to do about this.
I'm not going to suggest that he dumps her seeing as she said the guy forced her into it, she called to apologize right after it happened, and the relationship seems to be going very well (before this obviously). They're both 24 and she's a respectable girl who holds him down, no red flags that I'm aware of.
Thoughts? What would you guys do if some dude forced himself on your girl like that when you weren't around, but she called to explain/apologize? Tricky shyt. I might make a thread on this.
seems funny to me. If it went down like she said as in she gave him a fake number to get away from him, she wouldn't have even brought it up or apologized for it. seems like she is feeling guilty about something. I could be wrong, but if I was your boy I'd be watchful.
............Alcohol is a mothafukkaDaRealness
I think very deeply
only your boy will know what to do because that's his girl. the fact that he gets a "funny" feeling about it is a bad sign though. his spidey sense is trying to tell him something, He knows his girl, he vibes with his girl, he feels her energy so it really depends what type of feel he's getting from the whole situation.it's up to him to figure out if the funny feeling he gets is a warning sign or if it's his ego playing tricks on him.
well besides that situation...
some things that don't add up to me. Where were her friends when she "forcibly" got kissed "a few times"? where were her friends when dude grabbed her and wouldn't let her leave? here's what probably happened. She got drunk and some dude was putting work on her. she said she had a boyfriend but she didn't shut him down completely. dude probably asked her for a kiss, she said no but kept flirting and he still kissed her which she went along with or something like that. let's keep it real brehs, how the fukk do you get kissed by force multiple times amongst your friends in public? if dude kissed her by force and she would have shut him down, in what world would dude still have felt comfortable trying his luck again 1 or 2 more times?
I personally would dump her. Is it possible she's telling the truth? sure...but odds are she's lying. Notice how nothing is her fault in the story. all angles covered a little too well. IF your boy is still thinking about giving her another chance, he definitely needs to regulate. No more drinking without him around (not even a drop), no more hanging out with these "friends" since it doesn't seem like they have her back. 1 strike and she's out policy from there. Rules might seem strict but she has shown she can't handle her liquor. And to be frank, that's why i would dump her cause enforcing these rules would be too much work for me.
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She doesn't go out much. She decided to go out in an unfamiliar setting with old friends. Old friends that may have been apart of an old, less desirable, her. So she drank a lot because that's what she normally did with them. Usually people drink to make an escape or loosen up. What is she escaping? The occasion could be the reason she wanted to loosen up, but if she has been around drinking a lot, she would know what happens when she puts herself in a situation when wolves drink as well.
Something smells funny, and the only thing that can cure the stench is actually knowing this girl and their past.
This sounds like I'm overthinking the situation, but I don't believe in that. I only think you're overthinking if you don't reach a definitive conclusion from all of the data presented.
So he forcibly kissed her and grabbed her arm and she didn't smack him? Her friends didn't step in? He still got a number?
I call bullshyt.
She made a mistake, a mistake she has made before and that's why she doesn't go out much any more. And that's why she turned to a new set of friends. She doesn't want to lose your friend so she decided to take zero ownership and blame the wolves.
I'd keep my eye on her, but I actually wouldn't make too much of it, I'd chalk it up as an L and just monitor her behavior. However, if this has happened before? Some restructuring of the relationship is due.
So basically she had a "hood rat" relapse with minimal resistance to fight the urge...
She is trouble my nikkas...
Because a nikka with game will get in those panties as soon as the liquor hit her system...
DaRealness
I think very deeply
It's the New Year, dude needs a new girlfriend.First of all, if she never did anything wrong, what is she apologising for?
She's out of town, so her man would have been none the wiser....she claims to have given that guy a fake number, so she ain't gonna hear from him again and he wouldn't be any sort of threat against her after that......so again, what is she apologising for exactly? 
Where were her friends in all of this?Also it doesn't matter how "sincere" she sounded, women can make the crocodile tears flow to get out of any situation, so that's neither here nor there.
Your boy might not wanna face it, but the bytch is obviously scandalous. I wouldn't buy her story if it was half price and came with discount vouchers.
His only words to her after this should be:
2014 - We hard on hoes!
What is a girl in a committed relationship out of town going to a bar for?
Here's a red flag wifing a woman who can't hold her liquor
Ah according to her, as i open up the book of reincar chapter 6 paragraph 4 "women will tell you whatever you want to hear to calm your fears". How much do you want to bet she enjoyed the kisses as she was overly drunk and she gave him her number. Women are never accountable for their actions always playing the victim role and blaming it on men, alcohol, their uncle molesting them 10 years ago etc.
So a guy forcibly kissed her and wouldn't let her go, but she was out with some old friends and old friends, employees of the bar, bouncers, securities did nothing?
Ah the typical she doesn't go out much, but when the opportunity presents itself she does eh.
So she called right away, it means nothing she was so "drunk" allowed a guy to kiss her etc., but even being so drukn that guilt set in and like many women out there they can't hold their guilt. Women always seem sincere, I remember when I got cheated on and confronted, the tears started, it wasn't her fault she was just feeling lonely, it meant nothing and she was drunk it wasn't her fault. Why do you think when women dump you they want to remain friends? its to alleviate their guilt of the decision they made, if you accept friendship they no logner feel the guilt of breaking your heart because you are ok with you. Your boy doesn't believe the story, its his dreaded emotions and oneitis speaking, if the roles were reversed he would tell you to
no red flags?
heres a few
can't hold her liquor
at the first opportunity out of town goes to a bar and gets drunk, allows a guy to kiss her and gives her his number.
What would I do? I would dump her. Consequences for every action next time with her next partner she would know the first opporutnity out of town not to go drinking.
You think if the roles were reversed that your friend was drunk and a girl came up to him and kissed him, and was grabbing on his arm and bugging him till she got his numer his girl would be like i believe you?