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Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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We need to evaluate if this girl is worth going anti social for.DaRealness
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The Power of Indifference
Have you noticed how when you have a girlfriend, suddenly other girls seem to find you that much more attractive? Watch your friends and see how girls’ perspectives of them change when your friends get a girlfriend. Irrespective of a girlfriend or not, you are still the same person with the same interests and characteristics. What is it that changes about you with a girlfriend?
The answer is indifference.
Indifference to whether the girl likes you or not.
In order to really be successful with women, you have to be indifferent. You have to give up your attachment to women. This doesn’t mean that you have to stop liking women or pursuing them. You shouldn’t give up your goals, and you definitely shouldn’t give up your desires. What you should do is remove your attachment to the outcome.
This is a really influential thing to do. When you remove your attachment to the outcome, joining your true desire with indifference at the same time, you will be able to be successful with any girl that you wish.
Concern with the outcome is based on your ego – it is fear and insecurity, and the need for security and control. The ideal outcome of the girl liking you, or of you getting action, might provide your ego with a sense of worth for a short time, but it is only passing ... it will come and go. This can create anxiety, as your ego needs further reestablishment and proof that it is triumphant, producing a down-ward spiral.
Attachment is based on fear and insecurity because the attachment is always to results. Indifference, however, is superior because with indifference you have the freedom to create new and better opportunities. Your interactions with women are more spontaneous and fun.
Without indifference, we become prisoners of our current situation. We are more worried about messing up where we are with the girl, or worried that the girl will think less of us, than looking forward to the positive side of what might happen.
Most guys look for the security of a girl who likes them. They say "When I have a hot girlfriend, then I’ll be alright. I’ll know that I can get hot women and not have to worry about women in the future." But it never works out like that ... ever!
You can spend a lifetime looking for that security and never find it. Attachment to getting women to like you will always create more insecurity. Sometimes, the people who look like they have the most girlfriends are the most insecure, and they have to work the hardest to ensure that they don’t lose any of them, and don’t enjoy the benefits.
You don’t want to end up becoming a victim of your past memories, with the highlight in your life being going over the way that you used to be, of how you used to be able to get any girl, of how all the women used to love you. If you can be truly indifferent to the outcome, you can step into the present moment and enjoy life the way it is. You can take pleasure from all the beautiful women around you. It means that in every moment when you are with a woman, you will experience excitement, adventure and mystery.
Being indifferent doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t pursue women. You should still go for girls that you think are beautiful and fun. You should still look to try to get their number, or take them out for a drink, or have a good time with them. However, between now and you getting the girl’s number, there are still multiple possibilities. At any moment, a more beautiful girl could come along, you could find that you don’t actually like the girl, or you could be introduced to another girl who would be ideal for you. With indifference, you can change direction at any moment if you find someone more exciting. Being indifferent also means that you are less likely to force solutions and are more likely to see opportunities.
If someone isn’t interested in you, and you try to force them to be interested, you’ll only push them further away. However, if you are indifferent to the girl’s interest, but would still like to go for a drink with her, you’ll wait until the timing is right for her and the opportunity is available.
There are loads of reasons why indifference works. When indifferent to a girl, you are more confident and funny. You give off a positive vibe. You provide the girl with a challenge. All of these traits are magic by themselves. But rather than trying to work on each aspect individually, if you can become indifferent, you create a synergy of all the positive traits of a Don Juan working together.
With a mind-set of indifference, you can be successful with any girl. Work on being indifferent and a new world will open its doors to you!
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/indifference.htm
The answer is indifference.
Indifference to whether the girl likes you or not.
In order to really be successful with women, you have to be indifferent. You have to give up your attachment to women. This doesn’t mean that you have to stop liking women or pursuing them. You shouldn’t give up your goals, and you definitely shouldn’t give up your desires. What you should do is remove your attachment to the outcome.
This is a really influential thing to do. When you remove your attachment to the outcome, joining your true desire with indifference at the same time, you will be able to be successful with any girl that you wish.
Concern with the outcome is based on your ego – it is fear and insecurity, and the need for security and control. The ideal outcome of the girl liking you, or of you getting action, might provide your ego with a sense of worth for a short time, but it is only passing ... it will come and go. This can create anxiety, as your ego needs further reestablishment and proof that it is triumphant, producing a down-ward spiral.
Attachment is based on fear and insecurity because the attachment is always to results. Indifference, however, is superior because with indifference you have the freedom to create new and better opportunities. Your interactions with women are more spontaneous and fun.
Without indifference, we become prisoners of our current situation. We are more worried about messing up where we are with the girl, or worried that the girl will think less of us, than looking forward to the positive side of what might happen.
Most guys look for the security of a girl who likes them. They say "When I have a hot girlfriend, then I’ll be alright. I’ll know that I can get hot women and not have to worry about women in the future." But it never works out like that ... ever!
You can spend a lifetime looking for that security and never find it. Attachment to getting women to like you will always create more insecurity. Sometimes, the people who look like they have the most girlfriends are the most insecure, and they have to work the hardest to ensure that they don’t lose any of them, and don’t enjoy the benefits.
You don’t want to end up becoming a victim of your past memories, with the highlight in your life being going over the way that you used to be, of how you used to be able to get any girl, of how all the women used to love you. If you can be truly indifferent to the outcome, you can step into the present moment and enjoy life the way it is. You can take pleasure from all the beautiful women around you. It means that in every moment when you are with a woman, you will experience excitement, adventure and mystery.
Being indifferent doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t pursue women. You should still go for girls that you think are beautiful and fun. You should still look to try to get their number, or take them out for a drink, or have a good time with them. However, between now and you getting the girl’s number, there are still multiple possibilities. At any moment, a more beautiful girl could come along, you could find that you don’t actually like the girl, or you could be introduced to another girl who would be ideal for you. With indifference, you can change direction at any moment if you find someone more exciting. Being indifferent also means that you are less likely to force solutions and are more likely to see opportunities.
If someone isn’t interested in you, and you try to force them to be interested, you’ll only push them further away. However, if you are indifferent to the girl’s interest, but would still like to go for a drink with her, you’ll wait until the timing is right for her and the opportunity is available.
There are loads of reasons why indifference works. When indifferent to a girl, you are more confident and funny. You give off a positive vibe. You provide the girl with a challenge. All of these traits are magic by themselves. But rather than trying to work on each aspect individually, if you can become indifferent, you create a synergy of all the positive traits of a Don Juan working together.
With a mind-set of indifference, you can be successful with any girl. Work on being indifferent and a new world will open its doors to you!
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/indifference.htm
Beerus
Banned
Lol nahhhhPics?
DeuceZ
Li pitit gason
back in the day I always used to say "Options a beautiful thing"....once the know the BS isnt gonna cut it coz they aint the only the menu the real ones get they act right
this girl starting to make me feel bad brehs. this is the girl who played me though saying she'll hang out but made an excuse for the whole break not to.
she texted me three times since last night, I didn't text her back. and it's her b day today. why do I feel bad
she texted me three times since last night, I didn't text her back. and it's her b day today. why do I feel bad
keep it light, how's it going :good good. don't linger, be the first to leave. she gonna be texting you back in on time, trust me
These phones got peoples' minds messed up. When you see a woman looking at her phone while dancing in the club, you know it's a problem. Let me tell you what this technology has done. It's let a lot of women be bigger than they really are because they have a constant stream of attention. they have 10 million attention traps from thirsty praise bandits. Instagram, facebook, instant messaging, etc. They all have various pipelines pumping praise into their veins. It's really no surprise that many women act the way they do. They are like kids in a candy store who have no parental supervision. When you have so much, each individual thing is appreciated less and less. For example, if I can only get one pair of shoes in 10 years, then even a cheap pair would be something I appreciate greatly. On the other hand, if I have a closet full of 350 shoes and I buy a new one, I might only wear that new shoe once if at all before discarding it. This is why women flake and engage in all of this garbage behavior. They are getting an excess of attention from unbelievably thirsty dudes, and so they can discard one and another will be right there to take his place. This is why as a man of worth, it behooves you not to hand out compliments easily. What is easily given is rarely appreciated.
I'm finding dealing with women is getting simpler and simpler. The simpler you keep it, the better. Women operate off of emotions. Men mistakenly think they need to take this super intellectual approach and treat women like some sort of engineering problem. That's the problem with those PUAs. A lot of those guys are nerd types who are applying a sort of action, reaction methodology towards dealing with women as if they are dealing with an engineering problem. "If I do x, then she will respond with y, and then I will react to z to take me to the desired reaction." What this does is cause them to 'overthink' and to operate off of premade scripts. The problem with working off of scripts is that when you forget the premade solution to some reaction a woman is giving you, you won't have any idea what to do when a situation comes up that you aren't familiar with. Also, you can never have anything genuine if you are working like that because with a script, you are ACTING, and thus, playing a role. When you start dealing with that woman on a deeper level, she WILL be exposed to the real you and when she sees that there is a huge divergence between you you are pretending to be and who you really are, she will flee. That's why you need to lay it down REAL and accept the fact that there are those who like you for you and those who don't. Playing by scripts might get you the short term benefit of a woman's affection for a little while, but it's not worth it in the long-term because you can never build something real by putting out the fake. One of the keys is to learn to like those women who like you. In order to do that, you must do two things. You must always put out your real personality, and two, you need to operate within your own pond. You have to deal with those women who like you for who you are and avoid dealing with those who you must get outside of who you are in order to get them, no matter how much you like them. You see, many men make that mistake. They really like some woman, so they do any and everything to impress her, and thus, they create a fake personality in order to garner her affection because she may not be keen on his real personality. Sooner or later, this guy will be exposed because you can only put up an act for so long. In the process, he will have missed out on the woman that was really for him because he was blasting all this fraudulence this whole time and attempting to convert someone who doesn't like his product. To put it simply, stop spending time trying to feed a steak to a vegetarian when there are so many voracious carnivores out there. You may really like a woman, but if she doesn't like you, stop wasting your time and instead take yourself somewhere else where you will really be valued for who you are.
Let's go deeper into this subject of 'women liking you.' Sometimes a woman likes you initially, but she eventually loses her savor for you. You can go and chase her around and try to win her over, but many of you have found that once she's gone and she 'lost that feeling', realize that it's gone. The main way to 'rekindle the flame', so to say is to avoid trying to do so. When you try to win her back over, she will ice you out. Just move on and if her feelings rekindle on her own and you feel like dealing with her, then cool, but otherwise, stop wasting your time. As you get older, one of the key things you learn is that it's what you avoid doing as much as it is what you actually do. You have to avoid wasting time and giving that precious substance to people who don't want it or who don't appreciate it.
Beerus
Banned
lol iite, but in all seriousness........... bytch burned mekeep it light, how's it going :good good. don't linger, be the first to leave. she gonna be texting you back in on time, trust me
I ain't even want to see her or talk to her ever again. Hope she just ignores me, cuz the thought of being wit her now makes me cringe 
I'ma go like all yall said keep it cool mellow. But as far as she goes(unless something came up really like a fam member dying or some shyt) this bytch is in the bushes.(shyt I could even bring myself to stood her up if anything were to happen just out of spite unless there was a good ass reason)I mean shyt At 18 years old I went to the movies with this chick after 4 tries, each time she hit a nikka up and said that she had to cancel like the morning of that day. On the 4th try i hit her by the phone, someone else answered the phone and said she wasn't there 3 days later she hits me up saying that she had lost her phone........ believable but
fukk no anyways we went, and it was kinda the first girl I sucesfully asked out so i was on some overely too much simp shyt(by my standards) and well i fukked it up. My grandma died around that time, I had to go to boston for the funeral, and well i was down n shyt. This chick is like well call me when u get there, did that... and she never answered. Saw her a few weeks after I came back and she was like I lost my phone...... see where I'm going? Well took her phone number and deleted that shyt as soon as she was gone(had given her my number but wit 2 digits changed). I really liked this chick, and 
she had me fukked up wit the cancellations and that shyt when my grandma died. This was the turning point for me, I don't give no chicks any inch of nothing, hence why I'd rather just tell this chick to kick fukking rocks and end anything even if its only once there cuz i don't trust these hoes. I ain't into the tolerating shyt business, once u play a nikka then its with her assLet's talk about another mental weakness that is being pushed on people these days and that is the issue of tolerance. We're told to be tolerant of this and that... but in reality, you need balance, and you should be just as intolerant as you are tolerant. What that means is you don't want to be no dude that lets anything slide and anything go in your atmosphere. Stop accepting bad behavior and demand your proper respect instead. As a man, you will be deemed as high worth not by your material possessions, although that can help, but rather by your actions. The more you are tolerant of in terms of bad behavior, the lower your value goes. What makes an institution like Yale so prestigious is that beyond the academic value and prestige it carries is that it is very hard to get in and if you don't measure up, you won't last long. A lot of guys are afraid of losing women by calling them out on bad behavior, but to the contrary, it shows you have high value unlike a lot of guys who let women run all over them... and let's be real, you can't lose nothing you ain't got, and if you don't got proper behavior from a woman, you don't have anything at all...
You got to man up and ensure that there is proper discipline and protocol being followed and that you are being given your due respect. If you are out on a date and she has her phone out and she's messaging all kinds of people, step up and tell her to put that away. Stop being tolerant of bad behavior and being all quiet and weak. If you don't value your own product, who will? If you don't value your time, why should she? With women, if they sense that you are a punk, aka they can run over and manipulate you, that's exactly what they will do. They constantly probe for weaknesses in men and if they find one, they will run with it. They do that because they want to be with a strong dude who is a survivor. You catch her playing little games with you, you need to set it on her.
And here is another thing. Learn to discipline your mind to like behavior over looks. Behavior FIRST. Realize that because you have some emotions for a woman, especially a pretty one, that that isn't love. That's just a nice feeling. You need to realize that because you have to have emotional control over yourself. If you get too caught up on looks, you will start letting these women pull fast ones on you and you'll be afraid to set her straight because you're afraid you'll 'lose her' and you will 'never find a woman as pretty as her again' or something lame along those lines. When a woman can abuse you, you turn into providerman, aka a financial resource who she will hang around, disrespect, use up and discard, all the while she is taking her premium behavior to another man.
You got to man up and ensure that there is proper discipline and protocol being followed and that you are being given your due respect. If you are out on a date and she has her phone out and she's messaging all kinds of people, step up and tell her to put that away. Stop being tolerant of bad behavior and being all quiet and weak. If you don't value your own product, who will? If you don't value your time, why should she? With women, if they sense that you are a punk, aka they can run over and manipulate you, that's exactly what they will do. They constantly probe for weaknesses in men and if they find one, they will run with it. They do that because they want to be with a strong dude who is a survivor. You catch her playing little games with you, you need to set it on her.
And here is another thing. Learn to discipline your mind to like behavior over looks. Behavior FIRST. Realize that because you have some emotions for a woman, especially a pretty one, that that isn't love. That's just a nice feeling. You need to realize that because you have to have emotional control over yourself. If you get too caught up on looks, you will start letting these women pull fast ones on you and you'll be afraid to set her straight because you're afraid you'll 'lose her' and you will 'never find a woman as pretty as her again' or something lame along those lines. When a woman can abuse you, you turn into providerman, aka a financial resource who she will hang around, disrespect, use up and discard, all the while she is taking her premium behavior to another man.
One more thing. Stop trying to impress women and stop trying to win them. Their job is to win YOU. I'm not saying not to approach women and talk to them, because if you don't, then you will never have any. What I am saying is to stop trying to earn a woman's affection... You just met her and you're taking her on shopping sprees and expensive dinners? Nah, that ain't hot. A lot of these rich dudes get a ton of attention from women, but they get put on the providerman side because they try to win these women over with materials instead of coming at women from an angle that she has to win you. You see, the big problem today is that most men are caterers. They sit back and think about what this or that girl they are dealing with likes. It's a corny mentality and it makes you look weak, and yes, she will pick up on it and bust bad.
You don't owe these women no dinner or shopping or any material gifts. What you do give them is some of your conversation and some of your presence and you see if she's digging it. A woman that likes you for you, it will be plain as day to see. The importance of what I'm talking about is a lot of catering dudes go so far as to even cater their conversation to women. They are constantly thinking about what a woman would 'like' to hear. This mentality will create an insecurity in a man to where how he feels about himself is contingent upon how SHE feels about him. Thus, she has power over him and he becomes the weaker one. Looking for a woman's approval and trying to make her like you is NOT what you should do as a man. That might sound strange when I told you to only deal with women who like you, but the distinction is simple. You have to deal with women who deal with you when you are being yourself. On the contrary, many men morph into another man to try to get a woman to like them. How can you ever be bigger than her if you are shifting your whole gameplan and who you are to cater to her tastes? If you are not bigger than a woman, she wont' be around for long. This is why you don't sit around thinking about whether a woman likes what you are saying or what you did or this and that. You got to be you at all times and see which ones take you for who you are.
On the subject of dinners and gifts... There is nothing wrong with buying a woman those things, but you should never let her DEMAND them from you, as if she had a price that you had to pay to be in her company. Those gifts are for a woman who has shown genuine affection and loyalty towards you... and a gift should always be appreciated. If she doesn't appreciate what you are doing for her, then no more for her.
You don't owe these women no dinner or shopping or any material gifts. What you do give them is some of your conversation and some of your presence and you see if she's digging it. A woman that likes you for you, it will be plain as day to see. The importance of what I'm talking about is a lot of catering dudes go so far as to even cater their conversation to women. They are constantly thinking about what a woman would 'like' to hear. This mentality will create an insecurity in a man to where how he feels about himself is contingent upon how SHE feels about him. Thus, she has power over him and he becomes the weaker one. Looking for a woman's approval and trying to make her like you is NOT what you should do as a man. That might sound strange when I told you to only deal with women who like you, but the distinction is simple. You have to deal with women who deal with you when you are being yourself. On the contrary, many men morph into another man to try to get a woman to like them. How can you ever be bigger than her if you are shifting your whole gameplan and who you are to cater to her tastes? If you are not bigger than a woman, she wont' be around for long. This is why you don't sit around thinking about whether a woman likes what you are saying or what you did or this and that. You got to be you at all times and see which ones take you for who you are.
On the subject of dinners and gifts... There is nothing wrong with buying a woman those things, but you should never let her DEMAND them from you, as if she had a price that you had to pay to be in her company. Those gifts are for a woman who has shown genuine affection and loyalty towards you... and a gift should always be appreciated. If she doesn't appreciate what you are doing for her, then no more for her.
Rocket Scientist
Superstar
Didnt Obama chase Michelle? I seen one poster in here say that or throw a shot towards that way 
Rocket Scientist
Superstar
When you think about it,thats why women love shoes so much.They can discard one with a snap of a finger and they can do men the same way.