Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

and to add, as a man who has been in a few horrible relationships and great ones, and ones that had red flags that I overlooked.

what i noticed about is when something like this pops up say for example your girl at a bar getting kissed on by another guy etc. its a sign to walk away, there is your opening to take your ball and go home, an opportunity to save you from more hurt along the way.

say your dating a girl , in the first month or so you find out she's still talking to her ex etc., you do nothing about it i won't be jealous their relationship is over. Instead of cutting the cord right then and there, you continue dating her then 6 or 7 months later, you find out she's cheating on you, if you severed the ties when the red flag popped up you would have saved yourself the immense pain of being cheated on and betrayed later on.


That's one thing I've learned whenever I see a red flag, something I don't like early on I'M GONE. It's my out, my get out of jail card, its telling me continuing in this relationship will lead to hurt pain and a dead end no thanks.


a personal story

When I met my ex fiance and we started dating, she just moved from russia to canada like 5 months prior. Anyways I found out she had a bf in russia she didn't even tell that she was moving to canada, it wasn't that serious etc., but she lied and just jetted.

So she was a liar and manipulator but I was like it ain't me, wellw ouldn't you know 3 years later she lied to me and had a abortion behind my back. There was my out early in the relationship but I turned the other way and continued on the path.

 

[smARTmouf]

And I don't know about you @Gus Money , but if you a real nikka like me when you get a girls number, you put that shyt in your cell phone and call it ASAP while you see her phone flash and you let her know that's YOUR number.

She's not true. Your homie needs to drift away and set up his rebound.

 

[DeuceZ]

eh in regards to the new year drama its either one of two things:
1 - She's telling the truth and thats how it went down
2 - She willfully made out with the dude and is scared one of her her friends or someone he knows gonna snitch so put her version out there first

which one actually happened depends on her character....

 

[Ohene]

seems funny to me. If it went down like she said as in she gave him a fake number to get away from him, she wouldn't have even brought it up or apologized for it. seems like she is feeling guilty about something. I could be wrong, but if I was your boy I'd be watchful.

this. like George Costanza said it isn't a lie if you believe it. Girls are A1 when it comes to conjuring up their own reasons for why something did happen, will happen or is happening. Cognitive gymnastics are a bytch

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Happy New Years brehs!

 

[Rocket Scientist]

You guys can send a text and get back a "k" all you want

 

[Fatboi1]

Nothing like New Year's drama. My dude's girlfriend is out of town, and tonight she went out with some old friends. She had been drinking a lot and there was a guy at the bar being pretty aggressive towards her. According to her, he forcibly kissed her a few times and he grabbed her arm as she was leaving and wouldn't let go until she gave him her number (she said she gave a fake one).

She doesn't go out much and I guess it was her first time drinking in a while so she was out of it, but she called my boy up right after it happened to apologize and explain that the dude forced himself on her. I could hear her on the phone and she seemed pretty sincere (didn't sound like she was crying though). My boy believes her story but he isn't sure what to do about this.

I'm not going to suggest that he dumps her seeing as she said the guy forced her into it, she called to apologize right after it happened, and the relationship seems to be going very well (before this obviously). They're both 24 and she's a respectable girl who holds him down, no red flags that I'm aware of.

Thoughts? What would you guys do if some dude forced himself on your girl like that when you weren't around, but she called to explain/apologize? Tricky shyt. I might make a thread on this.

: My nikka Gus money

Like others said, she definitely wouldn't have called if she wasn't guilty of something. Also you have to consider that even if she DIDN'T call that doesn't automatically mean she didn't do anything as some chicks are scandalous and sneaky as fukk. If that was me personally, I would've been interrogating ole girl and probably would've tossed her to the side. Most of these stories of chicks doing something that they don't claim accountability for have something in common: The guy usually lets her get away with shyt that seems minor at first but as time goes on escalates into "drama" that now puts them into a dilemma.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

As for women,you guys gotta stop paying attention.Go about your business,look fly,stay within your personality and you will notice them noticing you.Yes us men should initiate however at times we can be mistakenly fooled into thinking a woman is into us.Thats our ego talking.You have to KNOW if she is.Lets say you are in a supermarket and the same woman comes to your aisle numerous times and establishes eye contact with you and smiles.She is into you. You just have to know the signs.Its a built in intuition with us.We know when a woman likes us.Most woman ant gonna come out and say "Wow yo are so handsome here is my # and my heart".....doesnt work like that brehs.Everything out here is a game and its either you participate,get hurt etc or take a chance.Its 2014 brehs lets worry more about us,our paper then if a woman likes us.Cause whats meant to be with a young lady will be meant to be

 

[The Frozen One]

got friendzoned hard but at least i got a new friend out of it

went out last night .. cute girl waiting in line, my buddies told her they will get her in and pay for her. fukking simps. Inside, she started talking to me about sports. Even got her to buy me a shot. Talked for a while, danced with her on the dance floor. Then my buddy snatched her from me. I ignored her after that. She came to me later on and we started talking again. She told me i was a good guy so i turned her into a wingman. I told her to go break the ice for me with other girls, and she did and i got me a girls number.

We talked all night, i got her number too and she said she would like to hang out again, and doesn't want the impression of her dancing with my buddy clouding my mind. I harassed her about it a bit, and brought up that i'm a "nice guy" to tease her. She said guys that she meets just want to bang her and it's different for her that i'm not trying to fukk. She's still a virgin she said but i didn't push. If she can be a good wingman, i don't really care.

Should i hit her up or ignore?

 

[Gus Money]

Apparently she somehow got separated from her friends for a bit. I didn't ask him about that part. You guys made some good points but I can't see him dumping her. He's the type of dude who gives people second (and third) chances. I know I would have been furious about some shyt like this.

 

[DaRealness]

As for women,you guys gotta stop paying attention.Go about your business,look fly,stay within your personality and you will notice them noticing you.Yes us men should initiate however at times we can be mistakenly fooled into thinking a woman is into us.Thats our ego talking.You have to KNOW if she is.Lets say you are in a supermarket and the same woman comes to your aisle numerous times and establishes eye contact with you and smiles.She is into you. You just have to know the signs.Its a built in intuition with us.We know when a woman likes us.Most woman ant gonna come out and say "Wow yo are so handsome here is my # and my heart".....doesnt work like that brehs.Everything out here is a game and its either you participate,get hurt etc or take a chance.Its 2014 brehs lets worry more about us,our paper then if a woman likes us.Cause whats meant to be with a young lady will be meant to be

This is true. I was just talking to my friend yesterday about that and saying we (men in general) need to stop giving women all this attention because, young and old, they love to play these games where they make you THINK they're interested, but a lot of the time it's really just a ploy to get you to respond to them in order to feed their egos.

Sometimes we do get it wrong even when a chick is just being friendly and not playing games at all, however if you know your own self worth then that shyt wouldn't even matter anyway. You have to not respond until you know for sure she's into you. I have to pat myself on the back cos I've successfully resisted the urge to simp a few times over the holidays. I've vowed to not give away too much of myself and to always be the first one to end a conversation (granted, I back slided a couple of weeks ago, but oh well it happens.....) and to keep it brief with chicks. I've vowed not to wear my heart on sleeve for anyone and to turn down a chick's invitation if I'm not in the mood. I'm studying my certs, I'm gonna be hitting the gym at least four times a week no matter what and I'm going to pursue even more interests and read a couple of books a week. That's more than enough to keep a man busy. I've been going out a lot lately, but I'm also a homely guy too. If a chick wanna see me, she can drive her ass to my crib or I'll go out when I'M good and ready. Any chick I deal with is gonna be majorly disappointed if she thinks she's gonna get a ton of freebies and not do shyt. Nah, you wanna get with me, you gotta put in that work too. I'm a new breed of man and we ain't going for the okey doke and accommodating simp shyt no more.

Other than that, 2014 is 'me time'. I won't be readily available for no one.

#HOH

 

[DaRealness]

Apparently she somehow got separated from her friends for a bit. I didn't ask him about that part. You guys made some good points but I can't see him dumping her. He's the type of dude who gives people second (and third) chances. I know I would have been furious about some shyt like this.

 

[DaRealness]

got friendzoned hard but at least i got a new friend out of it

went out last night .. cute girl waiting in line, my buddies told her they will get her in and pay for her. fukking simps. Inside, she started talking to me about sports. Even got her to buy me a shot. Talked for a while, danced with her on the dance floor. Then my buddy snatched her from me. I ignored her after that. She came to me later on and we started talking again. She told me i was a good guy so i turned her into a wingman. I told her to go break the ice for me with other girls, and she did and i got me a girls number.

We talked all night, i got her number too and she said she would like to hang out again, and doesn't want the impression of her dancing with my buddy clouding my mind. I harassed her about it a bit, and brought up that i'm a "nice guy" to tease her. She said guys that she meets just want to bang her and it's different for her that i'm not trying to fukk. She's still a virgin she said but i didn't push. If she can be a good wingman, i don't really care.

Should i hit her up or ignore?

Hmmmm......

You can keep her around if you want. I remember a point Tariq Nasheed said that it's always good to have a pretty female friend or two on deck cos women love competition and it makes you more attractive in their eyes when they see that you're either wanted by other women or that you have the capability of being friends with a chick without taking it further.

Personally, I'd say exercise self discipline and not do anything sexually with this broad, but meet other chicks through her and expand your social network. However, you don't wanna get it to a point where you're RELYING on her for women you meet. Nothing wrong with a female 'friend'. If you both kick it and she's good peoples, then why not?

Just don't stay up all night gossiping with her on some 'guuuuuuuuurl' type shyt like you're one of her girlfriends though. You still have to establish yourself as a man no matter what your relationship with her is.....also, don't lend her no money or be her favour man either. If she tries to use you in any way, then it's bushes.

 

[DaRealness]

: My nikka Gus money

Like others said, she definitely wouldn't have called if she wasn't guilty of something. Also you have to consider that even if she DIDN'T call that doesn't automatically mean she didn't do anything as some chicks are scandalous and sneaky as fukk. If that was me personally, I would've been interrogating ole girl and probably would've tossed her to the side. Most of these stories of chicks doing something that they don't claim accountability for have something in common: The guy usually lets her get away with shyt that seems minor at first but as time goes on escalates into "drama" that now puts them into a dilemma.

The thing is, it shouldn't even be no damn dilemma in the first place. If a man respects himself he wouldn't even tolerate that shyt at all and would just kick a broad to the curb. Like my mother used to say, you give some people an inch, they'll take a yard.

Sometimes as men we ignore shyt until it multiplies and irreversibly installs itself into the relationship like cancer tumors....all because we don't want to rock the boat or be seen as getting too emotional and sensitive. fukk that.

Your woman has to KNOW that you're not the one to even be tested. Of course, both parties will always make mistakes as human beings, but some shyt has to be like a red card penalty on the football ('soccer' as you yanks call it) field - so big a foul that you just have to be sent off.

 

[The Frozen One]

Hmmmm......

You can keep her around if you want. I remember a point Tariq Nasheed said that it's always good to have a pretty female friend or two on deck cos women love competition and it makes you more attractive in their eyes when they see that you're either wanted by other women or that you have the capability of being friends with a chick without taking it further.

Personally, I'd say exercise self discipline and not do anything sexually with this broad, but meet other chicks through her and expand your social network. However, you don't wanna get it to a point where you're RELYING on her for women you meet. Nothing wrong with a female 'friend'. If you both kick it and she's good peoples, then why not?

Just don't stay up all night gossiping with her on some 'guuuuuuuuurl' type shyt like you're one of her girlfriends though. You still have to establish yourself as a man no matter what your relationship with her is.....also, don't lend her no money or be her favour man either. If she tries to use you in any way, then it's bushes.

hell no.. i helped my ex financially and it was a pain trying to get my money back, so i'm never giving money to any woman again.

With this chick i met, we talked till like 5 am in the morning. I got her to come back to the hotel we were staying. She didn't want to sleep though cause she was scared as fukk. I could understand. I just couldn't really tell if she was feeling me or not. I'll just wait to see if she contacts me. If not then .. no loss on my end.