Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

you proposed to a woman that told you she fukking moved to another continent without telling her boyfriend

when i found out my ex dumped her ex boyfriend and refused to give him back the tv he bought her i damn near dumped her, then i made her call him right then and there to give him his shyt back. had she told me something like this that would have been an immediate for me.

Be young and dumb because shes hot brehs

 

[karim]

Be young and dumb because shes hot brehs

nah, you really have to blame that one on yourself, not youth. i understand overlooking red flags, especially when you're young and inexperienced, but this one is not a red flag that is like an alarm going off. and considering how selfish and dishonest such behavior is, there must have been tons of other red flags too. so dating her is but proposing

 

[kevm3]

stop worrying about how to formulate your texts. if she doesn't respond, she is on some bullshyt and undesirable. this whole alpha men and beta men shyt is the male version of overanalyzing shyt

Exactly. Men need to stop catering to these broads. If she doesn't like how you're coming at her, then get up from around her. What in the world makes any broad so important that you need to hit her with this perfect blend of conversation that you need to read her mind in order to be able to know what it is? The reality is a lot of these women think way too highly of themselves and put themselves on queen status and will put you in peasant status if you let them... you go up to them and they might act like you need to come with this perfect conversation for them or else they won't give you time. If that's the case, tell her to beat it. She's not bringing enough value for you to try to figure out the right convo to 'win' her. If she comes with that stank attitude to what you say, then take your company elsewhere. All that figuring out the right blend of convo is for the birds. Say what you feel and either she will like it or she won't. If she is digging it, give her some mo' of it.

 

[The Frozen One]

Exactly. Men need to stop catering to these broads. If she doesn't like how you're coming at her, then get up from around her. What in the world makes any broad so important that you need to hit her with this perfect blend of conversation that you need to read her mind in order to be able to know what it is? The reality is a lot of these women think way too highly of themselves and put themselves on queen status and will put you in peasant status if you let them... you go up to them and they might act like you need to come with this perfect conversation for them or else they won't give you time. If that's the case, tell her to beat it. She's not bringing enough value for you to try to figure out the right convo to 'win' her. If she comes with that stank attitude to what you say, then take your company elsewhere. All that figuring out the right blend of convo is for the birds. Say what you feel and either she will like it or she won't. If she is digging it, give her some mo' of it.

How do you get to this mindset though? Like this other girl i was talking to, i immediately built enough attraction, and now she wants to meet me. But i don't give a crap about her cause she's not really that hot. But i'm just doing it for the experience Being in a LTR affects your game, i just need to get back in the game.

The other girl though, she's young and got a nice body. I'm attracted to her for sure, but i think the age gap is too much (she's 21) .. I just don't want to set something up only for her to flake.

 

[DaRealness]

You know what....just deal with chicks how you deal with ya average dude. You don't worry about what you say to the next man, you just say your piece and that's it. If you're a nice, laid back dude, then you gel with other dudes of a similar disposition. Likewise, if you're more of an extrovert and a bit more boisterous, then you'll bring in friends who are like that. If you and another dude get along, then you develop a male bond. If you don't then you just say fukk it and keep it moving. Why should it be any different with a chick? You think men 300 years ago were worrying about what to say to broads? Do you worry about how you sound to your auntie or your sister?

Look at it like this: When a group of kids who don't know each other are put in a room together, for example the children of adults at a party, don't they just start playing with each other straight away? It's only the adults in the next room at the party who are over thinking and over analysing shyt and get themselves worked up over strangers who are no better than they are....for what?

The best way to get abundance is to just be you, period. If you have self confidence without putting so much emphasis on what you think end results will be, then naturally everything else will just fall into play anyway.

When you think about it, we're just making ourselves nervous and anxious over nothing. Some of us act like we're going on stage to speak in front of an audience on a show being broadcast live around the world or something.

 

[kevm3]

Best way to get to that attitude I'm talking about is to just value yourself and realize you don't have to cater to stankin' attitudes. After you've talked to a few women where the conversation flows effortlessly, you just come to the realization that it's not always necessarily you that is holding up the conversation. Sometimes you just don't have chemistry with a woman or maybe she has a bad attitude or isn't talkative. You learn to stop wasting your time and to go looking for those who you click with.

 

[Shameonyou]

imma break it down like this...if a woman is into you, let her LET YOU KNOW first hand...the same way they expect us to be "honest" when most of us used to get in the friend zone and think they would wise up and like us later...nah that will never happen...so if YOU have to be honest with them...they gotta be honest with you....put her on the hot seat....yo baby im feeling u, are u feeling me? or do u just want me as a friend? Im not going to be friends with a woman if she not thinking relationship wise.....so if thats not how u see me, then tell me now.

dont waste your time trying to figure out if they like u, because if you do, you both will lose, but YOU as the man lose more because there is some chick out there that dont need to question her attraction...if the chick has to think about whether shes into you or not....its time for a trip to BUSHESVILLE

 

[Yagirlcheatinonus]

Tips on online dating?

 

[Turbulent]

How do you get to this mindset though?

by taking the proverbial red pill.

you have to accept the sacrifice. you have to manage your ego. acknowledge your emotion but put logic above it. you ha to not only understand on an intellectual level but more so internalize the concept that getting the girl is what you want but losing yourself or who you are as a man to get the girl is never worth it.
take some time to know yourself and what you stand for. establish your code, made by you, for you. you can draw inspiration from anyone or anything to establish that code but it's ultimately yours. That code becomes your personal constitution. not that it can't be changed but it shouldn't be changed out of convenience. once you've done that, live your life based on that code no matter what. never bend your code for a woman, money, your life, your social standing, nothing is worth sacrificing your principles.

After a while, you'll realize most people are subconsciously trying to get you to break your code. just think logically though. something you live by, she's trying to get you to disrespect. but what are you getting in exchange? p*ssy? her affection? sweet words and cooked meals? that's it? once you've done all that you'll realize they are not worth bowing down to. not worth worrying over(especially when you don't know them). not worth sweating. but you have to sacrifice to get there.


EDIT: the beauty of it is, you can apply this concept to different aspect of your life.

 

[TheArchitect]

You shouldn't see anything about YOU as a flaw, but an opportunity to stand out among the rest. You have to tailor your approach to what is natural and comfortable to you. If you step outside of your norm, it won't last and you'll end up with someone that isn't your speed anyway...You'll end up over your head and unhappy. I don't like wasting my time being unhappy and I'd imagine you wouldn't either. It's far more gratifying if a woman shows interest in you being you and not coming with a script or a role you think would bag her.
True...I realize that when I let things happen naturally rather than go by some silly "script", it tends to be more enjoyable AND successful. I was one of those cats that always thought you had to play a certain "role" to have success with women and if you didn't, you ain't getting laid period.
I'm not sure what your personality is like, but If she has shown any interest at all, when I go up their with my homies, I would make sure every interaction has some humor involved. I'd actually talk shyt to her to get her off that high horse her managerial position has her at. She probably thinks she is above you. And you have no shot out of the friend zone if that's the case. I would pull back some of your insults, sprinkle in a compliment...I'd say 70/30 insult to compliment ratio and see how she reacts.. If anything, you'll lower her defenses that you want to fukk her and make her insecure to the point where she would start to crave some validation from you... And before you know it, you're on a date..

Put it like this; do you know what a "Sigma"male is? That's pretty much what I am...except people tend to misjudge me as shy and quiet (which is fukkING AGGRAVATING) simply because I don't engage in their "small talk". I have a very sarcastic, snide sense of humor; so that isn't an issue for me. I no longer work there, but she didn't really seem like the type to lord it above others; then again I'd only worked with her for a couple of days.
But that's just me..

If she has shown no interest and you go up there drinking with your boys and just stare at her, she'll know you wanna fukk but you have no balls.
Thing is, it's one of those things where I can't really tell if she's interested or just one of those friendly types. I would catch her giving me looks; but not enough to necessarily jump the gun. Really, I just have to figure out how I can get some good "alone" time with her. It will be a bit difficult though, being she'll more than likely be on the clock....[/quote]

 

[TRUEST]

imma break it down like this...if a woman is into you, let her LET YOU KNOW first hand...the same way they expect us to be "honest" when most of us used to get in the friend zone and think they would wise up and like us later...nah that will never happen...so if YOU have to be honest with them...they gotta be honest with you....put her on the hot seat....yo baby im feeling u, are u feeling me? or do u just want me as a friend? Im not going to be friends with a woman if she not thinking relationship wise.....so if thats not how u see me, then tell me now.

dont waste your time trying to figure out if they like u, because if you do, you both will lose, but YOU as the man lose more because there is some chick out there that dont need to question her attraction...if the chick has to think about whether shes into you or not....its time for a trip to BUSHESVILLE

if you have to tell a woman to let you know if she likes you, i'm pretty sure she doesn't. the attraction a woman has for you falls under three categories:

1. omg, he's so hot, i wanna be around him all the time, i wanna have his babies etc. there's nothing he can say that will turn me off him.
2. he's cute. i'll talk to him here and there and wait for him to say some dumb shyt that'll turn me off
3. ehh. he's not bad looking. might fucck him at some point when i'm between boyfriends or when i'm bored.


If you want to know which category you fall under with any girl you're messing with, look back at your history wit the girl. how many times has she canceled a date on you? or rescheduled? if that number is greater than 1, and it's not because of something related to Work, or something else important that relates to family matters, yeah, you are most likely in category 2 or 3.

some guys knowinngly cope with being in category 2 or 3...mainly because these guys cant get any other women. i cant fault them. some folks just dont have luck with women for whatever reason...looks, height, personality...etc. but if you know you are in category 2 or 3, do yourself a favor and KILL ANY HOPE you have of ever making something serious out of a girl who barely likes u. use the relationship for what it is and keep ur emotions distant!

 

[Astroslik]

if you have to tell a woman to let you know if she likes you, i'm pretty sure she doesn't. the attraction a woman has for you falls under three categories:

1. omg, he's so hot, i wanna be around him all the time, i wanna have his babies etc. there's nothing he can say that will turn me off him.
2. he's cute. i'll talk to him here and there and wait for him to say some dumb shyt that'll turn me off
3. ehh. he's not bad looking. might fucck him at some point when i'm between boyfriends or when i'm bored.


If you want to know which category you fall under with any girl you're messing with, look back at your history wit the girl. how many times has she canceled a date on you? or rescheduled? if that number is greater than 1, and it's not because of something related to Work, or something else important that relates to family matters, yeah, you are most likely in category 2 or 3.

some guys knowinngly cope with being in category 2 or 3...mainly because these guys cant get any other women. i cant fault them. some folks just dont have luck with women for whatever reason...looks, height, personality...etc. but if you know you are in category 2 or 3, do yourself a favor and KILL ANY HOPE you have of ever making something serious out of a girl who barely likes u. use the relationship for what it is and keep ur emotions distant!

category 1 should be fixed but i agree

 

[Atlrocafella]

if you have to tell a woman to let you know if she likes you, i'm pretty sure she doesn't. the attraction a woman has for you falls under three categories:

1. omg, he's so hot, i wanna be around him all the time, i wanna have his babies etc. there's nothing he can say that will turn me off him.
2. he's cute. i'll talk to him here and there and wait for him to say some dumb shyt that'll turn me off
3. ehh. he's not bad looking. might fucck him at some point when i'm between boyfriends or when i'm bored.


If you want to know which category you fall under with any girl you're messing with, look back at your history wit the girl. how many times has she canceled a date on you? or rescheduled? if that number is greater than 1, and it's not because of something related to Work, or something else important that relates to family matters, yeah, you are most likely in category 2 or 3.

some guys knowinngly cope with being in category 2 or 3...mainly because these guys cant get any other women. i cant fault them. some folks just dont have luck with women for whatever reason...looks, height, personality...etc. but if you know you are in category 2 or 3, do yourself a favor and KILL ANY HOPE you have of ever making something serious out of a girl who barely likes u. use the relationship for what it is and keep ur emotions distant!

 

[CrossBones]

Nothing like New Year's drama. My dude's girlfriend is out of town, and tonight she went out with some old friends. She had been drinking a lot and there was a guy at the bar being pretty aggressive towards her. According to her, he forcibly kissed her a few times and he grabbed her arm as she was leaving and wouldn't let go until she gave him her number (she said she gave a fake one).



Thoughts? What would you guys do if some dude forced himself on your girl like that when you weren't around, but she called to explain/apologize? Tricky shyt. I might make a thread on this.

as far as "forcing her", thats only an excuse that women use when they dont want to accept their role in something they were a part of. if there was no gun to her head, than its more than likely that she wasnt "forced." repeatedly

we hear a lot about how cheating just "happens," it wasnt their fault and they didnt mean it, or they did it because they werent happy.


women know what boundries are. since they were young. and things dont just "happen", because at the least, even if they didnt start it, they let it get to a certain point. and sometimes repeatedly.

the homie 662 put up an article the other day, and in the comment section someone left this video ... I really dont remember the article unfortunately, but I was able to pull the video back up. this guy is a PUA, and he talks about how logic has to go out the window when hooking up with women, and that only pushing her emotional buttons is key to getting her to comply. hes low key also giving out a mini primer in the rationalizations people (women) use when cheating.



pretty much, what it is usually goes along the lines of - women cheat, but many try to make it look like it was involuntary or accidental on their part since it was a man that led them into it. they were caught up and got lost in the moment, or whatever. this line of thinking conveniently leaves out how a woman is well in her own rights to tell the man very sternly to stop what hes doing, the fact that she could just leave, and to top it off, she could choose to not even be in those types of setting where something like that is very likely to happen - yet thats for another topic. in here hes talking about pushing her buttons, and having her in the right setting.


with all the women these days leaving marriages and relationships due to being "bored" and not having their emotional needs fulfilled, I thought that this topic needed a little more light. this "counter logic" that the PUA applies here says a lot. people are very selfish these days, and this video has that glaring theme in it. it also reminded me about some posts in here a few days back where everyone was talking about trusting, cheating, lies, the rationalizations it can bring, and so forth. so this video has some truths


as a sidenote, I do not care at all for this strange haircut having, metrosexual dirtbag in the video, giving out PUA advice for stealing somebody elses girl, and some of the lowlife type of shyt he promotes. however, he gets it. this isnt a clean topic anyways. see he explains the "spinning of a girl", where you dizzy her up, and get her in your clutches. the importance of having your arms all over her. he mentions the uselessness of using rational thinking to get a response. then he talks about the power of charging her emotions. giving her those "tingles" is what most women gravitate towards anyways, because for all their cleverness and their games, if you can make her feel a certain way, its a wrap, and youve got her. even if for a moment. that can be all thats needed. long term marriage, a short term hook up, or a serious relationship it doesnt matter, it can go down. its also why you need to think about everything when looking at some shyt like the situation that your boy was in with his girl. people will be in a foul situation, and explain it to you in a way that makes them sound innocent. oldest trick in the book. yet it always takes two to tango.


you could start at 4:10 if youd like. at 12:39 you hear him get more into "emotional logic" and rationalizations. then he talks about, "can you trust that girl?" at 15:00. pretty good answer there, too.

 

[Medio]

tell me if you guys think this is odd..

i ignored this girl. then the day after she gave up I guess. I get a text saying 'hello'..
i text back a couple days later and they say 'sorry wrong number'. who text 'hello'? lmao

I don't know, seems a little odd to me. like i think it could be a friend of hers.
or it could just be an honest wrong number. she's 20.