Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Turbulent]

As much as we like to get on women, we got to turn the mirror to ourselves. Women go for swag, but we go for looks. We get on women for chasing this bad boy and trying to change him around, knowing he won't change, but how many of us go for that superfine broad and ignore just about everything about her personality, but think we can mold her into the woman we want? We see that super bad broad with that big booty and we tell ourselves we got to have her by any means necessary, but we ignore the fact that she has 10,000 dudes texting her. We ignore her scandalous club history. We ignore the fact that she hasn't been in a relationship that lasted more than 4 months her whole life... but we say we'll get her and then use our 'game' to morph her into miss loyal and miss sweet.

something about women you got to realize is that some are like dough and are actually moldable, while others have already came out the oven and are the way they are going to be. What happens if you try to take a cookie that's out the oven and try to remold it? It'll break. Some women are simply not moldable, and keeping them around when they have all the wrong characteristics is inviting disaster. You got this fine woman with ho characteristics, but you want to try to turn her into little miss pure? Disaster. We all would save a lot of time and problems by realizing that we invite either problems or pleasure by the women we invite into our lives, so it makes sense to learn to assess them to a high degree, and that includes taking looks out of the equation when making our character assessment.

great analogy

 

[MikelArteta]

damn brehs i need to make this thread my homepage. i just got out of a 2 year relationship and started dating again and forgot what the shyt was like . definitely caught oneitis and let a broad get in my head after a single date. so disappointed in myself.

oneitis a horrible disease.
Especially if oyu get out of a ltr and start dating right away your just looking to replace what you had. I've been there the rebound relationship. You have a great date and already planning the future, will we live together, how long this will go, i really like her etc. All the while you falling into oneitis and she has a profile up on pof and she has another 3-4 dates planned in the next week.

That's why I don't even like dating, i just call them "chill sessions". And I always do what I planned on doing anyways.

Look in all my life I can't even remember one bad date I had, but I've been on numerous dates where the other person never contacted me again or it was just one date and done. Zero expectations if it doesn't work out take it as a blessing.

I mentioned this before I went out with this chick a few times and I was starting to really like her, anyways she stopped replying to my text messages etc. i was like , anyways i google her name and her blog popped up and she was going through depression and was on pills, i counted my blessings. I didn't want to deal with that, but I would have never known maybe until i got so much more emotionally invested and it would have been harder to cut the cord.

Now if somethign doesnt work out early great probably a underlying reason I don't know yet. Could be she's chatting to her ex, or still in love with him, emotional problems, financial problems etc.

 

[MikelArteta]

Another thing to consider is that we need stop viewing rejection or lack of interest from a female as an L. You can't "lose" something you never had in the first place.

Just keep it pushing and you'll get over it very quickly.

count it as a blessing.

Think of your job right now, think of all the jobs you applied to and maybe got a interview, thought you did great and you had the job. However you never got it, but not getting those positions led to you getting your job now.

The same with dating, think of all the women you dated or rejection you faced just as jobs you applied to got that first interview (date), or a few interviews then didn't get the girl, don't think of it as an L, because when you do get that girl you are compatible with nand actually enjoy you will see all those rejection etc. were for a good reason.

 

[Reality]

I have to learn to battle that myself sometimes when I feel the inner simp trying to rear it's head. You meet a woman, you vibe so much that you imagine her being wifey and the mother of your kids before you even get to know her, then next thing you know, you don't hear from them again and you get all disappointed and pessimistic.

Just never allow yourself to get too easily attached and fall hard for any woman, even if the relationship is serious. You have to protect yourself emotionally at all times and always have options and don't put your all into one chick.

Plus another thing I've learned is that just because you and a chick have a lot in common doesn't necessarily mean you're right for each other or that anything is even going to happen. Just bear that in mind.

I'm of the mentality that if it doesn't happen it was for the best and that better will come.

oneitis a horrible disease.
Especially if oyu get out of a ltr and start dating right away your just looking to replace what you had. I've been there the rebound relationship. You have a great date and already planning the future, will we live together, how long this will go, i really like her etc. All the while you falling into oneitis and she has a profile up on pof and she has another 3-4 dates planned in the next week.

That's why I don't even like dating, i just call them "chill sessions". And I always do what I planned on doing anyways.

Look in all my life I can't even remember one bad date I had, but I've been on numerous dates where the other person never contacted me again or it was just one date and done. Zero expectations if it doesn't work out take it as a blessing.

I mentioned this before I went out with this chick a few times and I was starting to really like her, anyways she stopped replying to my text messages etc. i was like , anyways i google her name and her blog popped up and she was going through depression and was on pills, i counted my blessings. I didn't want to deal with that, but I would have never known maybe until i got so much more emotionally invested and it would have been harder to cut the cord.

Now if somethign doesnt work out early great probably a underlying reason I don't know yet. Could be she's chatting to her ex, or still in love with him, emotional problems, financial problems etc.

Yeah and I know better. i wouldn't even say I had oneitis in the sense of "I think I'm going to marry this chick and things are going to be great"...I had it in the sense of "This chick is fine, has a chill personality, and I don't want to lose this ONE opportunity". Now that I'm clearheaded it's obvious to me she just wanted to fukk and I didn't close. She was running her fingers through my hair and asking me when the last time I had sex was after we both told each other we'd just gotten out of relationships. told me she was tired after we made out and i didnt push through the obvious test. half-swedish/italian broad too . now shyt is cold and i dont necessarily blame her. i shouldve done what needed to be done. these really are the hardest fukking lessons to learn.

 

[MikelArteta]

@BonitaChelz

bless us

 

[JackM]

Never ask a chick why she "flaked" or "why she ain't text or call?".

Akk like dat bytch don't exist no mo' breh.

Then go get another bytch.

 

[TheArchitect]

I JUST realized what my biggest issue is with interacting with females at times....

You see, it's not the talking/convo part I'm no good at; it's MAKING THEM COMFORTABLE with me. I feel as if I lack a lot in those parts....any ideas?

 

[Medio]

I JUST realized what my biggest issue is with interacting with females at times....

You see, it's not the talking/convo part I'm no good at; it's MAKING THEM COMFORTABLE with me. I feel as if I lack a lot in those parts....any ideas?

One thing to do to make a girl comfortable is to make her laugh, when a girl is in a laughing mode she's in a comfort zone and in a sort of vulnerable state. Hopefully you can be somewhat funny.

 

[JackM]

Don't overthink ya interactions wit women. She either wit it or she ain't. If she ain't, on 2 tha next one.

 

[Spin]

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I JUST realized what my biggest issue is with interacting with females at times....

You see, it's not the talking/convo part I'm no good at; it's MAKING THEM COMFORTABLE with me. I feel as if I lack a lot in those parts....any ideas?

You have to get touchy with her ASAP. At first(Until you get used to doing it) it's going to feel awkward, but that is how she is going to get comfortable. You can start with a high five after she gives you a bit of information or answers a question. Literally you can feel them start to loosen up. It's not just high fives, but you can tap on her shoulder when you're making a point or pretending to be in deep thought about something. It's all unconscious communication and it's much more powerful than any words you can say.

Playful hugs can help you start to gauge if she's receptive or not. Once she is comfortable and you guys are vibing, you can sprinkle in little complements but you must keep pushing when you complement. Try holding her hand and going for kisses on the cheek. If she seems into it, then you know your chances are very good she will make out with you.

If you don't push physically, you will be constantly in your head thinking thinking if she likes you or not. Being physical also saves you a ton of time. If she isn't receptive, just move on to the next chick. Your Id rather a girl tell her friends "he's too touchy" than to be called "nice".

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

@BonitaChelz

bless us

Spoiler

I am all ears to any questions or anything anyone would like to know. I must respect ya'll space in here.

 

[JackM]

If you carry ya self like "I'm tha greatest pimp of all time"......ya won't have no problems wit women AT ALL playa.

 

[MikelArteta]

Spoiler

I am all ears to any questions or anything anyone would like to know. I must respect ya'll space in here.

Spoiler

have you ever dumped a "nice guy"?
do you ever think about a great ex you had, but you have to much pride to reach out?
do you emotionally detach before you a breh?
if you are really into a guy, how would you show him?
if you are really into a guy it doesn't matter what he does right, he can take you to mcdonalds on a first date and you'd still be into him right?

 

[MikelArteta]

You have t


You have to get touchy with her ASAP. At first(Until you get used to doing it) it's going to feel awkward, but that is how she is going to get comfortable. You can start with a high five after she gives you a bit of information or answers a question. Literally you can feel them start to loosen up. It's not just high fives, but you can tap on her shoulder when you're making a point or pretending to be in deep thought about something. It's all unconscious communication and it's much more powerful than any words you can say.

Playful hugs can help you start to gauge if she's receptive or not. Once she is comfortable and you guys are vibing, you can sprinkle in little complements but you must keep pushing when you complement. Try holding her hand and going for kisses on the cheek. If she seems into it, then you know your chances are very good she will make out with you.

If you don't push physically, you will be constantly in your head thinking thinking if she likes you or not. Being physical also saves you a ton of time. If she isn't receptive, just move on to the next chick. Your Id rather a girl tell her friends "he's too touchy" than to be called "nice".

yep and well if you don't move in say like a kiss or something you may be friendzoned fast.

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

Spoiler

have you ever dumped a "nice guy"? Yes I have But i'm also dating one
do you ever think about a great ex you had, but you have to much pride to reach out? Nope. If I want to reach out, I will.
do you emotionally detach before you a breh? Yes. i think all women do. You emotionally prepare your self for the severance so its not so severe.
if you are really into a guy, how would you show him? Firstly, by telling him. I am a conversationalist so I believe in using your words since people cant read minds. I would also invite him over for dinner or something... let me cater to you in a way. I would be affectionate and also genuinely try to get to know dude for who he is. If I am into you I will initiate contact via texting, or whatever and also reach out to spend time with you. I dont believe in waiting on dudes to reach out when the chick is the one with the interest. I have learned that sometimes you have to be assertive because often times, you all are unaware that we even like you.
if you are really into a guy it doesn't matter what he does right, he can take you to mcdonalds on a first date and you'd still be into him right? No. lol I can only be "so into" someone when I dont know you from a can of paint. So regardless of how much I "think" I like you, I expect you to dote on me and depending on how our early stages go, I may continue or I may not. And it does matter what he does. See, regardless of how much I like you... I have limits and boundaries. You cant just act an ass and thnk I wont yo ass.

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