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I'm still stuck on my ex help me out brehs
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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I'm still stuck on my ex help me out brehs
A woman would rather serve a king than be be catered to by a slave. In other words, she'd rather do things for a fly dude than spend time with a yes man who kisses her butt all the time.
When it comes to women you're talking to, bottom line is 'you can't lose what you ain't got." Just like medio talked about, it's corny when you're sitting around here agreeing with everything she says.. That's just wack behavior. Can you be mad at when women toss simps like that in the garbage can? They ain't nothing but fake yes men trying to agree themselves into some sex.
Once men get over the fear of 'losing a woman' or stop trying to win them over in the first place, then they'll be much more at ease. A man should place utmost importance on being who HE is over trying to win some woman. If she doesn't like who you are, oh well, there's another one that will. That's just a quick bye bye to a headache. When you stop trying to 'win women over' and come to the mindset that you are offering them an opportunity to experience who you are, then you will be much more confident in yourself. A mental mistake a lot of guys make is placing the terms of victory on whether a woman ends up liking you or not. That's giving her power over your being. You shouldn't feel validation over whether some woman likes you or not because you can't control that. You should feel validated if you stayed true to who you are and didn't compromise, even when you thought it might have gotten you some gain.
Your fundamental attitude is not to 'win a woman over'. It is to offer her an opportunity. The difference between the two mentalities is that the former puts the power in her court and makes her the prize to be obtained by 'any means necessary.' This will make you start to cater to her and shift your personality around in order to keep her around. It will make you weak. The latter is a mindset where you are being you and you offer her a chance to enter your realm, but you aren't changing a thing to please her. Either she likes what she sees or she can go elsewhere.
When it comes to women you're talking to, bottom line is 'you can't lose what you ain't got." Just like medio talked about, it's corny when you're sitting around here agreeing with everything she says.. That's just wack behavior. Can you be mad at when women toss simps like that in the garbage can? They ain't nothing but fake yes men trying to agree themselves into some sex.
Once men get over the fear of 'losing a woman' or stop trying to win them over in the first place, then they'll be much more at ease. A man should place utmost importance on being who HE is over trying to win some woman. If she doesn't like who you are, oh well, there's another one that will. That's just a quick bye bye to a headache. When you stop trying to 'win women over' and come to the mindset that you are offering them an opportunity to experience who you are, then you will be much more confident in yourself. A mental mistake a lot of guys make is placing the terms of victory on whether a woman ends up liking you or not. That's giving her power over your being. You shouldn't feel validation over whether some woman likes you or not because you can't control that. You should feel validated if you stayed true to who you are and didn't compromise, even when you thought it might have gotten you some gain.
Your fundamental attitude is not to 'win a woman over'. It is to offer her an opportunity. The difference between the two mentalities is that the former puts the power in her court and makes her the prize to be obtained by 'any means necessary.' This will make you start to cater to her and shift your personality around in order to keep her around. It will make you weak. The latter is a mindset where you are being you and you offer her a chance to enter your realm, but you aren't changing a thing to please her. Either she likes what she sees or she can go elsewhere.
Why?
How long has it been?
Are you in contact?
How long has it been?
Are you in contact?
When it's said and done, I can't get mad at a lot of these womens' actions. I'm not going to justify some of their garbage actions, but I'm not going to be mad at it because they are basically begging us to be masculine men in how they react to us.
We are being told to stop being emotional and stop playing pattycake... Get some business about ourselves when these broads throw that soft dude to the side. You know, that dude that sits around texting his woman lame stuff like, "i miss u sooo much 2day babez..." that dude who you never see once he gets a girl because he is hovering around her 24/7? These guys get dumped after a while. It tells you to stop being draped all over your woman and cut that weak, cupcaking lingo out.
Her putting mr. yes man in the friendzone? That's a great thing. Little else is more pathetic than a man who constantly shifts his viewpoint based upon the company he is in. She's dumping on these fake nice guys who won't help you when you're in need, but will appease and accommodate her without her even asking for it, and then be angry when his bait and switch tactics are denied.
Her dumping a man because he was 'always there' for her? Made time for her whenever she needed it? Stop being a lame who doesn't have any business about yourself. Stop being her little helper. She would rather 'be there' for you than the other away around. You should be out there hunting, making things happen, not being her on call psychologist and butler.
Her taking you for rent and hair and nails money and not reciprocating? Her telling you to stop being a sucker that gives out things nilly-willy.
Her talking disrespectful to you and being late for dinners or texting while on that date? Her telling you to stand up for yourself and stop being a punk that lets people run all over you.
I don't like how a lot of these women act, but when it comes down to it, if you respond to their actions correctly, it will make you a much better man for it. In other words, a woman is essentially telling you to stop minimizing your value as a man because she wants someone she can look up to.
We are being told to stop being emotional and stop playing pattycake... Get some business about ourselves when these broads throw that soft dude to the side. You know, that dude that sits around texting his woman lame stuff like, "i miss u sooo much 2day babez..." that dude who you never see once he gets a girl because he is hovering around her 24/7? These guys get dumped after a while. It tells you to stop being draped all over your woman and cut that weak, cupcaking lingo out.
Her putting mr. yes man in the friendzone? That's a great thing. Little else is more pathetic than a man who constantly shifts his viewpoint based upon the company he is in. She's dumping on these fake nice guys who won't help you when you're in need, but will appease and accommodate her without her even asking for it, and then be angry when his bait and switch tactics are denied.
Her dumping a man because he was 'always there' for her? Made time for her whenever she needed it? Stop being a lame who doesn't have any business about yourself. Stop being her little helper. She would rather 'be there' for you than the other away around. You should be out there hunting, making things happen, not being her on call psychologist and butler.
Her taking you for rent and hair and nails money and not reciprocating? Her telling you to stop being a sucker that gives out things nilly-willy.
Her talking disrespectful to you and being late for dinners or texting while on that date? Her telling you to stand up for yourself and stop being a punk that lets people run all over you.
I don't like how a lot of these women act, but when it comes down to it, if you respond to their actions correctly, it will make you a much better man for it. In other words, a woman is essentially telling you to stop minimizing your value as a man because she wants someone she can look up to.
DaRealness
I think very deeply
Even though im starting to like this one particular female more than the others, the roster will remain in tact 
92Inc
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it's been a year since we broke up
we were in contact but she has a new boyfriend, they have been together for a year.
I did text her yesterday but got no reply.
I saw her instagram she looks better than before
DaRealness
I think very deeply
it's been a year since we broke up
we were in contact but she has a new boyfriend, they have been together for a year.
I did text her yesterday but got no reply.
I saw her instagram she looks better than before
Never stay in contact after a breakup trust me I've been there.
Cut all contact now, time is the only healer
Stop checking social networks as well unless you want to keep on feeling worse.
Cut all contact now, time is the only healer
Stop checking social networks as well unless you want to keep on feeling worse.
it's been a year since we broke up
we were in contact but she has a new boyfriend, they have been together for a year.
I did text her yesterday but got no reply.
I saw her instagram she looks better than before
I. Say Nothing or be very concise.
A) If a chick dumps you through text message say nothing.B) If it's over the phone just say ok and I gotta go.c) if its face to face stay calm and slowly make your exit.
Why? Keep your emotions in check, the less you say the less of anything you say or do that you will regret later will happen.
Keeping your dignity is one of the biggest and best things you can do. Years later I still kick myself over writing a letter and sending it to a girl I was dating who dumped me. It will also make her ponder why isn't he crying, screaming, begging, getting angry, asking why etc.
2. Don't contact her ever again.
Everyone knows of the no contact rule and trust me it works, by not contacting her, fishing on facebook, twitter, instagram etc. for info. She will slowly but surely get smaller and smaller in your mind. I've been there a ex on my mind it seems 24/7, first thing when I wake up in the morning and the last thing at night. But by instilling No Contact she slowly started to disappear as every day went on.
3. Don't be friends with the ex
Exes only want to be friends to relieve their guilt, keep you as a backup in case the new dude doesn't work out and/or string you along to mess with your emotions. I was friends with an ex once and it set me back like almost 5 years of my life because emotions I thought were dead kept reappearing, just dead it cut the cord go your separate ways.
4. Go hardcore and disappear
I'm the type of person if the relationship was somewhat substantial to change my number so my heart ain't racing every time I get a text, or a phone call. To change my email, disable any social networking until I'm healed. From my personal experience this is the quickest and best way, there is zero chance if you take these steps of her contacting you which kills all the disgusting disease known as hope. I remember after a breakup I would constantly check my phone I did not want my ex to contact to me but a tiny part I guess would not have minded the ego boost if she cracked and text me or called. When I finally changed my number the release I felt was overwhelming. As for social networking, I remember I changed my number but a ex hit me up through facebook writing me a message begging for another chance.
5.Remove any pictures
Yep remove all pictures of you two you may have hanging around, nothing is worse than seeing a picture of you and your ex smiling by your bedside etc. Again if you can go hardcore, throw all those pictures in the trash, cut the cord now. This goes as well for deleting all pictures of your ex on your computer, yes even the nudes ones and any sex videos you made, now you can always put them on a usb and store it if you must, but why look at the past?
6. Let your emotions out.
As men we keep stuff inside, but trust me nothing is better than just venting whether it's writing on a piece of paper how you feel, talking to someone who has your back, even going to therapy. Let all that hate, angry, sadness, pain out. Make sure not to her though, NEVER LET YOUR EX KNOW YOUR EMOTIONS.
7. Travel
Travelling saved me when I was at my lowest point, sulking locked up in my room. A week away did wonders, being surrounded by beautiful women by the beach without any worries in the world opens your eyes and realize you'll be OK. That it's a big world out there with billions of women and the release you feel from just relaxing enjoying life is great.
8. Realize your ex isn't all that
As a man who has dated models, and beautiful women of different ethnicities sometimes the "damn will I ever get another broad that beautiful again " thoughts hit. Realize you did it once and you can do it again, hell there are hundreds of millions of women out there who look better than your ex if all you care about is looks, and there are tons of other women out there who will be much more compatible, so don't stress it at all. I remember after I broke up with my ex fiance I was like damn, she was so beautiful, she never wore makeup, barely dressed up but wherever she would go jaws would just drop would I ever get that again. I mean I wasn't even thinking of how much of a leech, conniving, horrible person my ex was to me just that she was the most beautiful girl in the world (in my eyes), and I'll never be that "lucky again". It's amazing how your ex could be straight horrible, offering nothing, in your mind you wished many times you could just go your separate ways. But once you are broken up your mind plays tricks on you and suddenly she is a 10/10. Realize your ex ain't that special, your mind is a powerful tool that is playing tricks on you.
9. Hit up relationship forums and read stories worse than yours!!
Wow you sick b*stard!!, Yup, you think you got it bad because your ex dumped you, or you found out your ex cheated, or you dumped her and your struggling why did I do that? Just hit up any relationship forum and read stories of 20 year marriages broken up, or 7 year relationships ended. Realize hey there are others going through this, my situation is not that special, I will get over this. And at least I wasn't married with 2 kids and now paying alimony and child support.
10. Learn from your Mistakes
Learning from your mistakes is key, maybe you didn't follow your gut. I remember in two relationships in my life, I had this feeling and ran into red flags early on when I should have walked away, but the sex was good, they were hot , I didn't want to hurt their feelings so I said screwed it, fell for them and then ended up getting burnt in the end.This taught me in future relationships when I see red flags, or get a feeling to start my engine and get out of there. Remember in all your past relationships the common denominator is YOU!!!
Summing it up BREHS!!!
It's up to you, how long you want to live and battle with the pain. Sad thing is most exes only want you back when you finally reach the point of no longer caring or wanting them back. I say wrote this earlier
A) If a chick dumps you through text message say nothing.B) If it's over the phone just say ok and I gotta go.c) if its face to face stay calm and slowly make your exit.
Why? Keep your emotions in check, the less you say the less of anything you say or do that you will regret later will happen.
Keeping your dignity is one of the biggest and best things you can do. Years later I still kick myself over writing a letter and sending it to a girl I was dating who dumped me. It will also make her ponder why isn't he crying, screaming, begging, getting angry, asking why etc.
2. Don't contact her ever again.
Everyone knows of the no contact rule and trust me it works, by not contacting her, fishing on facebook, twitter, instagram etc. for info. She will slowly but surely get smaller and smaller in your mind. I've been there a ex on my mind it seems 24/7, first thing when I wake up in the morning and the last thing at night. But by instilling No Contact she slowly started to disappear as every day went on.
3. Don't be friends with the ex
Exes only want to be friends to relieve their guilt, keep you as a backup in case the new dude doesn't work out and/or string you along to mess with your emotions. I was friends with an ex once and it set me back like almost 5 years of my life because emotions I thought were dead kept reappearing, just dead it cut the cord go your separate ways.
4. Go hardcore and disappear
I'm the type of person if the relationship was somewhat substantial to change my number so my heart ain't racing every time I get a text, or a phone call. To change my email, disable any social networking until I'm healed. From my personal experience this is the quickest and best way, there is zero chance if you take these steps of her contacting you which kills all the disgusting disease known as hope. I remember after a breakup I would constantly check my phone I did not want my ex to contact to me but a tiny part I guess would not have minded the ego boost if she cracked and text me or called. When I finally changed my number the release I felt was overwhelming. As for social networking, I remember I changed my number but a ex hit me up through facebook writing me a message begging for another chance.
5.Remove any pictures
Yep remove all pictures of you two you may have hanging around, nothing is worse than seeing a picture of you and your ex smiling by your bedside etc. Again if you can go hardcore, throw all those pictures in the trash, cut the cord now. This goes as well for deleting all pictures of your ex on your computer, yes even the nudes ones and any sex videos you made, now you can always put them on a usb and store it if you must, but why look at the past?
6. Let your emotions out.
As men we keep stuff inside, but trust me nothing is better than just venting whether it's writing on a piece of paper how you feel, talking to someone who has your back, even going to therapy. Let all that hate, angry, sadness, pain out. Make sure not to her though, NEVER LET YOUR EX KNOW YOUR EMOTIONS.
7. Travel
Travelling saved me when I was at my lowest point, sulking locked up in my room. A week away did wonders, being surrounded by beautiful women by the beach without any worries in the world opens your eyes and realize you'll be OK. That it's a big world out there with billions of women and the release you feel from just relaxing enjoying life is great.
8. Realize your ex isn't all that
As a man who has dated models, and beautiful women of different ethnicities sometimes the "damn will I ever get another broad that beautiful again " thoughts hit. Realize you did it once and you can do it again, hell there are hundreds of millions of women out there who look better than your ex if all you care about is looks, and there are tons of other women out there who will be much more compatible, so don't stress it at all. I remember after I broke up with my ex fiance I was like damn, she was so beautiful, she never wore makeup, barely dressed up but wherever she would go jaws would just drop would I ever get that again. I mean I wasn't even thinking of how much of a leech, conniving, horrible person my ex was to me just that she was the most beautiful girl in the world (in my eyes), and I'll never be that "lucky again". It's amazing how your ex could be straight horrible, offering nothing, in your mind you wished many times you could just go your separate ways. But once you are broken up your mind plays tricks on you and suddenly she is a 10/10. Realize your ex ain't that special, your mind is a powerful tool that is playing tricks on you.
9. Hit up relationship forums and read stories worse than yours!!
Wow you sick b*stard!!, Yup, you think you got it bad because your ex dumped you, or you found out your ex cheated, or you dumped her and your struggling why did I do that? Just hit up any relationship forum and read stories of 20 year marriages broken up, or 7 year relationships ended. Realize hey there are others going through this, my situation is not that special, I will get over this. And at least I wasn't married with 2 kids and now paying alimony and child support.
10. Learn from your Mistakes
Learning from your mistakes is key, maybe you didn't follow your gut. I remember in two relationships in my life, I had this feeling and ran into red flags early on when I should have walked away, but the sex was good, they were hot , I didn't want to hurt their feelings so I said screwed it, fell for them and then ended up getting burnt in the end.This taught me in future relationships when I see red flags, or get a feeling to start my engine and get out of there. Remember in all your past relationships the common denominator is YOU!!!
Summing it up BREHS!!!
It's up to you, how long you want to live and battle with the pain. Sad thing is most exes only want you back when you finally reach the point of no longer caring or wanting them back. I say wrote this earlier
it's been a year since we broke up
we were in contact but she has a new boyfriend, they have been together for a year.
I did text her yesterday but got no reply.
I saw her instagram she looks better than before
92Inc
Fear me
she said she low key misses me. And I'm
her favorite person to talk to
92Inc
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Her words say that
But she's sleeping, kissing and in a relationship with another man
But she's sleeping, kissing and in a relationship with another man
she said she low key misses me. And I'm
Its like I always say women will tell you whatever you want to hear to calm your fears.
92Inc
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and the fukk up part her nikka be cheating on her
, and she tells me all this