If you want to know what's going on with a lot of these women, you have to 'reverse the game' and find out the male equivalent. When women sort of pop in and out of your life, she is looking at you as the male equivalent of the 'fall-through woman'. In other words, you're the guy she hits up when all her other options get canceled, she has nothing to do, is bored and wants someone to entertain her. It's like how men are sitting home on Saturday, all the women he called declines to go out and can't make it, so he hits up the one he doesn't usually hit up to go chill... as soon as he gets entertainment or whatever from her, he ditches her and disappears because she wasn't really a prime option to him. Women who pop in and out of your life like that look at you as the male equivalent of a fall-through. In other words, you are inconsequential other than entertainment to them, so why would you entertain their notions? Most men are vagina vultures though, hoping to scavenge sex by any means necessary and are willing to take that disrespect in the 'hopes of' getting some. Women come across so many of these dudes that they start becoming conditioned to think they can hit up men at their whim and leave at their whim. The only way to get a woman to change her behavior is to let her know that there are repercussions for it. if you can't hit me up regularly, you aren't getting my time. if you can't come through the door with respect, the door will be locked.
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Most men are community colleges. They are willing to accept any woman no matter her behavior (grades). They're just grateful they have bodies in their presence. As a man of value, you want to be Ivy League, where you only accept top notch grades (great behavior). You can't come on campus unless you come correct. What makes Ivy Leagues able to command that respect is the perceived value of the education they offer. Their product is seen as high value, so people compete for that product, and that allows them to apply rigorous standards to those candidates that get admitted.
This is why I recommend putting women in the background and just handling your business. When you have your life together, you're taking trips, you're right with God, right with your family, right with your friends and you're enjoying every moment living, you have a very high value to women, and this high value will place you in a position to where you can demand a woman meet a high standard of criteria before she is allowed in your presence. On the other hand, if you're one of these thirsty guys that make it your mission to chase women and you never build value as a man,you'll never be able to command respect. You'll be able to demand it, but not command it because no woman will really want to deal with you.
This is why I recommend putting women in the background and just handling your business. When you have your life together, you're taking trips, you're right with God, right with your family, right with your friends and you're enjoying every moment living, you have a very high value to women, and this high value will place you in a position to where you can demand a woman meet a high standard of criteria before she is allowed in your presence. On the other hand, if you're one of these thirsty guys that make it your mission to chase women and you never build value as a man,you'll never be able to command respect. You'll be able to demand it, but not command it because no woman will really want to deal with you.
the naivety of women is what pisses me off the most about em. Like, if you gonne stop talkin to me or cheat on me with another dude..cool, that's on you. But then, you wanna try and get at me after the fact?
to me its saying subconsciously, shorty thinks your weak otherwise she wouldn't dare try to play you from the jump or wouldn't bother trying to talk to you again (meaning she was never interested in you in the first place).
How often do u hear stories of girl's who were the "ugly duckling" and homely looking in Highschool.....or fat and sloppy but later developed into a beautiful woman, have guys who shunned them come to them with no humility and try to ask them out....
Women have no shame......
"Oh yeah ur the skinny short guy who was in my physics class in college....I played u....had ur # and just hit u up for assignments...and had u hold my purse for me.....now 5 years later I meet u.....ur confidence is up...ur fly as hell.......gained about 40 to 50 pounds and look bulkier.....hmm let me try and pretend nothing happened in the past and I never had love for u
TheArchitect
All Star
Very true, but very depressing. Almost makes me wish I would wake up one day and be completely asexual. shyt ain't never worth it/ That shyt just comes off so disrespectful and despicable, and people just accept it. The ONLY thing right now that has me even looking at women anymore is my natural libido (which is way too high)....
Yeah, I'm very disoriented when it comes to women...
TheArchitect
All Star
This shyt right here.....that shyt INFURIATES me...I've completely shut out females (even when they try and speak to me again for whatever reason) cause of this shyt....the naivety of women is what pisses me off the most about em. Like, if you gonne stop talkin to me or cheat on me with another dude..cool, that's on you. But then, you wanna try and get at me after the fact?
to me its saying subconsciously, shorty thinks your weak otherwise she wouldn't dare try to play you from the jump or wouldn't bother trying to talk to you again (meaning she was never interested in you in the first place).
NormanConnors
Detroit/MSU Spartan Life
drop those stories breh
Don't consider it and don't do it.
Here's an example my.godson mom, she was dating this guy had pictures up on Facebook and everything , a week later I find out she's now engaged to her baby daddy.
For years and years this guy was the biggest loser, a cheater a liar. Always called her names etc., but once he "changed" and wanted back in she dumped the other dude.
And such is the case with many single moms out there.
Here's an example my.godson mom, she was dating this guy had pictures up on Facebook and everything , a week later I find out she's now engaged to her baby daddy.
For years and years this guy was the biggest loser, a cheater a liar. Always called her names etc., but once he "changed" and wanted back in she dumped the other dude.
And such is the case with many single moms out there.
NormanConnors
Detroit/MSU Spartan Life
oh i agree, been through and around the shyt myself, just curious about what other breh's have went through.
As I always say if she has a son and you are OK with being the third most important man in her life after her son and baby daddy then by all means.
Relationships are hard already with just you and a girl now add a child and another man and his family
I've dated a chick whose ex was in the picture and I ended up getting played, now imagine a ex in the picture who will always be in the picture because they share a child together.
Its just not worth it at all.
Now if she's a widow and her husband died in war, or of cancer that is a different scenario
Relationships are hard already with just you and a girl now add a child and another man and his family
I've dated a chick whose ex was in the picture and I ended up getting played, now imagine a ex in the picture who will always be in the picture because they share a child together.
Its just not worth it at all.
Now if she's a widow and her husband died in war, or of cancer that is a different scenario
This actually became my girlfriend lol. The Nigerian girl that moved to EnglandThese girls will try and test you smh.
So I bagged this girl 2 weeks ago on the intercity transit bus/train. And yesterday we went home on the bus together. I told my friend after leaving work to pick me up around 8:10 pm.
We on the bus and after a while this girl is telling me I have to take the city transit after with her (we live in the same area). Begging me and threatening to steal my backback otherwise.I took her ipad off her lap and begged her to steal my Bloomberg Markets magazine, Air Max 90s (gym shoes) and phone charger in the bag. Told the chick I have my friend picking me up...so its no way I'm wasting money and time on no damn transit. She pulls some if you dont come with me dont expect me to talk to you anymore.
"It's like that?" - Me
*She looks away out the window*
- Me
I ponder to myself...am I really gonna let this bish get away with this. I say hell no because if I was to even think about taking the transit she would try pulling that ultimatum shyt anytime she wants. Aint no way I was gonna set that tone and make her think it's acceptable. I pick up my phone...dial my boys number...
"Yo Tevin, I am 10 minutes away leave the crib now seen...aight cool *dial tone*" - Me
She stays silent the rest of the way and gives me silent treatment when we get off the bus. She then calls her mom and tells her shes gonna take a taxi home even though I told her my friend can drop her hoem (we all live in the same neighbourhood). Slient treatment continues and she goes into the station where you buy tickets to use the washroom. After exiting the washroom she sits down in there.
(If this girl really wanted to stop talkin to me she wouldnt have sat down...the taxis were waiting already, begging for someone to take em)
So I let her sit down telling myself when my friend comes ill offer a ride and if she ignores me...bouncing her. I actually like her so I decided to not cut her immediately. 10 minutes later she walks out and approaches a taxi. I call her over and she's tryna act sassy talmbout "What?
I simply wave my hand to come over...ask her why shes acting like this and notify her that her behaviour is uncessary.She says I'm annoying and some shyt..and I had her kill that noise saying that ultimatum wont work on my principle driven mentality. She takes it back and says that i aint annoying but I seem to think I'm special. I apologized for not giving in and acting like i'm holier than thou but tell her to stop acting like it isnt more convenient to take my friends whip home. I dont care how much money daddy is giving her...no reason to waste 20 on a taxi. Why would I inconvenience my friend and tell him to go home when hes doing me a favour
Moral of the story...stick to your vision brehs (MJ smiley below)
. Great girl
NormanConnors
Detroit/MSU Spartan Life
As I always say if she has a son and you are OK with being the third most important man in her life after her son and baby daddy then by all means.
Relationships are hard already with just you and a girl now add a child and another man and his family
I've dated a chick whose ex was in the picture and I ended up getting played, now imagine a ex in the picture who will always be in the picture because they share a child together.
Its just not worth it at all.
Now if she's a widow and her husband died in war, or of cancer that is a different scenario
These women get scarred by the babdy daddy man, i would even go out on a and limb and say the emotional abuse is far worst than the physical. To the point it creates a monster, they'll do all types of plotting even getting with a guy that's not really their type, whether it's race, height, weight etc to secure a future for that kid and herself.
Nigerian women 
This actually became my girlfriend lol. The Nigerian girl that moved to England
west africans especially Nigerians .>>> for the most part.Nigerian women
When they like you they dont hold nothing back. Even my dad said so (that they know what they want and go for it) so I know its not just me. They are often morally sound, respectful, compassionate and domestic.
DaRealness
I think very deeply
Bish done went Ice cold on a nikka, everything was all good, than the phone calls and text stop, and no returning of phone calls.
Not even going to try and figure out why, on to the next.
They get a kick out of this. Just like you, the old me would have been chasing them up and asking myself 'why?' which is exactly what they want you to do, but now I just leave them alone and don't give them second chances. Nothing better than when you've deleted their number and then they call you at a much later date and you're like "who's this?" because you don't recognise the number on the screen.
DaRealness
I think very deeply
Public disrespect is the worse. Earlier today in the store, this brotha in the same aisle as me answered his mobile phone, I guess the person wanted to speak to his woman, cos he told her who it was and she gave him this angry look and just snatched the phone out of his hand viciously all irritated while he was like 
. They had two young kids with them as well. 
. They had two young kids with them as well.