Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[CrossBones]

I hid my true self even to my mother.

Sometime i tell how i feel about topic and being hard on hoes.

She tells me i will never find a women talking like that.

She one of them new age
feminist
like most black women are today. If i was to be real and say 100 what i was thinking at all time to the opposite sex i would get goons called on me,cussed out ,slapped,talked about behind my back daily.

So i keep my true self to myself and let a comment slip every now and then but i play it off as a joke.

Hate having to live like this not keeping it 100 with the world.

all your mother is doing is trying to do is to prep you for a woman who thinks like her, ie a new age feminist. her advice / views on men and women will always reflect this, so just keep that in mind and dont take it to heart. you have to know whats good for you and what will make you happy, its not about doing whats going to make her happy - especially if thats going to mess you up. just know that shes trying her best, but its not always whats best for you



as for the other women, if they dont agree with your views then thats good. youre not compatible with em and so it shouldnt matter what they think. it makes it simple and that weeds them out early. just let em go and let em be.


also theres no need to get involved with drama queens, all that "Im brutally honest" shyt is done. having a big mouth that pisses people off is not some kind of great asset to be proud of. with you saying that they might get "goons called on you,cussed out ,slapped,talked about behind your back daily" youre obviously dealing with the wrong kinds of females anyways. theyll manipulate everything so you end up with a bunch of enemies you didnt even know of. thats why its a waste to get involved or even open up some kind of an issue with them.


curve them. see we dont argue with hoes. you can stay true to who you are, just dont talk about it much but be about it.


on top of that, if theyre going to get so mad about your words, then theres a good chance that the things you might want to say to them are probably hateful and angry.

all of that hate for them, its not good for you. and to be real with ya, its not going to change anything about them. if anything, itll make you weaker and itll ultimately waste your time. you cant dwell on shyt that makes you weak, you have to be able to find the solution and focus on that instead.

when it comes to your mom, friends, or women who are too loud, keep your beliefs so that you can hold them down, but not that its up for debate or something that everybody needs to talk about. try to keep some things seperate from them, and just do you

I only share something about myself and my opinions when theres a good, grown atmosphere with people who can show respect like I show it. otherwise, Im out. sometimes Ill just say I dont agree with something, and leave it at that. dont switch up who you are, just make a note of what kind of person they are, and move on.


Ive learned that its best if you dont put yourself out there and say too much to a lot of people. in the workplace particularly, its important to know how to deal with someone that you dont like or agree with. theres just a line, and you leave it there. theres only so far youll deal with them. youll learn how to get along without putting your beliefs in front of the person. because its not always about that. sometimes you only have to tolerate someone to a point, and then you just leave them alone. thats life. just be cool



the best thing to do with your ideals are to act on it. no need discussing all of your beliefs with everyone. using discretion is a good social tool, as some people just need to be left alone. you dont have to start a debate or share everything youre thinking about with everyone. that makes you into a topic for anyone to put their two cents into. it comes down to this; if they dont vibe with you, then you dont put much energy into them.

 

[CrossBones]

I'm at this point with this girl brehs it seems,

We've been talking since end of december and were both into each other and like hanging out. It seems to be that she doesn't want to be anything more serious as of now but she wants to at the same time, she did a lot of things to indicate that she is taking me seriously but says she wants to us to know each other better, she said she would should stop talking if I were to be talking to other girls. Then later talking with her out of spite she said we should talk to other people but I know she wasn't be all that serious saying that. I would be tight if she was talking to other nikkas and her the same with me. Is this time where the player mentality goes away or what of being scared to lose her? Last week my friend introduced me to this girl and she hit me up today, but I don't know what to do. Since I'm not official with this girl I can do what I want but will she really drop me, but I guess it's just my decision right now to decide.

yeah first things first, stop worrying about losing her. shes playing games right now. a lot of times women say "we should talk to other people" because someone else that shes feeling has shown interest in her, and shes already been talking to him.

on the real dog, shes back and forth with her words and stance. even if she wasnt talking to someone else, shes fukking with your head by trying to make it look like what its not. and youre gonna try to figure it out for her? what the hell is that? nah, we dont do female games. you shouldnt be looking too deep into it, and just realize that shes shoveling a lot of bullshyt on you right now.


understand, this is their primary weapon; confusion and concealment



go holla at that other chick. if this girl you are with right now wants you, then she'll come back realizing how dumb she sounded by pushing you off like that. I would have taken that as a curve from her. "oh, I should be talking to other girls now? word? cool."

 

[MikelArteta]

Men need to stop selling themselves first

heres a example we all know who katy perry is right, i mean katy perry is prob a top 5 singer at the moment in terms of popularity, sales, merit etc.

married some scrub english guy russell brand, thought she was having a happy marriage and she got the

" Russell texting her with: I AM DVRCING U K THX BYE"

if even a chick worth millions, many guys would at her, still got tossed to the curb who the hell does these average ass chicks with horrible credit and debt think they are?

 

[MikelArteta]

I'm at this point with this girl brehs it seems,

We've been talking since end of december and were both into each other and like hanging out. It seems to be that she doesn't want to be anything more serious as of now but she wants to at the same time, she did a lot of things to indicate that she is taking me seriously but says she wants to us to know each other better, she said she would should stop talking if I were to be talking to other girls. Then later talking with her out of spite she said we should talk to other people but I know she wasn't be all that serious saying that. I would be tight if she was talking to other nikkas and her the same with me. Is this time where the player mentality goes away or what of being scared to lose her? Last week my friend introduced me to this girl and she hit me up today, but I don't know what to do. Since I'm not official with this girl I can do what I want but will she really drop me, but I guess it's just my decision right now to decide.

talk to other people means
she is already talking to other people, or has someone who gives her the tingles you don't. This is what women do try and flip their guilt on you, Run forest RUN.

again if you were will smith, tyson beckford you think she would wait and take it slow, tell you to talk to other people?

as i always say if a girl is into you all this bs goes out the window,

 

[karim]

I'm at this point with this girl brehs it seems,

We've been talking since end of december and were both into each other and like hanging out. It seems to be that she doesn't want to be anything more serious as of now but she wants to at the same time, she did a lot of things to indicate that she is taking me seriously but says she wants to us to know each other better, she said she would should stop talking if I were to be talking to other girls. Then later talking with her out of spite she said we should talk to other people but I know she wasn't be all that serious saying that. I would be tight if she was talking to other nikkas and her the same with me. Is this time where the player mentality goes away or what of being scared to lose her? Last week my friend introduced me to this girl and she hit me up today, but I don't know what to do. Since I'm not official with this girl I can do what I want but will she really drop me, but I guess it's just my decision right now to decide.

Did you read anything that was written in here? and you damn well know that.

 

[Medio]

I know that's true, I've had the don't care to lose mentality for the whole time. I was just being myself with her and she seemed to like it.

But yea, if she doesn't want what I want and just wants to play games now that's not my fault if she misses out on me.

 

[Medio]

talk to other people means
she is already talking to other people, or has someone who gives her the tingles you don't. This is what women do try and flip their guilt on you, Run forest RUN.

again if you were will smith, tyson beckford you think she would wait and take it slow, tell you to talk to other people?

as i always say if a girl is into you all this bs goes out the window,

on some real spit though, I should've add this but before I even talked to her she was in a fading complicated relationship with this dude and she ended it a few days ago, they knew they were going to end up talking to other people cause she had no interest in him anymore, and the dude already knew about me. I knew this too. Then when I asked if she was serious about it she flipped out and said of course she is if she just did that.

 

[smARTmouf]

Yo, I might be telling on myself but this some real nikka shyt an IDAGAF..

is it just me that gets turned off when a woman ridicules a mans "junk"?

Like...Maybe you have a big ass twat... I can't see a woman that would not deal with a man because of his size as anything less than a ho waiting to happen..

She's completely controlled by the dikk and really shouldn't be trusted...

 

[MikelArteta]

on some real spit though, I should've add this but before I even talked to her she was in a fading complicated relationship with this dude and she ended it a few days ago, they knew they were going to end up talking to other people cause she had no interest in him anymore, and the dude already knew about me. I knew this too. Then when I asked if she was serious about it she flipped out and said of course she is if she just did that.

bounce man

 

[kevm3]

she's in a 'fading relationship', aka she's waiting for other males to show up before she gets rid of her current man, and you are one of the 'fall back' options. Think of the male equivalent. When a man wants a woman's favors but doesn't want to commit, he'll do all of that relationship stalling.. "well we're coo ma... I don't want to ruin our friendship. I just want to take this slow... yada yada." She likes your company, but she doesn't want to go exclusive with you because she wants to explore, and the fact you said she's in a 'fading relationship' shows what kind of mentality she has. She's 'just got out' of a relationship, but has been talking to you all this time? What do you think she'll do when she's with you? She'll have guys she's 'friends with' until she finds someone she feels is an upgrade, and then she'll need to have a 'talk' with you and will disappear and fade into her next relationship. as of right now, she just wants to keep you around as an option while she searches for whatever else, and if she doesn't find it, she will 'fall back' on you. remember, a cool conversation with a woman doesn't mean anything other than that. A woman that really wants to be with you, you almost got to beat her off with a stick.

 

[DaRealness]

If you're getting to know somebody and there's a whole bunch of 'maybe this, maybe that' then it's time to walk away and not let things develop any further. If a female wants to be with you, there wouldn't be a whole bunch of complications and talking all around the houses.

 

[kevm3]

I hid my true self even to my mother.

Sometime i tell how i feel about topic and being hard on hoes.

She tells me i will never find a women talking like that.

She one of them new age
feminist
like most black women are today. If i was to be real and say 100 what i was thinking at all time to the opposite sex i would get goons called on me,cussed out ,slapped,talked about behind my back daily.

So i keep my true self to myself and let a comment slip every now and then but i play it off as a joke.

Hate having to live like this not keeping it 100 with the world.

the mentality we have on this board really isn't common in real life. it's not really a mentality you tell to other people like that, but it's more along something you keep in your mind and use when making decisions. You tell someone else this, and they'll call you a misogynist, will tell you you won't ever have a woman and all kinds of other nonsense... but let them be the ones who spend 90% of their paycheck on a woman who doesn't appreciate none of it and is cheating on the side and using his money on the next dude. Let the next man struggle and stress when he comes home to his own house that he's paying for. it's better to be alone than with a woman that makes your life miserable. Honestly, I don't care to listen to much of what the 'older generation' has to say.

They're the ones that gave us the simped out advice that created all of these problems in the first place. They're the ones who told women they were princesses and deserved to be served and implanted the feminist mentality into these women, essentially making them near worthless when it comes to attracting a man. On the other hand, they are the ones who put a slave mentality, aka 'you needsss to be a gentleman' into men... so what do you have? You have these men who willingly rush to serve women without getting anything in return and you have entitled women who demand everything and give nothing back. You got to respect your elders, but you don't have to follow their mentality. Look at where the 'baby boom' generation has led us to. Countless wars, nation in debt we can't pay back, student loan debt on par with cc debt, plummeting marriage rates, etc. I can go on and on. If you follow the philosophies and plans laid out by the generation that led us into that, where do you think you'll end up?

 

[Rocket Scientist]

I seen this guy on a date on Super bowl Sunday....Something told me he submitted into doing this....lol

Sometimes you see shyt and jus ponder

Funny how women want attention but I bet not many dudes can contact their woman when "Scandal" comes on,

 

[Droopy]

Second time Ive been told that "you don't like black women and you will end up with with white women". Black women told me that based on my disdain for weave and attitudes.

Multiple black women have told me this too breh. I have nothing against women of other races at all, but the comment sort of rubbed me the wrong way. I think it's a very ignorant thing to say.

 

[Jone2three45]

Multiple black women have told me this too breh. I have nothing against women of other races at all, but the comment sort of rubbed me the wrong way. I think it's a very ignorant thing to say.

It def rubbed me the wrong way.
As I cannot picture myself being in a marrige and having children by a woman from another race. Women of African descent are my default choice. So when I hear them tell me shyt like that, it throws me off track a little.

First time I've heard it being said to me was when I was talking to this one girl. She said I'm not like normal brothers on campus. She knew I was mature for my age at the time(22), so she said I would end up with a white girl and that I need to go date them.

I think most black women get scared away when they come across a black man who is on or above there level intellectually and mature wise. Either that or that can't handle those type of black men like that. Which is why most of them go for the "ghetto" Homer Simpson type of black men, I.E. Thugs, rappers and athletes etc...

Recently,
I walked in on a group I women who are near 50 btw, having a conversation about me not dating black women with attitudes and weave. All the women had an issue by my preferences and said that I'm not going to end up with any black woman. There was one woman who overstood what I meant by my preferences. She had to tell the whole group that he will only love a black woman for "her" and he doesn't need a woman with all that fake get up, he just wants her to be her. The other women were still pissed about it though.

It is what it is though.