Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Again most women don't love you just what YOU CAN OFFER THEM.

Most exes would rather see u in despair alone and single. Ever wonder why they only pop up when you ignore them and they can't know how crappy your life is going.

Ever wonder why they want you back when you start dating again?


I know in my shoes only when my ex found out I was dating again did she dare message me telling me I was in her dreams.

When my heart was ripped open and I was feeling like crap for months all alone she didn't give a damn, as soon as I'm moving on now your thinking of me

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

My verbal game been slippin' lately.


This is soooo true when it comes to women... the less you try... the more you will succeed.


I be tryna spit dissertations and scientifically poetic analogies... and that shiit came off cornball as fukk cuz it went no where - and i always try to incorporate a punch or ironic conclusion that be having them *whoa* status. But the umph factor/clever word play has dissipated quite a bit (but don't chastize a fella... i was just tryna be fun, engaging and entertaining).


The real problem was that it was on the fly... like... shiit was orchestrated in advance or prescripted. That's why it came off all extra dull. Butter knife.



The things you lose and must refine and redefine when you're in a relationship. lol.


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[kevm3]

The only people that are impressed with the super advanced wordplay and witty lines are other dudes. It's just like having massive muscles. You think it would drive the women crazy, but more times than not, you will impress other dudes who talk about how hulked out you are. The less you 'try' the better you come off. Dudes that be trying to overdo it end up looking corny. Honestly, it's better to not care about impressing a woman at all. "if she likes me, she likes me."

 

[Days of Future Piff]

Having to put up a front to keep a woman around/impressed isn't worth it. You attempt to build any kind of relationship on something that isn't genuine, and it'll crumble.
This is why Jesus taught people to build upon the solid rock, and not upon the sand. When the storms come in your life, you're going to want genuine people around you who will keep you grounded-- not situational flakes who will as soon as you can't roll over, play dead, or do any more tricks to entertain them. Build with the women who are feeling you for you-- who will bring loyalty, encouragement, and virtue to the table, women that you can build something genuine with on a solid foundation.
Running around with a mask on your whole life isn't worth it, least of all for a woman who's only bringing one thingto the table, that you could easily buy off the street if that was all you really cared about.
Me personally, I don't need these masks. This isn't Zelda

 

[Jahmal]

This is soooo true when it comes to women... the less you try... the more you will succeed.

Posts like this is what made me make this thread below. The less I try, the more p*ssy I get..

http://www.thecoli.com/threads/how-many-of-you-have-stopped-taking-women-out-on-dates.206093/

 

[Dreamzeedream]

I salute every breh that's out there working on their self's rather it's ,mentally, physically or emotional or money wise.it aint about these women we gotta be happy with ourselves at the of the day

 

[kevm3]

Men keep getting the impression that you have to take women out and spend all this money on them because she is pretty or this and that. This pretty broad is human just like the unattractive one. She gets way more attention and can charge way more dudes, but she still has feelings like that unattractive one. There's still a couple of guys that she's just so into that she ain't going to think about charging.them. She just enjoys being in their presence so much. if she swings that dinner stuff at you, you're headed into provider category.

When it comes to women, they pretty much have two zones... There's the guy she deals with because she is thrilled by him and there's the guy she deals with because she wants someone to provide for her. She treats these guys completely different and will adjust how she acts depending on which category she wants to stuff you in. You've all seen it for yourselves. There's those women who always seem to come around and laugh at everything you do and always respond immediately if you text her. You don't have to put in any real effort. Then there's the ones who are kind of cold on you, they always end the convo first and they're not that interested... but you find them so fine you decide to step out of your zone and start trying to compensate in order for them to deal with you... That's when you start offering dinner and all of that other nonsense... and you end up on the losing team.
It's all about discipline. you have to stop yourself from going into compensation mode and learn to bail out on these women that are chilling out on you and go into that zone where you focus on the women who can't get enough of you.

 

[Days of Future Piff]

Life is too short to waste time and energy trying to convince someone who just doesn't want you.
The real about everything is that the women choose us. Some of them choose their dudes based on morals, their character, their relationship with God, on their responsibility, dependability, sincerity, etc.
Unfortunately, most western women today don't-- they look for men based on all sorts of other nonsense that has nothing to do with what's in that man's soul, and whether or not he's doing things right.

That's why I say that if a woman's complaining about her 88764 billion exes who cheated, she's really telling on herself. That's a red flag that she either has very poor character judgement or that she has a lot of qualities herself that attracts those type of dudes. What you bring to the table determines how people are going to treat you and the types of people you'll attract. You bring nothing to the table aside from what's between your legs (and a bunch of STD's, out-of-wedlock kids and baggage), then the dudes you attract will be a reflection of that-- they'll be players, dogs, scumbags, and thirsty simps who only want one thing.

The other big red flag are women who won't approach men. It's 2014 and you can work, vote, join the navy, fly to the moon, go to college, and run for president, but you can't go up to a man and introduce yourself?
If she can't care enough about her own happiness to attempt to initiate or build in any way, then how can you expect her to care about your happiness?
If a woman can complain about players and how there's no good men-- but she won't even speak to one?

Women who are drama-free and really about something real will NOTICE guys who are on something positive in terms of building to improve themselves and edifying others around them, and they'll pursue those guys. They'll be excited and pushing hard to build with you just like you're doing for them, because virtuous women and women of noble character know as well as we do that it's rare to find someone you click with well enough to want to spend the rest of their life with.
If she's not reciprocating or attempting to do anything to improve your life (assuming you're doing the same for her) then you don't need her-- don't waste your time.
Save your energy for righteous women of noble character who value loyalty, reciprocation, family-building, communication, mutual respect, and encouragement, who will be in your corner through the good and the bad times, whether you're sick, whether you're broke, etc. Women who are serious about building something real and are really going to hold you down and improve your life. These hoes in the club aren't worth it.

 

[Thegospel]

Do y'all nikkas want to be players or want to be one woman guys? Thread is confusing because it seems like a lot of you want real women and want to fukk 100 bytches at the same time.

 

[kevm3]

Maintaining your character and who you are is what is very difficult in this day and age. By being this shape-shifting, morphing dude, yeah you can get more attention up front, but in the long-run, but it's not worth it when you end up losing yourself because you've spent so long being someone else that you forgot who you are. Also, you will miss out on the woman that genuinely would have liked you for you because she is getting that fake image that you are putting up instead of your real personality, so she never had a chance to experience the real you.

It's easy to compromise your character, but manhood means stepping above what is immediately pleasurable and operating on principle. For example, if you are a man of God and you look out in this dating scene, you will see a lot of women giving it up real easy. You can choose to compromise your morals and join the fray or you can stand strong and let everybody do them while you look for the woman who fits your lifestyle.
Dealing with women is cool, but when it comes down to it, you have to operate by principles. All the short-term pleasure will come and go, but you will have to eventually look back on your life and see if you stood strong on what you professed to believe.

 

[kevm3]

Do y'all nikkas want to be players or want to be one woman guys? Thread is confusing because it seems like a lot of you want real women and want to fukk 100 bytches at the same time.

This thread is full of men with different perspectives and different desires. You have guys that are more on the player oriented tip who want to smash as many women as possible and you have others who want the 'one woman'.

 

[Sincere Noble]

Typical parasite right here, comment section is gold:

http://www.yelp.com/topic/los-angeles-should-my-boyfriend-charge-me-rent

"My boyfriend of three years who makes over 100K per year,( his last bonus was 13K )and he owns his home, recently offered to let me move in. I am a recently unemployed sales rep, who on average when working makes high 40-mid 50K. My Boyfriend counter offers the move in with "you can pay the same that your paying now to your current roommate, I wouldn't ask you for anymore than that". I calmly said I would think it over, but feel just sick to my stomach. I feel any romance to the situation was out the window, we have spoke of children and getting married someday. Will he turn to me while I am in labor and say " Oh yeah, rents due!". I am not a girlfriend who just takes, for two whole years we went dutch and I still offer to pay and buy things with out being asked. Please also keep in mind I am recently unemployed, where is the helping hand here? OK YELPERS, LET ME HAVE IT...AM I WRONG TO FEEL THIS WAY?"

Im just......WOW at some of those comments. My man isn't doing nothing wrong but wanting his woman, that he is not married to, that the relationship can go sour at any time, to basically do what she was doing when she had the roommate. I'm sure he calculated it down to what she can afford to pay in rent with her part time job.

SMH at some of those broad comments, "well, now she can withhold sex,". "He was talking about marriage so he should be more understanding and help out".

 

[Shadow King]

Do y'all nikkas want to be players or want to be one woman guys? Thread is confusing because it seems like a lot of you want real women and want to fukk 100 bytches at the same time.

What if you want a couple girls to chill and fukk? Not full-blown girlfriends but not necessarily 2 AM jumpoffs either.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

I'm into astrology and was reading my horoscope and had a good laugh at this......Get Married Brehs. Sad

http://www.creators.com/lifestylefeatures/horoscopes/horoscopes-by-holiday/mercury-goes-direct.html

ASTROLOGICAL QUESTIONS: "I'm a Leo who is married to a Pisces man whom I love but am not in love with. We have two children, ages 6 and 10. I find myself attracted to others, but never act on those feelings. I fantasize about being divorced even though there is basically nothing terribly wrong with my husband. I just can't help but think I could be happy, truly happy, with someone else. What do you think I should do?"

Mars in Libra right now is highlighting all the work that goes into partnerships to make them function properly. In your case, the work is forbearance and maturity. Your fire-sign nature craves excitement, but no long marriage is going to be exciting all of the time. Or even half of the time. Or even weekly.

There's something bigger at stake here, and if you ruin it by giving in to basically immature and selfish impulses, it will be a mistake that you will find difficult to forgive yourself for.

The answer may be to find other ways to bring pleasure and excitement into your life: new work, travel, a hobby, a challenge. You are due for some adventures, so make them happen. As for "truly happy," that usually comes from making decisions you can truly stand behind.

 

[kevm3]

Im just......WOW at some of those comments. My man isn't doing nothing wrong but wanting his woman, that he is not married to, that the relationship can go sour at any time, to basically do what she was doing when she had the roommate. I'm sure he calculated it down to what she can afford to pay in rent with her part time job.

SMH at some of those broad comments, "well, now she can withhold sex,". "He was talking about marriage so he should be more understanding and help out".

The dude was smart. If you read in another one of those comments, she says she 'saves like a squirrel', so obviously she has some savings. She just doesn't want to come out of pocket. Her moving in because she's out of a job will eventually turn into her living there permanently, because she won't want to leave even after she finds a job, and if he doesn't establish her paying up front he won't ever be able to get it her to pay her share. She'll just say, "Oh I'm your girl. How could you think of charging me rent?"

It's a sly move or her to move in and live rent-free. When she's in there living rent free, she'll be able to stack up all her paper while he's paying for the majority of things, and ultimately, she'll have more control over the house than he will... say for example he wants to throw her out and she calls the cops and makes up a domestic violence incident, and now he has to leave his own house. It's a lot easier to move a woman in than it is to get her out.