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The last point you made is also powerful. They are NOT worth chasing. What do they bring to the table? You are expected to be strong, a leader, entertaining and all of that, but as soon as you suggest they do something feminine, they got 5,000 excuses as to why they can't or won't do that.

On the other hand, they'll grind that booty on random dudes in the club, get sprayed with champagne bottles, get banged out by numerous dudes, but none of that is disrespectful... but cooking for your man is. They don't have excuses for holding some dope or pistols for thug man, but ironing her man's shirt... no, can't do that.

and then they want to wait until they are in the 30s and try to play that commitment game after they've been banged out, busted and disgusted. who wants to pay for something that someone else got for free AND in better condition? Only a doggone sucker. and even worse, these women ain't even accepting their simp's last name. They'll put a dash behind it, and that dash is the perfect symbol of what will happen in about 5 years when she's bored. She'll be hitting the 100 yard dash with as much cash as she can grab.

So bottom line is, what in the world are negroes putting in all this effort for, thinking of the perfect strategy to become the man of what women like or what attracts women. In reality, they should be having that conversation about YOU, but how often do you hear women talk about how to make their man the best sandwiches or pastries he ever tasted or how to massage her man to put him at ease? Make these women step it up.
 

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So breha, my ex chick who would never hit me up unless I hit her first been hitting me up occasionally the past 2 months.
Last week she hit my phone calling me hun and saying she miss talking to me.
Yesterday she said the same thing and I said I KNOW. She put HUH I said YOU TOLD ME LAST WEEK.
She put a sadface smiley and said nevermind and I stopped texting. :yeshrug:

What yall think is going on? :patrice:
Hoe I heard you last week when you said you miss talking to me.

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She is bored and just wants attention. block her number!
 

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You guys are spitting the truth. I have a story that relates to this about something that happened recently.

Basically, during school I met a girl named ... lets just say Rosie. I've graduated this year and she has two years left. Outside of school she lives about 45 mins easy of my city. After a while of getting to know me she really started feeling me and I was feeling her a little to. She made her feelings known and Ialthough she has some good qualities (mainly physical) i concluded that because of her religion, my busyness with school, and my general propensity to make sure I know a girl is worth it before I commit I decided to sag off. I'm Catholic but not overly religious and she used to basically comment about how she feels she HAS to marry a muslim man (so why waste my time right?) On top of that she is a virgin and while I have no problem with that I'm not sacrificing p*ssy for a relationship unless I KNOW she is worth it. And you can almost never know but I digress.

So there are two chapters to this story and those reading will have to bear with me. I broke my ankle about five weeks ago and the first chapter was her hitting me up while I was taking time off work just to catch up and what not. She started asking questions about my love life and what not saying she has a right to know as my "friend". I cut that out and told her if she had some boy issues she wanted to ask me about then she can go ahead. After all I had nothing better to do cause I was crippled and home alone. Like @EQ. alluded I like to get to know about how girls think and listen to their BS sometimes. So she called and we spoke about it and this relates to what EQ and @kevm3 said about the irrationality/contradictions/delusion these women have. Essentially the story was about getting hooked up with some dude through one of her guy friends that goes to our university. She thought he was cute and they started DMing over twitter but she was worried why he hasnt asked for the number over Twitter and has become distant. Furthermore she told me that she had seen pics of him with another girl in his Twitter display pic/IG/snapchat or some combo of those. The friend that hooked it up said that he kinda sagged off because he felt that she wanted something serious. She asked her friends and they were telling her stuff like, "take long to reply to him" and other foolery :rolleyes:.

I know this girl and know shes one of those fairy tale minded chicks. She wants to marry when shes like 23 (shes 20 years old now :mjlol:) and doesnt like the dating game. She wants a serious relationship NOW. So I tell this girl "He apparently doesnt want something serious and here you are still worrying about him and trying to play SMS games so that hell try to pursue you harder? Whats the point of that? If you guys have different mindsets then hes not right for you and you should leave him alone." I break it down further and she sees where I'm coming from. Something so simple yet she couldnt see it :heh: Anyways we continue talking and I guess she remembers what its like to deal with a real nikka and catches more vapors. Theres more to the story but ill stop there and skip to chapter 2 which has to do with my broken ankle.

So after a while, day or so later this girl asks when I'm going to take her out cause I guess she's feeling me again. I know shes kinda joking and usually I would :childplease: at that time of comment but again I'm bored at home with a broken ankle so I entertain it for fun. I say I have a broken ankle remember...but if you are willing to come to my city (she drives) then perhaps, otherwise when I heal. She says I must meet her halfway and not let a broken ankle keep me from seeing her. I say "Youre underestimating how hard it is to navigate with crutches/a broken ankle. After all I didnt take 2 weeks off work (in an office at that) for no reason." The implication is im in pain and I'm thinking is this bytch serious :dwillhuh: :mjlol: She really expects me to take public transit on a broken ankle to meet her halfway AND presumably pay ?!?!

So she says something like, "oh well" and I keep it moving. 3 or so weeks later she brings it up again and I am at work reading like, "this girl was actually serious :why:?" I repeat what I said and proceed to distance my self from this bird as a whole cause I'm sensing some serious entitlement and selfishness. 5 days later apparently, she messages me asking why we havent spoke. Rather than ignore her, out of respect I basically show her why I naturally "fell back" and of course she marginalizes the issue. Instead of seeing how it may make her look selfish and like a bytch she thinks I simply stopped talking to her cause I said to meet her halfway :mjlol: to be continued below
 

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So I break the situation down and basically tell her that 60 minutes (an extra 20 mins from Toronto where shed want to meet) is not a far distance. She tirades, says some bs about you dont care, youre acting non-chalant yadayadayada and then adds, "and why would I drive 60 mins for somebody. Who does that?"

:laff:

Hilarious. So I CALL HER AND BREAK IT THE fukk DOWN so she will see how stupid she's being. Cliff notes:
---She'd never drive 60 mins for somebody...including a dude she likes but if we were hypothetically a couple I'd have to travel about 60 mins on avg to visit her near our schools campus.

----Shed never drive 60 mins, but shed expect a nikka to meet her halfway walking with crutches on a broken ankle using the Subway, and two city buses for a total of 3 hours estimated :wow: and then probably 4 hrs in the night.

----This is the same bytch who always talks about reciprocation not knowing how juvenile she sounds and how reciprocation actually works. I used an example of my past relationship to show her how a good relationship was built and why her thinking will lead down a terrible path of loneliness and rejection from dudes like me/on my level.

I then asked...so would you drive that extra 20 mins or not? And she kept saying I dont know (obviously afraid to admit shes wrong). So I told her, for future reference I advise you to drive that extra 20 mins for a person youre interested in and got off the phone.

90+ mins later I get an apology text :blessed:

You see brehs. I know I probably bored you with this story but you can see what the heads of my and our generation are dealing with. There is absolutely NO LOGIC when it comes to the way women think. PERIOD. The majority possess an inability to be introspective and empathetic. Instead of figuring why somebody may act towards them a certain way and what they mayve done wrong its always your fault. Furthermore they are always dismissive if something doesnt go their way as someone else has said. I shouldnt have even had to break down the situation like I did because it was common sense. Humanity. God bless whoever runs up in that. :smh:
 

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The last point you made is also powerful. They are NOT worth chasing. What do they bring to the table? You are expected to be strong, a leader, entertaining and all of that, but as soon as you suggest they do something feminine, they got 5,000 excuses as to why they can't or won't do that.

On the other hand, they'll grind that booty on random dudes in the club, get sprayed with champagne bottles, get banged out by numerous dudes, but none of that is disrespectful... but cooking for your man is. They don't have excuses for holding some dope or pistols for thug man, but ironing her man's shirt... no, can't do that.

and then they want to wait until they are in the 30s and try to play that commitment game after they've been banged out, busted and disgusted. who wants to pay for something that someone else got for free AND in better condition? Only a doggone sucker. and even worse, these women ain't even accepting their simp's last name. They'll put a dash behind it, and that dash is the perfect symbol of what will happen in about 5 years when she's bored. She'll be hitting the 100 yard dash with as much cash as she can grab.

So bottom line is, what in the world are negroes putting in all this effort for, thinking of the perfect strategy to become the man of what women like or what attracts women. In reality, they should be having that conversation about YOU, but how often do you hear women talk about how to make their man the best sandwiches or pastries he ever tasted or how to massage her man to put him at ease? Make these women step it up.


sadly the average women out there

18-28 some if not all of drugs, drinking, clubbing, sleeping around, cheating on her bf, child out of wedlock

28 and up - had my fun and want to settle down, where are all the nice guys, sick of the games

you can see it on dating sites as well

women 18-25 just want to hang out and casual date
women 25-28 want to date
women 28a nd up just want long term
 
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So I break the situation down and basically tell her that 60 minutes (an extra 20 mins from Toronto where shed want to meet) is not a far distance. She tirades, says some bs about you dont care, youre acting non-chalant yadayadayada and then adds, "and why would I drive 60 mins for somebody. Who does that?"

:laff:

Hilarious. So I CALL HER AND BREAK IT THE fukk DOWN so she will see how stupid she's being. Cliff notes:
---She'd never drive 60 mins for somebody...including a dude she likes but if we were hypothetically a couple I'd have to travel about 60 mins on avg to visit her near our schools campus.

----Shed never drive 60 mins, but shed expect a nikka to meet her halfway walking with crutches on a broken ankle using the Subway, and two city buses for a total of 3 hours estimated :wow: and then probably 4 hrs in the night.

----This is the same bytch who always talks about reciprocation not knowing how juvenile she sounds and how reciprocation actually works. I used an example of my past relationship to show her how a good relationship was built and why her thinking will lead down a terrible path of loneliness and rejection from dudes like me/on my level.

I then asked...so would you drive that extra 20 mins or not? And she kept saying I dont know (obviously afraid to admit shes wrong). So I told her, for future reference I advise you to drive that extra 20 mins for a person youre interested in and got off the phone.

90+ mins later I get an apology text :blessed:

You see brehs. I know I probably bored you with this story but you can see what the heads of my and our generation are dealing with. There is absolutely NO LOGIC when it comes to the way women think. PERIOD. The majority possess an inability to be introspective and empathetic. Instead of figuring why somebody may act towards them a certain way and what they mayve done wrong its always your fault. Furthermore they are always dismissive if something doesnt go their way as someone else has said. I shouldnt have even had to break down the situation like I did because it was common sense. Humanity. God bless whoever runs up in that. :smh:

I would have just ignored the bytch and kept it moving...
 

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So breha, my ex chick who would never hit me up unless I hit her first been hitting me up occasionally the past 2 months.
Last week she hit my phone calling me hun and saying she miss talking to me.
Yesterday she said the same thing and I said I KNOW. She put HUH I said YOU TOLD ME LAST WEEK.
She put a sadface smiley and said nevermind and I stopped texting. :yeshrug:

What yall think is going on? :patrice:
Hoe I heard you last week when you said you miss talking to me.

@Emperor_ReinScarf @Jahmal
you are too worried about what these girls want/are thinking/are feeling. you're not worried enough about what you want.

what do you want from her? keep it real with yourself. and if you don't want anything, why are you entertaining her?
 

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So I break the situation down and basically tell her that 60 minutes (an extra 20 mins from Toronto where shed want to meet) is not a far distance. She tirades, says some bs about you dont care, youre acting non-chalant yadayadayada and then adds, "and why would I drive 60 mins for somebody. Who does that?"

:laff:

Hilarious. So I CALL HER AND BREAK IT THE fukk DOWN so she will see how stupid she's being. Cliff notes:
---She'd never drive 60 mins for somebody...including a dude she likes but if we were hypothetically a couple I'd have to travel about 60 mins on avg to visit her near our schools campus.

----Shed never drive 60 mins, but shed expect a nikka to meet her halfway walking with crutches on a broken ankle using the Subway, and two city buses for a total of 3 hours estimated :wow: and then probably 4 hrs in the night.

----This is the same bytch who always talks about reciprocation not knowing how juvenile she sounds and how reciprocation actually works. I used an example of my past relationship to show her how a good relationship was built and why her thinking will lead down a terrible path of loneliness and rejection from dudes like me/on my level.

I then asked...so would you drive that extra 20 mins or not? And she kept saying I dont know (obviously afraid to admit shes wrong). So I told her, for future reference I advise you to drive that extra 20 mins for a person youre interested in and got off the phone.

90+ mins later I get an apology text :blessed:

You see brehs. I know I probably bored you with this story but you can see what the heads of my and our generation are dealing with. There is absolutely NO LOGIC when it comes to the way women think. PERIOD. The majority possess an inability to be introspective and empathetic. Instead of figuring why somebody may act towards them a certain way and what they mayve done wrong its always your fault. Furthermore they are always dismissive if something doesnt go their way as someone else has said. I shouldnt have even had to break down the situation like I did because it was common sense. Humanity. God bless whoever runs up in that. :smh:
and the worst part is that you broke it down logically to her and all that. yet in reality she didn't apologize cause she realized she was wrong. she apologized cause she felt like she might lose your attention and energy behind this. no matter how you break it down to them, they'll only admit they are wrong out of fear. rarely out of reason...
 

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Asked her out for this saturday, but she told me on the spot she going to a concert. sooo we going saturday of next week..... man do i even have to hit her up(textes n shyt) in between cuz that shyt gon be tiresome. If it was up to me I'd hit her up maybe the day after saturday to check in wit her and what not and i.e. if she liked that concert shyt and then just hit her up on thursday or friday to confirm the time and all that shyt for saturday.
 

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Asked her out for this saturday, but she told me on the spot she going to a concert. sooo we going saturday of next week..... man do i even have to hit her up(textes n shyt) in between cuz that shyt gon be tiresome. If it was up to me I'd hit her up maybe the day after saturday to check in wit her and what not and i.e. if she liked that concert shyt and then just hit her up on thursday or friday to confirm the time and all that shyt for saturday.
fall back breh. give her some space so that she can seduce you. if you're the one doing all the work, she has no work left to do. if she didn't put in work, she won't care about the result. she won't feel anything.
 

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fall back breh. give her some space so that she can seduce you. if you're the one doing all the work, she has no work left to do. if she didn't put in work, she won't care about the result. she won't feel anything.
iight so ima fall back until it's time to confirm everything aka next week.
 

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iight so ima fall back until it's time to confirm everything aka next week.
lol, you know what? maybe you should just do what you want to do. my way might not help you get what you want. the advice im giving you isn't about getting this girl. my way is about taking control of your destiny. but in order to take control you might have to sacrifice some p*ssy you would have liked along the way. you might not be ready for all that.
 

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lol, you know what? maybe you should just do what you want to do. my way might not help you get what you want. the advice im giving you isn't about getting this girl. my way is about taking control of your destiny. but in order to take control you might have to sacrifice some p*ssy you would have liked along the way. you might not be ready for all that.
lol what am I not supposed to re confirm that we are going next saturday and tell her at what time:what:
 

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lol what am I not supposed to re confirm that we are going next saturday and tell her at what time:what:
do what you feel breh. nothing wrong with re-confirming. nothing wrong with calling her or not calling her. texting her or not texting her. that's what i'm trying to explain to y'all. there is no right or wrong answer. only right and wrong mindset. if you have the right mindset, whatever move you do will work out for you. if you have the wrong mindset, even if you do all the "correct moves" you still won't feel right cause your actions will be born out of neediness. and she'll feel it. i feel the fear in your posts breh. the fear of fukking up. the fear of saying the wrong thing and losing "the opportunity". the fear of her misunderstanding you. and if i can feel it from your post, you better believe she can feel in in your texts, in your voice, etc. she probably knows she's in control breh. like i said you're behind the 8ball. let me break it down iller. take some time to calm down and reflect on all this. she already knows you're feeling her breh. she sees you make efforts to spend time with her. is she making efforts to spend time with you though? is she trying to figure out when you're free to do something with you? because this is what she would be doing if she was feeling you as much as you are feeling her. now i'm not saying you're done in the game. but you're way behind as of now. you're gonna have to do some major playing in order to steer this ship. what i'm saying is why invest all this energy when you could focus it on women that are actually trying to be in a position to ride your dikk? get your mind right breh.
 
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