I find the more you focus on other things than women and the more you build your life up without being overly concerned about them, the better. The main reason being that you should think about all of the effort you spent attempting to court women, whether it was constant phone conversations, dinners, or whatnot and think about where these women are now. More times than not, they are nowhere to be found.
The cycle often goes the first few weeks to months, everything is cool and you're always spending time together. Eventually, she might slowly start 'becoming busy', and eventually she just fades out for no real reason apparent to you. All of that work and time invested and nothing to show for it. Her? She's spending time with some other dude. As you get older, you get tired of women fading in and out of your life. Finding that one that 'sticks around'... you can never really predict that. Hence, I find it best not to worry about women too often because you're going to stress yourself out over things you simply cannot control. Realize that most of them are transient in this day and age, meaning they will temporarily be there and tomorrow they will be gone. Expending too much energy dealing with women is a waste because you will have nothing to show for it. The woman who really wants to be with you, you don't have to expend that much energy. She's going to stick around of her own volition.
Funny thing is im going through this right now, I picked up like always on the signs few text messages always late at night before she goes to bed, sparse convos, "busy" (but can update her facebook and instagram), so I just said whateveri'm not the "whats wrong" type, been almost a week now and not a blip of communication,
And it's Pretty much its the same song and dance
meet a woman, text or phone call maybe you get a date
maybe date goes well get another date, maybe you make out and other stuff
"you've never felt this way" type emotions , spend more time together, phone calls texting all day.
Then you become committed, everything is still new movies, waterfront, going out, wow could she be the one
then disagreements and confrontations begin you apologize make up etc. etc.
then if your lucky the relationship continues, however one or both cparties becomes comfortable, communication becomes less, feels like drifting away then the can we talk, or I need space, or boredness, or infidelity.
Maybe you lucky and it doesn't happen and it goes on and on then you take the next step moving in, engagement, marriage etc. etc.
like i said before is it even worth it?
Hell I've prob been on about 60 dates with different women in my life like 70% never went beyond a date number 2. I've probably had like 10 relationships in my life all but 3 never went beyond the probation honeymoon 3 months, my longest relaitonsip was 3 years but if i knew what I knew now about women that ish would have lasted a month
guys do all this chasing, wining and dining, spending money poouring out thier heart for what?
I always advice brehs to talk to people who are in good marriages that have been married for awhile, majority of these men met their wives when they weren't looking when they didn't have it all together, wasn't just built on fleeting butterflies and emotions that the women of today want etc.
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