Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[RealAssanova]

lol yeah, i'm changing my number in 2 days anyways just going to disappear on her

u talkin to another chick?

 

[kaiOogway]

Is there any kind of pattern with how women will mention their boyfriend? I notice some women right away "my boyfriend this, my boyfriend that.."

Other women the shyt comes out of nowhere.

Now, there is this girl at work and we've worked together for over a year, we talk about all kinds of shyt. I ask her about her weekend and she ask about mine and we'd go into detail. We've had all types of conversations. I mentioned my girl before. She has never mentioned her boyfriend. Ever. Not once. But I know he exists or at least did for a while because I met her Aunt through a mutual person and SHE mentioned the boyfriend.

Also, another girl at work. She has told other people there that she is dating a guy, etc. and she'll tell stories about where she went like "I went to this concert" or whatever but she will tell me the same story (not knowing that I already know that she went to the concert) and refer to her it as "I went there with my friend"

It's always "I went here or did this with my friend.."



edit: I'm not trying to date the girls at work lol I just want to know about the pattern

I think if she wants you she won't mention shyt about her boyfriend unless you bring the topic up

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

Not hating on anyone, but when screening women look for those who have come from a healthy, stable loving family the difference is huge. They Ade more likely to be reliable, caring, giving, quality and healthy to the core.

Flakiness, bitterness, insensitive, insecure, skanky :kony:

I think its nearly impossible for a woman to grow up in a dysfunctional, messed up broken family without receiving some damage

Sadly this is very true. Literally I'm going down the line with my exes and the ones who were easiest to deal with came from a traditional two parent home. The difficult ones came from non-traditional families.

I try not to judge because I come from a dysfunctional family myself. But I call a spade a spade.

 

[LezJepzin]

i dont wanna sound racist at all. but one thing i've noticed is that black girls are a lot more coy with mentioning they have a boyfriend until you damn near ask em straight up.

they;ll simply say i have plans instead of I'm going out with my boyfriend tonight
they'll say shyt like "I'm kinda talking to somebody " if you ask em out and they know its immoral to go

very passive with it. white girls will plaster that shyt everywhere with pictures in their display picture/facebook though. I'm not sure how long it took but I remember my last girlfriend always wanting to snap pics of us together and shyt. Doesn't mean shyt but combined with he personality I was when she put a pic of us on her Twitter profile and video of us on keek or some shyt.

I'd never ask a girl to do it on some piss to mark my territory shyt..but a lot of girls won't put their bf on display like that unless they are extremely enamoured with him and think he's good enough to make others jealous.

If a woman wants to leave the doors open with you, they won't mention their boyfriend a lot of the time. It might feel flattering, but consider they could be doing the same thing to you on the other side.

The story of my dating life It's not like I mean to go after chicks that are taken, it's the fact that the majority of them pursue me first to catch my attention. When I do find out eventually that they have a boyfriend, they either act upset or have a scared relief: scared that I know their status and I don't want to deal with them anymore yet relieved they got it out to me eventually.

I'm not trying to waste my energy going "private investigator" to see if this chick is single or not because she's hiding the truth like she's embarrassed or something.

I think it's for her to fish out new attention away from her boo like some real life in person "Instagramming" . They missed that "feeling" their current beau used to give them , not looking to leave dude and it's fukked up.


I just don't entertain that anymore once I hear they're happily taken. No more

There's too many women out there to be on standby of one who's not available at all but wanting you to think she will be .

 

[MikelArteta]

. The Beginning: I have been with my husband since I was 17 years old and I am now 27. He was my second REAL boyfriend and is 6 years older than me. I was never the type to sleep around or flirt - so it is safe to assume I've had a pretty sheltered sex life (as far as partners go). Looking back I should have dated around more, experienced more things, found out what I was and wasn't attracted to and maybe then I wouldn't feel the way I do now. Maybe?

The Problem: I'm not really sure what the problem is with my marriage - but I know there is one. I love my husband, he is my best friend (same **** all the bytches say). That being said, I have not initiated sex with him in YEARS (like 6 or more) and the only time we do 'get it on' is on Saturday mornings when I finally give him some to keep the peace. I often think of the other guy from the office (TOG from here on out [more on him later]) the whole time it's going on, just to get through it. My husband is great in bed. I am not deprived in anyway, so if I pretend he is someone I’m attracted to everything goes great, but I know this isn't right. I'm supposed to want to have sex with my husband, I'm supposed to initiate it sometimes and make him feel wanted. I’m supposed to care about his happiness in every way, just like he does for me. I feel GUILTY ALL THE TIME because I know I can’t be giving him what he needs to feel like a man. I know he doesn't think I’m attracted to him. I know he isn't satisfied sexually. I know he would never cheat on me because he loves me and as long as he gets it once a week he is OK. But It doesn't just end with the sex - I feel as though with the whole relationship I just keep making the minimum payment to keep the balance current – to prevent fighting. I put in zero effort. The less I give - the more he gives. I feel guilty because I know he loves me more than I love him. I know I could be a better lover than I am - just not to him. I know I WANT DESPERATELY to be a better lover. I know he deserves a better lover.

I do not want an OK marriage. I want to feel love deeply, madly and passionately. I want to make a man feel like a man and like he is wanted in every way. I want to want someone again.

None of these issues are new to our relationship. I would say they were all very obvious to me back in 2007. But I didn't feel attraction towards anyone else either so I assumed it was just me and the way I was. I assumed I wasn't a sexual prowess and that was ok. It was ok because we have a great bond, we get along, we laugh. I didn't need to feel like a sexual person to be happy. It was ok to just give him what he wanted once a week and get back to it.

Enter TOG. I was attracted to TOG the second I met him 2 years ago (which was my first day on the job, the job I still have). I have NEVER in my life been attracted to someone the way I am to him. I fantasize about him constantly (every minute, every hour, even as I write this) to the point where I can’t even look at him sometimes because of my dirty thoughts. We are just friends, at best. Coworkers really. I don’t flirt with him. I actually go out of my way to hid the fact that I adore him – because I’m married and again .. not a slut. He is single and has been the entire time I have known him. He is a VERY busy man, after all. He is very nice to me and sometime flirtatious. I often try to figure out if he thinks I’m hot, or if I stand a chance – but it’s all pretty irrelevant as long as I’m married. I assume he has high moral character (even if I were to falter) and would never be with a married woman. Some days I think if I could just ‘bang it out’ I would feel better, that that would somehow trigger me to fall in lust with my husband and that would be that. I would see that the grass isn't greener on the other side. (This idea plays out better with someone that you DON’T work with, ‘banging it out’ so to speak, is not really something you can do with your kindasorta boss.) On the other hand, other days I think I need to grow a set, get a divorce immediately and start looking for someone (if not TOG) who I want to savagely make love too and be best friends with. Someone who I am attracted to like I am to TOG. I know that life is short – I fear that I will spend the rest of my life married to someone because I was too afraid to hurt him, or too afraid to be alone or too afraid that you can only have one or the other. You can have a happy healthy friendship or a fabulous sexual attraction in your marriage – but not both.

I have several friends that are soon to be walking down the aisle and I’m not sure I’ll make it through the summer watching all of these happy brides marry the men they not only are best friends with but that they also want to strip down naked and throw against a wall on the daily.

The point here is this: I am not a cheater. I love my husband. I am deeply attracted to another man and NOT my husband. I want to feel like a woman. I am tired of feeling guilty for attraction (or lack thereof) that I can NOT control. I miss the feeling of wanting someone. It saddens me that I cannot give my husband what he deserves. I’ll take all the advice I can get, positive, negative, neutral, I don’t really care. This has gone on for two years and something has got to give. New Year’s resolution = figure this **** out.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Women and loyalty are rare.I use this analogy earlier but notice how women have a lot of shoes?It's same thing with men.They have a man for every occasion and will forget about a pair of shoes or in this case a man just as quick.You guys gotta remember women whole lives they never had to build like us men.When we were little boys we had play tools and legos.Women when they were little girls they had everything including playhouses assembled for them.

 

[MikelArteta]

Like shoes and like purses different ones for different occasions

Women and loyalty are rare.I use this analogy earlier but notice how women have a lot of shoes?It's same thing with men.They have a man for every occasion and will forget about a pair of shoes or in this case a man just as quick.You guys gotta remember women whole lives they never had to build like us men.When we were little boys we had play tools and legos.Women when they were little girls they had everything including playhouses assembled for them.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Like shoes and like purses different ones for different occasions

Exactly they have a simp for everything.A man that would buy them lunch,dinner,a pair of shoes,compliment them.Us dudes can stay loyal to shoes for years,they will buy a pair and forget about it.Just like in relationship world they will date you be happy they have you then drop you and never pick you back up again.

 

[mamba]

Not hating on anyone, but when screening women look for those who have come from a healthy, stable loving family the difference is huge. They Ade more likely to be reliable, caring, giving, quality and healthy to the core.

Flakiness, bitterness, insensitive, insecure, skanky :kony:

I think its nearly impossible for a woman to grow up in a dysfunctional, messed up broken family without receiving some damage

This is true. I recently dealt with a chick who came from a jacked up family. Over time, the damage to her psyche became apparent. She had a poor relationship with her father. That nikka cheated on her mother and had a kid. He was an alcoholic. Just a foul nikka. As a result, I began to notice her tone when she was describing him. I got the feeling that she didn't really trust men and would never really truly open up to me. As a wife, I suspect she'll never truly accept the role of a male head of household, given the image she has of her father. I had to toss her in the bushes. She was also too religious for my tastes.

Two new chicks I'm seeing are the complete opposite. They both have great relationships with their fathers.

 

[MikelArteta]

Yup women like these are poisonous very poisonous many times they are fine as hell, but have a string of horrible relationships and can never find stabilitity. They fall for men so fast, usually have a history of sexual abuse, very promiscuous, slutty friends that are from broken homes as well, never accountable blaming everything on daddy who left.

If a woman can't love and respect her dad you think she could ever love and respect you?

This is true. I recently dealt with a chick who came from a jacked up family. Over time, the damage to her psyche became apparent. She had a poor relationship with her father. That nikka cheated on her mother and had a kid. He was an alcoholic. Just a foul nikka. As a result, I began to notice her tone when she was describing him. I got the feeling that she didn't really trust men and would never really truly open up to me. As a wife, I suspect she'll never truly accept the role of a male head of household, given the image she has of her father. I had to toss her in the bushes. She was also too religious for my tastes.

Two new chicks I'm seeing are the complete opposite. They both have great relationships with their fathers.

 

[mamba]

Yup women like these are poisonous very poisonous many times they are fine as hell, but have a string of horrible relationships and can never find stabilitity. They fall for men so fast, usually have a history of sexual abuse, very promiscuous, slutty friends that are from broken homes as well, never accountable blaming everything on daddy who left.

If a woman can't love and respect her dad you think she could ever love and respect you?

A woman who doesn't respect her father is a big red flag. That chick hid her disdain for her father pretty well, initially. But, over time, I started noticing the negative tone whenever she'd talk about him. And it's not like the nikka is dead or absent. He's still married to her mother. So, she sees him, regularly!

 

[Brandsdale]

yup. a girl that is interested will often message you on some good morning or hey whats up if she's eager to chill and confirm.

shyt i remember my birthday that just passed there was a shorty who had been digging me for a long time. I told her earlier that week i'd be hitting up a party in Hamilton that weekend (where Mac is) and she said she was gonna be going to the party as well with some friends probably. the afternoon of my birthday she messaged me asking if I was still hitting up Hamilton and I showed her what was up.

My friend got wasted...at the party so I had to exit with him before it got too bad. She came later but still this chick came OUTSIDE of the club in the cold eventually just so she could see me and even tried helping my friend sobering up. Chick walked to the store to buy him water and everything.

@Biggums will verify all of this.

STOP DEALING WITH FLAKY HOES (this is a reminder to myself as well lol)

God bless her tall Amazonian soul

 

[Fatboi1]

damn I gotta travel man

I'm talking with this girl from Japan(met her through a language exchange site) and she's showing me food and pictures outside her house at night and it looks so .
Plus she's seems to be feeling the kid complimenting me in Engrish . I at least have someone to see when I hit up Japan in the next couple of years .

 

[Captsmackabeat]

Life is crazy... A few years ago I

 

[MikelArteta]

damn I gotta travel man

I'm talking with this girl from Japan(met her through a language exchange site) and she's showing me food and pictures outside her house at night and it looks so .
Plus she's seems to be feeling the kid complimenting me in Engrish . I at least have someone to see when I hit up Japan in the next couple of years .

when you travel you'll wonder why you are wasting away in usa

hop on tinder n put yourself in tinder