Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

This chick who checked out on me and went distant well I went distant to then 6 months later the hey how are you bla bla

In my mind what prob went down got bored of me, new guy popped up she got enticed by the novelty and tingles. Didn't last and she scrolls through her phone and remembers good ol faithful reinscarf

Minus that nope, when a woman has gone cold she's gone.

Its impossible IMO to rekindle the flame and take it from a former simp who had his ex in his life for 4 years after we broke up and tried everything jn the book, you have as much as a chance as the 76ers winning the NBA title this year

I'd actually like to hear if any of you had a woman 'check out' on them emotionally, talked about taking a break, etc... you know, go distant, etc., and they successfully rekindled the flame and everything was like new. For me, once they 'checked out', they were gone, but maybe your experience is different.

 

[kevm3]

The thing I get caught up in is trying to make sense of the situation. Like, How the fukk am I at fault? Have I changed? But more often than not, I can't find the answer. She doesn't have an answer that makes sense. I can either go crazy trying to figure out how we got here... OR I can just move on and say fukk it. As much as I would like a logical explanation, I know it's never coming..

For whatever reason, most of these women aren't logical.

When you see the game for what it is, it'll make sense. Most of the times, you AREN'T at fault, but emotionally, she's not into it, so she'll bring up some excuse, bring up a fight out of nowhere, etc... one technique is called flipping the script. She'll blame you for something or start fights and make you think YOU are at fault, when in reality, she's bored or she found someone she considers more exciting. How many times when these women play these little you're wrong games do they have a new negro they are dating right after they break up with you? The logical reason is the woman wants out but doesn't want to feel at fault, so she's going to mess with your mind to make YOU take the blame so she doesn't have to feel bad about what she's doing.

 

[MikelArteta]

Questioning and pondering just leaves you confused and confusion gives the benefit of the doubt.

It doesn't matter what they say. What you think you could have done differently etc. Its done its over.

Its like Detroit v Dallas, Detroit got screwed but nothing they can say or do changes the outcome, just accept and move on.

One of the things that has helped me tremendously in life is to just focus on things you can control

The thing I get caught up in is trying to make sense of the situation. Like, How the fukk am I at fault? Have I changed? But more often than not, I can't find the answer. She doesn't have an answer that makes sense. I can either go crazy trying to figure out how we got here... OR I can just move on and say fukk it. As much as I would like a logical explanation, I know it's never coming..

For whatever reason, most of these women aren't logical.

 

[kevm3]

Here's some more realism. The average woman is always cultivating new options, and she has 10,000 simps in her inbox if she's decently attractive. When she finds what she PERCEIVES to be the better deal, she'll test the waters... maybe have some back and forth conversation, and if she's getting signals that he'll take her on, that's when she begins the coldness and fights with her man who she begins to resent because she feels he is holding her back from true happiness with this other dude. When that other dude doesn't work out like she thought it would, magically she'll pop back up on some "hey baby, I'm ready to work it out."
Nah, I'm cool on that.

That's what all these 'we need to take a breaks' and 'i'm so busy's' are all about. She wants to test the waters what the potential better deal, but have you on standby in case the new guy doesn't work out.

 

[MikelArteta]

Yup
Women are masters at this, they will do something outrageous like I'm going to Vegas for the weekend with insert friend who is the biggest Thot.

You get angry , upset she calls you insecure if you don't trust me we might as well break up.

Now you think damn I mess up and text babes I'm sorry go to Vegas have fun I love you don't want to break up

But she got what she wanted her guilt is relieved.

When you see the game for what it is, it'll make sense. Most of the times, you AREN'T at fault, but emotionally, she's not into it, so she'll bring up some excuse, bring up a fight out of nowhere, etc... one technique is called flipping the script. She'll blame you for something or start fights and make you think YOU are at fault, when in reality, she's bored or she found someone she considers more exciting. How many times when these women play these little you're wrong games do they have a new negro they are dating right after they break up with you? The logical reason is the woman wants out but doesn't want to feel at fault, so she's going to mess with your mind to make YOU take the blame so she doesn't have to feel bad about what she's doing.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

When you see the game for what it is, it'll make sense. Most of the times, you AREN'T at fault, but emotionally, she's not into it, so she'll bring up some excuse, bring up a fight out of nowhere, etc... one technique is called flipping the script. She'll blame you for something or start fights and make you think YOU are at fault, when in reality, she's bored or she found someone she considers more exciting. How many times when these women play these little you're wrong games do they have a new negro they are dating right after they break up with you? The logical reason is the woman wants out but doesn't want to feel at fault, so she's going to mess with your mind to make YOU take the blame so she doesn't have to feel bad about what she's doing.

But I thought women were looking for that good guy who treats them with respect and never did them wrong?

This is why I don't fukk with broads who have a lot of baggage, kids, whatever the fukk, because they went off and made mistakes and probably fukked over a good relationship in the past and NOW their looks are fading and they need to find a sucker to take care of them and the problems they have created for themselves.

Women lack accountability. It's hard for me to feel bad for someone who had a good thing going and then ruined it because they thought the grass was greener elsewhere. Maybe one day these broads will learn but I doubt it..

 

[MikelArteta]

This is modern day infidelity in marriages, women get caught up in the fog and the fantasy, it always ends and then they want a way back in to the stable security.

Why I don't believe in second Chance Nah just one

If a woman leaves me for another guy I'll pack her bag myself and usher her out the door

Here's some more realism. The average woman is always cultivating new options, and she has 10,000 simps in her inbox if she's decently attractive. When she finds what she PERCEIVES to be the better deal, she'll test the waters... maybe have some back and forth conversation, and if she's getting signals that he'll take her on, that's when she begins the coldness and fights with her man who she begins to resent because she feels he is holding her back from true happiness with this other dude. When that other dude doesn't work out like she thought it would, magically she'll pop back up on some "hey baby, I'm ready to work it out."
Nah, I'm cool on that.

 

[MikelArteta]

Certain women are the key is finding them.

I'm thankful to see my sister and other good women to know they are out there but locating one is the hard part.

Every woman has a sob story the thing is two sides to every story and most women dump men

But I thought women were looking for that good guy who treats them with respect and never did them wrong?

This is why I don't fukk with broads who have a lot of baggage, kids, whatever the fukk, because they went off and made mistakes and probably fukked over a good relationship in the past and NOW their looks are fading and they need to find a sucker to take care of them and the problems they have created for themselves.

Women lack accountability. It's hard for me to feel bad for someone who had a good thing going and then ruined it because they thought the grass was greener elsewhere. Maybe one day these broads will learn but I doubt it..

 

[kevm3]

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Questioning and pondering just leaves you confused and confusion gives the benefit of the doubt.

It doesn't matter what they say. What you think you could have done differently etc. Its done its over.

Its like Detroit v Dallas, Detroit got screwed but nothing they can say or do changes the outcome, just accept and move on.

One of the things that has helped me tremendously in life is to just focus on things you can control

That's what it's all about. I can't control what a woman does. I can only control what I do and how emotionally intertwined I get with a particular woman. In this day and age, I don't really get overly attached, because I know as soon as most women come in, they already have one foot out the door waiting for the next deal.

I may be 'single' for longer stretches of time, but I'm perfectly fine with that. I'd rather be single than having some woman stress me out. Also, I don't feel like men should be some circus clown for a woman, always attempting to entertain or appease her. If she's not naturally entertained by who I am, she can keep it pushing. So much stress disappears when you simply decide to be yourself and choose not to go out of your way to deal with women.

 

[twan83]

I'd actually like to hear if any of you had a woman 'check out' on them emotionally, talked about taking a break, etc... you know, go distant, etc., and they successfully rekindled the flame and everything was like new. For me, once they 'checked out', they were gone, but maybe your experience is different.

@Emperor_ReinScarf me exposing myself with no fukks given
also for u guys to learn something

my ex one i had my 2 kids with

what I'm bout to say is deep but some on the coli know the story only like 2 know the whole story cuz i made a mistake i never said

first off we shouldn't have gotten married sooner than we wanted too i knew that she did too but when i got her pregnant the medical bills were getting high so said fukk it and did it and use the military benefits but in the process we both felt that financially it helps and we can make it work

got part 1 right not part 2 we had issues up the ass with each other sooner than i thought. emotional cheating happened even before our son was born think twice if memory served me correct
physical wise dont know if it happened doesn't mean it did it is what it is

eventually our son was born and things got better none of the cheating happened had issues like normal couples did
moved too italy then things started to act up again no cheating just more unhappiness and distance more on her part than mines i was more or less too busy with the army side of work and raising our son with her

myspace and some other social media site she got into really made things worse i never really looked into it but I'm not stupid so i just let it be for the time being cuz i was just focus on doing right by the family and getting promoted

eventually shyt hit the fan to where i wouldn't even sleep in same room

outta blue i got a email from ex asking for help bout child support with a soldier. i let wifey know out of respect who it was and she said it was ok and i helped her out and gave her guidance

then its where shyt got bad on both our parts i knew better cuz I'm not stupid after i helped her broad kept trying to contact me thru email asking how i was etc.......
but i was stupid and unhappy and i ended up having normal convos nothing bad but normal then the venting came with it eventually i knew i had to stop so i told her na cant do this i tried blocking her but she just made new emails so i told wifey whats up and she was pissed at the world at me rightfully so i took the my lickings from it

i found out i had to go to hygiene school for couple of months and then that shyt made it worse cuz where that was at is where was my ex

she was like oh ur gonna cheat on me and u know how females get but the one thing that i messed up was that i found out bout some dude on a social site she go too was leaving messages that was way uncalled for and she liked it and this shyt happened even before i got the email from the ex but i left it alone and didnt say shyt

and none of my messages from my ex on my part were inappropriate so u dont have too ask that

anyhow the i had to leave we got into a major argument with her saying go head cheat on me i know u will i dont care anymore and I'm over like wtf is going on I'm going to school to learn and she said this u know and i know u better off talking to her face to face to squash this shyt u cant even get rid of her thru emails after blocking 5 different email accounts

so i was like fine whatever i'll stop by and squash this shyt then head over to my school afterwards then as i got on the bus she was like even if u do get rid of her i wont believe u anyways and gonna think u cheated

i get home to el paso then drive to city i had school at and told her hey I'm here imma stop by and take care of this and she was still on her tip and i just couldn't take it cuz she was saying same thing too me when i did no cheating and shyt like that in her email it hurt me a lot so i see oh girl and she could see it my face and i tell her shyt gotta stop and she was like ya ur right but ur face says otherwise cuz ur sad and miserable with her

yes i slipped up brehs only time i ever did it and when i had some common sense i stopped in the middle of it and gave her the

called up her to let her know my mistake within less than hr of what i did cuz i felt truly bad and its not something i planned on doing and wanted too do

she basically told me it was over and for those several months i got hell while i was training begging for forgiveness from my mistake that i did

she forgave me bout 1 month before i graduated and when i got back she really showed it and from there we moved passed it and were truly happy and she ended up pregnant later on

of course this didnt end up with a happily ever with a fukked up ending as u all know

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

This is why inexperienced girls concern almost as much as the thots do. Women will be like "Oh you say you don't want a thot but then you complain when a girl is inexperienced" but it's true.. I DO want there to be some middle ground because..

A thot will be a thot. We can usually recognize them for what they are and KIM

However, a girl with very limited experience is going to be on some "What am I missing? " shyt... and I don't need that either.

I need a girl who is loyal but has been through enough relationships to realize maybe what she really wants.

I don't know. I'm just rambling.

 

[kevm3]

But I thought women were looking for that good guy who treats them with respect and never did them wrong?

This is why I don't fukk with broads who have a lot of baggage, kids, whatever the fukk, because they went off and made mistakes and probably fukked over a good relationship in the past and NOW their looks are fading and they need to find a sucker to take care of them and the problems they have created for themselves.

Women lack accountability. It's hard for me to feel bad for someone who had a good thing going and then ruined it because they thought the grass was greener elsewhere. Maybe one day these broads will learn but I doubt it..

That's the reality of the situation. Most women 'just want to have fun' as they say. They want a provider in their 30s when their looks are falling off, but they want the thriller man when they are younger. Most women are simply not reared on being marriage-worthy. That's just the truth of the matter. You MIGHT find a rare gem in the states that is worthy, but a lot of it ultimately has to do with culture.

 

[MikelArteta]

Ramble young man ramble

Everyone is different. Everyone has different sex drives, my sister married a Virgin and so do many women out there.

Not all will stray some mohht but its up to their character.

There are women in sexless marriages who don't even stray while there are women getting it every night who are still sleeping around.

Id never marry a Thot but I think instead of say numbers is to look at how she views relationships, has she cheated or strayed in the past.

This is why inexperienced girls concern almost as much as the thots do. Women will be like "Oh you say you don't want a thot but then you complain when a girl is inexperienced" but it's true.. I DO want there to be some middle ground because..

A thot will be a thot. We can usually recognize them for what they are and KIM

However, a girl with very limited experience is going to be on some "What am I missing? " shyt... and I don't need that either.

I need a girl who is loyal but has been through enough relationships to realize maybe what she really wants.

I don't know. I'm just rambling.

 

[Youseenmywork]

I have this running joke that my wife is waiting for me to log on to Christian mingle ...

 

[O.iatlhawksfan]

You guys why do chicks get on social media and joke about the fact that they can't cook, party a lot and most of all they brag about being crazy?

But at the same time they belittle us guys for not wanting to wife them.

My IG and Twitter be having me like

wasnt you just talking about how crazy you are now you saying men ain't shyt?