Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Mr Hate Coffee]

How do the brehs feel about love?

Way I see it, if I'm realistic I don't see myself falling in love again. At least not like the first time. I'm not even being pessimistic. It's just that once you reach a certain age, everything seems so planned and you don't really have the time/luxury of just falling in love like when you're in your early 20's.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

Okay, honestly I'm just gonna come out and say it....in terms of online dating I think most men are generally wasting their time. Especially if you use online dating to talk to really attractive women.

So I wanted to see why women weren't responding to my messages on POF, OkCupid, when I sent them something. My first inclination was they were essentially saying "I'm not her type", my second thought was she gets flooded with messages and only chooses ones she likes sporadically.

So I set up a fake profile on both OkCupid and POF with a picture of a homegirl and before I can even FINISH the profile let alone write a summary I already had 10 guys sending messages. In just two days there were over 150+ messages.

You can't even send a message that "sticks out" because by the time you send something 50 other messages came and pushed you all the way to the second page....it was ridiculous.

I don't even bother with it anymore honestly, but sometimes a cute girl may catch your message every once in a while. But in terms of consistency.....I think its a waste.

When I was online dating I didn't even waste my time sending girls messages. shyt it pointless. It's called Plenty of Fish for a reason. You put your bait on your hook (your profile), toss that shyt in the ocean, and leave it alone. Every girl I met on POF hit me up first. That's the type of chicks you wanna mess with anyway because you know they're interested.

The only thing I would do sometimes is just look at their profile. Women are vain so they like to see who's looking at their profile. If your headshot is intriguing then they go to your profile. If your profile pics look good then they'll send you a message. That's all it is. Low effort as fukk.

The funniest messages were always, "So you looked at my profile and didn't say hi?" To which I'd reply, "I didn't want to be one of the hundreds of guys in your inbox. "

But honestly I've been over online "dating" for awhile. No girl from POF has ever really been worth a damn and I'm past the smashing for the hell of it stage.

 

[MikelArteta]

When I was younger online dating wasn't so bad

But now nearly 30 the women have so much baggage and are so damage its just not worth it.

When I was online dating I didn't even waste my time sending girls messages. shyt it pointless. It's called Plenty of Fish for a reason. You put your bait on your hook (your profile), toss that shyt in the ocean, and leave it alone. Every girl I met on POF hit me up first. That's the type of chicks you wanna mess with anyway because you know they're interested.

The only thing I would do sometimes is just look at their profile. Women are vain so they like to see who's looking at their profile. If your headshot is intriguing then they go to your profile. If your profile pics look good then they'll send you a message. That's all it is. Low effort as fukk.

The funniest messages were always, "So you looked at my profile and didn't say hi?" To which I'd reply, "I didn't want to be one of the hundreds of guys in your inbox. "

But honestly I've been over online "dating" for awhile. No girl from POF has ever really been worth a damn and I'm past the smashing for the hell of it stage.

 

[MikelArteta]

I've been in love twice, but I doubt I'll love like that again, the two women I loved both gutted me and it took me years to even reach a place of peace

Will I care and have strong feelings? Yeah!

Will I utter that L word? Possibly yeah but I'll never be that so in love type breh again. Sad to say I always have the viewpoint of women/relationships/feelings toward me as seasonal.

Every woman in the past who said they loved me, they cared about me bla bla is nowhere to be seen now.

Men love hard women love often.

How do the brehs feel about love?

Way I see it, if I'm realistic I don't see myself falling in love again. At least not like the first time. I'm not even being pessimistic. It's just that once you reach a certain age, everything seems so planned and you don't really have the time/luxury of just falling in love like when you're in your early 20's.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

so this semi new chick at work was working on the computer and at the same desk with this other woman I been knew. I was giving all her the attention in the convo and the semi new chick was like "its some nice looking people here" I said "I appreciate it" she says "I wasn't saying you, I was just saying un general"

she was on the side laughing at everything I said though.

might have been a sign or a diss but shyt I never spit at her anyway though.

 

[¯\_(ツ)_/¯]

When I was online dating I didn't even waste my time sending girls messages. shyt it pointless. It's called Plenty of Fish for a reason. You put your bait on your hook (your profile), toss that shyt in the ocean, and leave it alone. Every girl I met on POF hit me up first. That's the type of chicks you wanna mess with anyway because you know they're interested.

The only thing I would do sometimes is just look at their profile. Women are vain so they like to see who's looking at their profile. If your headshot is intriguing then they go to your profile. If your profile pics look good then they'll send you a message. That's all it is. Low effort as fukk.

The funniest messages were always, "So you looked at my profile and didn't say hi?" To which I'd reply, "I didn't want to be one of the hundreds of guys in your inbox. "

But honestly I've been over online "dating" for awhile. No girl from POF has ever really been worth a damn and I'm past the smashing for the hell of it stage.

Now that you mention it I think having a very prominent profile picture can help you much better than a message you send. But if men wanted to go that route they wold have to to be willing to dish out some funds to get some really really good professional head shots done or something. I think the photos may help for sure.

But yeah POF is full of some thotty women and OkCupid is for racist hipsters and I don't fit either of those places.

 

[MikelArteta]

@Mr Hate Coffee


My breh @RealAssanova said it the best we can't lovr a woman like we want to love.

I remember with my ex fiance I'd surprise her at work, send a random email letting her know I'm thinking of her, give her a piggy back ride , write poems . I remember she bought me a PSP, stayed up all night outside waiting in line when the ps3 was released, long ass day at work shed be in the lobby doing the two hour trek back to my house with me on the bus , shed draw a picture its still hanging in my kitchen

I didn't have to hide my feelings, I was open, there were no games and all that.

Even though she FD up in the end she's probably the only woman I can be certain off did love me at one time or another.

But I can't love a woman like that again, I can't do those things again without feeling like a simp or a Sap or nice guy, the experiences you go through in life shape who you are.

Although this may seem heartless or emotionless but shrugs, I got screwed over by a brehette late last year even a few years ago it would still bother me but I just don't care

 

[MikelArteta]

I got 1000 matches on tinder
And I used to semi eat of OK cupid/ pof back in the day

I remember just throwing up my flickr link on tinder I'd get do many messages are you a photographer.

Thats actually how I met the model in June

If your willing to pay match isn't bad.

When they have their free messaging weekends I've used it in the past but many of those women are on tinder and pof.

I honestly think its better to just do something you like ans find people that way.

Now that you mention it I think having a very prominent profile picture can help you much better than a message you send. But if men wanted to go that route they wold have to to be willing to dish out some funds to get some really really good professional head shots done or something. I think the photos may help for sure.

But yeah POF is full of some thotty women and OkCupid is for racist hipsters and I don't fit either of those places.

 

[twan83]

When I was younger online dating wasn't so bad

But now nearly 30 the women have so much baggage and are so damage its just not worth it.

this was very true for me it was fun and easy not really getting trolled and all that shyt it was genuine. when i got older and was single the very few times shyt was getting fake pics and then u meet them ur like shyt

I've been in love twice, but I doubt I'll love like that again, the two women I loved both gutted me and it took me years to even reach a place of peace

Will I care and have strong feelings? Yeah!

Will I utter that L word? Possibly yeah but I'll never be that so in love type breh again. Sad to say I always have the viewpoint of women/relationships/feelings toward me as seasonal.

Every woman in the past who said they loved me, they cared about me bla bla is nowhere to be seen now.

Men love hard women love often.

@Mr Hate Coffee


My breh @RealAssanova said it the best we can't lovr a woman like we want to love.

I remember with my ex fiance I'd surprise her at work, send a random email letting her know I'm thinking of her, give her a piggy back ride , write poems . I remember she bought me a PSP, stayed up all night outside waiting in line when the ps3 was released, long ass day at work shed be in the lobby doing the two hour trek back to my house with me on the bus , shed draw a picture its still hanging in my kitchen

I didn't have to hide my feelings, I was open, there were no games and all that.

Even though she FD up in the end she's probably the only woman I can be certain off did love me at one time or another.

But I can't love a woman like that again, I can't do those things again without feeling like a simp or a Sap or nice guy, the experiences you go through in life shape who you are.

Although this may seem heartless or emotionless but shrugs, I got screwed over by a brehette late last year even a few years ago it would still bother me but I just don't care

imma keep it 100% even tho I'm married i will never love like i did with my first love that shyt was on some next level for me. wanting to hear from her all the time missing her thinking bout her the romantic things i did on the next level

even tho i knew at times she wasn't good for me just the feeling the way she made me felt it was like a extreme high that i couldnt get enough

i dont fall in love easily at all its very hard for me nor do i often but when i do love i love em strong but the fact that how i feel in love wit her i have and will not experience that love again

do i love my wife of course but that love is not that surging love or high kind of love its that more of love and comfortability and respect love.

and i dont take that for granted either cuz its a different kind of love not that hardcore but that love where i feel more at peace at to be honest and see more vividly and clearly

so no i dont be all hung up or be missing her and going to all those extremes with her but thats ok cuz learning experience and how as i got older and changed make my perspective and views on love and women did that too me

when u get hurt deeply scarred or broken as a man it does a serious number too u which i feel females dont understand cuz they love often but we love harder therefore it hurts us on a different level

 

[rogue_riezo]

I'm slipping brehs .

Need the slap I'll only get from the Coli .

Getting caught up with a girl from my past. She was everything I wanted in a girl. Head straight, focused, intelligent, loyal, good looks but not outta this world plus we just gel. I even get along with her family, the first day I met her fam I was supposed to pick her up but ended up drinking until 6am with her step-dad and doing the macarena on the edge of their pool .

What went wrong? She went away, got a got into a long term relationship and had a kid .

I need to be stopped before stepping into that shyt, those moments are starting to come pouring back when we speak.

The real fukked up part is in my head I have this ridiculous monolog like:

"She's different, she was never a thot"
"Yeah but she was virtuous enough to get knocked up "

"She's always been loyal in her relationships"
"Yeah, she gon be real loyal when her baby daddy comes round while you at work "

"We've always had a connection"
" Yeah, now you gonna need to add a third party to that connection "

 

[MikelArteta]

The truth

I've had like ten females tell me they love me I've only loved two.

A female spreads her legs talks to a guy for a few months and she's in love, not me.

Hell it took me like 5 years to get over my last ex

Females don't understand especially when you've been gutted.

That's why I said in another thread if I ever settle down get married etc. I'll prob need a chick whose been through what I've been through . has the battle scars, the triggers and wears that on her sleeve.

when u get hurt deeply scarred or broken as a man it does a serious number too u which i feel females dont understand cuz they love often but we love harder therefore it hurts us on a different level

 

[MikelArteta]

Peep what I wrote today I think its on the previous page

In confusion you give people the benefit of the doubt.

You start to rationalize behaviors
You start to fantasize

The battle of emotions v logic going on in your heart you know its wrong and will end horribly but the heart right.

I'm slipping brehs .

Need the slap I'll only get from the Coli .

Getting caught up with a girl from my past. She was everything I wanted in a girl. Head straight, focused, intelligent, loyal, good looks but not outta this world plus we just gel. I even get along with her family, the first day I met her fam I was supposed to pick her up but ended up drinking until 6am with her step-dad and doing the macarena on the edge of their pool .

What went wrong? She went away, got a got into a long term relationship and had a kid .

I need to be stopped before stepping into that shyt, those moments are starting to come pouring back when we speak.

The real fukked up part is in my head I have this ridiculous monolog like:

"She's different, she was never a thot"
"Yeah but she was virtuous enough to get knocked up "

"She's always been loyal in her relationships"
"Yeah, she gon be real loyal when her baby daddy comes round while you at work "

"We've always had a connection"
" Yeah, now you gonna need to add a third party to that connection "

 

[twan83]

The truth

I've had like ten females tell me they love me I've only loved two.

A female spreads her legs talks to a guy for a few months and she's in love, not me.

Hell it took me like 5 years to get over my last ex

Females don't understand especially when you've been gutted.

That's why I said in another thread if I ever settle down get married etc. I'll prob need a chick whose been through what I've been through . has the battle scars, the triggers and wears that on her sleeve.

ya i feel u first love just changed me from a chilled dude to a chilled a$$hole no fukks given dude then it took me years to get over also

i mean sure i dated but it was like i was going thru the motions more than anything
i wanted that feeling again i craved it needed it but i was so hurt and scarred figured if i got that feeling it would help but as time went by its when i knew its not how things work


u dont choose who u fall in love with sometimes u just hope its the right one u do fall in love with
the heart wants what it wants but if u can be smart and wise about it u can also choose not to let it proceed more than it should and walk away to save u from the trouble and heart break

 

[twan83]

Frustration + confusion = giving the benefit of the doubt

Frustration seeps through as you drive around in circles, you finally admit to yourself that you are confused in regards to the directions given and ask the nearest individual how to reach the desired location. You have no idea if they are being truthful, or if their sense of direction is better than yours but in a state of confusion you give them the benefit of the doubt.

People need you to be confused, because in confusion you give them the benefit of the doubt.

You’re in a relationship and actions don’t match up to words that are uttered, they are distant, you feel in your gut that they are slip slipping away; you ponder your status in their life, all signs point to destruction of the union however you become confused. But they said they love me, they said they care for me; no way would they possibly demote me/discard me. In a state of panic and confusion you attempt to rationalize the conduct displayed to delay the inevitable as you give them the benefit of the doubt.

If you don’t rule over your thoughts, somebody else will. If you don’t rule over your actions, somebody else will.

Confusion and facades are primary weapons used to give the benefit of the doubt. Confusion cannot seep through if you have the power of patience, wisdom and the utmost control over your thoughts. Logic over emotions will construct an ability to be a step ahead and permit you make the best decisions for your life moving forward. You will selectively pick and choose your battles and shun the ones you have no chance of being victorious in. The days of being lost, rationalizing, needing verification, closure, clinging to hope, fighting for, but I thought we were….., wow this came out of nowhere……, will be dead and gone.

^^^^ this c/s 10000

its some deep shyt but real shyt that people fail to realize and its where i learned it after my first love and serious heartbreak
sure i still made missteps along the way thru the years we all do but it wasn't as bad or necessarily the same mistakes either

 

[MikelArteta]

Yup I'm much smarter now probably why ive been sibgle for so long , I screen and I screen some more and rarely does a woman meet my basic checkpoints.

ya i feel u first love just changed me from a chilled dude to a chilled a$$hole no fukks given dude then it took me years to get over also

i mean sure i dated but it was like i was going thru the motions more than anything
i wanted that feeling again i craved it needed it but i was so hurt and scarred figured if i got that feeling it would help but as time went by its when i knew its not how things work


u dont choose who u fall in love with sometimes u just hope its the right one u do fall in love with
the heart wants what it wants but if u can be smart and wise about it u can also choose not to let it proceed more than it should and walk away to save u from the trouble and heart break