Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

The audacity of this text is just

This is from my ex's friend(I don't think they that cool).

I haven't spoken to this girl in several months! I come home and my cousin telling me she came upstairs asking for me to see if I can come down and fix the computer in my ex's room .

She called me but I ain't even see it nor called back.

I just replied "Nah I'm busy" and kept it moving.

is wrong with these chicks?? Who she think I am to just do her a favor like that when she ain't even fukking with me??

delete and move on breh

you owe exes and their friends nothing

 

[Fatboi1]

delete and move on breh

you owe exes and their friends nothing

Number was already deleted. I didn't even recognize the number.

 

[MikelArteta]

Found it

read it
over and over and over again men

@J.B

One thing you young bucks need to learn is that as a man of value, you must ACTIVELY maintain your value at all time. One way that a female shows that she doesn't value you is when you hear the words, "I'm busy". Women rarely do things straight up, but rather speak in a sort of sign language in which you need to observe to see what she's about to do next. "I'm busy" is one of the clearest signs that your relationship is about to go downhill. Notice how when you first meet a woman and ya'll are really digging each other, she's never busy. She has all the time in the world for you. You'll sit and she'll even tell her family and friends that she's busy right now so she can deal with you. She wasn't 'busy' now was she? She was BUSY WITH YOU. When her friends ask her what she did, she'll probably say, Oh work and school got me so busy, or she'll say I was with my man.

Now what do you think is happening when you're dealing with her and all of a sudden she's busy? These women ain't that busy. She's busy with ANOTHER MAN. If there was some Trey Songz concert or her friend invited her to a party, she'd have time, but she doesn't have time for you all of a sudden? She got time to go to work. A woman that was genuinely busy does not disappear for days or weeks at a time. She still finds minutes in the day to just hit you up and let you know she is doing well, how she misses you and is waiting for you to schedule something ya'll can do together. The woman you give the boot is the one you don't see and you ask her why and she says, "I've been busy." If a woman is too busy for you, she is not worthy of you. People find ways to spend time with things and people they actually enjoy. One thing as a man you have to develop in this day and age is a well developed boot. If you sense a woman is playing games, show her your well polished boot and kick her to the curb and keep it pushing.

Does it seem heartless? Naw, it's not. If she was really about you, she would have made that time. A woman that's 'too busy' for her man and is chilling with other negroes in the background is what is heartless. Never let these women do wrong and yet make you feel like she's the victim. She keeps screwing up, she got to go. You aren't going to give surface dwellers deep access to your heart. You will only give that to the worthy. Now what you DO tell a female is, "Look here girl, if you want my love, I'm going to give you a shovel and that shovel is your actions. If you want to be deep in my heart, you got to get to digging." Never get too into a woman because 'she's cool, fine, and ya'll had a couple of cool convos.' She has to demonstrate her downness for you through her actions consistently over time.[/QUOTE]

 

[International Playa]

Thanks for all the help brehs, I love this thread.

There is very few places where men can vent, seek advice about women, etc. This thread is a blessing.

 

[MikelArteta]

I remember being 19/20 thinking that I knew it all (fools despise wisdom and instruction) and how I had it all figured out, how I was so mature beyond my years. I was smarter than everyone else, people were drawn to me I cracked the code of fulfillment while others were languishing trying to come up with the formula so I thought. I planned ahead and my life was going to follow the fantasy that I created in my mind. Oh how naive, stubborn, full of pride I was, life rarely works out the way you want it to and that could be good or bad depending on the situations and lessons learned. So as I think back throughout my twenties, the humbling experiences, the situations I have been in........these are just a few things I have learned…

Life is a Journey

Life is a journey that can be short, medium or long and no one knows when it may end or where it will guide you. No one can be certain of where they will be in a week, a month or even a year from now. All you can guarantee is where you are right now and that is all that is really relevant. So enjoy the now, invest in yourself and give as much of yourself as you have to give, expecting nothing in return. Enjoy the sweetness of life, don’t worry about trivial things and just embrace life as it happens, by living it and living it well. My life has become so peaceful once I adopted this frame of thought.

The Choice is Always Yours

I've been there wallowing in despair, bitter, angry, sad, heartbroken, gutted, embarrassed, feeling like a fool, thirsting for revenge, pushing people away, putting up a front etc. etc. you name it. Even moments when I thought ok I'm 100% better now and proclaimed it to the world on the sandy beach the pain was still with me and the reminders would arrive like a tidal wave and bring me right back into the ocean of despair. Although I may sound like a broken record rehashing, I have been through it all and then some, failed engagement, infidelity, lied to, flaked on, people disappearing on me, I've heard every line in the book, I've also made every mistake possible - throwing in the towel and admitting defeat would be ah so easy.

However the choice was mine and mine alone, I could choose to live a life of self-indulging in the pain and marinating on reminders of deceit and dishonesty which in turn were putting shackles on my feelings and emotions. Take up the mantle of never trusting, never being at peace, always feeling sorry for myself, embracing the victim role and living my life walking on eggshells or I could......

Take a moment to marinate and appreciate what I went through and figure out what I have gathered and learned through the situation. Yeah that’s right appreciate, as the cliché saying goes what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Even looking back at the dark days so to speak, I was able to…………..

1. Establish who my true friends were. Many people will say they care, that they have your back, and that they will be there for you but in tough moments the definition of what a friend truly is will be defined (many are called few are chosen).

2. Learn not to judge myself for something I had no control off and to stop being so hard on myself for the past. The past is the past and can’t be changed, if I want to be hard on myself, I’ll be hard on myself for the future making things better for me, focus on that instead of what I could have done or what has happened in days yonder.

3. Realize that good old father time, purging of emotions and the daily experiences of life will cultivate the tools necessary to drag individuals down off any platform or hierarchy I may have viewed them in my mind. People come and people go, majority of individuals regardless of how I may feel or how they felt about me are evanescent just passing by. I may have had some good times and some bad times, moments that were significant, memories etched in stone. I may have loved them with every fiber in my body, but ah I can say in all honesty that life goes on, emotions fade and get overwritten and before you know it gets oh so much bette


Love yourself

The one constant person in my life until the day I croak is the person looking back at me in the mirror. So I might as well learn to like, love, motivate and appreciate myself. Criticisms that once lingered in my mind from other individuals now shifted to the viewpoint where I viewed them as chances to pay attention to how others viewed me and see the areas I could improve myself

I am who I am and I’m Okay with that!

I’ll never be (again?) a extrovert, life of the party, attention whore, womanizer, a sugar-coater, perfect, a follower, allow many into my circle, seeking validation, selling myself, free of past scars, putting others down instead of uplifting.

I know who I am at my core……..boring to some, exciting to others (I have no game just a few understand my story), honest even when it gets me trouble, “quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry”, a foundation built on strong standards and principles, a goal setter/achiever, passionate about my passions, trusting a few, a million thoughts always flowing in my head, still believing in love by my own definition, embracing the life that has been given to me and I'm totally 100% fine with that

 

[Gus Money]

Took a "break" from my relationship last night. I feel kinda bad for hurting her but we have been having a lot of loud/emotional arguments for a while now and that shyt is wearing on me.

 

[MikelArteta]

Took a "break" from my relationship last night. I feel kinda bad for hurting her but we have been having a lot of loud/emotional arguments for a while now and that shyt is wearing on me.

break = breakup

 

[kevm3]

A lot of what we got can be drawn down directly to culture and how a parent chooses to raise their child. This is a fairly interesting show if you have the time. It's about problem children to the UK sent to different parents from around the world to live. Obviously elements of the show are scripted, but you can see just from the way that those particular Ghanian parents raise their children, that it's completely different from what we typically have in the west.

 

[kevm3]

Here's one that's huge for me. Stop thinking that your game is impeccable and that your actions can somehow procure her loyalty. When we get with a woman, a lot of us start to wonder if we're doing this or that right and whether that will make her loyal. It can be incredibly stress-inducing because we seen so many dudes get cheated on and most have been cheated on ourselves, so we start looking for some gameplan to get a woman to stop.

You're wasting your time. Cheating is a reflection of the other person's character, not your own actions. If someone wasn't feeling you and they were of high character, what they would do is BREAK UP with you. The only way it should be seen as different is if you gave her fear for breaking up with you via threats or whatever.

A lot of dudes say something corny of if you don't do it for her, someone else will. Well let that other dude do it. Don't ever let a woman hold something over your head. Just think to those instances where you have a dude doing everything for a woman and she still cheats on him. On the other hand, dude that does nothing for her gets everything.

Guys with all the fame, looks, and even sharp personality, 'game', etc. get cheated on too. The bad boys can keep these women on an emotional rollercoaster, but even then, women can get bored and find someone else on the side, especially when dude goes to prison. You can't 'game' a woman into loyalty. It's something that's in her or it isn't. If it isn't in her, don't think you can magically instill it in her with your actions.

On another note, if a woman is coming with the emotional manipulation stuff, chech her hard and check her immediately. If she persists, I'd be starting to think it's time to keep it pushing. The moment a woman sees she can emotionally manipulate you to get what she wants, she's going to lose respect for you and keep on pushing the envelope. How women act in this day and age aren't even like kids. It's more akin to the problem child. Instead of coming in and trying to do the right things in the program, a lot of them will push and prod and test the limits of bad behavior. If they see they can get away with it, they're going to get even worse. Do you honestly want someone like that around you, who is always pushing the boundaries of bad behavior? The moment you are seen as weak, they will try to walk all over you. Do not allow the woman to set the agenda.

As a man, YOU set the protocol for which a woman is to deal with you. The moment she starts that yelling, you tell her to cut it out and learn to deal with you as a woman should, which is wait until her emotions are calm and collected and then to speak with you in a befitting manner.

 

[MikelArteta]

Here's one that's huge for me. Stop thinking that your game is impeccable and that your actions can somehow procure her loyalty. When we get with a woman, a lot of us start to wonder if we're doing this or that right and whether that will make her loyal. It can be incredibly stress-inducing because we seen so many dudes get cheated on and most have been cheated on ourselves, so we start looking for some gameplan to get a woman to stop.

You're wasting your time. Cheating is a reflection of the other person's character, not your own actions. If someone wasn't feeling you and they were of high character, what they would do is BREAK UP with you. The only way it should be seen as different is if you gave her fear for breaking up with you via threats or whatever.

A lot of dudes say something corny of if you don't do it for her, someone else will. Well let that other dude do it. Don't ever let a woman hold something over your head. Just think to those instances where you have a dude doing everything for a woman and she still cheats on him. On the other hand, dude that does nothing for her gets everything.

Guys with all the fame, looks, and even sharp personality, 'game', etc. get cheated on too. The bad boys can keep these women on an emotional rollercoaster, but even then, women can get bored and find someone else on the side, especially when dude goes to prison. You can't 'game' a woman into loyalty. It's something that's in her or it isn't. If it isn't in her, don't think you can magically instill it in her with your actions.

On another note, if a woman is coming with the emotional manipulation stuff, chech her hard and check her immediately. If she persists, I'd be starting to think it's time to keep it pushing. The moment a woman sees she can emotionally manipulate you to get what she wants, she's going to lose respect for you and keep on pushing the envelope. How women act in this day and age aren't even like kids. It's more akin to the problem child. Instead of coming in and trying to do the right things in the program, a lot of them will push and prod and test the limits of bad behavior. If they see they can get away with it, they're going to get even worse. Do you honestly want someone like that around you, who is always pushing the boundaries of bad behavior? The moment you are seen as weak, they will try to walk all over you. Do not allow the woman to set the agenda.

As a man, YOU set the protocol for which a woman is to deal with you. The moment she starts that yelling, you tell her to cut it out and learn to deal with you as a woman should, which is wait until her emotions are calm and collected and then to speak with you in a befitting manner.

Yup

In my readings throughout the internet, I've come enough numerous stories of women in sexless marriages who husbands had erectile problems etc. and yet still they stayed LOYAL, husband lost their job STAYED loyal

someone who is loyal will be loyal regardless

its like again tony gwynn, could have signed a big deal anywhere in the league but stayed in san diego his whole career making peanuts out of loyalty

that's why if you have a loyal woman you don't have to worry that she's fine and tom dikk and harry are spitting words at her she knows what she has

 

[kevm3]

Nikkaz in here need to realize, the women of today....the women of 2015 are pure and utter trash. Feminism, media, corporations fukked it all up. Women don't even realize this...and why should they? No nikka is gonna ever say no to a woman and until this stops, which doesn't look likely, shyt will only get worst.

I mean, i cannot even love the woman today the way that i want, because i'll most likely be viewed as boring, safe and therefore probably cheated on. Therefore, i almost always gotta be someone i ain't to get to even get some attention...let alone dates/sex. How fukked up does that sound?

but that is the reality that we live in.

With that being said, brehs, i beg ya'll stop chasing these women. Stop asking questions about situations and shyt and realize the woman you are talking about and women in general in the west are not worth a drop of your resource. Work hard to be the best MAN you can be. SWEAT BREHS. SWEAT Then enjoy your life.

Save money up then book tickets to travel
Save money up and purchase a gym membership
Save money up and open up a business

If you do along the way deal with women, i'd avoid getting into a relationship with them and invest AS LITTLE as possible. Also, do not have any expectations. This is the most important thing more than anything when it comes to dealing with women.

That's the reality of the situation. The crop of modern, low quality women is so abundant that you start to think YOU'RE doing wrong. Being a decent, upstanding man? Not enough for the modern woman. The modern woman isn't satisfied with just one man. They want the man to pay the bills and a thrillerman or multiple thriller men on the side.

Just about all of us have thought that we weren't doing enough or using the right technique to procure some woman's loyalty, but nah, that's just who she is. A lot of us thought we weren't saying the right things when the conversation wasn't that interesting, but nah, she's not really a conversationalist. It only takes one high quality woman to show you that it wasn't you in them other scenarios.

You stop thinking it was you when you meet that woman where hour long conversations are easy, you never have to go outside of your character to keep her interested and she just chooses to be loyal because it's in her moral fiber. Stop attempting to compensate for and accommodate low quality women.

 

[MikelArteta]

That's the reality of the situation. The crop of modern, low quality women is so abundant that you start to think YOU'RE doing wrong. Being a decent, upstanding man? Not enough for the modern woman. The modern woman isn't satisfied with just one man. They want the man to pay the bills and a thrillerman or multiple thriller men on the side.

Just about all of us have thought that we weren't doing enough or using the right technique to procure some woman's loyalty, but nah, that's just who she is. A lot of us thought we weren't saying the right things when the conversation wasn't that interesting, but nah, she's not really a conversationalist. It only takes one high quality woman to show you that it wasn't you in them other scenarios.

You stop thinking it was you when you meet that woman where hour long conversations are easy, you never have to go outside of your character to keep her interested and she just chooses to be loyal because it's in her moral fiber. Stop attempting to compensate for and accommodate low quality women.

Yup
it's basically good upstanding men are basically overqualified for the majority of what's out there, it's like having a great degree and only being able to get a job being a barista at starbucks

 

[MikelArteta]

The sad thing as I get older the worst the market is, single mothers (no offense), scorned women, past skanks who had their fun and willing to settle down, women who have been discarding men left and right for years

all i can do is hope is a dude messes up with a good women and she falls into my lap

 

[kevm3]

A ton of the problems we have nowadays are simply due to american simps. If they brought their mentality abroad, we'd have the same problems over there. These dudes are so thirsty for sex that they are willing to do any and everything to get it. One thing I noticed is that when Tariq went to Brazil, he said he seen all these fine women and yet none of the dudes were going all crazy over them. Maybe THAT'S why those women act much more composed. You let these American simps flood over there and they'll be all over talking about "oooohweeee girl you are sooo fine. Can I buy you a drink?" These dudes let women do and say anything, which is pathetic.

 

[kevm3]

The sad thing as I get older the worst the market is, single mothers (no offense), scorned women, past skanks who had their fun and willing to settle down, women who have been discarding men left and right for years

all i can do is hope is a dude messes up with a good women and she falls into my lap

I'm starting to be of the notion that a man has to eventually choose. Does he want this short-term western comfort or does he want to be in an environment to raise a family? I say short-term because a society without a strong family structure is destined for collapse. America and other such western nations were socially engineered to destroy the family structure. This was actually PLANNED and as you can see, it is working marvelously.

I was watching a ton of those 'strict parenting' shows, and I noticed that in a lot of the Christian households, they simply did not let their children watch television or heavily limited it. Most people would think that is utterly insane, but now I can see the wisdom in it, because look at how effective television and other media was in shaping our modern society's beliefs. It is nearly impossible to raise a family in a society which does nothing to teach our men and women how to be marriage worthy.

Men are taught to be players and women are taught to be whores. RnB music always had sexual overtones, but now it is overtly sexual. Rap has always been overtly sexual. Look at all of these housewives shows, sex and the city, etc. There are little if any shows anymore that show a healthy family structure.

Matthew 6:22
"The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light.

What Jesus is saying in this verse is what you look at will eventually affect your character. Think about all of those cartoons in which brainwashing was used. What happened? They often sat some character in front of a screen and showed them some sort of video over and over. Now think about what television is doing with all of these shows that have a similar theme that they are repeating over and over. What kind of society do you think will be produced when we have all of these 'cool' parents who don't even whip their kids or teach them any values, but instead leave them up to the school system and television to rear? That's right, we have this modern society of madness.

If you want to have a successful football team, you have to have certain rules and principles you follow. The same is true of marriage. If I told you that in order to be a successful football player, you never had to exercise, you don't have to go to practice and you can show up two hours late, you would tell me I was being stupid. But for some odd reason, people believe they don't have to do anything to make marriage work. You reap what you sew, and we've had a lot of weeds planted in our modern society.