Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

yea that's sad

i'm just looking at your situation and how it mirrors mine, i'm in the same predicament. I don't want to be the jealous type but sometimes it just annoys the hell out of me. why can't people just move on. he didn't have to deal with ex bullshyt but now I am. It's like my girl feels bad for him, they went out for 4 years and this dude is old now and has nobody, and is alone every night and day as she says, and she always talks about how she used to take so much care of her, this and that.

I trust her and love her and hope i'm not being stupid and ignorant and end up like you

trust but verify. I trusted my girl if my dikk wasn't pissing razor blades I never would have known. She even tried to pin that ish on me like I gave it to her

I know it's hard because you don't want to come across as "jealous" but hell even in the bible it says God is a jealous God.

I don't talk to any of my exes and why would I? lets be real if there is one person a woman will screw with is an ex bf or someone who hit before because she has a emotional connection.

Even now I could bump into one of my exes and prob feel something because of what we shared.

It's dangerous territory!

 

[BlaKcMoney]

yea that's sad

i'm just looking at your situation and how it mirrors mine, i'm in the same predicament. I don't want to be the jealous type but sometimes it just annoys the hell out of me. why can't people just move on. he didn't have to deal with ex bullshyt but now I am. It's like my girl feels bad for him, they went out for 4 years and this dude is old now and has nobody, and is alone every night and day as she says, and she always talks about how she used to take so much care of her, this and that.

I trust her and love her and hope i'm not being stupid and ignorant and end up like you

He's lonely and she's concerned? He not doing nothing but telling her how much he miss her every night. There is no reason for your girl to be talking to her ex or any other guy she has had sex with. Thats not being jealous that's just being smart. I had an ex tell her man that he would just have to deal with Me being in her life bcuz of our history, of course she didn't tell him I would be getting head whiles he's calling to say good morning. Foul business. I done had other girls give me head with they man on the phone. This was when I was young and didn't know better but I was the "friend" enough to seethru a chick who talks that nonsense

 

[BlaKcMoney]

you can never control the outcome. i feel what you're saying but i feel like the way to reconcile everything is to not be invested so much in the outcome. this goes for everything in life but i'm gonna keep it about women for this convo.

when you talk about "missed opportunities", you gotta ask yourself, "opportunity for what?" and then ask yourself "why is it an opportunity?". You could want to have a woman for many reason. could be to fukk, could be to build, could be to love, could be to pimp, could be to abuse, could be whatever evil or good depending on who you are and what you stand for. whatever the case, the reason you want her is because you believe she would contribute to your happiness. but you getting the woman (the outcome) should not be the goal. the goal is your happiness. it's not the girl that's making you happy. it's the fact that she's doing XYZ that's helping you be happier. getting a specific woman is not the goal. the goal is to get a woman who does XYZ. Once you start thinking getting Lisa (the outcome) is the goal, you already lost. cause now you've made your happiness dependent on getting a specific woman (something you have slight influence over and no real control over). but if your goal becomes to find a woman you are attracted to who will do XYZ and cooperate then once you see potential, you go after it cause it's actually an opportunity. but if she isn't down for the play, that means her potential to contribute to your happiness is decreasing just by her not cooperating. if she isn't cooperating, why should we consider getting her a "desired outcome"?

it makes sense in my mind but i don't know how to put it into words...

 

[BlaKcMoney]

its hard sometimes. I'm a dry well at the moment, I could holler at the chick I call rich girl whose dad owns a car dealership but , I could holler at that crazy chick wh emails and texts but

silence to the grave is my mantra

its hard when dying of thirst in the desert not to drink that blue antifreeze :kony:, but just gotta be patient

back n the day I'd be on a dating site/app now but I just can't do it anymore, I want something of substance , something organic, on some going to longos at 10pm and some chick falls on some black ice and im the only one there to help type ish

I been dry for 1 month and that thirst is real but im tryna b patient for the right one without going back to the trash for leftovers

 

[kevm3]

Why is having basic standards in this day and age considered being 'jealous' or 'insecure'? It just shows how backwards the morals of this generation is. If you don't let your woman have 10,000 male friends, go on exotic locales with her girls and a host of other utterly disrespectful behavior, apparently you're insecure or jealous. That's utter nonsense and is simply people who want to have someone, but don't really want to do what it takes to be successful in a relationship trying to flip the script and have you accept their nonsense.

 

[BlaKcMoney]

Hopefully with all this wisdom shared well have some success stories to share soon

 

[MikelArteta]

Hopefully with all this wisdom shared well have some success stories to share soon

takes two to tango

 

[BlaKcMoney]

Why is having basic standards in this day and age considered being 'jealous' or 'insecure'? It just shows how backwards the morals of this generation is. If you don't let your woman have 10,000 male friends, go on exotic locales with her girls and a host of other utterly disrespectful behavior, apparently you're insecure or jealous. That's utter nonsense and is simply people who want to have someone, but don't really want to do what it takes to be successful in a relationship trying to flip the script and have you accept their nonsense.

Yeah like its something wrong with you if you don't want your girl at the club or talking to other men on the phone. I'm glad ive learned the signs though because a woman is already going to have to not be doing those things when we meet or its not happening, I can't be tryna train and raise these Babylonian chicks. I tried to play captain save em and lost that war

 

[MikelArteta]

Why is having basic standards in this day and age considered being 'jealous' or 'insecure'? It just shows how backwards the morals of this generation is. If you don't let your woman have 10,000 male friends, go on exotic locales with her girls and a host of other utterly disrespectful behavior, apparently you're insecure or jealous. That's utter nonsense and is simply people who want to have someone, but don't really want to do what it takes to be successful in a relationship trying to flip the script and have you accept their nonsense.

this is why now when I see that I just leave, a chick talking to her ex I'm gone

Told this story before I was chilling with this chick and it was like 12am and her phone rang and she didnt answer it I gaze over it and it says @Jahmal

I remember her telling me her ex was named @Jahmal, and how they didn't talk

that was it, I just finished watching the movie and left and never talked to her again.

That's why its vital to have checkpoints, rules, boundaries and if they are not met regardless of how she looks etc. depart.

I can laugh now but I can look back when I was so caught up and somewhat a simp dealing with girls who had male friends, went to bars and got drunk, went on vacays with the girls, had tons of male freinds and acquintances, thousands of followers on social media and here I was always on my tippytoes

y'all may laugh but i would waste so much time every day like checking her instagram, then her twitter, then her facebook

instagram was private I would google search her @Username an dsee what shes been liking

any guy added id vet that dude as well

I'd look at her phone through my peripheal


THIS is no way to live brehs

yes i know somoene who is going to cheat is going to cheat but all that ish was stressing me out

thats why i aint even messing with chicks like that anymore

I'm on my GOd is within her she will not fail mindframe

 

[kevm3]

That's the problem. We're in a ruined culture that tells women all of this is okay. Mainstream society encourages. Simps accept it because they will do anything to get some of her time. Male feminists encourage it as well. It's like you have to do an unbelievable amount of work and arguing just to get a woman to a DATEABLE stage.

Who really wants to deal with a woman who has 10,000 male friends that you KNOW she is talking to? Taking disrespectful trips? It's much better being single than being wrapped up with a woman like that. The sad thing is though, that it seems like the majority of women are like that. You're pretty much left searching for that rare gem or being by yourself. There's no super secret 'game' or technique to turn the undateable into the dateable. All you can do is tell these women exactly what it is you're looking for, and maybe a few of them will understand where you're coming from and live up to that standard.

 

[BlaKcMoney]

takes two to tango

Hopefully someone is raising there daughters right

this is why now when I see that I just leave, a chick talking to her ex I'm gone

Told this story before I was chilling with this chick and it was like 12am and her phone rang and she didnt answer it I gaze over it and it says @Jahmal

I remember her telling me her ex was named @Jahmal, and how they didn't talk

that was it, I just finished watching the movie and left and never talked to her again.

That's why its vital to have checkpoints, rules, boundaries and if they are not met regardless of how she looks etc. depart.

I can laugh now but I can look back when I was so caught up and somewhat a simp dealing with girls who had male friends, went to bars and got drunk, went on vacays with the girls, had tons of male freinds and acquintances, thousands of followers on social media and here I was always on my tippytoes

y'all may laugh but i would waste so much time every day like checking her instagram, then her twitter, then her facebook

instagram was private I would google search her @Username an dsee what shes been liking

any guy added id vet that dude as well

I'd look at her phone through my peripheal


THIS is no way to live brehs

yes i know somoene who is going to cheat is going to cheat but all that ish was stressing me out

thats why i aint even messing with chicks like that anymore

I'm on my GOd is within her she will not fail mindframe

Man I been there. Going on Facebook, seeing signs and giving ya girl the benefit of the doubt, believing all the lies a girl tells until you find out the truth. Its one thing to be cheated on, its another thing to put all your trust in someone to find out they betrayed you in the worst way. These girls can act, they'll portray themselves as one way to you only for you to find out they are not the person you thought they were

 

[MikelArteta]

Man I been there. Going on Facebook, seeing signs and giving ya girl the benefit of the doubt, believing all the lies a girl tells until you find out the truth. Its one thing to be cheated on, its another thing to put all your trust in someone to find out they betrayed you in the worst way. These girls can act, they'll portray themselves as one way to you only for you to find out they are not the person you thought they were

that's the worst thing, when your played for a gawt damn fool.

when you actually give em the benefit of the doubt, when you've vetted, and they passed all the checkpoints only to get stabbed in the back

 

[MikelArteta]

may sound messed up but

Years ago at one point I was a social media star - on the outside peering in, life would have seemed great, life would even have seemed envious. I was a young man with an abundance of money, friends, and surrounded by beautiful women. However I was naïve, ingenuous with my eyes toward the sky as I almost fell into a ditch of toxicity time and time again. The individuals I surrounded myself at that time in my life were toxic to the core, an anchor to my success and happiness. The life I wanted to live could not be possible with the bad company that were corrupting the good morals that were part of my foundation.

So am I proud of it? Meh!

Was it cowardly? Possibly!

Would I do it again? eh!

I just woke up one day and deleted all of my social media accounts, changed my e-mail address, changed my phone number all without no prior warning. Like a thief in the night I left unexpectedly - the popularity, the toxicity, the “friends”, the lifestyle, the women and never looked back.

As the years go on I can look back at all the friends and women I discarded, and I feel absolutely not a sliver of regret. They did not make it over to the other side so to speak because they did not qualify the standards I had finally set for association in my life.

Because at the end of the day, I only want to be surrounded by individuals that are a good fit for my life and who value and respect me, and I’ll continue to use the wisdom and experience I have acquired throughout my life to my advantage to facilitate in weeding the ones who don't out.

 

[MikelArteta]

That's the problem. We're in a ruined culture that tells women all of this is okay. Mainstream society encourages. Simps accept it because they will do anything to get some of her time. Male feminists encourage it as well. It's like you have to do an unbelievable amount of work and arguing just to get a woman to a DATEABLE stage.

Who really wants to deal with a woman who has 10,000 male friends that you KNOW she is talking to? Taking disrespectful trips? It's much better being single than being wrapped up with a woman like that. The sad thing is though, that it seems like the majority of women are like that. You're pretty much left searching for that rare gem or being by yourself. There's no super secret 'game' or technique to turn the undateable into the dateable. All you can do is tell these women exactly what it is you're looking for, and maybe a few of them will understand where you're coming from and live up to that standard.

its not worth it, the added stress. Men can be on that I dont care, but trust me as time goes on when you actually fall for her and commit to her that ish is going to nag at you. When you check her instagram and she has a mirror shot showing her ass, and dudes are like damn ma let me hit, or her ex is writing on her facebook wall and ish, or you wake up and check her photo and she went out clubbing with the girls

It's no way to live, that stress will eat you up alive.

Not all battles have to be fought

 

[BlaKcMoney]

may sound messed up but

Years ago at one point I was a social media star - on the outside peering in, life would have seemed great, life would even have seemed envious. I was a young man with an abundance of money, friends, and surrounded by beautiful women. However I was naïve, ingenuous with my eyes toward the sky as I almost fell into a ditch of toxicity time and time again. The individuals I surrounded myself at that time in my life were toxic to the core, an anchor to my success and happiness. The life I wanted to live could not be possible with the bad company that were corrupting the good morals that were part of my foundation.

So am I proud of it? Meh!

Was it cowardly? Possibly!

Would I do it again? eh!

I just woke up one day and deleted all of my social media accounts, changed my e-mail address, changed my phone number all without no prior warning. Like a thief in the night I left unexpectedly - the popularity, the toxicity, the “friends”, the lifestyle, the women and never looked back.

As the years go on I can look back at all the friends and women I discarded, and I feel absolutely not a sliver of regret. They did not make it over to the other side so to speak because they did not qualify the standards I had finally set for association in my life.

Because at the end of the day, I only want to be surrounded by individuals that are a good fit for my life and who value and respect me, and I’ll continue to use the wisdom and experience I have acquired throughout my life to my advantage to facilitate in weeding the ones who don't out.

Man im trying to do what you are and set a standard without comprising. Why are there so many of us as men settling for women that disrespect us?