Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

damn..

all that talk about how she still truly love me, she doesn't see herself with anyone else, and she wants to work things out with me aint real?

just calming the storm

I could be wrong but I've been there,. Was dating thsi broad the whole I love you etc., always had a photo of us by her bedside, one day im over at her place and the photo isnt up anymore , i bring it up and she told me she was cleaning got the I love you, and she came and kissed me and we did the deed .

a few weeks later

my gut was right the photo was removed because she was emotionally detaching, so she was changing getting rid of the old to prepare for the new.

 

[Music Fiend]

damn..

all that talk about how she still truly love me, she doesn't see herself with anyone else, and she wants to work things out with me aint real?

She prolly really does feel that way at the moment.

the concept of compounding interest . little things, add up to make a huge investment over time. Which is actually what keeps the relationship fresh and healthy. you start throwing out change, People start wanting grandiose displays which don't do much.

So you book trips, make more time for dates, be spontaneous and she enjoys it. But right after those things, it goes back to the real medium. Life with you. and her self.

Thing is that latter part, herself, is the only thing that will keep her happy. Which most of the time takes time to change, and people want it right now. That means a path away from you.

What she is really saying is she's comfortable and you are familiar but she is ready for new experiences.

 

[Music Fiend]

Not to be bleek , it can work out. If you two are secure enough in yourself to let each other be free to change and do new things.

But insecurity and change don't go together.

 

[craigsagersuit]

She prolly really does feel that way at the moment.

the concept of compounding interest . little things, add up to make a huge investment over time. Which is actually what keeps the relationship fresh and healthy. you start throwing out change, People start wanting grandiose displays which don't do much.

So you book trips, make more time for dates, be spontaneous and she enjoys it. But right after those things, it goes back to the real medium. Life with you. and her self.

Thing is that latter part, herself, is the only thing that will keep her happy. Which most of the time takes time to change, and people want it right now. That means a path away from you.

What she is really saying is she's comfortable and you are familiar but she is ready for new experiences.

what do you suggest to do, moving forward?

 

[jadillac]

I think one of the greatest problem with women these days is that you never know what to expect from them. They simply pop up one day, disappear the next, might be cool for months, decide to throw everything away simply because they are 'bored' or feel they found some upgrade.

Like you might be talking to a chick and she's mad cool and everything and then she just disappears and doesn't contact you for a while, but then pops back up a month later or some such nonsense. Putting your happiness on a woman is a big mistake I find. They can complement your life, and that's only after you've found the right one.

Man, this is 100% true. They're supremely nice one day/one min, then will cut you off w/o reason. And usually because they have so many options online, they consider you expendable.

2 weeks ago my parents celebrated their 37th anniversary. The over whelming majority of women these days are simply not like our mothers.

 

[Music Fiend]

what do you suggest to do, moving forward?

Sounds like ur planning on staying it out.

Just make sure you let her know if she wants change, she has to put effort in to change her life and give you space to put effort in and change your own life (if you are feeling the same). I'd just go 0 to 100 in my own personal life. Start hanging with my bros (only good influences tho), start making chess moves to move in your career/where you want to go. ur gonna have hard choices that are gonna be uncomfortable especially if she's not doing the same. Which in that case there's nothing you can do. But at least if it doesn't work out, you won't have sat there waiting around.

Only you really know how much effrot u r putting in. We could all be wrong you could just be living a life that bores her and she just wants to do new things. But if you are doing what you can, make sure you take care of you. And that you don't make your msision to be staying together. If you get out there and start living life and you find a better option, then roll with it.

 

[RealAssanova]

@TRUEST @Asantehene @Emperor_ReinScarf

its a 100% wrap brehs with shorty from last week. texted me asking if she can borrow my textbook.

her: hey can i borrow your textbook tomorrow (we going to a get together for a mutual friends) and give it back to you next monday (which is when we have class together).

me: No

her: Word?
her: says the guy that wants to study

me: tell you what, thursday afternoon me and you can meet at a midway point between the both of us at a library and study

her: i really can't. thursdays are my busiest days and i'm doing stuff literally every other day

me: aight.

her: plus me and you won't really be able to study with both of us reading at the same time lol

me: i would've brought another subject with me that day while you read

her: thats really nice of you though, thanks

me: ye

on to the next one.

 

[Ohene]

@TRUEST @Asantehene @Emperor_ReinScarf

its a 100% wrap brehs with shorty from last week. texted me asking if she can borrow my textbook.

her: hey can i borrow your textbook tomorrow (we going to a get together for a mutual friends) and give it back to you next monday (which is when we have class together).

me: No

her: Word?
her: says the guy that wants to study

this is when you should've not replied lol

 

[TRUEST]

I think one of the greatest problem with women these days is that you never know what to expect from them. They simply pop up one day, disappear the next, might be cool for months, decide to throw everything away simply because they are 'bored' or feel they found some upgrade.

Like you might be talking to a chick and she's mad cool and everything and then she just disappears and doesn't contact you for a while, but then pops back up a month later or some such nonsense. Putting your happiness on a woman is a big mistake I find. They can complement your life, and that's only after you've found the right one.

i would caution guys to be careful with all women in general. even the good ones. people can change like the wind, and they have the right to.

just calming the storm

I could be wrong but I've been there,. Was dating thsi broad the whole I love you etc., always had a photo of us by her bedside, one day im over at her place and the photo isnt up anymore , i bring it up and she told me she was cleaning got the I love you, and she came and kissed me and we did the deed .

a few weeks later

my gut was right the photo was removed because she was emotionally detaching, so she was changing getting rid of the old to prepare for the new.

The photo was removed because she most likely had a another nikka over and she didn't want him asking questions about u

 

[MikelArteta]

i would caution guys to be careful with all women in general. even the good ones. people can change like the wind, and they have the right to.

The photo was removed because she most likely had a another nikka over and she didn't want him asking questions about u

 

[RealAssanova]

this is when you should've not replied lol

lol its all good fam. She ain't joining the team.

That post u did 2 days ago showed me da light. From now on, i'm spitting game and saying what i truly want to say, and girls are given the opportunity to either accept or reject. My conscience will be clear from now on cuz i know what i want. Those days of analyzing are now over.

 

[Ohene]

lol its all good fam. She ain't joining the team.

That post u did 2 days ago showed me da light. From now on, i'm spitting game and saying what i truly want to say, and girls are given the opportunity to either accept or reject. My conscience will be clear from now on cuz i know what i want. Those days of analyzing are now over.

Thats the spirit man. Just be yourself.

The other day i was at a chick from high school's party and saw a chick standing alone. I spat to her gave her my number and said eff it if she calls she calls if she doesn't it's cool because I dont know her from a can of paint anyways.

Cant be bothered gathering numbers and chasing. I'm too old and distinguished for it so the onus is on them now. 2 days later she texted me saying "hey its ___ heres my number." Went to another party the next day and shorty from my HS was there (it was her cousins party). Turned out she spoke to the girl I gave my number after she asked about me. Homegirl girl gave me the no look assist and put in a good word because she's always known me to be a decent dude. If you truly believe you're a good catch just be honorable, be yourself and treat people well. That way you always have your self-respect and nobody can hate on you.

Now I know if and when I holla it wont be no bullshyt because if she wasnt even remotely interested she wouldn't have hit me up. I had to school a bystander who saw me giving my number to her about the same shyt.

If a girl is remotely interested theyll do the knowledge and meet you half way. If they dont its not worth it even bothering whether or not theyre interested because ends must justify the means.

 

[MikelArteta]

Thats the spirit man. Just be yourself.

The other day i was at a chick from high school's party and saw a chick standing alone. I spat to her gave her my number and said eff it if she calls she calls if she doesn't it's cool because I dont know her from a can of paint anyways.

Cant be bothered gathering numbers and chasing. I'm too old and distinguished for it so the onus is on them now. 2 days later she texted me saying "hey its ___ heres my number." Went to another party the next day and shorty from my HS was there (it was her cousins party). Turned out she spoke to the girl I gave my number after she asked about me. Homegirl girl gave me the no look assist and put in a good word because she's always known me to be a decent dude. If you truly believe you're a good catch just be honorable, be yourself and treat people well. That way you always have your self-respect and nobody can hate on you.

Now I know if and when I holla it wont be no bullshyt because if she wasnt even remotely interested she wouldn't have hit me up. I had to scoop a bystander who saw me giving my number to her about the same shyt.

If a girl is remotely interested theyll do the knowledge and meet you half way. If they dont its not worth it even bothering whether or not theyre interested because ends must justify the means.

you are the prizeeeee

these h&m starbucks baristas aint anymore!!

 

[MikelArteta]

Those days of analyzing are now over.

women want you to be in a state of confusion, frustrating, analyzing.

 

[Ohene]

you are the prizeeeee

these h&m starbucks baristas aint anymore!!

everybody has the potential to be a prize. just gotta be open to experience and not a snob.


i dont even know if chick was attractive like that cause it was dark. i just remember big titties and what seemed like a cool personality. so when she left I said, hey here's my number hit me up.