Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

The daily battle.

If I become this aloof, emotionally distant shape shifter. If I just lowered my standards and had no boundaries. If I just became that "problem", That negro who just thinks with his dikk and is selfish at the core I'd be the " man" SL to speak

"Do not grow weary in doing good"

Knowing "the game" and playing "the game" is so awkward. Is so different when the ball is in your hands and you have to go against everything as a "good" man that you've been taught because you know the person won't respond the same way.

It all comes down to finding someone that would do what you'd do for them for you. Anything less is unacceptable, and that's hard to for me. Because I damn near do anything for the people I really care about and then turn around and get mad when the same "love" isn't shown. I do alot for people I don't even know, but I dont expect them to show anything but common courtesy.


This isn't with just with women but friends too.

 

[Bless't]

"Make mistakes right now, go crazy"

you're right. sounds like she ready to do some exploring.

Honestly, this is why you never make a woman a focus. You put in all that effort and she decides to leave and 'find herself', aka see what other dudes are talking about 'just cuz'.

Get to the point to where if a woman walks out, 'coo, I wish you well' and then you continue about your day like nothing much happened.

It's sad that we have to be this way, but better you be able to keep on enjoying life than crying and moping over a woman who would rather chase thrills than be with you.

I've gotten to this level now. My girl now even knows if she were to ever get to the point of leaving, I'm not gonna play that whole "Oh baby, please dont go. Please dont leave me." shyt. She's even said that if she were to let go of me, I'd have no problem bidding her adieu and closing the door behind myself. To me it keeps her sharp. It prevents her from even attempting some lame ass cat and mouse game.

 

[MikelArteta]

http://www.thecoli.com/threads/tsc-brehs-and-brehettes-i-want-to-thank-you.293533/


Read this thread

A coli brehs wife just got up and left him

 

[MikelArteta]

The only women in your life who are not replaceable are your mother, grandma, sisters, aunts and daughters.

I've gotten to this level now. My girl now even knows if she were to ever get to the point of leaving, I'm not gonna play that whole "Oh baby, please dont go. Please dont leave me." shyt. She's even said that if she were to let go of me, I'd have no problem bidding her adieu and closing the door behind myself. To me it keeps her sharp. It prevents her from even attempting some lame ass cat and mouse game.

 

[Bless't]

The only women in your life who are not replaceable are your mother, grandma, sisters, aunts and daughters.

Damn skippy.

 

[The ADD]

http://www.thecoli.com/threads/tsc-brehs-and-brehettes-i-want-to-thank-you.293533/


Read this thread

A coli brehs wife just got up and left him

 

[craigsagersuit]

Shout outs to everyone helping out the kid


Update:

seems like she's genuinely wanting to stay with me. she said we are still going to talk, hangout, and she still wants to be with me, but that we are just going to be hanging out less so she can find answers about herself. she's saying shes really happy with me but that she needs to find herself and love herself without me. and she's doing this for the both of us because she wants to be her best for me. didn't talk to her at all last night so she texted me this morning saying "please don't let this be the end of us" and to just think about it

it's kinda maybe it is just a phase, but i'm already preparing myself for the worst scenario.

 

[The ADD]

Shout outs to everyone helping out the kid


Update:

seems like she's genuinely wanting to stay with me. she said we are still going to talk, hangout, and she still wants to be with me, but that we are just going to be hanging out less so she can find answers about herself. she's saying shes really happy with me but that she needs to find herself and love herself without me. and she's doing this for the both of us because she wants to be her best for me. didn't talk to her at all last night so she texted me this morning saying "please don't let this be the end of us" and to just think about it

it's kinda maybe it is just a phase, but i'm already preparing myself for the worst scenario.

Fam, I'm generally positive and give people the benefit of the doubt but this doesn't sound good long term.

 

[kevm3]

Knowing "the game" and playing "the game" is so awkward. Is so different when the ball is in your hands and you have to go against everything as a "good" man that you've been taught because you know the person won't respond the same way.

It all comes down to finding someone that would do what you'd do for them for you. Anything less is unacceptable, and that's hard to for me. Because I damn near do anything for the people I really care about and then turn around and get mad when the same "love" isn't shown. I do alot for people I don't even know, but I dont expect them to show anything but common courtesy.


This isn't with just with women but friends too.

That's what it comes down to. It's definitely not worth changing and playing a little game just to keep some woman entertained. If you're kind and generous, stay that way. Even if you did keep a woman around longer with all of the shenanigans, you wouldn't enjoy yourself at all. You'd eventually realize, "Man, why am I doing all of this? She doesn't even like me for me." You'll also end up confused because you'll always be trying to figure out the next move to keep this woman around. That's placing way too much value on a woman.

How I look at it is learn to enjoy your life to the utmost without a woman, and only let a woman who wants to see you win in your life into your presence. She has to understand the team concept and not think you are some kind of free ride or entertainer. When you learn to value yourself, you will be much less likely to make moves out of desperation, which will result in taking on one of these drama addicts and end up messing up your life.

Quality is extremely rare nowadays, so we just have to be careful and not make moves out of desperation and attempt to turn a woman into something she isn't.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

Shorty just put you on ice... And you're going along with it.

 

[kevm3]

Shout outs to everyone helping out the kid


Update:

seems like she's genuinely wanting to stay with me. she said we are still going to talk, hangout, and she still wants to be with me, but that we are just going to be hanging out less so she can find answers about herself. she's saying shes really happy with me but that she needs to find herself and love herself without me. and she's doing this for the both of us because she wants to be her best for me. didn't talk to her at all last night so she texted me this morning saying "please don't let this be the end of us" and to just think about it

it's kinda maybe it is just a phase, but i'm already preparing myself for the worst scenario.

What exactly does she need to 'discover' about herself that is causing her to need to spend less time with you? I bet if you asked her, she wouldn't be able to give you a tangible plan. Oh I plan on reading more books. Oh, I plan on doing more writing, etc. Why can't she 'discover herself' more with you?

 

[The ADD]

Fam she just offered an IPO on herself. Your stock just got devalued and you don't have a majority stake anymore.

Everything she said makes it seem like you did something to her. If that isn't the case her wanting to spend less time is odd.

How old are yall?

 

[kevm3]

The daily battle.

If I become this aloof, emotionally distant shape shifter. If I just lowered my standards and had no boundaries. If I just became that "problem", That negro who just thinks with his dikk and is selfish at the core I'd be the " man" SL to speak

"Do not grow weary in doing good"

I think if you did all of that, you'd get more quantity of women, ala those pick-up artists, and maybe you could keep a woman around longer than usual ala Ray Rice, but it'd ultimately end up being a situation where you'd prefer being alone. You'd eventually have to look in the mirror and realize that woman you're with doesn't love you for you, but she simply loves the antics and drama you're providing, and the moment you stop is the moment she is gone, or the moment she finds a more exciting rollercoaster is the minute she's ready to jet.

Imagine having to have a woman who actually responds better to you spitting on her and slapping her up... who actually loves to argue with you. Imagine that same woman provoking you to hit her and then she gets you locked up, but then her emotions swing again and she goes to bail you out. It'd give you a longer run with her, but a woman with drama is is simply not worth it. All of your peace of mind would be gone and you'd be stressed out and having some woman ruin your life just so she can get her emotional thrills. Even the Bible tells us, it's better to live in the wilderness than with a contentious woman.

Bottom line to me is, if she can't appreciate me for me, then she can go. I'm done with all of attempting to figure out what women 'like' or attempting to second guess myself to keep her around. She can go if she wants to, but she's going to get what I bring to the table. If it's for her, then she'll be around. If it's not, she's more than welcome to leave. As men, we got to stop playing games with these women. There's nothing any one of them are bringing to the table to make us give up one of the most precious things we have, which is our uniqueness and individual essence.

 

[craigsagersuit]

Fam she just offered an IPO on herself. Your stock just got devalued and you don't have a majority stake anymore.

Everything she said makes it seem like you did something to her. If that isn't the case her wanting to spend less time is odd.

How old are yall?

21.

What exactly does she need to 'discover' about herself that is causing her to need to spend less time with you? I bet if you asked her, she wouldn't be able to give you a tangle plan. Oh I plan on reading more books. Oh, I plan on doing more writing, etc. Why can't she 'discover herself' more with you?

she's saying that because she has spent so much time with me, she has put everyone else behind for me so she just wants to hang out a little less than usual, hang out with her girlfriends more and her mom. her mom even gave the spiel about how maybe this is God's way of teaching her to only rely on him and not your significant other.

 

[The ADD]

21.



she's saying that because she has spent so much time with me, she has put everyone else behind for me so she just wants to hang out a little less than usual, hang out with her girlfriends more and her mom. her mom even gave the spiel about how maybe this is God's way of teaching her to only rely on him and not your significant other.

That explains a lot. My only advice is to let her work through it but keep aware for signs she is stepping out on you. Lastly don't be surprised if it ends at some point.