Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

I think the issue with many people is that they don't really go out anywhere especially if they don't live in the city. So their options are limited and they start going after the girls at work because that's the only women they are coming in contact with. I can't say nothing good EVER comes from it but it's pretty rare. I've heard more horror stories than good ones. I've been there and done that and while my situation wasn't all too bad it can get really ugly for some people. It's probably best not to do it in most cases.

like i said the risk rarely is worth the reward.

I remember a dude at work getting canned when he thought a chick was feeling him and he sent her a crude joke in a email and well that was it

if a chick rejects your advances in life shrugs

if a chick rejects your advances at work she may be in hr saying she's uncomfortable

hell at my job now im one of only 4 black people
at my next (god willing), maybe even less black folks

I'm not risking it

 

[jadillac]

And then there's that

you might wanna be careful how you back away from her. Do it slowly....she could be crazy and try to get you for harrassment. YOU said she was feelin on you, but what will HR believe?

 

[MikelArteta]

you might wanna be careful how you back away from her. Do it slowly....she could be crazy and try to get you for harrassment. YOU said she was feelin on you, but what will HR believe?

thats the danger, black men are already portrayed as sexually aggressive thinking with their dikks only to many white poeple even in the corporate world.

 

[Youseenmywork]

@Emperor_ReinScarf @kevm3

just were my mindst has been lately ...ALL guys in this thread need to listen to this it will have you

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

One of the things I've learned is that you have to trust your gut and the vibe you get from people.

They say women act emotional but maybe it's something guys need to do more. At this point in my life if I hang out with a chick and something just feels off & I can't describe it, I have no problem getting rid of her.

 

[Rich Spirit]

this is the likeliest scenario. but i'm not gonna be of the mind to tell folks not to "sh1t where they eat". u only live once. my thing is, if u decide to do something like this, make sure the following requirements are met:

1. she's the one chasing u heavy
2. you have prove she's the one chasing u
3. say little, make innuendos but let her fill in the gaps
4. back to number 2, make sure u have proof.. not to be immature and show ur boys or other coworkers, but to ensure u dont lose ur job over it
5. make sure u dont work directly together. that way, u can avoid the awkward situations.

there are many other women out there, but there are very few people u can have a chemistry with. if u happen to have a chemistry with a chick at work, and she doesn't give off any crazy person signals, i say u handle business. but again, to be safe, make sure all 5 requirements listed above are met.

people have met their future-spouses at work. remember that.

dude speaks the truth. This is exactly the case i had when i was messing with a chick at my job. We kept things mutual, we did our thing a couple times and that was that. When we see each other at work, we act like nothing happened, we'll start talking and crack jokes and shyt. I never made things awkward

 

[OGBobbyJohnson]

Your only allowed 3/4

She can be loyal, interested in you, not a hoe but she has kids

Interested in you, not a hoe, no kids but jot loyal

Loyal, interested in you, no kids but she's a ho

That Is Just

 

[Brandsdale]

Thinking about it some more.. there are a couple very attractive females at my work and I can see why someone would go for them. They are easy on the eyes, pleasant attitude and approachable but shyt. I'm not even sure there is a right or wrong way to go about it. Like I said, it's something that I dealt with when I was 20 but that was a job I didn't even really care about.

Is there a right way to approach a female at work?

if it's a job you dont give a shyt about and just a paycheque sometimes its as simple as sparking a quick convo non-work related and flrting on an on-going basis which at one point,slowly but surely, you'll have an opportunity to advance. Usually some chics don't care because yall gonna quit soon enough anyway being it that everyone probably working towards getting a new job, college degree paying off school etc.

IMO an office or more formal working area is a little more tricky though being that it is a little more enclosed so you're more than likely to see em' more often and that vibe of being "strictly co-workers" kinda sticks.

I've never really got at any chics in my field related work though which I kinda kick myself for but c'est la vie

 

[Action Mike]

contact your ex when your sweating brehs

deleted. wanted a break from the game, but new roaster time..

 

[Spliff]

I think the issue with many people is that they don't really go out anywhere especially if they don't live in the city. So their options are limited and they start going after the girls at work because that's the only women they are coming in contact with. I can't say nothing good EVER comes from it but it's pretty rare. I've heard more horror stories than good ones. I've been there and done that and while my situation wasn't all too bad it can get really ugly for some people. It's probably best not to do it in most cases.

Speak on it breh, how'd it end up

I bounce at clubs, bars, lounges on weekends. Comin in contact with women ain't a problem, just somethin about this one particular shorty at work that got me contemplating blowing her back out against my better judgement.

 

[Easy-E]

She can be loyal, interested in you, not a hoe but she has kids

I'll take it...

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

Speak on it breh, how'd it end up

I worked in a couple different departments at my school mostly doing filing and helping to setup events. I became friends with this pawg. She was a legit pawg, I don't throw the word around. She was on the dance team. Cute enough face, nice tan. She was Greek or something. We hit it off pretty quickly but the first couple months we was just work friends. Then I noticed she started to hang around me more and more and she wanted to take lunch together. She asked for my cell # so I had no choice. I had to ask her out. I had nothing going on and her ass cheeks had me going crazy

Anyway we went out and I thought we had a lot of fun times together, she was over my apartment every weekend. But then her ex started coming around and I checked her on it. I was pretty harsh because he was a scruffy looking white boy and I couldn't believe she had dated him. I found out he was into pills and shyt, probably either A) she thought he was a "bad boy" or B) he was her hook up. Maybe both. I never really found out if she was into pills or not. It didn't seem like it but you know women lie. So she turns cold on me and starts wanting to talk to other guys and I'm like

I started talkin to other girls, well this didn't sit well. She still wanted to be friends after this. She begged me to be friends. I'm like what the fukk for. She tried a bunch of times to hang out or do something and I just ignored her. So then she started talking to every motherfukker around about how much of an a$$hole I was

I made the mistake of telling my side of the story after that and I probably should have just stayed quiet because the other women were just lookin at me like and the other nikkas just wanted to get a piece of that ass.

It was torture showing up for a good month because everyone was talkin and picking sides (not too many rode with me lol) and I hated seeing her around. She finally did get a new job and then all the shyt quieted down. We had a class together the following semester, it was a small class, and we actually did talk and it was okay but I didn't want anything to do with her outside of that.

 

[Nephilim_BC]

yo, went to a ghetto club the other night with this chick and im pretty sure this lesbian girl rufied her when she bought her a drink. cause she did a 180 real fast. fortunately I was the one that got to fukk her that night cause of it

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Looking at that graph Reincar posted about marriage and 1 thing that sticks out is how less likely a marriage couple stays together after 10+ years.

 

[EA]

I'm having a conflict of conscious. For the first time ever, I had sex with a girl that I have no intention of dating & it's eating me up for some strange reason and I feel like I'm gonna become one of "those guys". I'm trying to justify it in my head by acknowledging the fact that I was upfront with the girl about it before and after but I feel conflicted 'cause she keeps talking about how much she wants to see me now.

Can someone please tell me that I'm just being a sucker and I should keep it moving, please?