Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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The less time and effort you put into worrying about women, the better. That's not to say 'don't deal with them.' It's to say if the majority of your day is spent either worrying about or strategizing about procuring this or that woman, you're doing things wrong. When you have your life together, women start strategizing on being with you. You really don't want to come from a position where you're the one who is chasing. You need to put yourself in a position where it's YOU who are filtering out the women you come across.

Never let any woman so consume your thoughts that they can completely alter your mood and ruin your day. If they aren't bringing more joy than headaches, she has to go.

This is the truth, while I never put women 1st on my list (even when I had one that I really should have more so at a point) I've always kinda worried about "the next one" or "getting it right" Since I haven't been doing that its like my head is clear, and my thoughts and judgement are far less impaired. You'd be surprised how much you do to please or appease women subconsciously.


My current situation is tricky, but I legit care for the person so we will see where this goes. I'm all for it but a number of things make it difficult to the point where most guys probably wouldn't get involved especially emotionally.


But yeah,@kevm3 is 100 percent correct. If you question it from him, take it from me, a brother that has been around the block. Focus on you bettering yourself and you will attract women, usually decent ones at that.
 
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for one of the first times ever im on the receiving end of a chick always initiating contact and texting multiple times a day shyt is kinda :scust: make sure the effort and feelings are mutual brehs cause damn having someone you aint feeling like that constantly hitting you up is annoying as hell i can see why these bytches take so long with there replies:scusthov:
Had to block a female behind this.
 
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Yep, its the best when your life is happy and your fulfilled on your own. And your out there living your life enjoying your hobbies, and if a chick comes along your at such a point in life where you have to ponder is she going to subtract or be an addition to the life I'm leading.

Its kind of like the patriots no one is bigger than the team, Jonas gray rushes for 200 yards, messes up and is late for practice well ditto next. The team is going so well in every facet that if you mess up you lose your spot you can be replaced , disrespect will not be tolerated.

The same when your at a great level enjoying your life, if a woman is disrespectful messing up etc. Your life is going so well you will demote her or totally remove her.

I'm at that point now, would it be nice to have a relationship with a nice loyal grounded woman? Yes of course.

But my life is going so well now that I won't allow anyone to impede my happiness or joy.


The less time and effort you put into worrying about women, the better. That's not to say 'don't deal with them.' It's to say if the majority of your day is spent either worrying about or strategizing about procuring this or that woman, you're doing things wrong. When you have your life together, women start strategizing on being with you. You really don't want to come from a position where you're the one who is chasing. You need to put yourself in a position where it's YOU who are filtering out the women you come across.

Never let any woman so consume your thoughts that they can completely alter your mood and ruin your day. If they aren't bringing more joy than headaches, she has to go.
 

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Yep, its the best when your life is happy and your fulfilled on your own. And your out there living your life enjoying your hobbies, and if a chick comes along your at such a point in life where you have to ponder is she going to subtract or be an addition to the life I'm leading.

Its kind of like the patriots no one is bigger than the team, Jonas gray rushes for 200 yards, messes up and is late for practice well ditto next. The team is going so well in every facet that if you mess up you lose your spot you can be replaced , disrespect will not be tolerated.

The same when your at a great level enjoying your life, if a woman is disrespectful messing up etc. Your life is going so well you will demote her or totally remove her.

I'm at that point now, would it be nice to have a relationship with a nice loyal grounded woman? Yes of course.

But my life is going so well now that I won't allow anyone to impede my happiness or joy.

Exactly. I find life best lived when you focus on things IN your control and not out of your control. I don't know the time or the date when the woman I'm supposed to spend the rest of my life with is going to show up. I can't control what some particular woman I'm dealing with is doing. What I can control is me focusing on things that improve my life like Jesus, my programming, and just getting out and having fun. Although I can't control all of the actions of any woman I'm dealing with, I CAN control the KIND of woman I let in my life. If I have to constantly get on her about doing basic things right, then I have the control the let her go. If something is shady or off about her, I have the control to distance myself with her if I ever let her get close to me in the first place.

Life is way too short to limit your enjoyment of it based upon what someone else is doing. There may be a lot of scandalous women out there, but I'm not going to let them mess my day up if at all possible. I'd love some super-loyal wifey type, but until that time comes I'm not going to stress out a bit over it, nor will I force a woman who isn't fit for that role into that role.

You got a brand new job, more income and a ton more options of what to do with life. Congrats on the new job by the way. There's zero reason to feel stressed out or sorrowful, especially over what some woman is doing. We, as men, should be enjoying our blessings and demanding that any woman that chooses to deal with us get right or get left behind.
 

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Honestly at this point I don't even care about worrying about women or relationships. With my new job starting soon and other things in my life going well, I'm at a point in my life I could just dream of years ago.
That's pretty much the point I'm at. The most beautiful observation I've come through throughout all of the years? It's perfectly fine to be myself and I don't have to be some fake construct that 'women want', nor do I have to 'prove myself' worthy of any woman. I can breath a sigh of relief and never second guess myself and worry if my actions are pleasing to this or that woman or this or that person. I don't have to put on some fake pickup artist, monster mack persona. It is very powerful to simply say, "I don't care if you will be around because I'm not going to attempt to impress you. If you're going to be around, it's because you enjoy me for who I am and not what you would imagine me to be." Allowing people walk who can't accept that will release a huge burden on your mind.

I can simply focus on the blessings I receive and screen any woman I come across to see if she aligns with the life I'm leading. Life is 10 times better when you simply shift your thoughts and focus onto the stable and reliable things in life, whether that be God, family, your best friends, and a job/business/career you enjoy, etc. Most of us stress out because of our own doing. We simply spend time and money on women we know had no business being in our lives, or we try to force some situation by turning into a fake dude in order to keep this woman around. In other words, we simply tried to take shortcuts and it came back on us every time. Although we'd all love that top notch, loyal woman to be there, there's simply zero reason to waste your days away feeling down because she hasn't come around yet. There's no reason to complain about there being no daylight in night time. It's much better to simply enjoy the moon.
 

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Yep, its the best when your life is happy and your fulfilled on your own. And your out there living your life enjoying your hobbies, and if a chick comes along your at such a point in life where you have to ponder is she going to subtract or be an addition to the life I'm leading.

Its kind of like the patriots no one is bigger than the team, Jonas gray rushes for 200 yards, messes up and is late for practice well ditto next. The team is going so well in every facet that if you mess up you lose your spot you can be replaced , disrespect will not be tolerated.

The same when your at a great level enjoying your life, if a woman is disrespectful messing up etc. Your life is going so well you will demote her or totally remove her.

I'm at that point now, would it be nice to have a relationship with a nice loyal grounded woman? Yes of course.

But my life is going so well now that I won't allow anyone to impede my happiness or joy.


Having become more disciplined lately with my time I have lost much patience for time wasters. Case in point, I was supposed to meet up the other day with a girl off one of those match apps. I get there at the agreed upon time and she texts me that she is a few minutes away. A few minutes becomes half an hour so I just end up leaving. I then get a text about 20 min later saying "where are you". I responded "at home" and dropped the text conversion. I have learned when planning things, even with friends, always have a backup plan. In this case I just bounced to a networking event that ended up being a much better use of my time.

Making decisions seems hard for some people including men. However, it's a big relief to be able to make a decision and be ok with whatever the outcome is. I think much indecisiveness, procrastination, etc comes from fear of taking responsibility for what might happen.
 

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Having become more disciplined lately with my time I have lost much patience for time wasters. Case in point, I was supposed to meet up the other day with a girl off one of those match apps. I get there at the agreed upon time and she texts me that she is a few minutes away. A few minutes becomes half an hour so I just end up leaving. I then get a text about 20 min later saying "where are you". I responded "at home" and dropped the text conversion. I have learned when planning things, even with friends, always have a backup plan. In this case I just bounced to a networking event that ended up being a much better use of my time.

Making decisions seems hard for some people including men. However, it's a big relief to be able to make a decision and be ok with whatever the outcome is. I think much indecisiveness, procrastination, etc comes from fear of taking responsibility for what might happen.

:salute:

bold is smart, so many women flake if they get a "better offer". I have no time for time wasters as well, I already wasted enough of my life on women who wasted my time and were no good for me that I refuse to again. Also good you cut her out, dudes are so caught up so fast nowadays they give chance after chance.

And I agree it happens in both genders, a woman gets treated bad eff ihim im done but then goes back, a man gets treated bad and he's like don't worry about it i understand. I may be hardcore in my ways but screw it my decisions are final and I'm not wasting my time on somoene who doesn't view me or my time as valuable.

That old quote "Never love someone who treats you ordinarily"
 

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Having become more disciplined lately with my time I have lost much patience for time wasters. Case in point, I was supposed to meet up the other day with a girl off one of those match apps. I get there at the agreed upon time and she texts me that she is a few minutes away. A few minutes becomes half an hour so I just end up leaving. I then get a text about 20 min later saying "where are you". I responded "at home" and dropped the text conversion. I have learned when planning things, even with friends, always have a backup plan. In this case I just bounced to a networking event that ended up being a much better use of my time.

Making decisions seems hard for some people including men. However, it's a big relief to be able to make a decision and be ok with whatever the outcome is. I think much indecisiveness, procrastination, etc comes from fear of taking responsibility for what might happen.

:scusthov: So she was really almost an hour late by the time she hit you up? Lateness is my biggest peeve when it comes to people in General, but women take it too far.
 

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I entered this year with a different mindset from years past, any form of bitterness/unforgiveness/negative thinking were fully eradicated. It was finally time to reach that high note somewhere between a soprano and a mezzo-soprano; No longer would I be a driver constantly looking back hitting obstacles and being impeded time and time again. No mas! No mas! This time I was focused looking ahead two hands on the wheel, the past in my rear-view mirror as I was accelerating toward the aspirations I set for myself long ago. So join the ride it’s only been three months but………

I just started writing again daily last summer after a long lay-off; I just became motivated again and started just putting my thoughts into words. My passion for writing goes back to when I was a wee little lad with a speech impediment and expressing my thoughts on paper daily. The library was my playground and the dictionary, thesaurus and encyclopedias were my swings, slides and my monkey bars so to speak. After just emptying my mind daily on my blog and personal drafts, I decided to just send an article in to a community newspaper. And gasp to my amazement the response from the editor was amazing and my first piece of work ever was published. This little push is all that I needed and now I’m fully motivated and back to penning my manuscript and expecting great things ahead.

And there’s more………

For many years I sought after a new profession, I never took the course of action that seriously though. I’d brush up my resume send it out and after a week yawn throw in the towel. Competition seemed to stiff, there were individuals looking for jobs with a superior education background than me that also had more relevant experience at hand. I had no confidence in what I could offer an organization so I’d just hang tight and be grateful for what I had (at least I had a job right?). The negative thinking had me in a stagnant situation killing any seeds of growth or confidence and impeding my destiny. I set out this year with a clear goal in mind, don’t give up – continue to be focused and to have faith in my abilities. And through circumstances beyond my control I was blessed with an opportunity and grasped it. Yes that’s right – the perfect job opened up for me, tailored to everything I desired, it would seem almost impossible for the situation to be even better than it is. Inserts Tiger Woods fist Pump…………

Oh wait there’s more………

Just like Einstein I prefer silent vice to ostentatious virtue. So I’m not here to boast of my good works or deeds or glow in the limelight like look at me. I’ll admit it I was spoiled, I was selfish and I looked down on others. When I first started donating to charities I just looked at it as a tax break and a hey look at me I’m doing a good deed and when I started volunteering at shelters I just looked at it as something to spruce up my resume. My intent was ghastly to say it politely, from the exterior it was wow your doing a great deed but it was all out of selfish desires. So while doing my taxes the other day, I decided to not claim for any charitable donations. When I donated it was not from the heart and well
I have been humbled, my heart is warm and I have had the great honor in meeting some of the nicest people I have met in a long while.

That’s all folks!!!

If you told me last year at this time how my life would be now, I wouldn not believe you at all. For the first time in a long while, I’m happy the direction my life is headed.


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