Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[CASHAPP]

no way to tell what's on her mind for sure. she could be looking for some dikk just like she could just be a flirt, just like she could be like that with everyone. i usually check how they interact with other men vs how they interact with me. that's usually a big clue.

i'd say if you're very dependant on your current job, don't make any bold move. if you don't give a fukk, depending on how you talk to her, bring some sexual energy in the way you talk and see if she engages, see if she seizes the opportunity or if her vibe goes . nothing vulgar though.

but it's gonna be hard if it's not you. honestly, from the way you started with her, i'd say let her do the work. give her more attention when she compliments you or gives you sex vibes. this is the long way though. you gotta check for some other chicks in the meantime.

no way to tell what's on her mind for sure. she could be looking for some dikk just like she could just be a flirt, just like she could be like that with everyone. i usually check how they interact with other men vs how they interact with me. that's usually a big clue.

i'd say if you're very dependant on your current job, don't make any bold move. if you don't give a fukk, depending on how you talk to her, bring some sexual energy in the way you talk and see if she engages, see if she seizes the opportunity or if her vibe goes . nothing vulgar though.

but it's gonna be hard if it's not you. honestly, from the way you started with her, i'd say let her do the work. give her more attention when she compliments you or gives you sex vibes. this is the long way though. you gotta check for some other chicks in the meantime.

Thanks bro that helps....you know for certain theybare the freaky type and something about how they talk to you or their prescence is seems like they wanna talk more with you behind the scenes. And I'm trying to do what you said exactlly...I'm hoping she sees I can't say much with my job and she ends up being the one to say something nasty lol...

To answer your question the other day when sh first walked in and saw her walk fast by the deli which is full of guys she just said randomlyhi while she was walking by in her flirty demeanor but i have no idea if it was someone she knew because i could not see the person...

Something else random that was odd...she had some T-shirt with some Japanese writing on it.I know your gonna tell me one thing I could have done was ask her about that shirt to strike upnconvo but it slipped my mind...guess i was caught off guard an older sista had a shirt like that..

She comes by often but there is one day that she comes after a certain time..

Part of me wishes she came through the rare times I work in the nighttime or a time its slow...

fukk that last shyt I wrote..that is a defeatist attitude...Imeant to say I know in the future times I see her again we will take care of business it aint a question...I know i will have this caramel skin amber rose come to me and do what she should do

 

[kevm3]

Alright brehs I need some advice.

I've been seeing this girl for a few months now. I like her, she likes me blah blah blah. But how much emphasis do you fellas put on where your partners heads at long-term. I'm saying this because she has what I would say mediocre aspirations. She didn't have the best family situation so she hasn't really seen better which could be the cause of this. Like for example she's finishing up her degree shortly so she's still in college, but we had a small argument because she brought up how her current (fast food job, remember she's in college) didn't pay her enough and she was always close to broke. When I brought up some feasible suggestions for her to make more money or get a better job she had an excuse for everything I had suggested and it got to the point where she got upset. Another time I told her how my parents were going on a vacation to a few islands in the Atlantic Ocean and the first comment she said was, "that's cool, I'll never be able to afford to do something like that"

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To put this in perspective I don't like to toot my own horn, but I have very high aspirations. I graduated college early, got a job making more money than most coming out of school and the only thing on my mind is further advancement. If there is one thing I liked about my EX it's the fact that she too had high aspirations and I found that attractive. Basically what I'm trying to say is that I like this girl, but she seems perfectly ok with mediocrity. She wants to go to Grad School after she graduates, but her grades aren't that best and even with a Master's aspirations her overall goals in life seem very lackluster.

My question to you brehs is, am I putting too much stock into this since I just turned 23 and she's 22, or should I cut this off sooner rather than later because ultimately this might be someone that I can't build ultimately build with in the long-run. I've tried putting her on game too, but everytime I do she starts throwing a little mini tantrum basically saying "just let me be".

One day you're going to have to sit her down and simply tell her that she can do better with herself and to demand more out of herself. First and foremost though, you have to really figure out what you want from a woman before you can convey to her the kind of woman you'd like her to be.

 

[OaklandCertified]

"Comparison is the thief of joy". Always remember that. If she gets with someone who treats her worse than or has less than you, you'll feel "how could she?!!". She gets with someone who has more than you, you'll feel "She's only with him cause he has so and so". There's really no benefit to this way of thinking. Once Me and a chik are done, I have no care how the next dude treats her. Bad or good, I don't care to hear about it. Less stress on my mind.

But yeah man, a vaca will def clear your mind. Even better when you end up hooking up with someone while on one.

Thank you for this gem.

 

[MikelArteta]

Alright brehs I need some advice.

I've been seeing this girl for a few months now. I like her, she likes me blah blah blah. But how much emphasis do you fellas put on where your partners heads at long-term. I'm saying this because she has what I would say mediocre aspirations. She didn't have the best family situation so she hasn't really seen better which could be the cause of this. Like for example she's finishing up her degree shortly so she's still in college, but we had a small argument because she brought up how her current (fast food job, remember she's in college) didn't pay her enough and she was always close to broke. When I brought up some feasible suggestions for her to make more money or get a better job she had an excuse for everything I had suggested and it got to the point where she got upset. Another time I told her how my parents were going on a vacation to a few islands in the Atlantic Ocean and the first comment she said was, "that's cool, I'll never be able to afford to do something like that"

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To put this in perspective I don't like to toot my own horn, but I have very high aspirations. I graduated college early, got a job making more money than most coming out of school and the only thing on my mind is further advancement. If there is one thing I liked about my EX it's the fact that she too had high aspirations and I found that attractive. Basically what I'm trying to say is that I like this girl, but she seems perfectly ok with mediocrity. She wants to go to Grad School after she graduates, but her grades aren't that best and even with a Master's aspirations her overall goals in life seem very lackluster.

My question to you brehs is, am I putting too much stock into this since I just turned 23 and she's 22, or should I cut this off sooner rather than later because ultimately this might be someone that I can't build ultimately build with in the long-run. I've tried putting her on game too, but everytime I do she starts throwing a little mini tantrum basically saying "just let me be".

up to you man up to you, not everyone wants to be a ceo etc. many people are just happy just sitting in a desk 9-5 clocking out and thats it. I remember at my old job tis lady was a supervisor then she got married and gave it up because she didn't want the extra work load.

As well you shouldn't compare your ex with this girl.

I do think its important that your values and aspirations and being on the right path lines up.

As well your only 23 man, trust me the odds that this girl is the one is like 2%, your still so young, just live and enjoy life. `


As well its like kevm3 says, one of the best things I ever did is create a list of checkpoints want in a woman, and any woman I get with needs a passing grade if not, regardless of how she looks, how much money she makes, education is .

So if education, $$$, job, drive etc. is important to you don't settle.

 

[MikelArteta]

"Comparison is the thief of joy". Always remember that. If she gets with someone who treats her worse than or has less than you, you'll feel "how could she?!!". She gets with someone who has more than you, you'll feel "She's only with him cause he has so and so". There's really no benefit to this way of thinking. Once Me and a chik are done, I have no care how the next dude treats her. Bad or good, I don't care to hear about it. Less stress on my mind.

But yeah man, a vaca will def clear your mind. Even better when you end up hooking up with someone while on one.

I agree, I think the best thing you can do as a man, is just knowing you did your best. If it doesn't work out shrugs. You can look in the mirror knowing you were faithful, tried to make it work but it just wasn't meant to be.

I wish all of my exes happiness just not with me

 

[kevm3]

Let's talk about various aspects of manhood. One of the keys to manhood is being able to disagree without getting angry or losing your friendship. In fact, disagreeing is critical at times so that we can get a variety of perspectives, which makes the quality of information even better. Disagreeing without calling names or developing grudges is crucial to getting better information, and I think we've been doing a fantastic job of that overall in this thread.

 

[Mike Ock]

Thank you for this gem.

No problem man. I've been and high and I've been low in relationships. The frustration of comparing yourself to who she's with next is just a burden you put on yourself.

 

[Mike Ock]

I agree, I think the best thing you can do as a man, is just knowing you did your best. If it doesn't work out shrugs. You can look in the mirror knowing you were faithful, tried to make it work but it just wasn't meant to be.

I wish all of my exes happiness just not with me

Yeah. I had to step back and realize a relationship ending is so normal and people have no choice but to meet someone else. And like you said, if I knew I gave it my all then there's nothing else I could have done. We grow and get older, some travel more than others...minds mold and interests spark while other interest no longer are interesting to us anymore. One common interest with someone can be the main attraction a couple share and sometimes it can be $ or looks. Rich people are getting divorced and others after 20 or 30yrs of marriage. It's just proof that there's no guaranteed answer when it comes to emotions. We all have one life to live, and more than likely we'll have experiences with more than one s/o in our life-time. It's just important to make the best of it. Also fellas: Make sure you take as many pictures as you can. I still have stash of photos from old exes and from time to time I look at them and crack a smile. Even if with some it mighta ended bad- it's still a part of your life and hopefully it was more good than bad.

 

[MikelArteta]

Wisdom

Yeah. I had to step back and realize a relationship ending is so normal and people have no choice but to meet someone else. And like you said, if I knew I gave it my all then there's nothing else I could have done. We grow and get older, some travel more than others...minds mold and interests spark while other interest no longer are interesting to us anymore. One common interest with someone can be the main attraction a couple share and sometimes it can be $ or looks. Rich people are getting divorced and others after 20 or 30yrs of marriage. It's just proof that there's no guaranteed answer when it comes to emotions. We all have one life to live, and more than likely we'll have experiences with more than one s/o in our life-time. It's just important to make the best of it. Also fellas: Make sure you take as many pictures as you can. I still have stash of photos from old exes and from time to time I look at them and crack a smile. Even if with some it mighta ended bad- it's still a part of your life and hopefully it was more good than bad.

 

[kevm3]

Yep, at the end of the day, you never know how life will end.
Ecclesiastes 9:12
For man does not know his time.

Short, simple and to the point. I apply this to our dealings with others. We don't know when they will come in our lives, nor do we know when they will leave. We can sit around worried about people or we can accept that people come and go and enjoy our blessings. Ultimately, no use in worrying about someone who isn't worrying about you.

 

[origiNel]

This thread >>>


Only issue I have is that I'm still kind of shy. Like I'm easy to approach but I'm not the best at approaching others, not like I'm ugly as shyt or broke as fukk, just always been shy and I'm trying to slowly but surely break that. Girls love me when they actually get to know me, cause I'm very careful with who I open up to. Any other ways to speed up the process and break that shell once and for all?

 

[kevm3]

This thread >>>


Only issue I have is that I'm still kind of shy. Like I'm easy to approach but I'm not the best at approaching others, not like I'm ugly as shyt or broke as fukk, just always been shy and I'm trying to slowly but surely break that. Girls love me when they actually get to know me, cause I'm very careful with who I open up to. Any other ways to speed up the process and break that shell once and for all?

Get out the house regularly, and don't go out with the mission of 'pulling women'. Go out and get out with the intention of being social and enjoying yourself. When you start placing victory conditions on yourself, then you're going to make yourself nervous. If you go out and let things flow to you, it'll be way more enjoyable.

 

[Bless't]

Yeah. I had to step back and realize a relationship ending is so normal and people have no choice but to meet someone else. And like you said, if I knew I gave it my all then there's nothing else I could have done. We grow and get older, some travel more than others...minds mold and interests spark while other interest no longer are interesting to us anymore. One common interest with someone can be the main attraction a couple share and sometimes it can be $ or looks. Rich people are getting divorced and others after 20 or 30yrs of marriage. It's just proof that there's no guaranteed answer when it comes to emotions. We all have one life to live, and more than likely we'll have experiences with more than one s/o in our life-time. It's just important to make the best of it. Also fellas: Make sure you take as many pictures as you can. I still have stash of photos from old exes and from time to time I look at them and crack a smile. Even if with some it mighta ended bad- it's still a part of your life and hopefully it was more good than bad.

 

[MikelArteta]

Talk to people

I traveled this weekend and I talked to everyone taxi drivers, waitresses,

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Only issue I have is that I'm still kind of shy. Like I'm easy to approach but I'm not the best at approaching others, not like I'm ugly as shyt or broke as fukk, just always been shy and I'm trying to slowly but surely break that. Girls love me when they actually get to know me, cause I'm very careful with who I open up to. Any other ways to speed up the process and break that shell once and for all?

 

[MikelArteta]

Curious brehs where did y'all meet your wife, girl, girl your talking to