Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

kevm3

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Thank you, and you make a lot of great points. It just sucks when a woman just up and casts you aside like that though, you can't help but feel inadequate. But it's as you said, the wrong women will eat you alive and destroy you. I just can't understand how people can be so cruel.

A lot of us are experiencing this sort of thing, so you really aren't alone. A lot of us want to start families and find that one lovely woman who would hold us down, but really, it isn't like that. A lot of women just want to sleep around and then wait until their 30s to find someone after they've gotten around.

I recommend you keep the faith and doing what you're doing. You won't find anything messing around with easy women and whoremongering it up. In fact, what you will find out is WORSE, especially if you get one of these women pregnant or you get one of these crazy women that know how to play games with your mind. It's hard to adhere to principles, but that's what makes you principled... sticking to those principles in tough times.

You heard the saying, you can't make a ho into a housewife? Imagine you wrap up one of these women and you think she's loyal but 10 years down the line you find out that your son really isn't yours... then you find out this woman divorces you and puts you on alimony and child support and she goes around messing with other men and have them sleeping in a house you are paying for. This isn't theory. This is reality for some men.

Do NOT deal with unprincipled women, nor should you become unprincipled yourself. It's tough in this day and age brotha, but God gave you principles and they will keep you from getting into a worse situation.
 

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That's on some masochistic, controlling type of shyt. I can guarantee you he wasnt feeling her like that until she didn't want him anymore.

That's what happens with a lot of playas, male and female alike. They ain't tripping over someone until they are about to lose that person.
 

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As a man I would love it, have a loving faithful christian wife that I can trust. Who knows her role, who respects me, who builds with me, who loves me as Christ loved the church. As we grow old together in a loving nurturing relationship, starting a family etc.

and maybe one day I'll be blessed with a woman like this maybe not, but im not gonna sit and mope over it :manny:, and im not going to accept less. I'd rather be single than to just be with someone just to be with someone or accept mistreatment.
 

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Its Not Simple But Then Again It Is Simple (If That Makes Any Sense)..If Somebody Really Wants You There's Literally Nothing You Have To Do..I Know Dating In 2015 Is The Worst But If She's Feeling You There Is NOTHING Special You Have To Do..I Admit Because Of The BS I've Been Through Dealing With Women I've Become A Tad Bitter & Pessimistic When It Comes To Relationships But Honestly I Wouldn't Have It Any Other Way..I Know Whenever/If Ever The Right One Crosses My Path That It's Gonna Be Real & I Won't Have To Jump Thru Any Hoops Like The Ringling Brothers Or Play CIA Level Mind Games To Win Her Affection

& Its Ok To Feel Down At Times Or Frustrated & Its Not Always As Simple As "Just Focus On You" But Try Not To Let It Consume You..Find A Hobby..Music,Reading,Wine Tasting,Go Hoop With The Fellas..So If You Do Find A Chick You Have Activities To Do Without Her & She's Not Your Hobby (Which Is Another Problem In Relationships,Your S/O Shouldn't Be Your Hobby)

Its Cliche But Actions Speak Louder Than Words..Remember That
 
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Brehs, I need some answers....
I was out chilling with my homies among few of their ladies. Some how the conversation about waiting 90 days for having sex came up . So before I knew it i said " what's the point of giving somebody 90 days to determine I am worthy to have sex with them.":stopitslime::yeshrug:

Before I knew it I was put on blast for speaking my truth.

Hell I even said "this 90 days rule is about giving somebody else control of your happiness and the upper hand in the relationship." :dwillhuh:

After I said that my homebody, who never really gets play or had any lasting relationship replies, with the " relationship is more about sex" and more captain save a hoe bullshyt:scust:

Which had me thinking for the rest for the conversation . Is my view of waiting on sex this ducked up? Is it really worth waiting for sex? No matter how I look at it sex changes a relationship no matter if its a day or 90 days:patrice:.
 

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Which had me thinking for the rest for the conversation . Is my view of waiting on sex this ducked up? Is it really worth waiting for sex? No matter how I look at it sex changes a relationship no matter if its a day or 90 days:patrice:.

You were totally right! I hate when women use the 90 day rule. When they do use it, it's a red flag to me. Usually the women that use it are the ones who have sex early after meeting someone. Or the woman who has to use sex as her bargaining chip. These women do not realize that if a dude is only after you for sex, it doesn't matter if you wait 3 days or 3 months he's gonna flip the script after he gets what he wants. They think sex is the problem, when it's really the woman and her poor choices in men. Let's be serious, if a woman really likes a guy, that 90 day shyt will go right out of the window.

If a women tries to use that shyt on me I'll be like "ok, I'm going to wait 90 days to spend money on you, just to make sure your intentions aren't to use me, deal" Then they realize how stupid that shyt sounds.
 

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You were totally right! I hate when women use the 90 day rule. When they do use it, it's a red flag to me. Usually the women that use it are the ones who have sex early after meeting someone. Or the woman who has to use sex as her bargaining chip. These women do not realize that if a dude is only after you for sex, it doesn't matter if you wait 3 days or 3 months he's gonna flip the script after he gets what he wants. They think sex is the problem, when it's really the woman and her poor choices in men. Let's be serious, if a woman really likes a guy, that 90 day shyt will go right out of the window.

If a women tries to use that shyt on me I'll be like "ok, I'm going to wait 90 days to spend money on you, just to make sure your intentions aren't to use me, deal" Then they realize how stupid that shyt sounds.
If a chick is really feeling you, she's not gonna hold back on anything. She's not going to conform to some stupid rules society has taught her.
 

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i just posted that to say, there are so many men out there who have what you want so bad the loving wife, the girl of their dreams only to be raked over the coals, what im saying is dont be in a rush, continue to work on yourslef, its better to be SINGLE its better to HAVE NO ONE, than to be in the arms of a charmer/liar/skank.

ive been there in a relationship my girl at the time looking in was damn :noah:, shaped like a goddess, I was winning right? nah I was so stressed out day after day after day. WOuldn't wish what I went through on anyone but it taught me one valuable thing, its better to be single than to be in the arms of the wrong woman. Doesn't matter how much knowledge, wisdom, game, control of emotions you have, you can easily get caught up and before you know it.

Where is the quoted story from? :feedme:

I need to see what happened next.
 
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Thanks for the replies brehs. :wow:
This conversation has confirm my view of homie boy.

I will now reference him as an
ol step and fetching for some kitty as looks simp:flabbynsick:
:jawalrus:....
 

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Yall heard what happened with Dr Umar Johnson and the stripper?

Yall saw the texts he sent. SMH at him getting exposed like that.
 

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Was talkin to this one girl i been talkin to for a few weeks, asked what i was doing Friday night (yesterday) told her a friend of mine invited me to watch jurassic world, she asked who then said (i dont care if its a girl your single) so i told her who it is, then she told me, 'im dissappointed but im going to have to friend zone you thats a big turn off for me, even tho you not my man'
:dead:

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