Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MedSchool]

We havent been on a date

Question is having sex part of dating? I just shocked at tge causal sexual encounters with someone you ate not being exclusive with. Is that normal?

 

[MedSchool]

She tried to get me to take her out this weekend but i did'nt see her worth going out since i don't know what her intent is.

 

[Yup]

We havent been on a date

Ok and you are sexing her and other girls?

 

[RealAssanova]

Been survying the board and i value the advice and gems ive picked up in here.

So heres my story.

Me and this chick from my school who i had a eye for exchanged numbers. We started talking she said she wanted to take things slow because she's been hurt and she's scared to trust men. I expressed to her i'm cool with that, and that i'm interested in looking for a relationship. She said she's interested in seeing where it leads as well, but she's scared cause she's dated men that did her wrong everytime. Same night we texting the convo slipped to sex and she was like she wanna swallow the whole D. Cool i'm with it. About 4-5 days later i slide by her crib smash. We still text talk and flirt around in school after etc. So the next weekend we had plans to link i hit her no response called twice no response. Go on IG and a mutual friend of ours liked a video which leads to her instagram and she's at a party posting videos and ignoring my text. So the next morning she says lost her phone. (BS) But i go with it, cause i can easily look to her social page for info if i want so why expose that. So we make arrangements and again she go's off with her friends, and says some bs excuse about she likes when a man makes plans and tells her lets go not wait or as for her to say she's available and how her time is limited so sometimes she will just go off with her friends. I peep the BS and cold turkey stop hitting her.. She didn't hit me i didn't hit her.. That weekend i went and bought a new car, and just started getting back to the scene and doing me. That monday she text me in class saying hey you remember me i said yea whats up u ok ? she said yea u ok ? i said yea i'm straight. Cut the small talk. I would see her around school after and give her a hey whats up and keep it moving. I start dating a girl who is our higher up in our field.

So a month goes by its finals week. I get a long text about how she missed me and she was dealing w/ family issues that's why she stopped talking to me so sudden but she wanted to let me know she missed me alot and how i was a perfect fit and she was scared cause i was too perfect. So i write back and express my words and she keeps prolonging the conversation, before you know it were back talking. So i asked had she slept with anybody since we stopped talking she said yes. She asked me i admitted i have. She asked me about the girl i was more seriously talking to and if she was still in the picture, i expressed no we are just figuring things out. So later on she expresses she more concerned because me and this other girl went on a date kayaking and she felt maybe there was strong feelings and kept inquiring about the girl. So now she's made a lot more attempts to be around me and see me. So this weekend she comes back to my house and we smash. Got her off multiple times and she's been extra clingy and affectionate.


Funny to me cause the 1st tim we was talking all we did was text and even then the texts where inconsistent and dry on her behalf. sometimes she would respond other times not. We probably talked on the phone like 3 times. Now the second time round she's been very consistent, call and face time everyday while she was away on vacation and showing alot of interest.

Thoughts ?

look at the bolded. So u going thru family drama yet your going out to party? Is that how we solve family issues in 2015, by partying?

absolute hogwash breh.

and the reason she comin back into your life is cuz you replaced her. She wants to beat her competition completely and leave no room for "figuring things out". Once she does that, i bet she gonna go back to exactly how she was in the beginning and toss u into the bushes. Therefore, here is my advice. Keep her strictly as a smash buddy and do not upgrade her from that in anyway shape or form. She played her cards earlier on as being a touch-and-go person, so you already know you cannot invest any emotion into her. Let her do all that and sparingly feed her breadcrumbs every now and then to show that you genuinely care for her (ONLY IF SHE DESERVES IT).

and go on about your life.

 

[CrossBones]

she called me and we spoke for like a hour and she apologized etc., my pride is telling me to but i dunno brehs .

now you have to assert your authority and let her know that you wont take that type of shyt from her again. you have to reassert yourself and your boundries. because if youre weak with her now, then she will go at it again on the same shyt. and if she refuses to fall in line, then you have to let her know that youre not going to go for that, and that will be it. be serious, firm, but do not go in bullying her. just leave the message loud and clear for her to hear. if she is mature enough to know shes wrong and correct it, then you should be mature about it as well.



edit: your best bet is to not be emotional and deal with this in a rational way. dont go soft, and dont go crazy. just do what you think is best

 

[Serious]

Thoughts ?

She's definitely a thot, best to smash, not get too serious and kim....

 

[Yup]

look at the bolded. So u going thru family drama yet your going out to party? Is that how we solve family issues in 2015, by partying?

absolute hogwash breh.

and the reason she comin back into your life is cuz you replaced her. She wants to beat her competition completely and leave no room for "figuring things out". Once she does that, i bet she gonna go back to exactly how she was in the beginning and toss u into the bushes. Therefore, here is my advice. Keep her strictly as a smash buddy and do not upgrade her from that in anyway shape or form. She played her cards earlier on as being a touch-and-go person, so you already know you cannot invest any emotion into her. Let her do all that and sparingly feed her breadcrumbs every now and then to show that you genuinely care for her (ONLY IF SHE DESERVES IT).

and go on about your life.

Why even feed her breadcrumbs? Why not cut her off entirely..Thats how dudes get girls pregnant and ruined their lives. Dude is in a medschool....why is he putting his future at risk sleeping with women hebis casually meeting and not even dating?

Or am i just a prude?

@MedSchool i am not a man and dont pretend to be. But if the girl is as flaky as you claim is this someone you want to have an oops baby with?
I get it you are an adult, etc...and im not even saying this from a religious angle but if you are looking for a relationship i think you should cool down on sexing women....its a dangerous game you are playing man.

 

[CrossBones]

Why even feed her breadcrumbs? Why not cut her off entirely..Thats how dudes get girls pregnant and ruined their lives. Dude is in a medschool....why is he putting his future at risk sleeping with women hebis casually meeting and not even dating?

Or am i just a prude?

I see what youre saying, and sometimes it is better to cut the cord completely. but breh is right, she is playing games with him and not trying to solve the issue. and if thats the case, then whats important to remember is that she is no longer relationship material.

 

[RealAssanova]

Why even feed her breadcrumbs? Why not cut her off entirely..Thats how dudes get girls pregnant and ruined their lives. Dude is in a medschool....why is he putting his future at risk sleeping with women hebis casually meeting and not even dating?

Or am i just a prude?

if she down to fukk, then why not fukk? he got sexual needs and desires that need to be fulfilled and if she with it, then cool.

its anything beyond that, that i don't agree with.

 

[Yup]

I see what youre saying, and sometimes it is better to cut the cord completely. but breh is right, she is playing games with him and not trying to solve the issue. and if thats the case, then whats important to remember is that she is no longer relationship material.

I agree but she should also not be a sexual partner. This site loves to rag on black women and who they lay down black men should be just as discerning especially a dude with a bright future ahead of him.

 

[Yup]

if she down to fukk, then why not fukk? he got sexual needs and desires that need to be fulfilled and if she with it, then cool.

its anything beyond that, that i don't agree with.

Ok...but if that girl tries to "trap" him with a baby, then what. Sex is not a game?

I think people should be just as choosey with who they sleep with because when you have a child with someone its for life.

 

[MedSchool]

To be honest i felt like smashing it a few more times cause the head was good and just tossing her back to the streets. I just liked her and our vibe is always some chill fun stuff. But the past put a bad taste in my mouth.

 

[RealAssanova]

Ok...but if that girl tries to "trap" him with a baby, then what. Sex is not a game?

I think people should be just as choosey with who they sleep with because when you have a child with someone its for life.

i mean, its still homies decision on what he wants to do. If he feels like he is doing to much and she causing/bringing unnecessary into his life, then yes i absolutely agree that he should go cold turkey on her completely.

However, if he is doing little while getting a greater return, then i'll say rock with it. But hey, that's just me.

 

[Serious]

Why even feed her breadcrumbs? Why not cut her off entirely..Thats how dudes get girls pregnant and ruined their lives. Dude is in a medschool....why is he putting his future at risk sleeping with women hebis casually meeting and not even dating?

Or am i just a prude?

@MedSchool i am not a man and dont pretend to be. But if the girl is as flaky as you claim is this someone you want to have an oops baby with?
I get it you are an adult, etc...and im not even saying this from a religious angle but if you are looking for a relationship i think you should cool down on sexing women....its a dangerous game you are playing man.

Lowkey I was just thinking about that too...........
Chicks like this always find a way to get pregnant

 

[Yup]

To be honest i felt like smashing it a few more times cause the head was good and just tossing her back to the streets. I just liked her and our vibe is always some chill fun stuff. But the past put a bad taste in my mouth.

Dude im not trying to be preachy but you know deep down you shouldnt entertain this girl at all.