Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

GF Broke up with me thru text while i was away in the philippines, she was all, ill be waiting for you, long story shot... She went out with girlfriends and bump into a guy i hate and she knows i hate him because he went to her house with flowers before we started dating, anyways she messeges me while im on vacation to tell me she saw him took a shot with him and that was it, she went to another club with her friends and he stayed there with his friends. Said she didnt want to tell me because i was going to get ideas about shyt that happened when nothing did, anyways i didnt respond to her.

Told my bro what happened and dude messeged the guy she took a shot with, threateing him, but i told him to stop messeging him... anyways i got a text the next day from her saying she didnt want to be with me anymore and that it wasnt because "guys name" and that nothing happend and she doesnt know what i do what i do... i had no idea what she was talking about so i didnt reply to her. i went NO CONTACT on her, then my brother messeged her asking what happened between us and apperantly she broke up with me because i messeged the dude thru my brothers fb... IT WASNT ME so my bro explained to her but she didnt even opened my bros messege on fb 2 days ago

Anyways, this was 2 weeks ago, i got back home 1 week ago, now she messeged me last night "hey" so i replied whats up? and she tells me her sisters told her someone was screaming outside the house asking for her and that her little nephew told her it was "her bf" she assumed it was me who came to her house but she just said sorry my sister said it was just a joke... I was like you broke up with me 2 weeks ago, why would you think it was me... she said well thats what i thought since they said it was my bf at the time, but my sisters where just playing i just said dont worry and she didnt even open my whatsapp messege last night

What the fukk is she playing here brehs?

long distance relationships rarely work, women will always utter that I'll wait for you, but as time goes on their emotional side always wins.

Whenever a girl tells you that was "it", theres always more to the story, its called trickle truth in the infidelity community, aka you get the truth in small doses like if you were in the hospital with a iv hooked up to you.

secondly it has nothing to do with your brother msgn that guy or anything, all that did was give her an out and saved her from looking like a whore or bad person, we broke up because of what your brother did not because im a harlot who cheated.

thirdly because your back now, shes pulling the old tricks these girls do, block her and delete

 

[MikelArteta]

I regret even replying the first time because now im the one who got ignored

not to late to save your dignity
silence is a powerful weapon you owe her nothing your no longer hre bf

 

[MikelArteta]

And women will say they love you for the same reason. Some women like the idea of love that doesnt mean they actually love you. Probably just saying it becayse they think thats what they are supposed to say....and some probably Believe it but as we all know actions speak louder than words.

meh women drop love like its nothing, ive had lke 11 women tell me they love me, women are emotional creatures. And yeah actions and worsd rarely match up.

 

[MikelArteta]

To be honest i felt like smashing it a few more times cause the head was good and just tossing her back to the streets. I just liked her and our vibe is always some chill fun stuff. But the past put a bad taste in my mouth.

that one last time you smash she may get pregnant or give you a std or something.

I remember the last time i slept with my ex she got pregnant but had a miscarriage, to this day I don't even think it was mine , but i'm saying its risky

 

[MikelArteta]

now you have to assert your authority and let her know that you wont take that type of shyt from her again. you have to reassert yourself and your boundries. because if youre weak with her now, then she will go at it again on the same shyt. and if she refuses to fall in line, then you have to let her know that youre not going to go for that, and that will be it. be serious, firm, but do not go in bullying her. just leave the message loud and clear for her to hear. if she is mature enough to know shes wrong and correct it, then you should be mature about it as well.



edit: your best bet is to not be emotional and deal with this in a rational way. dont go soft, and dont go crazy. just do what you think is best

 

[Yup]

@MedSchool keeping smashing and remain wrapped up if you feel like it.

Just don't lead her on and be upfront.

Not a good idea.

 

[Yup]

It's 2015 and your shocked people are having sex outside of being serious?

And then people wonder why they get caught up with people with people they dont want to be with.

The smartest thing any black man on the path to succcess can do in the relationship arena is to be selective on who he sleeps with. He just said he wants a relationship and then he goes around having casual sex with girls for amusement?

And you guys are encouraging it when dude is in the prime of his life...for 15 seconds of sexual satisfaction?

I am not necessarily advocating abstinence but at the very least be as selective with sexual partners as you are selective of women who you choose to be in a relationships with.

A baby gets you stuck to a chick for life....a simple relationship breakup means you go your separate ways and thete is no attachment.

Again, advising to continue to sleep with a girl one presumes to be loose is bad advice.

 

[Action Mike]

And then people wonder why they gey caught up with people they get caught up with people they dont want to be with.

The smartest any black man on the path to succcess can do in the relationship arena is to be selective on who he sleeps with. He just said he wants a relationship and then he goes around having casual sex with girls for amusement?

And yoy guys are encouraging it when dude is in the prime of his life...for a 15 seconds of sexual satisfaction?

I am not necessarily advocating abstinence but at the very least be as selective with sexual partners as you are selective of women who you choose to be in a relationships with.

A baby gets you stuck to a chick for life....a simple relationship breakup means you go your separate ways and thete is no arrachment.

Again advising to continue to sleep with a girl one presumes to be loose is bad advice.

Your not a man so I could never explain the why. So I won't go there.

Who says were not selective in the first place?

Sexual partners and relationships are two very different things. Your getting them mixed up. But I don't blame you.

As long as things are clear between them as I said before, then theres nothing wrong with it.

Baby? Condoms and contraception exists.

 

[Yup]

Your not a man so I could never explain the why. So I won't go there.

Who says were not selective in the first place?

Sexual partners and relationships are two very different things. Your getting them mixed up. But I don't blame you.

As long as things are clear between them as I said before, then theres nothing wrong with it.

Baby? Condoms and contraception exists.

I dont have to be a man to know at the rate which blacks get caught up/saddled prematurely with kids that black men and women need to exercice sexual self control.

Ask yourself, who has more to lose him or her?

What is black community out of wedlock rate again? Despite all these birth control on the market? Put your faith in a girl that is flakey that she wont get pregnant or infect you for a quick nut?

 

[Action Mike]

I dont have to be a man ro know at the rate which blacks get caught up/saddled prematurely with kids that black men and women need to exercice sexual self control.

Ask yourself, who has more to lose him or her?

You see things through a generalised racial lenses, I see things on a case by case basis then the former after.

Dude is a med student, preaching to the choir. The main advice is to catorgise her accordingly, if she ain't happy about it and strikes again. Bushes. Use a condom.

End.

 

[Youseenmywork]

It's 2015 and your shocked people are having sex outside of being serious?

...Yeah she don't get . Hell if a man is smashing you and has NEVER kissed you that should let know were you stand in that man's life ... I'm not teaching today thoe

 

[Youseenmywork]

@Emperor_ReinScarf I'm an old NBA fan I don't mind playing with a bloody nose I can even take elbows to chest even ribs...but when people are on the COURT just to fight ...I suggest take your ball and go home. The game is just getting to hardcore. This girl seems like she just looking to pick a fight about pointless shyt...a past that has nothing to do with her. Take your ball and go HOME .

 

[Yup]

...Yeah she don't get . Hell if a man is smashing you and has NEVER kissed you that should let know were you stand in that man's life ... I'm not teaching today thoe

You're not saying anything...the guy who is on track to be a doctor has more to lose than the girl who is flakey. It's the guy who is looking for the relationship not the girl and y'all wonder how you guys get straddled with child support.

 

[Bless't]

she called me and we spoke for like a hour and she apologized etc., my pride is telling me to but i dunno brehs .

She apologized. Give it another shot. Pride is a helluva thing though.

Move forward but keep one eye open.

Or both eyes if you're not sleeping.



You know what I mean.

 

[Youseenmywork]

You're not saying anything...the guy who is on track to be a doctor has more to lose than the girl who is flakey. It's the guy who is looking for the relationship not the girl and y'all wonder how you guys get straddled with child support.

Yeah...you don't get it. Let me make it simple for you treat a lady like a lady and a hoe like a hoe. I'm from the south so my grandmother's taught me the same. I don't judge any nikka man I want to see every guy in this thread flourish in one way or another. I would just say watch what type of women you interact with and let hang around you...cause it say a lot about as a man.