She'll always answer your call or respond to your texts right away if not she'll apologize and explain lateness. Communication will flow. She'll be spontaneous meaning if you call her up and be like hey let's go out for lunch or dinner or a movie today she's going to agree. She'll treat you to dinners maybe gifts ie she'll reciprocate. She won't be secretive with her phone. Her family and friends will know about you, good things hopefully. Lots of compliments you'll get usually, she'll be jealous and talk about a future with you. Many signs, trust your intuition.
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Dude tried that with me except he was two years older
Did he "forget" his wallet
Wait you're a woman right
Lol yes I'm a woman. I have my own things and I met him at work. Talked on the phone for a few days until he tried hitting me with "If I need anything like a meal or something you can help me out because I want us to be friends", never went out on a date because he became bushes status after that and blocked. He was the first and only man to try something like that with me I was really appalled because it's not like I go around asking guys for things. I'm a giver but not into bringing a stranger to my house for dinner etc, that takes time.Did he "forget" his wallet
Wait you're a woman right
KinksandCoils
African American Queen
women are taught from childhood that men should pay on dates and when u get older it's brought up even more about how men are supposed to pay. Her aunties, friends, cousins will ask occasionally. And if you aren't paying you come off as a fukkboy who isn't interested in her but only wants sex.
It doesn't mean that's true but that's how u will be looked at.
I've paid going out and have been embarrassed by it. Honestly from a woman's point of view it's embarrassing if the man ain't footing the bill. Just like it can be embarrassing for a man to tell his boys that his woman never cooks and cleans but he does.
Initially if he asks the woman then he should pay. I once went on a first date and we split the meal cost. I don't believe the man should foot the bill every time unless he reeeeaally wants to. I like to show my appreciation and will therefore pick up the tab plus tip.
KinksandCoils
African American Queen
nothing wrong with a woman footing the bill but if she is footing the bill more than the man than that's embarrassing. Like I've said, I've definitely paid before....
My next relationship I need the man to really step up. It's me doing 80% while he is doing 20% thank goodness those type of relationships happened in my late teens early 20s. I see it like this... If he has issues with paying mostly, how will he handle when I have his baby and can't work? How will he handle leading the family or paying bills?
Reciprocity is important in a relationship, no side should be taking more but nothing is truly equal. There will always be someone in the relationship who loves more and when a person loves more they tend to be more open with their resources whether it's time emotions or the material. Thankfully I haven't dealt with many guys trying to use me because I vet them and ain't nobody got time for the games. I totally understand what you're saying.
KinksandCoils
African American Queen
yup. I'm definetly giving when I care. That's why I'm not cool with a man who doesn't pay for things because I see that as him being selfish and trying to do the least amount to get the maximum results. I've bent over backwards in relationships. Now it's time for someone to do the same for me.
Lol Get your armor out for the bolded. Seriously, I hear you, sometimes you get fed up. It's not easy because people want what they can take without genuinely giving back. Good luck out there.
@satireprod thank you so much.
satireprod
Superstar
@DropQ no problem. I see you consistently dropping gems in here, especially the one about being a woman's number 1 option. Most women dont understand that its just as hard out here for guys as women in finding a real connection, especially at my age. So its nice hearing from a woman's pov.
Anytime, it's been a pleasure and I'm happy to drop gems when I can. Thank you once again.
KinksandCoils
African American Queen
thanks
Action Mike
All praise..
Was with you up til here.
I'm sure some brehs can relate to females bringing past issues into new relationships. Punishing the current Breh because of what another did, is one of the biggest turn offs and can be sensed a mile away.
havoc
Superstar
This is true to certain degree. A woman can be difficult with other men, but there maybe a man who she knows personally and wouldn't dare test him and act irrational toward him like she does with other men. It could be the guy she always wanted to be with and waiting for the opportunity to bond with him while she rejects the other men or giving them a hard time. Gentlemen, it never worth your time to jump over hurdles to pursue a woman's interest and heart. If she gives any indication that she isn't interest or isn't matching your effort, it is best to leave her alone.